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It’s a subject that not too many want to hear or discuss. Nobody Talks Shidduchim is a podcast for those who are facing a true challenge in American Jewish dating. Did we scare you yet? Here you are not alone. There are so many others struggling in Shidduchim and it’s time us singles has a voice for it! Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/shidduchim/support

Nobody Talks Shidduchim Nobody Talks Shidduchim

    • Society & Culture
    • 4.2 • 68 Ratings

It’s a subject that not too many want to hear or discuss. Nobody Talks Shidduchim is a podcast for those who are facing a true challenge in American Jewish dating. Did we scare you yet? Here you are not alone. There are so many others struggling in Shidduchim and it’s time us singles has a voice for it! Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/shidduchim/support

    89: How I Met Your Therapist (ft. Ahuva Shandelman a.k.a. Holy Shid)

    89: How I Met Your Therapist (ft. Ahuva Shandelman a.k.a. Holy Shid)

    89: How I Met Your Therapist (ft. Ahuva Shandelman a.k.a. Holy Shid)


    Ever wonder how orthodox Jewish women become dating coaches or therapists? in this episode, we discuss with dating expert Ahuva Shandelman LCSW how she got to where she is today. The gang also discusses the continuous tales of the Shidduch journey-person.

    Dating specialists tales:
    1) How the whole social work thing caught on
    2) Going to a male therapist vs a female therapist
    3) Jewish vs. nonJewish therapist
    4) How you get into being a “Shidduch/dating expert”
    5) How you relate your experience to those who have dating struggles
    6) Commonalities of struggling daters
    7) Parent care taker situation

    #jewish #dating #aka #shidduchim #dating #app #shidduch #shadchan #lakewood #girls #weddings


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    • 1 hr 33 min
    88: There’s Nothing Wrong With You Because You Are Single (ft. Jackie Glaser)

    88: There’s Nothing Wrong With You Because You Are Single (ft. Jackie Glaser)

    88: There’s nothing wrong with you because you are single (ft. Jackie Glaser) 

    In a world with so much stereotyping of orthodox Jewish singles, Jackie Glaser brings a fresh perspective On the fact that there really isn’t anything wrong with you. Dating is mostly a struggle for frum Singles, here are some ways you can alleviate your dating experience and break through preconceived notions when trying to affiliate yourself with the Jewish community and your dates. 

    1) Baruch Hashem Syndrome!!
    2a) Is there really nothing wrong with someone when they are single? Clearly women or men are not finding this person attractive or viable, tell us more
    2b) Singles see the problems with many current married people & there just may not be any realistic role models
    3) Crap Testing Singles!! Jackie's Adam Neumann Story
    4) What do you do with your position in the Jewish community, do you move on and look for other things or do you stay and fight back the stereotype?
    5) Is there really something wrong with Singles or is it that there’s actually nowhere to find Singles? (& mature singles [Avery explains])
    6) what are your singles saying about the Shidduch scene and their struggles?
    7) Burn out is very real, keeping up at work, keeping up with yourself, salvaging your friends and family relationships, why are so many women closed off to trying? Why are so many men looking for the quick fix?
    8) we noticed a lot of mental health advocacy like meditation and other tools for this genre, is it becoming more popular? Or is it the only answer?
    9) How do you actually get more relaxed on dates? CBD, cigarette break? jump in on a Netflix and ice cream binge?
    10) The trend of being a people pleaser, so many young girls are pressured by matchmakers to just be a people pleaser but in the world of today like social media and people’s voices to be heard perhaps it’s not the best thing. Also I learned in my pick up class that it is actually good to not always please & not always get excited about every single interest that your date may have…


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    • 1 hr 5 min
    87: Brachos and Segulas: Are They Hocus Pocus or Will It Get You Married?

    87: Brachos and Segulas: Are They Hocus Pocus or Will It Get You Married?

    Ep 87 Brachos and Segulas: Are they hocus pocus or will it get you married?
    In this episode IJ & Avery discuss the concept of brachos & segulas people receive regarding be marrige.

    1. What are the brachos & seuglas people refer to you need before marrige?
    2. Mazal
    3. Do the rabbinim really have any insight in to whom you will get married to?
    4. Are kabbalists more accurate when predicting who you'll marry?
    5. If their brachos don't work what next?
    6. Should we stop giving money to these people who are giving us false blessings.
    7. How to detect which rabbanim to trust when it comes to asking for a bracha.
    8. Is the psychology of blessings the real reason they "work" for some, meaning; you manifest what you believe in.
    9. Going to kevarim, repealing ayin haras,, bashert and all other spiritual quest. Do they work?
    10. Diff between short term and long term segulas (ex of long term: (shir hashirim, nishmat kol chai, and going to the kotel (all for40 days in a row)
    11. This is a sub topic but along the lines of segulas I think one of the main reasons people do them is out of desperation and I’ve been suggested some shadchanim that really take advantage of that and charge ridicuuuuulousssss fees


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    • 1 hr 28 min
    86: Zodiac Signs, Names & The Unknown

    86: Zodiac Signs, Names & The Unknown

    Ep 86: Zodiac Signs, Names & The Unknown

    Even in Game of Thrones there was the religious, spooky and unknown factors out there in that universe. Here on NTS we believe that there are other things that could cause and effect shidduch dating. IJ, Avery & Cousin Malcolm opine…
    1) Zodiac Signs Intro
    2) Zodiac Signs: is it real that some zodiacs cannot be with others?
    3) Also, why are gals so obsessed with this stuff?
    4) Is it true that Names have to match up in order to be together?
    5) What is the Torah's perspective on Zodiac Signs (Cousin Malcolm jives in)
    6) Avery and IJ's Zodiac signs, and everybody else's
    7) Avery discusses his books and their lessons
    8) Most common Jewish names:
    9) avi, ari, malky, shimi, yaakov, yitz, moshe, etc...
    10) What do these names mean?


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    • 1 hr 2 min
    85: Hobbies, Social Clubs & Going Home for the Chagim

    85: Hobbies, Social Clubs & Going Home for the Chagim

    85 - Hobbies, Social Clubs & Going Home for the Chagim
    When you are not working or with the friends/family, orthodox jewish singles have a unique opportunity, this is; to explore new things and new social groups. After that Paige & the NTS guys discuss more on the single life coterie.

    1) Escaping too much family time during yuntif!
    2) What kinds of social clubs are out there for singles?
    3) Pickle ball, improv, hookah lounges, comedy clubs, etc...
    4) How to handle going back home for the chagim and discussing it
    5) Men going to shul and women going to tehillim groups
    6) How to tell a shadchan that you have a social club
    7) Whether or not to tell a shul goer (parishioner) in your old community about your new endeavors

    #jewish #dating #aka #shidduchim #dating #app #shidduch #shadchan #mazaltov #lakewood #monsey #5towns




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    • 52 min
    84: The Corporate & Jewish Life Balance (ft. Rachel Salutsky & Shlomo from Nashville)

    84: The Corporate & Jewish Life Balance (ft. Rachel Salutsky & Shlomo from Nashville)

    A work life balance is certainly something we all strive for. Is it truly feasible while living in Orthodox Jewish life? In this episode we bring on corporate employees who try to make best of their Jewish life and work life balance. Our grandparents had to give it up if they had to work for Shabbos, are we any different?

    1) What is a corporate place? (Everyone defines)
    2) tell us about the schedule for a person who wants to make it in a corporate setting
    3) What kind of education do they have to have, can they go to Yeshiva University, Landers College For Men/Women, Touro University?
    4) Is getting home for Shabbat really tough on those early fridays?
    5) Can you take Off for a Jewish holidays or are you really taking off and making up the time?
    6) Do you go to the companywide Christmas party? I heard it’s really fun!
    7) shabbat and chag:
    -telling employer/teams/clients
    -setting boundaries: leaving early and not responding to messages
    -situations where jobs require work on weekends
    -when holidays fall out during busy times


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    • 1 hr 22 min

Customer Reviews

4.2 out of 5
68 Ratings

68 Ratings

Nance Schultz ,

Super informative

The show is getting better as the two creators mature into the show. The topics and guests insightful. I especially like learning more about the inter generational differences and community issues. The goal should be bashert.

GreeneGirls ,

So helpful

Clear guidance and also funny

Randomshmo ,

Real people

You guys are great-open, honest, funny, and not trying to present yourselves in a perfect light...very relatable-even for people of stricter or looser frum standards. Keep it up!!

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