Off The Wire

Matthew Wireman

A podcast dedicated to personal growth and the intersection of faith and action. Matt covers topics from life hacks and spiritual formation...and everything in between. With over 25 years of personal coaching, Matt interviews and shares insights on how to change for the better. In an effort to help you become all that God created you to be, join us on a journey of discovery and application.

  1. FULLY ALIVE: God's Will for Everyone, Everywhere w/Jeff Kapusta

    08.12.2025

    FULLY ALIVE: God's Will for Everyone, Everywhere w/Jeff Kapusta

    Episode Guest: Pastor & author Jeff Kapusta (Life Point Church, Wilmington NC) Core Theme: Living fully alive in Christ – integrated life, calling, leadership, and personal growth [00:00:15 – 00:03:35]Intro, Jeff’s Story & Sneakerhead Side Matt introduces the Off the Wire podcast and his integrated approach to coaching: mind, body, and soul.Guest intro: Pastor Jeff Kapusta, church planter in Wilmington, North Carolina (Life Point Church).Brief church origin story (launching on Super Bowl Sunday 2006).Light banter on Jeff’s hobbies: mountain biking, CrossFit, and being a Jordan 1 sneakerhead.SEO keywords: Christian podcast, church planting, Wilmington NC pastor, Jordan 1 sneakerhead [00:03:38 – 00:09:06]“Fully Alive” Book & Podcast – Origin Story Jeff shares how the book “Fully Alive: God’s Will for Everyone Everywhere” came from his church’s slogan “pointing people to life.”Conversation with his counselor exposed that he had no clear outlet to teach the core theology behind the slogan.A season of vocal problems and vocal restpushed him to write instead of preach.Book goal: help people understand God’s will as living fully alive in Christ, whether or not they’re in vocational ministry.The Fully Alive Podcast expands those themes into family, hobbies, fitness, finances, and faith.SEO keywords: Fully Alive book, God’s will for your life, Christian spiritual growth, Christian podcast on faith and life [00:09:06 – 00:14:42]Integrated Life: Spirituality, Money, and the Body Matt and Jeff discuss integrated Christian living: spirituality, finances, time, body, and habits all connected.Jeff shares his and his wife’s story of financial freedom and how money stress affects marriage and ministry.They contrast “don’t store up treasures on earth” with wise stewardship, savings, inheritance, and generosity.Money as a tool for kingdom impact, not a savior or identity.SEO keywords: Christian finances, biblical money wisdom, financial freedom, stewardship, abundance vs prosperity gospel [00:14:42 – 00:23:05]Pathway to Living Fully Alive (Salvation to Purpose) Jeff outlines the logical journey in the book:Relationship with God through repentance and grace in JesusBaptism as a public, obedient next stepProcessing past wounds, trauma, addictions, unforgivenessMoving from being freed from sin to letting sin and slavery be removed from usIllustration: scar vs. wound – many keep re‑opening emotional wounds instead of letting Jesus heal them.Importance of Scripture:Where to start in the BibleWhy Leviticus often kills Bible reading plansWhy we can trust the Bible logically and historicallyBeing fathered by God:Healing from father woundsLuke 3: “This is my Son, whom I love; with him I am well pleased” as identity, affection, affirmation.SEO keywords: inner healing, Christian counseling, Bible reading plan, father wound, identity in Christ, spiritual formation [00:23:05 – 00:30:07]Excellence, Work, and Calling in Everyday Vocation Matt describes his integrated coaching (mind, body, soul) and how bad past experiences can still shape us.Jeff on calling:Everyone is called to ministry, but not everyone to vocational ministry.We need more teachers, lawyers, sanitation workers, coaches who live fully alive for God in secular spaces.Colossians theme: “Whatever you do, do it all to the glory of God.”Christians should be known for excellence and hard work, not mediocrity.Jeff distinguishes excellence vs. excess, and critiques “good enough for God” attitudes.SEO keywords: Christian vocation, calling vs career, excellence for God, Christian work ethic, faith and work [00:30:07 – 00:36:22]Mediocrity, Distraction, and Spiritual Neglect Why some Christians settle for mediocrity: laziness, warped theology, distraction.Time spent binging Netflix vs. time in prayer and Scripture.Matt mentions a free decision‑making resourceat MatthewWireman.com to help with calling and big life choices.SEO keywords: spiritual laziness, Christian discipline, decision making God’s will, Christian productivity [00:36:22 – 00:43:28]Big Problems in the Church: Insider Focus & Missionary Mindset Jeff’s critique of insider‑focused churches:Pastoral mindset: “These are my people, I must care for them.”Missionary mindset: “This is my city, I must reach it.”Church planting forced him into a missionary mentality: learn the culture, build relationships, seek out the unchurched.Concern: churches that only see kids come to faith but few adults may not truly be reaching their community.Discipleship is not just making Christians “smarter,” but reaching those who don’t yet know Jesus.SEO keywords: church growth, discipleship vs evangelism, missionary mindset, reaching the unchurched, local church strategy [00:43:28 – 00:52:44]Engaging Men & The Crisis of Fatherlessness Jeff’s second major concern: disengaged men in church.Cites stats (61% female, 39% male attendance, plus data on fatherlessness: prison, dropout, homelessness, suicide).Introduces “Brotherhood”:Six‑month mentoring program for menApplication, cost, homework, and high challengeFruit: men leading at home, serving at church, modeling worshipStory of the paralyzed man with four friends: the real miracle is a grown man having four real friends willing to carry him to Jesus.Brotherhood tagline: “Born for battle” (Prov. 17:17).SEO keywords: men’s ministry, Christian manhood, fatherlessness, mentoring program, Brotherhood, discipling men [00:52:44 – 01:02:41]Personal Leadership: Goals, Habits, and “I Will” Statements Jeff: everyone is a leader at least of themselves.Difference between personal leadership and just holding a positional title.Practical areas to own with “I will…”:Spiritual: Bible reading, prayer, waking earlyPhysical: sleep, nutrition, exercise, CrossFit, runningFinancial: budget, debt payoff, long‑term planningRelational: small groups, serving teams, real friendshipsSacrificial/Generosity: living beyond selfJeff signs up for a half marathon, builds a training plan, and invites others.Quote: “Nothing changes if nothing changes.”SEO keywords: Christian leadership, self‑leadership, spiritual habits, goal setting, Christian health, half marathon training [01:02:41 – 01:08:28]Accountability, Feelings, and Doing the Hard Things Accountability defined as calling people up, not just calling them out.Group text threads and shared runs as natural structures for accountability and encouragement.Key line: “Feelings are a good indicator, but a terrible dictator.”Discipline as choosing long‑term vision over short‑term comfort.Importance of trust in accountability relationships – friends want for you what you said you want for yourself.SEO keywords: Christian accountability, discipline, habits, spiritual growth, Christian community [01:08:28 – End]How to Connect with Jeff & Closing Prayer Where to find Jeff:Instagram: @jeffkapustaWebsite: JeffKapusta.com (email list, resources)Life Point Church: Wilmington, NCFully Alive Podcast & Fully Alive bookMatt offers a book giveaway for listeners who review the podcast and email a screenshot.Jeff closes in prayer:Gratitude for the conversationAsking God to help listeners live fully alive, honor their commitments, and walk in their calling.Matt gives his contact: matthew@matthewwireman.com for questions and feedback.SEO keywords: Jeff Kapusta, Fully Alive podcast, Life Point Church Wilmington, Christian coaching, Off the Wire with Matthew Wireman Thank you for listening! If you want to find out more about Matt and how you can get coached toward your better self, visit www.matthewwireman.com and check out his LinkedIn and Instagram accounts @matt.wireman.

    1 ч. 10 мин.
  2. Firm Feedback in a Fragile World with Jeff Hancher

    30.10.2025

    Firm Feedback in a Fragile World with Jeff Hancher

    [0:00:56] Welcoming Guest Jeff Hancher Matt welcomes Jeff, who just released his book “Firm Feedback in a Fragile World.”Discussion about the unique difficulties leaders face when giving firm feedback due to the desire to be liked.[0:02:29] Jeff’s Passion for Leadership Jeff shares his passion for equipping future leaders, gratitude for mentorship he received, and his mission to help others reach their potential.[0:03:02] Jeff Hancher Enterprises Overview Jeff describes the evolution of his business, focusing on leadership and sales training, executive masterminds, and building leadership cultures.Mentions that the book came from their popular leadership workshop.[0:04:21] How to Connect with Jeff Provides details on how listeners can find him (jeffhancher.com), contact, and participate in training/masterminds.[0:05:05] The Biggest Leadership Challenge in 2025 Jeff discusses the enduring challenges of effective leadership and succession planning from his Fortune 500 background.Pinpoints hesitancy to give productive feedback as a primary issue.[0:07:54] The Feedback Gap and Leadership Blind Spots Discussion of leadership effectiveness vs. self-perception gaps (65% of managers think they give good feedback; 21% of subordinates agree).The role of “quiet quitting” and the importance of healthy feedback.[0:10:25] The FEAR Framework Jeff outlines the “FEAR” acronym: Fallout, Emotion, Amateur, Retaliation – core reasons why leaders avoid giving hard feedback.[0:14:34] Mindset Shift and Personal Story Advice on reframing fear (“What if I DON’T have this hard conversation?”).Jeff details his story: military background, family struggles, first job at Cintas, and the huge impact of his manager Sean—tough love leading to growth and numerous promotions.[0:22:35] The Three Types of Feedback Jeff explains the feedback “toolbelt”: directive (for new/emergency situations), collaborative (for high performers), and supportive (for underperformers or those in crisis).[0:27:06] The Benefits of Feedback (Illustrative Roleplay) Roleplay illustrating relational equity in giving feedback and the difference relational deposits make (helpful feedback is a “gift” if trust is earned).[0:30:59] Engagement vs. Compliance Culture Importance of driving employee engagement, not mere compliance.Example from Chick-fil-A on culture and motivation.[0:34:58] Decision-Making and Free Resources Mention of decision-making tools at matthewwireman.com.Discussion about setting expectations and vulnerability in leadership.[0:39:45] Handling Accountability Publicly and Privately Step-by-step process for addressing tardiness in a team meeting.Breakdown of the five accountability questions used in feedback/development conversations.[0:45:24] Earning the Right to Give Feedback Jeff shares story about Brent, tying personal motivation (taking daughters to Disney) to performance.Leaders earn trust by helping connect work to personal goals.[0:50:07] Addressing Multiple Issues & Importance of Relationship Equity Advice: Don’t ignore recurring problems, but avoid “piling on.” Build trust first and address issues meaningfully.[0:53:53] Inspiring High Engagement in a Distracted World Effective leaders find and leverage their team’s “why”—purpose-driven engagement, even in transactional jobs (e.g., selling defibrillators).[0:59:05] The Power of Mentorship (Dr. Joe Bradley Story) Jeff credits Dr. Bradley (now passed) with transformational mentorship in composure and self-awareness. The importance of gentle, direct guidance.[1:04:44] Leadership Reflection and Self-Awareness Discussion on journaling, reflecting on weaknesses, strengths, and blind spots.Value of honest self-reflection for growth; key questions to ask yourself.[1:11:08] Final Call to Action & Resources Jeff’s top advice: Get great at asking leadership questions. Offers a free resource of his five favorite questions (jeffhancher.com).Matthew invites listeners to leave a podcast review for a chance to get a free copy of Jeff’s book.[1:14:37] Closing Prayer & Final Thanks Jeff closes with a blessing for listeners to be impactful, equipped, and bold as leaders.[1:15:46] Podcast Wrap-Up Thank you for listening! If you want to find out more about Matt and how you can get coached toward your better self, visit www.matthewwireman.com and check out his LinkedIn and Instagram accounts @matt.wireman.

    1 ч. 17 мин.
  3. Listen to Your Heart with Josh Bradley

    03.10.2025

    Listen to Your Heart with Josh Bradley

    Guest Bio**Josh Bradley** is the Lead Coach at Heart the Mission, where he helps leaders discover clarity and confidence in their calling. With a background in ministry, church planting, and executive coaching, Josh specializes in guiding individuals and teams toward authentic leadership and purpose-driven impact. -- Detailed Timestamps & Key Topics0:00:00 – Introduction & Theme Matt introduces the episode, referencing “Listen to Your Heart” by Roxette and the importance of listening to your heart in leadership. 0:01:00 – About the Host & Podcast Matt shares his coaching background and the integrated approach of the podcast (mind, body, soul, spiritual formation, goal setting, life hacks). 0:02:00 – Guest Introduction: Josh Bradley Josh’s background in personal development, executive coaching, and ministry. How to connect with Josh: heartthemission.com 0:03:30 – The Story Behind “Heart the Mission” Josh explains the inspiration for the name and his early days as a church planter. Emotional challenges, burnout, and the journey to self-understanding. 0:06:00 – Leadership, Identity, and Emotional Health The importance of knowing your unique wiring and calling. The pitfalls of modeling leadership after others without self-awareness. 0:08:30 – DISC Profile & Leadership Models Josh’s experience with the DISC personality assessment. The pressure to fit dominant leadership models and the value of authenticity. 0:10:00 – Transition from Ministry to Coaching Josh’s move from church planting to denominational work and eventually to executive coaching. The role of mentors and learning to ask powerful questions. 0:13:00 – Finding Your Calling & Blessing The concept of blessing and identity in leadership. Biblical examples (Jacob, Abraham) and the importance of receiving affirmation from respected voices. 0:18:00 – Practical Steps for Discovering Your Calling Matt’s “One Page Decision Maker” resource. The value of reflection, seeking input from trusted mentors, and understanding your unique contribution. 0:23:00 – The Power of Community & Team Coaching How team environments foster vulnerability, validation, and clarity. Real-life examples of team coaching and the impact of speaking blessing over others. 0:30:00 – The Four E’s Coaching Framework Explore: Exposing yourself to new ideas and content. Experience: Trying out new skills or concepts. Evaluate: Reflecting on what worked and what didn’t. Equip: Teaching others and reinforcing your own learning. 0:42:00 – Why Coaches Rarely Give Direct Advice The importance of ownership and self-discovery in coaching. The role of the coach as a guide, not a sage. 0:48:00 – Overcoming Barriers to Change Why people struggle to implement new ideas. The importance of regular evaluation, accountability, and integrating new habits. 0:56:00 – Personal Mission, Vision, and Accountability How to keep your mission and values front and center. The need for ongoing reflection and course correction. 1:06:00 – Relearning Passion and Dreaming Again How to rediscover what energizes you and what you’re called to do. The connection between frustration, gifting, and calling. 1:12:00 – Taking the Next Step Toward Your Calling Advice for those feeling called to make a change but are hesitant. The importance of dreaming, wrestling with God, and taking practical steps. 1:17:00 – Living Out Your Calling in Every Sphere Applying your unique gifts at home, work, and in your community. Stories of leveraging your calling for greater purpose. 1:20:00 – How to Connect with Josh Bradley Website: heartthemission.com Email: josh@heartthemission.com 1:21:45 – Closing Prayer & Final Thoughts Josh offers a prayer for listeners seeking clarity and courage. Matt invites listeners to connect and leave feedback. -- Key TakeawaysAuthentic leadership starts with understanding your God-given identity and calling. Community and trusted voices are essential for discovering and affirming your purpose. Practical frameworks like the Four E’s can help you and your team grow in clarity and confidence. Regular reflection, evaluation, and accountability are key to lasting change. Take small, intentional steps toward your calling—don’t wait for the “perfect” time. -- Connect with Josh BradleyWebsite: heartthemission.com Email: josh@heartthemission.com -- SEO Keywordspersonal development, executive coaching, leadership, heart the mission, Josh Bradley, Matt Wireman, Off the Wire podcast, spiritual formation, coaching, goal setting, emotional health, identity, church planting, leadership clarity, team coaching, calling, Christian leadership Thank you for listening! If you want to find out more about Matt and how you can get coached toward your better self, visit www.matthewwireman.com and check out his LinkedIn and Instagram accounts @matt.wireman.

    1 ч. 24 мин.
  4. 10.09.2025

    Building Resilience and Discipline in the Classroom of Adversity with Edwin Arroyave

    Give us a rating to help others grow in their lives! [0:00:01] Introduction & Setting the Stage  - Host Matt Wireman introduces the episode and guest, Edwin Arroyave.  - Overview of Edwin’s background: entrepreneur, faith-driven leader, and his journey of resilience. [0:02:00] The Power of Words and Faith  - Edwin shares the influence of his mother and the importance of positive confession.  - Discussion on faith vs. fear and focusing on what you can control. [0:06:00] Early Life & Overcoming Adversity  - Edwin’s childhood in Colombia and moving to the US.  - Taking responsibility for his family at age 15 after his father went to jail.  - Working at a call center despite being shy and timid. [0:12:00] Dreaming Big & Building Confidence  - Visualizing success from a young age.  - The importance of hope, faith, and believing in yourself.  - How small wins build self-worth and identity. [0:18:00] Career Growth & Taking Risks  - Becoming the youngest manager at his company.  - The role of mentorship and stepping out of comfort zones.  - Transitioning to entrepreneurship and achieving new milestones. [0:25:00] Discipline, Habits, and Resilience  - How discipline and good habits carry you through tough times.  - The connection between discipline, happiness, and long-term success.  - Building resiliency and the importance of getting back up after failure. [0:32:00] Integrity, Self-Worth, and Personal Growth  - Keeping promises to yourself and its impact on confidence.  - Aligning your subconscious and conscious mind for success.  - The importance of integrity in all areas of life. [0:38:00] Faith, Generosity, and Overcoming Personal Struggles  - Edwin’s journey with tithing and giving out of scarcity.  - How faith and generosity led to personal breakthroughs. [0:44:00] Purpose, Challenges, and Creating a Fulfilling Life  - The necessity of having a purpose and embracing challenges.  - How solving problems leads to growth and fulfillment.  - The cycle of purpose, challenge, and restricted freedom. [0:50:00] Bringing Others Along & Paying It Forward  - The importance of mentorship and helping others succeed.  - Edwin’s story of being given a chance and now providing opportunities for others. [0:55:00] Final Reflections & Closing Prayer - Edwin shares final thoughts on discipline, happiness, and purpose.  - Closes the episode with a prayer of gratitude. Thank you for listening! If you want to find out more about Matt and how you can get coached toward your better self, visit www.matthewwireman.com and check out his LinkedIn and Instagram accounts @matt.wireman.

    1 ч. 20 мин.
  5. How People Change: Practical Tools from a Coaching Giant

    27.08.2025

    How People Change: Practical Tools from a Coaching Giant

    0:00:00 – Introduction and Background of Dr. Ron Reese Matthew Wireman introduces the podcast and Dr. Ron Reese, highlighting his extensive coaching and psychology experience. Dr. Reese shares his journey into psychology and his educational background. 0:04:35 – Distinction Between Psychotherapy and Coaching Dr. Reese explains the difference between psychotherapy (focused on pain/pathology) and coaching (focused on present/future). Discussion of various psychological methodologies and the importance of trust in the coach-client relationship. 0:09:21 – Building Trust and Overcoming Resistance The process of building trust and understanding clients' cognitive processes. The value of using clients' existing successful tools and the concept of "impact psychology." 0:13:22 – Personal Examples and Strategies for Change Dr. Reese shares personal stories and strategies for adapting and maintaining effectiveness. Introduction of "anchor statements" and the importance of modeling successful individuals. 0:15:26 – Impact Psychology and Intrinsic Value Recognizing one's inherent value and creating meaning through deliberate actions. The role of external motivators and public acknowledgment. 0:51:38 – Motivation and Deliberate Change Identifying learning styles and applying them to personal goals. The importance of small, incremental changes and resilience. 0:52:05 – Resilience and Overcoming Anxiety Resilience as an ordinary, developed trait. Facing anxiety and taking on challenges to build resilience. 0:55:42 – Triggering Statements and Communication Critique of "triggering statements" and their impact on open dialogue. The importance of free, open communication for growth. 1:01:26 – Goal Setting and Achieving Success Step-by-step approach to goal achievement, including visualization and accountability. Final thoughts on deliberate action and personal fulfillment. 1:05:13 – Closing Thoughts and Prayer Episode closes with a prayer and invitation for listeners to connect and seek further resources. Thank you for listening! If you want to find out more about Matt and how you can get coached toward your better self, visit www.matthewwireman.com and check out his LinkedIn and Instagram accounts @matt.wireman.

    1 ч. 8 мин.
  6. From Self-Awareness to Influence: Building Leaders Who Last

    06.08.2025

    From Self-Awareness to Influence: Building Leaders Who Last

    0:02:00 – Personal Stories & The Power of Influence Ray shares his background, referencing his new book The Boy in the Yellow House, which details his upbringing in a challenging environment. Theme: The power of personal influence and how various people (coaches, neighbors, mentors) shaped his life. Discussion on how everyone is a coach or leader in some capacity. 0:08:00 – Coaching, Mentorship, and Leadership Ray discusses the difference between coaching and mentorship, sharing stories of influential mentors. Key lessons from his mentor Michael Cat: reading the Bible, prayer, sharing faith, serving others, and living in community (James 5:16). Theme: The importance of honest, open, and transparent (HOT) relationships for personal growth and healing. 0:15:00 – Circles of Influence & Community Matt introduces a free resource on evaluating circles of influence. Discussion on the importance of community, trust, and vulnerability in leadership and personal life. Theme: The dangers of isolation, idleness, and "adultery" (substituting real connection with unhealthy substitutes). 0:22:00 – Boundaries, Transparency, and Healthy Relationships Conversation about setting boundaries versus building walls in relationships. The importance of having a few trustworthy people for genuine transparency. Theme: Good fences make for great neighbors; healthy boundaries foster strong relationships. 0:28:00 – Coaching Distinctions & Life Experience Ray distinguishes his coaching from others: focus on real-life experience, not just certifications. Shares lessons learned from various roles (corporate, agriculture, family). Theme: The value of practical wisdom and tools developed from personal and professional experience. 0:34:00 – The Role of Spouses as Coaches Discussion on how Ray’s wife, Stephanie, has coached him in kindness, patience, and managing anger. Theme: Spouses as complementary partners who help each other grow. 0:40:00 – Boundaries, Delegation, and Leadership Tools Matt and Ray discuss the importance of boundaries and delegation for leaders. Introduction of the "Do, Dump, Delegate, Delay" tool for prioritizing tasks. Theme: Leaders must focus on the highest and best use of their time to avoid burnout and scale effectively. 0:46:00 – The True Role of a Leader: Duplication Ray challenges common notions of leadership (vision, leading, serving) and asserts the primary role is to duplicate oneself (make disciples). Theme: Are you a leader worth duplicating? The importance of modeling and multiplying positive influence. 0:52:00 – Self-Awareness as the Biggest Hurdle Discussion on self-awareness as the key personal hurdle for leaders. The importance of understanding how one is perceived and the impact of nature, nurture, and choice. Theme: Growth begins with self-awareness and the willingness to change. 0:58:00 – Emotional Intelligence, Empathy, and Personal Growth Book recommendations: Emotional Intelligence 2.0 and Crucial Conversations. Ray shares a personal story about learning empathy from his wife and the difference between sympathy and empathy. Theme: Dealing with personal pain to develop empathy and the capacity to understand others. 1:05:00 – Steps for Personal Change & Coaching Moments Matt summarizes the process of personal change: assuming the best about others, recognizing personal growth areas, being receptive, and taking action. Theme: Growth requires vulnerability, receptivity, and willingness to step into discomfort. 1:10:00 – Encouragement & The Greatest Commandment Final reflections on the importance of encouragement in coaching. Reference to Jesus’ teaching: love God, love others, and the importance of self-love and compassion. Key Themes Covered: The power of personal influence and coaching in everyday life.The importance of community, vulnerability, and trust.Setting healthy boundaries and the difference between boundaries and walls.The role of self-awareness and emotional intelligence in leadership.The value of practical experience and learning from mistakes.The process of personal change and growth.The true role of a leader: to duplicate positive influence in others.Empathy, compassion, and the impact of personal pain on relationships. Thank you for listening! If you want to find out more about Matt and how you can get coached toward your better self, visit www.matthewwireman.com and check out his LinkedIn and Instagram accounts @matt.wireman.

    1 ч. 8 мин.

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A podcast dedicated to personal growth and the intersection of faith and action. Matt covers topics from life hacks and spiritual formation...and everything in between. With over 25 years of personal coaching, Matt interviews and shares insights on how to change for the better. In an effort to help you become all that God created you to be, join us on a journey of discovery and application.