Not Exactly Wife Material

Rachel & Sam

Not Exactly Wife Material is the raw, no-holds-barred podcast about dating after 40 that you didn't know you needed. Join your host, Rachel, a newly divorced mom diving headfirst into the dating world, and her co-host, Sam, the voice of reason with a stable relationship. Together, they navigate the hilarious, heartbreaking, and often wild reality of dating in the post-dating app world. From awful first dates to unexpected hookups, they're laying it all on the line. Get ready for unfiltered stories, honest advice, and a whole lot of laughs. This is the podcast for anyone who knows that finding "the one" is a lot messier after 40—and it’s a story worth telling. 

Episodes

  1. 6D AGO

    Episode 3: Bad Dates Build Character (Apparently)

    Send us Fan Mail A “fine” date can be worse than a bad one, because it tricks you into ignoring what your body already knows. After a long break, we’re back to swap the dating stories that made us laugh, cringe, and finally set better boundaries, from low-effort first impressions to the moment you realize you’re forcing chemistry that is not there. We dig into what actually helps you date smarter: why having everything in common can feel weirdly flat, why effort matters (yes, grooming counts), and why you should communicate instead of ghosting when you’re not feeling it. Then we get into the date that went from casual drinks to a concert night, followed by the fast crash of “money talk” and the kind of scorekeeping that kills attraction on the spot. The second half goes deeper into red flags and safety, including the creepy vibe you cannot explain but absolutely should trust, plus the realities of hookups, sexual boundaries, STD anxiety, and the awkward follow-up questions nobody wants to ask. If you’ve ever left a date thinking, “What was that?” you’ll feel seen. Subscribe so you don’t miss the next story (Living Room Larry is coming), share this with a friend who needs a laugh, and leave a review if you want more unfiltered dating advice. What’s the clearest red flag you wish you’d listened to sooner? Support the show

    1h 11m

  2. 12/22/2025

    Episode 2: G'day, Good Lay, & Goodbye

    Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we pick up where we left off and dive headfirst into post-divorce dating, low expectations, and situationships that were never meant to last. From a convenient fling with “Ski Patrol” that burned hot and fizzled fast, to a blackout birthday party hookup that spiraled into family barbecues, questionable life choices, and an unforgettable McDonald’s cheeseburger discovery, this one is unfiltered and unhinged in the best way. We talk about setting expectations early, why not every connection is meant to grow roots, and how sometimes the best relationships are purely physical—and short-lived. There’s honesty about knowing when you don’t care enough to confront red flags, the difference between emotional and physical investment, and why modern dating (especially apps) has completely wrecked the slow burn of actually getting to know someone. Also discussed: Australian accents, deep-sea diving enthusiasm, being too loud at the wrong time, getting soft-launched into a relationship you definitely didn’t sign up for, and why “not exactly wife material” is sometimes the most self-aware place to be. Welcome to our TED Talk. Tune in. Support the show

    52 min

  3. 06/29/2025

    Looking For Love in All the Wrong Medicine Cabinets

    Send us Fan Mail Stepping back into the dating world after divorce feels like boarding a roller coaster you never bought tickets for. At 41, with kids in tow and a decade-long marriage in my rearview mirror, I found myself facing questions I thought were long answered: Who am I now? What do I actually want? And why does dating feel so much more complicated than I remember? My co-host Sam and I dive deep into the messy reality of post-divorce dating, from the thrill of newfound freedom to the sobering discovery that some potential partners come with unexpected baggage (or in my case, suspicious medicine cabinet contents). We talk candidly about "Ski Patrol" – that first rebound relationship that taught me what I did and didn't want moving forward.  The podcast explores the complicated emotions that arise when you're technically separated but not yet divorced, trying to navigate casual relationships while your heart and mind aren't always on the same page. We discuss how co-parenting can actually improve after divorce, why setting clear expectations matters in every new relationship, and how physical intimacy after a long drought can be both healing and complicated. Whether you're newly single, contemplating ending a relationship, or simply curious about what dating looks like in your forties, our unfiltered conversation offers both humor and insight. We're creating a space where the loneliness of divorce gives way to shared experiences and unexpected laughter. Join us on this journey through the dating wilderness, and share your own stories with us at happyhour@exwifey.com. After all, the path to finding yourself after divorce is rarely straight – but it doesn't have to be walked alone. Support the show

    36 min
  • 3 Episodes

Ratings & Reviews

5
out of 5
6 Ratings

About

Not Exactly Wife Material is the raw, no-holds-barred podcast about dating after 40 that you didn't know you needed. Join your host, Rachel, a newly divorced mom diving headfirst into the dating world, and her co-host, Sam, the voice of reason with a stable relationship. Together, they navigate the hilarious, heartbreaking, and often wild reality of dating in the post-dating app world. From awful first dates to unexpected hookups, they're laying it all on the line. Get ready for unfiltered stories, honest advice, and a whole lot of laughs. This is the podcast for anyone who knows that finding "the one" is a lot messier after 40—and it’s a story worth telling. 

Information

  • Creator
    Rachel & Sam
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    3
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Not Exactly Wife Material
  • Show Website
    Not Exactly Wife Material