Outside the Manosphere: a Nontoxic Bromance

Skip and Carlos
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Welcome to Skip and Carlos Outside the Manosphere — where two friends get to know each other better while unpacking what it means to be a man today. How do you balance strength with vulnerability? Confidence with humility? How do you stay ambitious without becoming an a*****e? And is it really so hard to admit that it’s Patrick Swayze you love in Dirty Dancing? Let’s figure this out.

  1. 4D AGO

    4: Alpha Male Myth - What Women Want (Statistically)

    This week: Fascist Faceplants, Male Competitiveness, The Myth of the Alpha Male, and What Women Do and Don't Want according to science. The guys get deep into male competitiveness and their own toxic histories with dominating games, debates, and even conversations. What's the deal with interrupting women? And is the biggest flex at all not feeling the need to flex? Plus, do women want a dominant guy, a submissive guy, or door number three? Find out this and get your weekly dose of joy on Outside the Manosphere. Items Referenced: Facebook - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Outside the Manosphere⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Outside the Manosphere (@outsidethemanosphere) Huffpost - JD Vance's Abysmal Crowd Size At Speaking Event Goes Viral BBC - Carney says Canadians trust his plan after he wins majority PBS - Hungarian Prime Minister Viktor Orbán ousted after 'painful' ... Greater Good Science Center - The Myth of the Alpha Male - Greater Good Science Center BBC - What politicians can learn from chimps Chimpanzee Politics: Power and Sex among Apes Wikipedia - Goodhart's law The Guardian - Artemis II swings back around after completing record- ... Yahoo - Get yourself a 'Luddite boyfriend,' the biggest green flag in ...

    55 min

  2. APR 22

    3: The Break Up Breakdown with Michael Wilson

    Outside the Manosphere welcomes Michael J. Wilson, Research Fellow at The Movember Institute of Men's Health, a specialist in Men's health and relationships. Michael schools the guys in how men cope with break ups; how they don't, and simple advice for what to do when you see a man in trouble.: Look big . . . no wait, that's for bears. Michael gives simple easy advice to help people out when they are in crisis or suicidal. Plus, he gives men the okay to pop open a tub of Ben & Jerry's and cuddle up on the couch after a break up. And as always, we share our joys for the week. Items Referenced: Facebook - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Outside the Manosphere⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Outside the Manosphere (@outsidethemanosphere) The Movember Institute of Men's Health - ⁠The Movember Institute of Men's Health Michael Wilson's research (via Google scholar page) - Michael Wilson LinkedIn - Michael Wilson - Movember Email - michael.wilson@movember.com

    1h 5m

  3. APR 15

    2: Alpha Male Camp - Paying to Beta

    This week the guys red flag misogynist jokes, Carlos confronts an uncomfortable truth about his Dirty Dancing crush, and men have "the time of their life" at alpha male training camps. The guys also talk about big tech's big tobacco moment, loud cars, eating like a dog, Carlos thanks his grandma, and Skip gets some good news live during the podcast. All that and a healthy dose of joy this week on Outside the Manosphere. Items Referenced: Facebook - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Outside the Manosphere⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Outside the Manosphere (@outsidethemanosphere)⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ NYT - Is Big Tech Facing a Big Tobacco Moment? Yashar Ali - Why Women Aren't Crazy. Has gaslighting conditioned ... Fresh Air (NPR) - Inside the training camps for “alpha males” : Fresh Air NBC News - Alpha male boot camp aims to help men with self-esteem issues Puzzle Weekend - CS50x Puzzle Day 2026 CNN - Not just the base: Democrats in recent elections are ...

    54 min

  4. APR 8

    1: Inside the Manosphere

    "Boys don't cry." "Man up. " We've all heard it, emotional shaming, and it's a red flag. Season 2 begins with a look at men exhibiting emotions. The guys recount their experiences shutting down and being shut down while displaying emotions. They also search for the balance between being emotionally available and being...too much. The guys also discuss their takeaways from the new Netflix documentary Inside the Manosphere. Spoiler Alert, it's not great in there. Items Referenced: Facebook - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Outside the Manosphere⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Outside the Manosphere (@outsidethemanosphere)⁠⁠⁠⁠ Prague Protest - Hundreds of thousands fill Prague's Letná Plain to protest ... Inside the Manosphere (documentary) - Watch Louis Theroux: Inside the Manosphere Apple Man Song - ⁠lyrics by my 3-year-old daughter

    57 min

  5. APR 1 ·  BONUS

    Replay: Privilege of the White Kind

    While the boys prep for Outside the Manosphere's second season, enjoy a favorite episode in case you missed it. In this thought-provoking episode, Skip and Carlos take you on a journey through their personal stories and cultural insights. They share travel stories from hitchhiking across the U.S. to exploring Prague, while also diving into deeper discussions on identity and privilege. A significant chunk of their discussion is dedicated to Peggy McIntosh's seminal article on white privilege, "Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack," as they explore its relevance and implications in today's world. With a blend of humor and introspection, they encourage listeners to reflect on their own experiences and the societal structures that influence them.

    1h 7m

  6. MAR 25 ·  BONUS

    Replay: Menopause and Divorce

    As the boys prep for Outside the Manosphere's second season, here's a favorite episode in case you missed it. In this episode, Skip and Carlos dive into "menodivorce," a term describing the rising divorce rates among those over 50, potentially linked to menopause. The boys explore how hormonal changes during menopause can lead women to reassess their life choices and relationships, often resulting in significant personal and marital transformations. They emphasize the importance of communication and mutual understanding in navigating these changes. They also discuss Skip's new venture into vegetarianism, and with horror and laughter, they reminisce about Skip’s experience as a high-rise window washer, and Carlos’ challenging time working in a call center. Items Referenced: 36 Questions That Lead to Love: ⁠https://36questionsinlove.com⁠ Expert issues warning to couples as 'menodivorce' becomes increasingly common in relationships: ⁠https://www.unilad.com/news/sex-and-relationships/warning-menodivorce-common-trend-846252-20250828⁠ Welcome to the 'menodivorce'. Why women aren't sweating marriage in a sea of hot flashes: ⁠https://www.usatoday.com/story/life/health-wellness/2025/08/14/divorce-women-perimenopause-menopause/85622804007/

    1h 10m

  7. MAR 18

    44: A Fine Bromance and an Alpine Divorce

    Season One - a season of love, exploring masculinity, and self-discovery - ends with three (or four) little words. I love you . . . man. The guys of OTM graduate from the 36-questions-to-fall-in-love gauntlet and become full-fledged professors of love, or at least better friends. The guys also talk about Alpine divorces; Skip takes jealous pot-shots at Carlos' AI romance, and they both reflect on nearly a year of conversations about masculinity. Finally, OTM wraps it all up with a pretty bow for the final joy of season one. Items Referenced: Facebook - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Outside the Manosphere⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Outside the Manosphere (@outsidethemanosphere)⁠⁠⁠⁠ Falling in Love - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠36 Questions - How to fall in love with anyone⁠⁠ New Scientist - AIs can't stop recommending nuclear strikes in war game ... The Daily (NYT) - Anthropic vs. the Pentagon: Inside the Battle Over A.I. ... Yahoo News - What is 'alpine divorce'? The viral TikTok term is bringing ... Robert Barr - An Alpine Divorce Robert Barr The Interview (NYT) - 'The Interview': Rebecca Solnit Says the Left's Next Hero Is ... Thich Nhat Hanh - The Next Buddha May Be a Sangha

    52 min

  8. MAR 11

    43: Looksmaxxing, Mogging, and More Word-Salad from the Manosphere

    Smashing your face with a hammer isn't necessarily a behavior synonymous with beauty . . . or is it? Skip and Carlos dive into the weird world of "Looksmaxxing," a strange but growing corner of the manosphere where men want desperately to dominate other men ("mogging"). The guys talk about the problems inherent within Looksmaxxing and reclaiming the values of being a good person, aka, Kindmaxxing (an OTM original). Also, OTM is . . . in love? . . . ending? . . . What's even happening? As the boys finish up their 36 questions to Fall in Love, Season 1 is also coming to an end. But have no fear, Season 2: Red Flags, is just around the corner. Items Referenced: Facebook - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Outside the Manosphere⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Instagram - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Outside the Manosphere (@outsidethemanosphere)⁠⁠⁠ Falling in Love - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠36 Questions - How to fall in love with anyone⁠⁠ PBS - Trump says he's not mulling a draft executive order to seize ... NYT - Lifestyle BBC Podcast, The Global Story - What 'looksmaxxing' tells us about modern masculinity Wikipedia - Goodhart's law Wikipedia - Overton window YouTube BBC - ⁠Bigorexia: Never Buff Enough | BBC Newsbeat

    54 min
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Welcome to Skip and Carlos Outside the Manosphere — where two friends get to know each other better while unpacking what it means to be a man today. How do you balance strength with vulnerability? Confidence with humility? How do you stay ambitious without becoming an a*****e? And is it really so hard to admit that it’s Patrick Swayze you love in Dirty Dancing? Let’s figure this out.

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