Not Us Podcast

Angela Samantha Kaaber Kilian
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A podcast hosted by two sisters and for people who are raw, real and curious about who they are becoming - one story at a time.

  1. Why Saying No Feels So Hard | Boundaries, People-Pleasing & The Power of a Clean No

    6D AGO

    Why Saying No Feels So Hard | Boundaries, People-Pleasing & The Power of a Clean No

    Why does saying no feel so loaded? This week, we talk about the power of a clean no: the kind that does not come with a 20-minute explanation, three days of guilt, or a fake yes that turns into resentment. We unpack people-pleasing, overcommitting, boundaries, women being conditioned to make others comfortable, and the difference between saying yes from truth versus saying yes because you are scared to disappoint someone. It gets funny, personal, and very honest, because apparently even a simple “no” comes with childhood conditioning, cultural rules, body signals, guilt, and one highly questionable David Beckham dream. A real conversation about letting your yes be yes, and your no be no. Keywords: boundaries, saying no, people pleasing, clean no, self trust, relationships, women, communication Hashtags: #NotUsPodcast #Boundaries #PowerOfNo #PeoplePleasing #CleanNo

    47 min
  2. Motherhood, Choice & The Mother Dilemma | Not Us Podcast

    MAY 8

    Motherhood, Choice & The Mother Dilemma | Not Us Podcast

    This week, we’re talking about motherhood. Not just the obvious version. Not just birth, babies, and biology. We’re talking about the bigger question: what makes someone a mother? Neither of us has human children, but this conversation gets personal fast. We talk about wanting babies, not wanting babies, fertility treatment, adoption, fur babies, same-sex parenting, single mothers, and the women who mother us in different ways throughout life. It’s funny, honest, emotional, and occasionally ridiculous, because apparently even Mother’s Day can’t escape sister chaos. For anyone who mothers, wanted to mother, chose not to, couldn’t, adopted, nurtures, protects, guides, or loves something with their whole chest: this one’s for you. Keywords: motherhood, Mother’s Day, fertility, adoption, fur moms, same-sex parenting, choice, women, family Hashtags: #NotUsPodcast #Motherhood #MothersDay #ChoiceAndChange

    41 min
  3. Midlife Crisis Or Midlife Unraveling? | The Truth About Change, Identity & Self-Acceptance

    MAY 1

    Midlife Crisis Or Midlife Unraveling? | The Truth About Change, Identity & Self-Acceptance

    Is it a midlife crisis… or is life finally asking you to stop pretending? This week, we’re talking about midlife unraveling: the moment old roles, old armor, and old ways of coping stop working. We get into Brené Brown’s take on midlife, the difference between crisis and unraveling, why self-acceptance matters more than external validation, and why change can feel like being dragged through a shopping mall with your heels in the floor. Very dignified. Very human. This episode is about: resisting change letting go of old armor choosing curiosity over certainty ambition, self-worth, and validation becoming more honest about who you are now A real sister conversation about growing up again, but with better shoes and slightly more swearing. Keywords: midlife unraveling, midlife crisis, self-acceptance, change, identity, growth, women in midlife, Not Us Podcast Hashtags: #NotUsPodcast #MidlifeUnraveling #MidlifeCrisis #SelfGrowth #ChangeAndChoice

    39 min
  4. Outgrowing Your Life, Friendships & Relationships | Not Us Podcast

    APR 24

    Outgrowing Your Life, Friendships & Relationships | Not Us Podcast

    Sometimes the hardest choices are not about what is wrong. They are about what no longer fits. This week, we’re talking about outgrowing parts of your life: friendships, relationships, work, routines, old patterns, and even versions of yourself. We get into: why some endings are soft and others are full drama the guilt that comes with choosing yourself staying too long because you don’t want to hurt people how to tell the difference between truth and wound response and why outgrowing something is not failure, it is movement It’s a big conversation about change, compassion, self-honesty, and learning how to let go without making yourself or anyone else the villain. Keywords: outgrowing your life, friendship breakups, relationships, change, self-honesty, choosing yourself, life choices, growth Hashtags: #NotUsPodcast #OutgrowingYourLife #ChoosingYourself #Friendships #Relationships #Growth

    52 min
  5. Glow Up vs Glow Down: Beauty Trends, Corporate Life & Aging Gracefully | Not Us Podcast

    APR 17

    Glow Up vs Glow Down: Beauty Trends, Corporate Life & Aging Gracefully | Not Us Podcast

    We talk a lot about glow ups. Looking better. Doing more. Fixing the outside. But what happens when the inside doesn’t match? In this episode, we break down glow up vs glow down through real life. Not trends. Not TikTok. Real conversations about: energy and how it shows up physically beauty standards and aging Botox, natural looks, and personal choice corporate life, stress, and everyday pressure and why how you feel always finds a way through Because no matter how polished things look… Your energy tells the real story.

    47 min
  6. What you consume feeds your brain

    APR 10

    What you consume feeds your brain

    This week, we’re talking about what we’re currently consuming with our eyes and ears, what we’re watching, reading, listening to, and scrolling through. What starts as a chat about MAFS Australia, books, documentaries, and favorite shows quickly turns into something deeper: how content affects our mood, our relationships, our thinking, and even how we see ourselves. We get into: reality TV as a total car crash you can’t stop watching social media, YouTube, and dopamine overload why some content energizes us and some leaves us drained what we’ve been loving lately on screen and on the page and why what you consume deserves a bit more attention It’s funny, honest, and a little too real if your phone screen time has been embarrassing lately. Keywords: reality TV, MAFS, podcast recommendations, content habits, books and TV, social media habits, dopamine, culture, sisters podcast Hashtags: #NotUsPodcast #RealityTV #ContentHabits #PodcastLife #WhatWereWatching

    45 min
  7. Where Have We Been Tamed?

    APR 3

    Where Have We Been Tamed?

    This week, we’re talking about being tamed. Not in a dramatic movie way. In the everyday way. The slow, subtle, constant conditioning that teaches us to be quieter, nicer, smaller, more acceptable, and less fully ourselves. We get into creativity, good girl syndrome, truth telling, aging, body shame, social rules, and what it means to reconnect with the wild, honest, expressive parts of who we are. It’s a conversation about what gets suppressed, what still scratches at the surface, and how we start finding our way back. If you’ve ever thought, “I don’t quite feel like myself,” this episode is for you. Keywords: being tamed, rewilding, identity, creativity, women, aging, authenticity, good girl syndrome, self-expression, personal growth Hashtags: #NotUsPodcast #Rewilding #Authenticity #SelfExpression #GoodGirlSyndrome

    54 min
  8. Choice, Judgment & When It Gets Personal

    MAR 27

    Choice, Judgment & When It Gets Personal

    This week, we’re talking about choice… and what happens when it’s no longer theoretical. After a real-life event challenged our own beliefs, we found ourselves asking: Is choice ever truly personal? Why do we feel so certain… until it’s close to home? Where do autonomy, responsibility, and impact on others collide? From life and death decisions to everyday judgments, this conversation moves through discomfort, contradiction, and honesty. We don’t land on answers. We land on awareness. Because sometimes the hardest part isn’t the choice… it’s realizing your beliefs aren’t as fixed as you thought. Keywords: choice, autonomy, judgment, personal beliefs, ethics, relationships, emotional responses, difficult topics Hashtags: #NotUsPodcast #Choice #Judgment #RealConversations #PodcastLife

    42 min
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A podcast hosted by two sisters and for people who are raw, real and curious about who they are becoming - one story at a time.

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  • Creator
    Angela Samantha Kaaber Kilian
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    27
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Angela Samantha Kaaber Kilian
  • Show Website
    Not Us Podcast