Not Allowed

Janani Suresh
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Not Allowed breaks down the conversations Indian women are discouraged from having - about desire, ambition, relationships, body image, and power. Through pop culture, Bollywood, and lived experience, we questions norms, call out hypocrisy, and say the quiet part out loud. Hosted by Janani, this is where unfiltered opinions, cultural side-eyes, and pop culture truths live. If you’ve ever thought “we’re not supposed to say this out loud” - you’re in the right place.

  1. 06/24/2025

    Are we the first generation of women who will remain single?

    We are the first generation of women who might actually stay single, not because we can't find love, but because we’re done settling. In this episode, I get into why modern women are choosing themselves over outdated gender roles, and how men still benefit from a version of patriarchy they’ve never had to question. From emotional unavailability to weaponized incompetence, I talk about how so many men are still operating from a playbook handed down by their dads, while we’ve had to rewrite ours from scratch. It’s not that we hate men... we just want them to catch up. This one’s for the girls who feel like the bar is in hell, and the men who might just be ready to listen.

    15 min

  2. 03/24/2025

    How Your Girlfriends Might Be Giving You Toxic Dating Advice

    Ever heard the phrase "You can do so much better than him" from your girlfriends? Yeah...maybe that's not really nice to tell someone. I know this might not seem like the best thing to hear, it might even feel like I'm betraying my girls who make dating in today's world, so much more bearable. I know that I rely on my female friendships to get me through this crazy time. But you ever wonder if maybe their advice is actually stopping you from getting the love you want? Maybe there's some projections of insecurities happening? Sometimes, even though the intentions are good, it feels like getting shamed for the choices you make. Whatever you want from a relationship is personal to you and your partner. You don't owe anyone any explanations.

    27 min

  3. 03/17/2025

    A Dumb B*tch Guide To The Friendzone: Don't Take Your Crush To A Singles Mixer

    No one can dumb-b*tch harder than this bish. In my journey of dating in a more healthy way, I kinda sorta self sabotaged myself. Luckily I made it out with a slightly bruised ego but learn from my mistakes. If you like a guy, probably don't tell him at a SINGLES MIXER event that was CURATED for both of you to find other potential mates. It's like bringing sand to the beach. Dating is a meat market whether its on the apps or on the field. But I stand by asking for what you want, just a bit more strategically I guess.

    42 min

  4. 01/06/2025

    25 ways to take up space in 2025

    Happy New Year! It's time to get focused and get ready for a new chapter for the podcast. Join me in my journey to disassemble the patriarchy, get educated, get less hostile and more communicative through this podcast. This year I want to not just talk about the topics we should be talking about but also build resources, have important takeaways and solutions or at the least, cultivate a support system. Expect more social commentary, more lewd jokes ( I will never stop making dirty jokes), laughter and lighthearted heaviness.

    28 min

  5. 11/13/2024

    Not Your Backup Plan: Why We're Done Being Disposable in Dating

    It's time to detox from toxic dating cycles. I really can't deal with the dating app culture anymore, it just leaves me feeling so empty and worthless. An endless cycle of situationships, half-getting to know someone, silently stalking them on social media for years just to avoid the feeling that you'll never find love - I am sick of it. There is so much more I want to do with my time and energy and so much that I've wasted on the idea of "happily ever after". Time to take it off the pedestal and call out the apps for how much they seem to be profiting off of our insecurities. I need a time out in 2025.

    30 min

  6. 08/26/2024

    When 30 Meets 24: The Tea on My Cougar Crush

    This is the story of a boy, a girl, goatees and really hard nipples. What better way to start Virgo season than spilling the tea on a Virgo boy and my cougar crush. I just had to get this story out there because this is the only way I turn lemons into juicy content. I do wanna say though, who's not an idiot at 24? I know I was. Fair warning however, don't date people who's prefrontal cortex still has some developing to do. Disclaimer: all people mentioned in this story who probably know who they are, I just wanna say - this is definitely not about you. Everything is purely coincidental.

    45 min

  7. 08/19/2024

    Ghosted By A Mallu Boy

    I am back after a looong break and boy have I missed recording my ramblings. It has been a crazy two years filled with failure, heartbreak, loss of jobs, an ADHD diagnosis and turning 30 - basically still having no idea where my life is headed and no plan for it either. But I can't help but think of this as an opportunity to get back to the things I love and sharing my stories to make someone feel less alone but most importantly, help me make sense of this chaotic life and all that comes with it.

    40 min
  8. Why is the sex with toxic guys so good?

    01/09/2023

    Why is the sex with toxic guys so good?

    I hate to admit it, but it's good. Like indulging in a snack that's definitely not good for you, sex with toxic guys is like Mcdonalds at midnight. But it goes deeper than that. Wanting connection is in our nature as human beings, but insecurities are the tricky part of the equation that our animal instincts don't know how to configure. We are taught how to love and be loved, that plays a pivotal role in our sex lives. So when we learn that love is conditional or to be earned, we end up in toxic relationships with mind blowing sex. But are we doomed to be in the loop of toxic relationships? Will I be able to accept healthy relationships with love that is unconditional? And why is the perfect recipe for an orgasm, anxiety and attachment issues?  SUPPORT THE PODCAST ☼ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/notallowed.in/ ☼ Janani - https://www.instagram.com/itsjanani/ ☼ Twitter - https://twitter.com/titsjanani

    41 min
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Not Allowed breaks down the conversations Indian women are discouraged from having - about desire, ambition, relationships, body image, and power. Through pop culture, Bollywood, and lived experience, we questions norms, call out hypocrisy, and say the quiet part out loud. Hosted by Janani, this is where unfiltered opinions, cultural side-eyes, and pop culture truths live. If you’ve ever thought “we’re not supposed to say this out loud” - you’re in the right place.

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  • Creator
    Janani Suresh
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2025
  • Episodes
    41
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Janani Suresh
  • Show Website
    Not Allowed