Out Here: Finding Freedom After 50

Thomas Detert
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Out here, you live by your own compass. You traded the noise, the crowds, and the expectations for something real — a quieter, harder, better life. And you're not done growing yet. Out Here is the podcast for single men over 50 who chose a different path. Hosted by life coach and rural homesteader Thomas Detert, each episode offers real talk about building a life that fits your own hands — and your own heart. From facing down loneliness, to staying strong in body and mind, to finding new purpose beyond the city limits, Thomas brings hard-won lessons, honest reflections, and straight-up tool

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  1. JAN 5

    Ep 7 - If This Is the Rest of My Life.. I'm Ok With It.

    This episode was recorded from a place I didn’t expect to be. It’s a quiet conversation for men — especially those over 40 — who find themselves alone, starting over, or living a life that doesn’t match the blueprint they were handed. We explore a sentence many men are afraid to say out loud: “If this is the rest of my life… I’m okay with that.” Not as resignation.Not as giving up.But as acceptance — and why acceptance is often the starting point for real change. In this episode, we talk about: Why men struggle when life slows down The difference between acceptance and resignation What it means to make peace with where you are without giving up on what could still be ahead Why it’s okay to not be okay — but not to stay there How a quieter, more honest future can still be deeply fulfilling There’s no advice here.No quick fixes.Just space to reflect. Where in your life are you still arguing with reality instead of working with it? One sentence is enough — or none at all. Website: https://tomsview.caInstagram: https://instagram.com/tomslifeafter50 If this episode resonated with you, you’re welcome to follow the podcast or leave a review.Listening quietly counts too. Our stories .. yours, and mine.. aren't finished yet. NOT BY A LONG SHOT!

    16 min

  2. 11/20/2025

    Ep 6 | The High Cost of Freedom

    In this deeply personal and unmistakably honest episode, Tom returns to the porch—fire crackling, waves rolling in the background—to unpack the heavy questions weighing on many of us today. From political violence and free speech to media manipulation and the rising tension in North American culture, Tom reflects on how these shifts affect our ability to live freely, especially after 50. Drawing on lessons from mentors, hard-earned life experience, and books like Man’s Search for Meaning and The Miracle Morning, Tom explores how to separate what’s truly within our control from the noise that steals our peace. He also shares stories from a soul-recharging solo camping trip along Lake Superior, reminding us why nature, solitude, and intentional living are more essential now than ever. This episode is an invitation—to unplug, to think for yourself, to focus on what really matters, and to build a meaningful life on your own terms. No preaching. No politics. Just raw truth, self-reflection, and the quiet wisdom that comes from a man living simply, solo, and rural after 50. If you're a 50-something man navigating a noisy world, this is your campfire moment. Website: https://www.tomsview.ca Instagram: https://instagram.com/tomslifeafter50

    27 min

  3. 09/07/2025

    Ep 5 - 50+ and Being Bullied? Not Today!

    Title: Not Today: Bullying After 50, Boundaries & Your Next Chapter Summary:Recorded on a warm mid-August night in Northern Ontario, Tom shares a formative high-school story about facing a bully—and what it taught him about boundaries, dignity, and dealing with adult bullying in your 50s. He answers a listener’s Campfire Question on how to respond when someone tries to push you around, then opens up about life changes, winter prep in the north, and a new truck-camper setup for future “Out Here” adventures. Highlights A grade-nine gym-class moment that flipped the power dynamic Adult bullying: how to recognize it, why there’s no shame in being targeted, and how not to stay a victim Practical responses: call it out, document it, escalate appropriately (supervisor, legal counsel, police) Talking to our kids about being upstanders Life update: long commute, reconsidering the coaching side-hustle, winter readiness in Northern Ontario Adventure plans: Ford Super Duty + truck-bed camper, photography, hiking, kayaking, snowshoeing Campfire wisdom: shifting from 1:1 “hand-holding” to broader “hand-ups” and helping the next generation The Four Agreements as a north star Chapters  Welcome & summer check-in Why talk about bullying now The high-school story that changed everything Campfire Question: “I’m in my 50s and still shrink from bullies—what do I do?” Boundaries, consequences, and safe escalation Parenting note: raising witnesses and upstanders Life update: work, commute, coaching decision Winter prep & the truck-camper adventure rig Campfire Wisdom: making your mark in your 50s Closing & how to send your questions Links & Mentions Podcast site: tomsview.ca Instagram: @tomslifeafter50 Email: tom@revolutionize.me Book mentioned: The Four Agreements (Don Miguel Ruiz) Listener PromptHow will you help the next generation—without carrying dead weight—this year? Tell me on Spotify or YouTube comments. NoteIn the intro I joke about the episode number—this is Episode 5. DisclaimerPersonal stories and general information only; not professional, legal, or medical advice.

    25 min

  4. 07/27/2025

    Ep 4 - Things I Wanted My Younger Self To Know

    Episode Summary In this deeply personal solo episode, Tom reflects by the firelight on the lessons he wishes his younger self had known. From shedding the fear of rejection to the value of time freedom, this episode is filled with insight, authenticity, and gentle wisdom for anyone navigating life after 50—or anyone looking to reconnect with themselves. Tom opens up about judgment, relationships, career choices, and even financial independence, offering powerful takeaways rooted in his own lived experience. It's a thoughtful reminder that growth never ends and self-acceptance is a lifelong journey. 🔥 Why The Four Agreements is essential reading🔥 The hidden cost of caring too much about others' opinions🔥 Reframing rejection as a stepping stone, not a stop sign🔥 The power of quitting the wrong thing🔥 Time freedom, financial wisdom, and trading money for meaning🔥 A candid take on love, loneliness, and living solo🔥 Campfire Wisdom: self-love, journaling, AI introspection, and more🔥 Campfire Philosophy: “If you're not growing, you're contracting” 📘 The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz💻 Tom’s Coaching Site: Revolutionize.me📺 YouTube Channel: Tom's Life After 50

    23 min

  5. 06/09/2025

    Ep 3 - 7 Mental Health Tips for Men | Out Here Podcast

    🎙 Episode Title: Men’s Mental Health Month: 7 Simple Habits That Helped Me Heal 📝 Episode Description: In this episode of Out Here, I get personal. June is Men’s Mental Health Month, and as someone who’s faced high-functioning depression, seasonal affective disorder, and even a period of suicidality, I’m here to share what helped me heal. No fluff. Just 7 habits that made a real difference: Breathing techniques to calm anxiety and quiet racing thoughts A simple guided body scan meditation Cutting back on social media & news overload Nourishing your brain with better food and hydration Getting deeper, more restful sleep Spending more time outdoors, even in winter Building real friendships that actually support you I’m not a therapist, just someone who’s walked the hard road — and now coaches others to rise out of it too. If you’ve been feeling stuck, flat, or on edge lately, try just one of these habits for a week. You might be surprised how much changes. ⚠️ In Crisis? Help Is Available: 📞 Canada: Call or text 888 (free 24/7 support) 🏥 Or go to your nearest hospital and say: “I’m in crisis.” 🧘‍♂️ Resources Mentioned: Beginner Meditation Course (Udemy): https://www.udemy.com (search "meditation for beginners") 💬 Want to connect? Leave a comment or review. Let me know what landed. You can also find the video version on YouTube. Thanks for listening — and for taking your mental health seriously. #MensMentalHealth #OutHerePodcast #MentalFitness #SimpleSoloRural #HealingHabits

    25 min

  6. 05/25/2025

    Ep 2 | Alone, But Not Lonely; 50 Years of Finding My Own Path

    Episode 2 – Alone, Not Lonely: 50 Years of Finding My Own Path Welcome back to Out Here, where life is solo, simple, and rural. In this deeply personal episode, Tom reflects on the first 50 years of his life — the triumphs, betrayals, missteps, and meaningful choices that led him to live alone by the lake in Northern Ontario. He opens up about being the odd one out from a young age, why conforming never worked for him, the painful but powerful lessons learned from broken trust, and the freedom of embracing a "sigma male" identity. Tom also discusses the difference between being alone and being lonely, the importance of finding joy instead of chasing fleeting happiness, and how choosing solitude has brought him healing, clarity, and purpose. 🔸 Reflections on high school alienation and college camaraderie🔸 A raw look at betrayal, forgiveness, and emotional survival🔸 Plant medicine, personal healing, and future plans in psychology🔸 Joy vs. happiness, solitude vs. loneliness🔸 A powerful case for forging your own life — no permission needed This isn’t a midlife crisis. This is a midlife awakening. Links: Website: https://tomsview.ca Instagram: https://instagram.com/tomslifeafter50 Facebook: https://facebook.com/tomslifeafter50

    22 min

  7. 05/11/2025

    Ep 1 -- Life is Precious | Solo Life After 50

    Ep 1 -- Life is Precious | Solo Life After 50 In this first full-length episode of Out Here, Thomas Detert sits by a real lakeside fire and opens up about the quiet decision that changed everything — leaving behind the city, the noise, the pressure, and trading it for solitude, clarity, and self-reliance in the rural north. This episode is part story, part reflection, and fully real. Thomas shares the struggles of solo living, the miracle of life itself, his personal journey with high-functioning depression, and the deep satisfaction that comes from living in alignment with who you really are — not what the world expects of you. You’ll hear how nature, personal growth, and a dog named Lukas all play a role in life after 50 — and why living “out here” may be the very thing your soul has been craving. Instagram: https://instagram.com/tomslifeafter50 Website: https://tomsview.ca

    29 min

  8. 05/07/2025

    Ep 0 | Welcome to Out Here -- Finding Freedom After 50 Begins Here

    What if life after 50 wasn't about slowing down — but about coming fully alive? In this short introductory episode, host Thomas Detert shares the heart behind Out Here: Finding Freedom After 50 — a podcast for men navigating the single life beyond 50 who want something real, quiet, and meaningful outside the noise of the city. You’ll hear what inspired the show, who it’s for, and what to expect each week — including listener Q&As in Campfire Questions, and deeper reflections in Campfire Wisdom. If you're walking a different road and looking for clarity, strength, and purpose in this next chapter, you’re in the right place. Subscribe now and join us out here — where life still has a lot to offer, and your story is far from over. Follow me on Instagram @tomslifeafter50 - https://instagram.com/tomslifeafter50 Website: https://tomsview.ca

    2 min
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Out here, you live by your own compass. You traded the noise, the crowds, and the expectations for something real — a quieter, harder, better life. And you're not done growing yet. Out Here is the podcast for single men over 50 who chose a different path. Hosted by life coach and rural homesteader Thomas Detert, each episode offers real talk about building a life that fits your own hands — and your own heart. From facing down loneliness, to staying strong in body and mind, to finding new purpose beyond the city limits, Thomas brings hard-won lessons, honest reflections, and straight-up tool

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