114 episodes

Sometimes, we're not thriving and girl-bossing our way through life... we are just trying to make it through the day as best as we can. OKAY-ISH is all about getting honest when it comes to mental health, therapy, and the shit show we call life. Host and mental health counselor Maryellen Dance is on a mission, not to help you be perfect, but to get you feeling okay-ish. You're in for honest, raw, and emotional insights from a licensed specialist, as she covers topics ranging from co-dependancy and narcissism, to anxiety, sex, media, and more. Plus, she gets real about being a therapist, dating as a therapist, and "turning the therapist off" when it's time to unwind. Join us every Monday! You're not going to want to miss it... those cancellation fees are no joke.

OKAY-ISH Maryellen Dance

    • Health & Fitness
    • 4.9 • 51 Ratings

Sometimes, we're not thriving and girl-bossing our way through life... we are just trying to make it through the day as best as we can. OKAY-ISH is all about getting honest when it comes to mental health, therapy, and the shit show we call life. Host and mental health counselor Maryellen Dance is on a mission, not to help you be perfect, but to get you feeling okay-ish. You're in for honest, raw, and emotional insights from a licensed specialist, as she covers topics ranging from co-dependancy and narcissism, to anxiety, sex, media, and more. Plus, she gets real about being a therapist, dating as a therapist, and "turning the therapist off" when it's time to unwind. Join us every Monday! You're not going to want to miss it... those cancellation fees are no joke.

    Time for some change: and it's going to be okay—no ish

    Time for some change: and it's going to be okay—no ish

    As 2022 comes to a close, everyone is talking about their goals and resolutions; but we’re not going to talk about that here. Instead, Maryellen wants to talk about how freaking hard change is. She discusses: 

    How we avoid change  

    How she thinks change is difficult because it’s uncomfortable, and we don’t like feeling uncomfortable  

    Some big personal news/personal change: she sold her therapy practice  

    Needing time to sit with that change and recover  

    How she’s dealing with change, including reminding herself that uncomfortable does not equal bad, and that taking a step back can be a good thing to propel you forward  


    Lastly, Maryellen explains that she needs to also take a step back from the podcast in order to properly rest and reconfigure. She truly believes this isn’t goodbye, but see you later. It’s all going to be okay—no ish. 
    If you haven’t already, please follow, rate, and review the podcast, and follow your host on Instagram @maryellendance. To submit questions or stories, send her a DM! Plus, be sure to check out maryellendance.com for more resources. 

    • 16 min
    It’s not all sunshine and sleigh bells: grieving during the holidays

    It’s not all sunshine and sleigh bells: grieving during the holidays

    For many of us, the holidays are full of joy and love. However, holidays where grief and sadness dominate are also a reality for many, yet far less discussed. As the holiday season approaches, Maryellen wants to talk about grief. She hopes this episode sheds light on all the different faces of grief, and how, even during the most wonderful time of year, it’s okay not to be okay. This episode highlights:  

    Holidays without a loved one 

    How people grieve more than death  

    Grieving differences in family dynamics, and the reality of our expectations   

    How holidays are ripe with traditions and pressure to be in the holiday spirit, which can trigger people  

    What to do with our grief  

    That grief needs time  

    How, if we ignore our feelings, they don’t go away, but instead come out in different ways   

    That grief looks different for everyone   

    How, often people grieving want to be alone, but the number one thing we need when grieving is other people   

    Common symptoms of grief   

    That it’s okay to distract yourself from grief, too 

    How grief is so much more complicated than just the 5 stages commonly identified 


    If you haven’t already, please follow, rate, and review the podcast, and follow your host on Instagram @maryellendance. To submit questions or stories, send her a DM! Plus, be sure to check out maryellendance.com for more resources. 

    • 16 min
    You should eat some green stuff every now and then

    You should eat some green stuff every now and then

    You’ve heard it a million times: your physical health is important for your mental health, and vice versa. But do you know why, or what exactly they do to one another? Today, Maryellen wants to talk about that link, and discuss a few more details that you may not think of, including:  

    The importance of sleep 

    Eating patterns 

    Heightened autonomic nervous system = our brain releasing cortisol into our blood stream 

    Parasympathetic nervous system being repressed  

    Frustrations with the random gimmicks that promise to “cure all”  

    Forgetting when we need to do the simple things for ourselves  

    The value of therapy   


    Tired as F*ck: Burnout at the Hands of Diet, Self-Help, and Hustle Culture by Caroline Dooner   

    Knowing when your body needs rest   

    How our bodies communicate to us, but it’s up to us to listen   

    Taking the time to check in with yourself   

    How, if we can start to be aware, we can take better care of ourselves   


    If you haven’t already, please follow, rate, and review the podcast, and follow your host on Instagram @maryellendance. To submit questions or stories, send her a DM! Plus, be sure to check out maryellendance.com for more resources. 

    • 16 min
    My trauma isn’t up to you

    My trauma isn’t up to you

    Trauma is serious, scary, and there are not enough services in place to support those suffering. Today, Maryellen wants to normalize it a bit more, show a different perspective, and explain why some people will suffer in situations that maybe you wouldn’t. In discussing trauma Maryellen covers: 

    The subjective nature of trauma and how it lacks a clear definition  

    DMing an influencer to correct them on a trauma comment  

    Big T’s and little T’s  

    How, for each person, different things can be traumatic and that’s okay  

    EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing): a trauma therapy based off of Structural Dissociation Theory 

    Excerpts from My Dark Vanessa by Elizabeth Russel (TW: sexual assault)  

    The importance of recognizing the little T’s 

    How little T’s affect us and change our behavior 


    If you’re struggling, please reach out to a therapist. Visit psychologytoday.com or therapyden.com for a good place to start. 
    If you haven’t already, please follow, rate, and review the podcast, and follow your host on Instagram @maryellendance. To submit questions or stories, send her a DM! Plus, be sure to check out maryellendance.com for more resources. 

    • 16 min
    Dear dumb diary...is this my gut or my anxiety?

    Dear dumb diary...is this my gut or my anxiety?

    Maryellen has had to make some big decisions lately, and a friend asked her how she was making them. That made her stop and question just how exactly she was making these decisions, and if she was listening to herself as much as she was to everyone around her. When people suggest you listen to your gut, it can be difficult; especially if you struggle with anxiety. What was helping Maryellen the most was actually journaling, something she’s gotten back in to recently, and speaks about today. She discusses:  

    How we make decisions  

    The ways we can journal in non-productive ways  

    Her history with journaling  

    Journaling as a tool to understand yourself and organize your thoughts  

    Different types of journals  

    Tips to avoid spiraling when journaling  

    How we operate on autopilot  

    Understanding what is a gut instinct vs. what is anxiety    

    Processing events and making decisions 


    If you haven’t already, please follow, rate, and review the podcast, and follow your host on Instagram @maryellendance. To submit questions or stories, send her a DM! Plus, be sure to check out maryellendance.com for more resources. 

    • 19 min
    My swiss cheese memory: Adulting With ADHD with Sarah Snyder-Castañeda

    My swiss cheese memory: Adulting With ADHD with Sarah Snyder-Castañeda

    Today the creative mind behind the brand Adulting With ADHD, Sarah Snyder-Castañeda, joins Maryellen to discuss what ADHD really looks like. When you hear ADHD, many people instinctively and stereotypically think of a young child who can’t sit still, but it’s far more nuanced and affects people of all ages. The two discuss:  

    How Sarah came up with the brand 

    What ADHD truly is  

    The lack of diagnoses and treatment with adults  

    The difficulty and grief that can come with being diagnosed at an older age  

    Medication and the polarizing opinions surrounding it   

    The importance of talking about your struggles  

    Common ADHD symptoms in adults 

    The relationship between ADHD and hormones  

    Advice for adults being diagnosed for the first time, or for parents whose child is being diagnosed  

    The importance of being careful with the information you consume…TikTok is not a reliable source   

    Their Okay-ish moments of the week!  


    To learn more visit adultingwithadhd.com and check out The Adulting With ADHD podcast. 
    If you haven’t already, please follow, rate, and review the podcast, and follow your host on Instagram @maryellendance. To submit questions or stories, send her a DM! Plus, be sure to check out maryellendance.com for more resources. 

    • 27 min

Customer Reviews

4.9 out of 5
51 Ratings

51 Ratings

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I absolutely love my 20 minutes with Mary Ellen

I have recently found Mary Ellen’s podcast and I am never disappointed. My favorite episode was about love and lust. I love the way Mary Ellen explained companion vs. passionate love and I know have started incorporating that language into my every day! Totally recommend this podcast to everyone! 💚💜💙😻

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Beyond 5 Stars!!

THIS podcast has been such a wonderful tool in my self love journey. It’s always great to hear Maryellen’s perspective on issues that feed the stigma of mental health. Each episode is a great dose of “HEY! Breathe, you got this”! She has helped me realize that I don’t need to be perfect. In fact she helps me celebrate that I’m “Okay-Ish”!!

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