55 episodes

Welcome to Open Late, a deep dive into all things relationships. Let’s explore the multi-faceted, frequently misunderstood, dynamics of polyamory and what being “open” even means. Each week you’ll hear all about my personal journey with Opening Up, and uncovering the deep, complicated, and occasionally kinky layers of our hearts as expressed in the ways we love others and ourselves. If you're interested in discovering how your relationships can be a vehicle for self-discovery and growth, or maybe just looking for new ways to spice up your life, then you've come to the right place.

Open Late Jessica Esfandiary

    • Society & Culture
    • 5.0 • 175 Ratings

Welcome to Open Late, a deep dive into all things relationships. Let’s explore the multi-faceted, frequently misunderstood, dynamics of polyamory and what being “open” even means. Each week you’ll hear all about my personal journey with Opening Up, and uncovering the deep, complicated, and occasionally kinky layers of our hearts as expressed in the ways we love others and ourselves. If you're interested in discovering how your relationships can be a vehicle for self-discovery and growth, or maybe just looking for new ways to spice up your life, then you've come to the right place.

    Compersion is available to You and YOU and you!

    Compersion is available to You and YOU and you!

    Dr. Marie Thouin joins Jessica today to discuss her research and expertise on the topic of compersion. These two talk about the origins of everything from patriarchy to the word compersion. Dr. Marie goes into how to know if you are someone who experiences compersion, and ways to integrate it into your open relationship. She also gives insight into the process of her dissertation and what forms of research she has conducted to become an expert on the topic. She now helps people grow and transition into non-monogamous relationships through her company Love Insight.

    In this episode of Open Late
    • Compersion is an experience of empathy, gratitude, and fluidity
    • Compersion is derived from the spiritual concept "Mudita" or empathic joy, which Buddhist's believe is one of the four paths to enlightenment
    • The difference between quantitative and qualitative research and how Marie uses them both in her research and work
    • How shifting to sedentary lifestyles and land ownership was one of the man sources of ownership in relationship

    Connect with Dr. Marie Thouin:
    • Instagram: @love_insight_dating

    Resources:
    • Learn more about Marie's research at www.whatiscompersion.com, or sign up for a free 30-min exploratory coaching session at www.loveinsight-dating.com!

    Connect with Jessica:
    • Instagram: @journey.with.jessica | @openlatethepodcast
    • Website: openlatepodcast.com | jessicaesfandiary.com
    • Free Resource: Open Late Dictionary
    • Youtube: Open Late Podcast
    • What's my relationship style? Take the Open Late Quiz
    • Join our free chat community, "Open Talks" on WhatsApp

    The products I love who sponsor this show:
    •    Cured | Follow this link to check out Zen and receive 20% off all products!
    •    Honey Pot Lube and Massage Oil OPENLATE20


    This show is produced by Sabbatical Jess Productions

    • 50 min
    Desires On, Mask Off

    Desires On, Mask Off

    Today we dive deep into the relationship evolution of Soul Sisters, Aimee and Ellie, meeting in New York and eventually becoming business partners. These babes share how they went from trauma bonding over men to unlearning and relearning how to be intimate with themselves and others to allow a deep and meaningful relationship. We learn all about their journeys of self discovery and taking their mask off to be true to themselves.

    In this episode of Open Late
    • Living a life led by desire
    • The transition from monogamous to monogamish
    • Healing your relationship with men
    • First experiences with other women

    Connect with Aimee and Ellie:
    • Instagram: @elliemontgomerie | @aimeebatuski | @desireonfire

    Resources:
    • Pleasure Challenge Promo:
    Want to get a taste of Aimee + Ellie’s teaching and the Desire on Fire Community, for FREE?
    Join The Pleasure Revolution, 5-Day Challenge, September 19-23, 2022.
    Use the code OPENLATE at checkout, to register for free! www.thepleasurechallenge.com
    • Desire on Fire Experience Promo:
    Join us (and 300+ women!) in-person at the Desire on Fire Experience event, Oct 29-30
    Southern, California!
    www.desireonfirelive.com
    Code: OPENLATE for $200 off the regular ticket price!

    Connect with Jessica:
    • Instagram: @journey.with.jessica | @openlatethepodcast
    • Website: openlatepodcast.com | jessicaesfandiary.com
    • Free Resource: Open Late Dictionary
    • Youtube: Open Late Podcast
    • What's my relationship style? Take the Open Late Quiz
    • Join our free chat community, "Open Talks" on WhatsApp

    The products I love who sponsor this show:
    •    Cured | Follow this link to check out Zen and receive 20% off all products!
    •    Honey Pot Lube and Massage Oil OPENLATE20


    This show is produced by Sabbatical Jess Productions

    • 1 hr 8 min
    Teach Your Partner to Love you Better with Elizabeth Cunningham

    Teach Your Partner to Love you Better with Elizabeth Cunningham

    With passion for love, relationships, and sexuality, Elizabeth Cunningham began her journey as a coach to help people discover where their mindset is limiting their potential in love and in life. 

    In this episode of Open Late
    • How non-monogamy is an umbrella term
    • Normal conversations about what turn-ons actually are
    • How politics and religion are huge a huge influence on relationships
    •   How a solid relationship foundation helps non-monogamy
    • How stepping outside of your relationship problems helps resolve them


    Follow Elizabeth:
    • IG:@elzcunningham
    • Website: www.elizabethanncunningham.com

    The products I love who support this show:
    • Cured | Follow this link to check out Zen and receive 20% off all products!
    • Honey Pot Lube and Massage Oil OPENLATE20

    Connect with Jessica:
    • Instagram: @journey.with.jessica | @openlatethepodcast
    • Website: openlatepodcast.com | jessicaesfandiary.com
    • Free Resource: Open Late Dictionary
    • Youtube: Open Late Podcast
    • What's my relationship style? Take the Open Late Quiz
    • Join our free chat community, "Open Talks" on WhatsApp


    Quotes:

    “People don’t have the inclination to do self-work until they’re in crisis mode.” - EC

    “Make sure to talk about commitments, agreements, values and be explicit about what that means to you with your partner. “ - EC

    • 1 hr
    Sexual Mindfulness & Satisfaction with Dr. Tara

    Sexual Mindfulness & Satisfaction with Dr. Tara

    Dr. Tara is a highly accomplished academic, researcher and coach. She has been a tenured professor of relational and sexual communication at California State University Fullerton since she was just 33 years old.  

    In this episode of Open Late

    • How plant medicine helped Dr. Tara see the relationship between marriage social science, and spirituality
    • Cultural differences in how women’s sexuality are viewed around the world
    • How sexual communication is the strongest predictor of sexual satisfaction
    • Taking accountability of your own sexual wellness

    Follow Dr. Tara:
    • IG: @luvbites.co
    • Dr. Tara’s book: “Sexual Communication: Research in Action” 
    • Website: www.luvbites.co

    This show is sponsored by:
    • Cured | Follow this link to check out Zen and receive 20% off all products!
    • Honey Pot Lube and Massage Oil OPENLATE20

    Connect with Jessica:
    • Instagram: @journey.with.jessica | @openlatethepodcast
    • Website: openlatepodcast.com | jessicaesfandiary.com
    • Free Resource: Open Late Dictionary
    • Youtube: Open Late Podcast
    • What's my relationship style? Take the Open Late Quiz
    • Join our free chat community, "Open Talks" on WhatsApp

    • 1 hr 12 min
    Being in the Public Eye of Non-Monogamy with Dana and the Wolf

    Being in the Public Eye of Non-Monogamy with Dana and the Wolf

    Dana and the Wolf are a pop duo who have found success on TikTok. While being committed to one another, the two decided to open up their relationship. They began documenting their adventures on TikTok, and their popularity quickly skyrocketed. Sharing their openness and their experiences with dating other people has created a sense of community for their relationship and other non-monogamous relationships who watch and follow their content.


    How social media can bring a sense of community

    How society has a negative outlook on polyamory due to media

    Navigating through poly friendly dating apps 

    The significance of honesty and realness when sharing with their followers

    What it's like being in the public eye of non monogamy 


    Follow Dana and the Wolf:
    • TikTok: @danaandthewolf
    • IG: @danaandthewolf
    • Website: www.danaandthewolf.com
    • Mentions:
    @pursuitofpoly
    @annie_undone
    @polyamfam

    This show is sponsored by:
    • Cured | Follow this link to check out Zen and receive 20% off all products!
    • Honey Pot Lube and Massage Oil OPENLATE20

    Connect with Jessica:
    • Instagram: @journey.with.jessica | @openlatethepodcast
    • Website: openlatepodcast.com | jessicaesfandiary.com
    • Free Resource: Open Late Dictionary
    • Youtube: Open Late Podcast
    • What's my relationship style? Take the Open Late Quiz
    • Join our free chat community, "Open Talks" on WhatsApp

    • 1 hr 25 min
    From Church School to Play Parties with Roxy Ruse

    From Church School to Play Parties with Roxy Ruse

    Roxy Ruse discusses the effects of religion on sex and relationships. Being pregnant and exploring her sexuality independently and in her relationship with her partner.
    In this episode of Open Late

    • How Roxy realized she was interested in women by allowing herself to be curious
    • How growing up religious framed Roxys’ outlook on sex, sexuality, and relationships
    • Roxy’s experience going out and exploring her sexuality while she was pregnant
    • Roxy decides to open up her marriage with her husband
    • How opening up her marriage allowed her relationship with her husband and herself flourish
    • Integrating pleasure back into our lives without shame from a religious upbringing

    Follow Roxy:
    • IG: @roxy.ruse
    • Roxy is an ambassador for @skirtclub 
     • Website: www.skirtclub.co.uk

    This show is sponsored by:
    • Cured | Follow this link to check out Zen and receive 20% off all products!
    • Honey Pot Lube and Massage Oil OPENLATE20

    Connect with Jessica:
    • Instagram: @journey.with.jessica | @openlatethepodcast
    • Website: openlatepodcast.com | jessicaesfandiary.com
    • Free Resource: Open Late Dictionary
    • Youtube: Open Late Podcast
    • What's my relationship style? Take the Open Late Quiz
    • Join our free chat community, "Open Talks" on WhatsApp

    • 54 min

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Such a healing show

I recommend this podcast to literally anyone and everyone, regardless of the type of relationship they may seek out. Exposure to different ways of thinking and living is literally healing because it provides freedom, mental and spiritual.

The guests are enticing and so informative. I’ve leaned a lot and I’ve journaled so much after listening to some of these episodes.

Do yourself a favor and give this a listen.

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Can’t stop listening!!

I have been binging every single episode of this podcast and I am glued to every word. Jessica and her guests are so insightful and authentic. I am inspired by hearing how Jessica bravely navigates her life free of societal norms and expectations. Her virtual presence has helped me in immeasurable ways as I navigate embracing my true self and loving my self and others bravely and deeply. ❤️

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