75 episodes

It’s a subject that not too many want to hear or discuss. Nobody Talks Shidduchim is a podcast for those who are facing a true challenge in American Jewish dating. Did we scare you yet? Here you are not alone. There are so many others struggling in Shidduchim and it’s time us singles has a voice for it! Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/shidduchim/support

Nobody Talks Shidduchim Nobody Talks Shidduchim

    • Society & Culture
    • 4.2 • 63 Ratings

It’s a subject that not too many want to hear or discuss. Nobody Talks Shidduchim is a podcast for those who are facing a true challenge in American Jewish dating. Did we scare you yet? Here you are not alone. There are so many others struggling in Shidduchim and it’s time us singles has a voice for it! Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/shidduchim/support

    Ep 73: A History on Jewish Dating and The Great Singles Migration to New York

    Ep 73: A History on Jewish Dating and The Great Singles Migration to New York

    A History on Shidduch Dating and The Great Singles Migration - NTS


    The NTS Crew sits down with shidduch scholar Malcom.
    In this episode we discuss the history of Shidduch dating, the great singles migration and how certain places became the singles go to places to live. What they are like and what they have to offer

    This NTS episode discusses a brief history crash course on the history of shidduch dating. Where it began, how did it start, how we got to modern day dating!

    We end off with where singles migrate to. Where do they end up and what happens to them?

    1) History
    2) Back to our Forefathers
    3) Talmudic times
    4) The enlightenment
    5) How it was done in Europe
    6) After the Shoa
    7) Shmilka Bernsteins & Grossingers
    8) Small towns
    9) Rebuilding Jewish communities in the 70's, 80's 90's etc...
    10) Globalism
    11) The business of Shidduchim is business
    12) Why singles are choosing the Upper West Side?
    13) The great singles crisis of 2008

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    • 1 hr 20 min
    Ep 72: A Long Distance Fairy Tale, Meeting On Social Media & Trying To Get Back Together

    Ep 72: A Long Distance Fairy Tale, Meeting On Social Media & Trying To Get Back Together

    IJ sits down for a tell all to discuss his long distance fairytale. He found love but God had other plans. Long-distance can be quite the challenge for many couples but it could also provide a very unique and special experience. There’s a lot of character development and growth that takes place during long distance relationships; are you one of those who this has happened to?
    Many times people wave their hand at you when they say “what you’ve never met each other in person“ Well I J is here to tell you why those people are full of garbage because long distance is more real than anyone could even imagine.

    1) Does long-distance really work?
    2) Making sure they are a real person and not a cat fish!
    3) What if both parties struggle with moving away from where they are?
    4) Is face timing a substitute for in person dating?
    5) How come small minded people roll their eyes when you tell people that you met and are together primarily online
    6) Taking long-distance breaks
    7) Getting over regrets
    8) Getting back together


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    • 42 min
    Ep 71: Dating Coach Consultation

    Ep 71: Dating Coach Consultation

    This episode discusses small tidbits from a consultation with a dating coach. We are joined by Rivka Janowski Rochind.
    Rivka offers us tips so we can brush up on our dates. Is there a way for us to be more cognizant on our dates? 
    1) Being tuned in on dates
    2) remembering there names
    3) What if you seemed tuned out, what do you do?
    4) Does this mean there’s a problem with you or even the match?
    5) Is there one person you’re supposed to marry?
    6) How do you know someone is right for you?
    7) Not looking for “perfect” looking for “perfect for me”
    8) “Pink” flags and dealbreakers
    9) Some things that hold people back from committing/getting engaged/married
    10) And How to overcome them
    11) Understanding when dating may or may not be a good thing for you.
    12) How to properly tell someone they're not for you.
    13) When to realize you may be oversharing
    14) When to realize you may to closed off.
    15) How maintain momentum with someone you just met without getting to anxious about the future...

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    • 1 hr 14 min
    Ep 70: Toxic Relationships & Platonic Friends Part 2 with Holy Shid Ahuva Shandelman

    Ep 70: Toxic Relationships & Platonic Friends Part 2 with Holy Shid Ahuva Shandelman

    Ep 70) Toxic friends & Platonic Relationships [Holy Shid] Part 2 

    You grew up with them, shared the most sentimental memories with them; but once you enter the shidduch core...everything changes. Toxic friends exists and they are holding you back from your shiduch excursions. Holy Shid joins us to discuss what to do. 

    1) Shid breaks down what a toxic relationship is.
    2) What is a frum platonic relationship?
    3) Are platonic relationships also toxic?
    4) Your friends say that shidduch idea isnt for you
    5) The saying is "you are what you consume"; if you hang around people who are bad for you, how do you let them go?
    6) Where to find friends that bring out the best in you.
    7) How to tell if this friendship is healthy/toxic for you?
    8) How to identify whether or not you're a toxic influence on your friends?
    9) Can a platonic relationship exist within frum culture?
    10) Should you pursue a romantic relationship with a platonic friend even though you may not feel "in love"?
    11) How much does jealousy/insecurity play a role in toxic relationships?
    12) Other toxic traits; that may not be as visible at the surface.
    13) Maybe we are looking too deeply into all of these therapeutic techniques?
    14) Activities you can do together to assist in building stronger friendships.


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    • 50 min
    Ep 69: Toxic Friends & Platonic Relationships Part 1 with Holy Shid Ahuva Shandelman

    Ep 69: Toxic Friends & Platonic Relationships Part 1 with Holy Shid Ahuva Shandelman

    Episode 69: Toxic Friends & Platonic Relationships Part 1 with Holy Shid's Ahuva Shandelman.
    You grew up with them, shared the most sentimental memories with them; but once you enter the shidduch core...everything changes. Toxic friends exists and they are holding you back from your shiduch excursions. Holy Shid joins us to discuss what to do.

    1) Shid breaks down what a toxic relationship is.
    2) What is a frum platonic relationship?
    3) Are platonic relationships also toxic?
    4) Your friends say that shidduch idea isnt for you
    5) The saying is "you are what you consume"; if you hang around people who are bad for you, how do you let them go?
    6) Where to find friends that bring out the best in you.
    7) How to tell if this friendship is healthy/toxic for you?
    8) How to identify whether or not you're a toxic influence on your friends?
    9) Can a platonic relationship exist within frum culture?
    10) Should you pursue a romantic relationship with a platonic friend even though you may not feel "in love"?
    11) How much does jealousy/insecurity play a role in toxic relationships?
    12) Other toxic traits; that may not be as visible at the surface.
    13) Maybe we are looking too deeply into all of these therapeutic techniques?
    14) Activities you can do together to assist in building stronger friendships.

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    • 59 min
    Ep 68: The Family Has "Issues", What Do I Do?

    Ep 68: The Family Has "Issues", What Do I Do?

    Ep 68 - The family has “issues”, what do I do?

    In this continuation of stigmatize dating we discuss more stigmatized issues that occur during your dating life cycle. Of course everyone hopes and believes and imagine that they are going to get the full package. The father-in-law is president of the young Israel the mother is coordinating three tehillim groups, his sister is a very well-balanced nurse at some hospital and her brother is happily married with kids in the five towns. As you know this does not happen all the time and in most cases stigmatized dating pops up. There’s always going to be an issue with some family mix perhaps someone is divorced perhaps a sibling does not fall into the community expectations. In this episode we break it down and get you a plan for this.

    1. Father was in prison
    2. They have 10 siblings, they have one sibling, they are an only child
    3. The family is poor
    4. Sibling is off the derech
    5. Converts
    6. Messy divorce
    7. Mental illness in the family
    8. Family has someone in it that is gay
    9. They don't plan to attend their child's wedding
    10. Parent’s don't speak to some of the children
    11. Physical health issues in family
    12. Child that is special needs
    13. Parent who passed away
    14. Money

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    • 1 hr 2 min

Customer Reviews

4.2 out of 5
63 Ratings

63 Ratings

Nance Schultz ,

Super informative

The show is getting better as the two creators mature into the show. The topics and guests insightful. I especially like learning more about the inter generational differences and community issues. The goal should be bashert.

GreeneGirls ,

So helpful

Clear guidance and also funny

Randomshmo ,

Real people

You guys are great-open, honest, funny, and not trying to present yourselves in a perfect light...very relatable-even for people of stricter or looser frum standards. Keep it up!!

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