No Shrinking Violets Podcast for Women

Mary Rothwell
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No Shrinking Violets is all about what it truly means for women to take up their space in the world – mind, body and spirit. Mary Rothwell, licensed therapist and certified integrative mental health practitioner, has seen women “stay small” and fit into the space in life that they have been conditioned to believe they deserve. Drawing on 35 years in the mental health field and from her perspective as a woman who was often told to "stay in your lane," Mary discusses how early experiences, society and sometimes our own limiting beliefs can convince us that living inside guardrails is the best -- or only -- option. She'll explore how to recognize our unique essential nature and how to use that to empower a new narrative.Through topics that span psychology, friendships, nature and even gut-brain health, Mary creates a space that is inspiring and authentic - where she celebrates the intuition and power of women who want to chart their own course and program their own GPS. Mary's topics will include sleep and supplements and nutrition and how to live like a plant. (Yes, you read that right - the example of plants is often the most insightful path to knowing what we truly need to feel fulfilled). She’ll talk about setting boundaries, communicating, and relationships, and explore mental health and wellness: trauma and resilience, how our food impacts our mood and the power of simple daily habits. And so much more! As a gardener, Mary knows that violets have been misjudged for centuries and are actually one of the most resilient and ecologically important plants in her native garden. Like violets, women are often underestimated, and they can even mistake their unique gifts for weaknesses. Join Mary to explore all the ways the vibrant and strong violet is an example for finding fulfillment in our own lives.

  1. Racism & Bias: Using Privilege to Amplify Others

    3H AGO

    Racism & Bias: Using Privilege to Amplify Others

    Thoughts or comments? Send us a text! Mary and Dr. Stacey Pearson-Wharton trace how “being the dot” reveals both hypervisibility and invisibility, why representation changes help-seeking, and how to apologize without defensiveness. We share tools to move from fear to action, build belonging on campus and beyond, and use privilege to amplify others. • reclaiming the violet metaphor and naming white privilege • defining being the dot and its stress impact • microaggressions, implicit bias, and real repair • belonging as design, not accident, in higher ed • representation increasing access to care • speaking up, refusing to shrink, and policy change • ally moves that amplify and protect • guidance for young women of color on mentoring and history • books and local actions that build proximity and courage • offerings from Dr. Stacy for healing and learning Please drop me a text with your thoughts at the link at the top of the show notes You can find Dr. Stacey at https://www.drstaceyinspires.org/ Use code NSV to get 10% of Being the Dot Affirmation Cards Books mentioned in this episode: How to Be an Anti-Racist - Ibram X. Kendi White Fragility - Dr. Robin DiAngelo Black AF History - Michael Harriot My Grandmother's Hands - Resmaa Menakem Support the show Sign up for the launch team for my book, Nature Knows, and get free insider news and surprises at https://maryrothwell.net/natureknows Comments about this episode? Suggestions for a future episode? Email me directly at NSVpodcast@gmail.com. Want to be a guest on No Shrinking Violets Podcast for Women? Send Mary Rothwell a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/noshrinkingviolets Follow me on Facebook and Instagram, and check out my website!

    40 min
  2. Is Avoidance a Form of Rest?

    3D AGO

    Is Avoidance a Form of Rest?

    Thoughts or comments? Send us a text! We explore the fine line between restorative rest and reactive avoidance, using body cues, purpose, and outcomes to tell them apart. We share simple practices to renew energy, regain perspective, and rebuild self-trust without shrinking your world. • purpose of rest as energy renewal • avoidance as delay that grows fear • refreshed versus relieved as a key cue • intentional, time-bound pauses with endpoints • rest creating clarity and internal spaciousness • avoidance narrowing options and repeating loops • self-trust through chosen breaks and re-entry • practical tests: five to ten minute resets and body scans • examples from work, roles, and relationships If you would like to support Rigby's pursuit of daily treats, click the support the show link in the show notes and toss a little donation Rigby's way Support the show Sign up for the launch team for my book, Nature Knows, and get free insider news and surprises at https://maryrothwell.net/natureknows Comments about this episode? Suggestions for a future episode? Email me directly at NSVpodcast@gmail.com. Want to be a guest on No Shrinking Violets Podcast for Women? Send Mary Rothwell a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/noshrinkingviolets Follow me on Facebook and Instagram, and check out my website!

    12 min
  3. From Abuse and Shrinking to Self-Recovery: Unmasking Your True Colors

    FEB 19

    From Abuse and Shrinking to Self-Recovery: Unmasking Your True Colors

    Thoughts or comments? Send us a text! A single sentence can change everything. When Kristen Crabtree heard, “You don’t need her permission to move out,” it shattered years of camouflaging and control, and set her on a path from invisibility to self-recovery. We dive into the quiet mechanics of psychological abuse—rules about when you can speak, isolation that shrinks your world, financial constraints that keep you stuck—and the small, doable actions that start a return to yourself. Kristen, an author and certified divorce coach, brings hard-won insight from her own journey out of a psychologically abusive marriage, including navigating a partner’s undiagnosed NPD traits and the aftermath of trauma therapy. We talk about why self-recovery isn’t self-help: you’re not broken, you’re buried. Using her archaeology-inspired framework, she shows how to excavate the mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual “artifacts” that reveal who you are beneath years of adaptive masking. From the “Who am I?” practice to third‑person narration while washing dishes, you’ll get practical tools to quiet monkey mind, build awareness, and make aligned choices. We also explore the chameleon effect—how women learn to blend in for safety—and what it looks like to choose your own colors again, right down to the art on your walls and the clothes on your body. Taste is not trivial; it’s a signal. Kristen’s Tree of Becoming invites growth that’s seasonal and humane: pruning branches that no longer fit, welcoming new buds, and letting identity evolve without apology. If you’ve ever felt trapped between staying and leaving, or unsure where to start, this conversation offers a grounded first step, a language for what you’re feeling, and a reminder that safety built on self-alignment is stronger than safety built on approval. Loved the conversation? Subscribe, share with a friend who needs it, and leave a review telling us the smallest shift you’ll make today. Your story might spark someone else’s turning point. You can find Kristen (and the chameleon) here: https://www.paramourparadox.com/ You can also find her here: https://you2point0.com/ Support the show Sign up for the launch team for my book, Nature Knows, and get free insider news and surprises at https://maryrothwell.net/natureknows Comments about this episode? Suggestions for a future episode? Email me directly at NSVpodcast@gmail.com. Want to be a guest on No Shrinking Violets Podcast for Women? Send Mary Rothwell a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/noshrinkingviolets Follow me on Facebook and Instagram, and check out my website!

    40 min
  4. Have You Created a Self-Fulfilling Prophecy?

    FEB 16

    Have You Created a Self-Fulfilling Prophecy?

    Thoughts or comments? Send us a text! We trace how confirmation bias primes our expectations and how self-fulfilling prophecies turn false beliefs into real outcomes. Mary shares a personal story about self-reliance, asking for help, and learning to invite support without losing strength. • recap of confirmation bias and everyday examples  • definition of self-fulfilling prophecy and how beliefs drive behavior  • rejection sensitivity and the signals that push people away  • Mary’s childhood story and the origin of “I’ve got it” energy  • divorce, unmet support, and the cost of not asking  • reframing help as strength and updating social cues  • practical reflection prompts to break the cycle  • small experiments to test new beliefs and behaviors If you enjoyed this episode, consider supporting me. Use the link in the show notes -- It would be so appreciated :) Support the show Sign up for the launch team for my book, Nature Knows, and get free insider news and surprises at https://maryrothwell.net/natureknows Comments about this episode? Suggestions for a future episode? Email me directly at NSVpodcast@gmail.com. Want to be a guest on No Shrinking Violets Podcast for Women? Send Mary Rothwell a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/noshrinkingviolets Follow me on Facebook and Instagram, and check out my website!

    7 min
  5. Rewriting Old Stories: How Hypnotherapy Unlocks Change

    FEB 12

    Rewriting Old Stories: How Hypnotherapy Unlocks Change

    Thoughts or comments? Send us a text! What if the story shaping your choices isn’t the truth, just the loudest memory? We sit down with clinical hypnotherapist Michelle Walters to unpack what hypnosis actually is—a measurable brain state where suggestibility increases, attention narrows, and imagination opens—and how that mix can help rewrite unhelpful beliefs, calm persistent anxiety, and dismantle sticky habits. Michelle traces her path from digital marketing to clinical practice after profound personal loss, and then takes us inside the work. She explains why memory behaves more like a draft than a photograph, how careful regression and ethical guardrails protect clients, and what it looks like to personalize sessions around real strengths, values, and faith. We hear vivid case stories: a lifelong terror of bumblebees linked to a childhood moment of fear, an outgoing professional whose sudden anxiety eased with tailored imagery, and clients who replace hair pulling or sugar binges by rehearsing new sensory rituals until they feel natural. We also explore the practical side of change. Hypnosis isn’t mind control; it’s a reliable way to quiet the analytical voice so the nervous system can try a better pattern. Repetition cements it. That’s where Michelle’s Make My Hypno app comes in—custom recordings built from your goals, environments, and affirmations, so the script sounds like your life. Whether you’re skeptical or curious, this conversation blends science, lived wisdom, and creative tools you can start using tonight. You can find Michelle at https://michellewalters.net/ Access the discount for MakeMyHypno app here: https://makemyhypno.com/podcast_discount If this resonates, follow the show or share it with a friend who needs a new story. Support the show Sign up for the launch team for my book, Nature Knows, and get free insider news and surprises at https://maryrothwell.net/natureknows Comments about this episode? Suggestions for a future episode? Email me directly at NSVpodcast@gmail.com. Want to be a guest on No Shrinking Violets Podcast for Women? Send Mary Rothwell a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/noshrinkingviolets Follow me on Facebook and Instagram, and check out my website!

    42 min
  6. Is Confirmation Bias Hurting You?

    FEB 9

    Is Confirmation Bias Hurting You?

    Thoughts or comments? Send us a text! We explore how confirmation bias shapes what we notice, how we remember, and how we treat ourselves and others. A childhood label becomes a lens, social media amplifies certainty, and small reframes open space for calmer, truer choices. • clear definition of confirmation bias and why it spreads online • story of being labeled shy and how it shaped behavior • the cost of self-monitoring in meetings and relationships • misread signals in friendships, marriage and work • difference between bias, real patterns and gaslighting • how memory edits to fit old beliefs • practical reframes and questions to test other explanations If you enjoyed today's show or you listen often, consider supporting the show at the link below. Support the show Sign up for the launch team for my book, Nature Knows, and get free insider news and surprises at https://maryrothwell.net/natureknows Comments about this episode? Suggestions for a future episode? Email me directly at NSVpodcast@gmail.com. Want to be a guest on No Shrinking Violets Podcast for Women? Send Mary Rothwell a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/noshrinkingviolets Follow me on Facebook and Instagram, and check out my website!

    10 min
  7. Self-Confidence & Leadership: From Climbing Mountains to Motherhood

    FEB 5

    Self-Confidence & Leadership: From Climbing Mountains to Motherhood

    Thoughts or comments? Send us a text! We reframe self-doubt, motherhood, and messy life moments as a training ground for leadership, confidence, and authentic growth. Simone shares the REAL method and a mindset reset that turns “I could never” into clear choices and courageous action. • redefining “shrinking violet” as resilience and strength • reframing caregiving and domestic labor as leadership skills • Simone’s vulnerable turning points and Kilimanjaro mindset • competing vs supporting women and the social media trap • readiness myths, imposter syndrome, and action bias • adoption, family culture, and transferable skills • control alt delete mindset tool for resets • the REAL method for building confidence You can find Simone at https://simoneknego.com/ Support the show Sign up for the launch team for my book, Nature Knows, and get free insider news and surprises at https://maryrothwell.net/natureknows Comments about this episode? Suggestions for a future episode? Email me directly at NSVpodcast@gmail.com. Want to be a guest on No Shrinking Violets Podcast for Women? Send Mary Rothwell a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/noshrinkingviolets Follow me on Facebook and Instagram, and check out my website!

    44 min
  8. Is Shame the Same as Embarrassment?

    FEB 2

    Is Shame the Same as Embarrassment?

    Thoughts or comments? Send us a text! We separate embarrassment from shame and show how shame gets used to push people back into line. We share family and professional stories, then offer ways to notice the first sting of shame and keep advocating for what you need. • difference between embarrassment and shame   • how labels like always careless attach to identity   • why self-advocacy triggers shaming responses   • family example of weaponized shame   • professional boundary met with shame   • recognizing learned patterns, especially among women   • practical ways to pause, inquire, and hold ground   • reclaiming worth while taking up space Thank you for listening. And until next time, go out into the world and be the amazing, resilient, vibrant violet that you are. Support the show Sign up for the launch team for my book, Nature Knows, and get free insider news and surprises at https://maryrothwell.net/natureknows Comments about this episode? Suggestions for a future episode? Email me directly at NSVpodcast@gmail.com. Want to be a guest on No Shrinking Violets Podcast for Women? Send Mary Rothwell a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/noshrinkingviolets Follow me on Facebook and Instagram, and check out my website!

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No Shrinking Violets is all about what it truly means for women to take up their space in the world – mind, body and spirit. Mary Rothwell, licensed therapist and certified integrative mental health practitioner, has seen women “stay small” and fit into the space in life that they have been conditioned to believe they deserve. Drawing on 35 years in the mental health field and from her perspective as a woman who was often told to "stay in your lane," Mary discusses how early experiences, society and sometimes our own limiting beliefs can convince us that living inside guardrails is the best -- or only -- option. She'll explore how to recognize our unique essential nature and how to use that to empower a new narrative.Through topics that span psychology, friendships, nature and even gut-brain health, Mary creates a space that is inspiring and authentic - where she celebrates the intuition and power of women who want to chart their own course and program their own GPS. Mary's topics will include sleep and supplements and nutrition and how to live like a plant. (Yes, you read that right - the example of plants is often the most insightful path to knowing what we truly need to feel fulfilled). She’ll talk about setting boundaries, communicating, and relationships, and explore mental health and wellness: trauma and resilience, how our food impacts our mood and the power of simple daily habits. And so much more! As a gardener, Mary knows that violets have been misjudged for centuries and are actually one of the most resilient and ecologically important plants in her native garden. Like violets, women are often underestimated, and they can even mistake their unique gifts for weaknesses. Join Mary to explore all the ways the vibrant and strong violet is an example for finding fulfillment in our own lives.

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