Note to Herself

Note to Herself

Note to Herself is a podcast for women 40+ who feel the shift. The shift away from performance. The shift toward true authenticity. The shift back to your own voice. Hosted by longtime friends Kia and Krystel, this show is an honest conversation about what it means to reclaim yourself in midlife. After building families. After building brands. After building lives around other people’s expectations. We talk about the real stuff: relationships, ambition, politics, boundaries, grief, growth, and building a life that reflects who you are now — not who you used to be. Less performance. More ownership. (and a little sh*t-talking when warranted!)

Episodes

  1. The Soft Life Ain't Free | Wellness, Boundaries, & Protecting Your Peace in Midlife

    1D AGO

    The Soft Life Ain't Free | Wellness, Boundaries, & Protecting Your Peace in Midlife

    Everyone online is talking about the “soft life.” But most of what we see is the aesthetic version—robes, candles, matcha lattes, and curated calm. In this episode of Note to Herself, Kia and Krystel talk about what a real soft life actually looks like in your 40s—and why it often costs more than people think. In our world, softness isn’t effortless, it’s intentional. We talk about what it takes to create a life that feels peaceful and sustainable in midlife, including setting boundaries, protecting your nervous system, prioritizing your health, and letting go of the idea that you have to carry everything alone. In this episode we discuss: ✨ What the “soft life” trend gets wrong ✨ Why peace and nervous system regulation matter more than aesthetics ✨ GLP-1 medications, weight stigma, and women’s health ✨ Hormone replacement therapy (HRT) and perimenopause ✨ Why wellness isn’t just a vibe—it’s real work ✨ The boundaries that help protect your peace in midlife We also share our Hot Flash segment, our little luxuries of the week, and end with a powerful Note to Herself about choosing softness, slowing down, and no longer carrying everything alone. We believe the soft life is about finally doing what supports your life. Watch and Follow Note to Herself on YouTube and join us for honest conversations about identity, relationships, healing, and personal growth for women over 40. https://www.youtube.com/@NotetoHerself Join our newsletter Noted, a free weekly companion to the podcast. https://notetoherselfpodcast.com/ __________________________________________________ Special thanks to the talented collaborators who help bring Note to Herself to life: 🎬 Production: R. Cadell Cook — House Cat Creative Directing, Filming, Audio & Post Production https://housecatcreative.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rcadellcook/ 💐 Studio Set Design & Filming Location: Patricia Sterling — Sincerely PS Events and Design https://www.sincerelypseventsanddesign.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sincerelypseventsanddesign/ 💄 Makeup: Denyelle D. Beauty https://www.denyelledbeauty.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/denyelledbeauty/

    30 min
  2. She's In Her Grown Woman Bag | Identity, Authenticity, & Stop Explaining Yourself

    FEB 28

    She's In Her Grown Woman Bag | Identity, Authenticity, & Stop Explaining Yourself

    Welcome to the very first episode of Note to Herself — the podcast for women 40+ who are done editing themselves. In Episode 1, “She’s In Her Grown Woman Bag,” hosts Kia and Krystel dive into identity, authenticity, midlife growth, and what it really means to stop over-explaining yourself. We’re talking about: ✨ The difference between finding yourself vs. truly knowing yourself ✨ Why women in their 40s feel more settled ✨ The exhaustion of constantly explaining and proving yourself ✨ Getting married young and growing into different people ✨ Success, visibility, and performing identity ✨ Marriage, divorce, independence, and personal evolution ✨ Religion, spirituality, and claiming your identity without apology ✨ The “If I live to 80…” question that can change your life ✨ People-pleasing, alignment vs. belonging, and self-awareness ________________________________________________ 🎙 About Note to Herself Note to Herself is a podcast for women navigating life after 40 — identity shifts, relationships, healing, authenticity, self-awareness, and building a soft life that’s real (not performative). Hosted by longtime friends Kia McCallister-Young and Krystel Spell, each episode includes: 🔥 Hot Flash (our hot takes) ✨ Life’s Little Luxuries 💬 The Conversation (real talk about life in your second act) 📝 A Note to Herself (personal reflections and letters to our past selves) _______________________________________________ 💌 Join Our Community If you'd like to watch this and other episodes, we invite you to subscribe to our YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@NotetoHerself Want deeper reflection prompts and weekly intention-setting? Sign up for Noted, our free weekly newsletter: 👉 https://www.notetoherselfpodcast.com Follow, be social, and engage with us: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/notetoherselfpodcast TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@notetoherselfpodcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/notetoherself __________________________________________________ Special thanks to the talented collaborators who help bring Note to Herself to life: 🎬 Production: R. Cadell Cook — House Cat Creative Directing, Filming, Audio & Post Production https://housecatcreative.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rcadellcook/ 💐 Studio Set Design & Filming Location: Patricia Sterling — Sincerely PS Events and Design https://www.sincerelypseventsanddesign.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sincerelypseventsanddesign/ 💄 Makeup: Denyelle D. Beauty https://www.denyelledbeauty.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/denyelledbeauty/

    27 min

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Note to Herself is a podcast for women 40+ who feel the shift. The shift away from performance. The shift toward true authenticity. The shift back to your own voice. Hosted by longtime friends Kia and Krystel, this show is an honest conversation about what it means to reclaim yourself in midlife. After building families. After building brands. After building lives around other people’s expectations. We talk about the real stuff: relationships, ambition, politics, boundaries, grief, growth, and building a life that reflects who you are now — not who you used to be. Less performance. More ownership. (and a little sh*t-talking when warranted!)