Overloaded: Understanding Neglect

Institute for Child and Family Well-being

Overloaded: Understanding Neglect explores the complex crisis of child neglect and family separation in America, where 37% of all US children experience a Child Protective Services investigation and nearly 70% of children in foster care are separated from their families due to neglect. Hosted by Luke Waldo, Director of Program Design and Community Engagement at the Institute for Child and Family Well-being, this podcast builds a shared understanding of neglect as a preventable public health crisis. Through conversations with national and local research and policy experts, inspiring changemakers, and lived experience leaders, we examine the forces that overload families - from poverty and social isolation to systemic racism and institutional failures - and explore innovative pathways toward solutions. Across four seasons, we've journeyed from understanding the problem to identifying Critical Pathways - Economic Stability, Social Connectedness, Community Collaboration, and Workforce Inclusion and Innovation - from transforming systems to examining the stories that shape our beliefs and actions. Each season builds on the last as part of the Strong Families, Thriving Children, Connected Communities initiative, bringing together those who know these issues best to reimagine how we support families and prevent the separations that tear them apart. We believe neglect is preventable. Join us as we work together to change the conditions and improve the odds for children and families to thrive.

  1. EPISODE 1

    Tilling the Soil for Social Change

    Overloaded: Understanding Neglect Season 4 Show Notes: Episode 1: Tilling the Soil for Social Change Today’s episode included the following speakers (in the order they appear): Host: Luke Waldo Experts: Jessica Moyer – FrameWorks InstituteDr. Nadine Burke Harris – ACE Resource Network and former California Surgeon GeneralSamantha Mellerson – Haywood Burns InstituteDr. Bruce Perry – Child Trauma AcademyRepresentative Annessa Hartman – Oregon State RepresentativeDesmond Meade – Florida Rights Restoration Coalition00:00-01:59 – Luke Waldo - Over the past three seasons of Overloaded we have explored the forces that overload families, from poverty to social isolation, systemic racism to mistrust of our systems. But this season, we're looking at something more invisible, the stories behind these forces… [Media clips about narratives behind overloaded families and child welfare] 2:00-3:16 – Luke Waldo - Changing those narratives takes intention, courage and collective effort. Together, we can tell a story that uplifts instead of blames, that prevents harm before it happens. In season four, we're taking apart the stories that define our families, our communities and our future and building better ones together.  You will hear from the inspiring changemakers that I had the honor of interviewing this past summer at the 2025 Prevent Child Abuse America national conference for their podcast The Shift: Voices of Prevention. 3:17-3:53 – Jessica Moyer – “What we're seeking to change are things that are really entrenched, really embedded. I mean, culture doesn't move quickly.”  3:53-3:58 – Luke Waldo – What is a narrative? 3:58-6:23 – Jessica Moyer – “Narratives are made up of lots of different stories. So narratives are kind of patterns in stories.” Defining narrative, stories, mental models, and framing. “Which ones do we want to kind of cultivate and activate and queue up and utilize, and which are the ones that are holding us back? Which are the ones that are maybe being activated by default but not really helping us? Which ones are unproductive? And how do we steer clear of those? And we do think of it in terms of kind of like we love a good explanatory metaphor at FrameWorks, but we think of it as kind of like tilling the soil for social change. So it's about laying the groundwork that will enable all kinds of decisions and collective actions that will have an impact. But the change that we're seeking is slow, and it happens over a long period of time.” 6:23-7:04 – Luke Waldo – “…narrative is such a powerful force that it impacts how we aspire, where we put our empathy, and even how we react to how trauma affects us and those we love.” 7:04-7:21 – Dr. Nadine Burke Harris – “Let me tell you one of these stories that we've been telling ourselves, one of the stories that we've been telling ourselves as a society is that talking about trauma and adversity does harm.” 7:21-7:58 – Luke Waldo – Even when evidence changes or even our realities, old stories linger, shaping what we see, the way we act and what we ignore. But why? Or maybe how is a better question. How do our mindsets and the narratives that may shape or change them work? How does it all function? 7:58-9:34– Jessica Moyer – “Mindsets are those deeply held, kind of latent, sort of default patterns and thinking they're different from public opinions, because we're not always even aware that we're holding them. They're sort of kind of lenses on the world that we share, that influence how we see the world, how we process new information, and they are durable.” “Framing has to do with that, the way that we tell stories, the way that we present information. Framing involves lots of different choices in how we communicate. And anytime we're communicating, we're framing. So framing involves things like, what do we put into a particular message? What are the things that we don't say? What tone do we adopt? What values do we appeal to? How do we explain particular concepts? What examples do we draw on to make a particular point or to explain a particular concept?”  9:34-9:58 – Luke Waldo – “Let’s imagine this all as a tree. If mindsets are the roots, narratives are the trunk. And were we to step back … way back… far enough to see it all … framing is how we describe the forest.” 9:58-10:24 – Jessica Moyer – “Choices, but a lot of times, we're making those choices without realizing that we're making them or making them without realizing what impact they'll have.” 10:24-10:38 – Luke Waldo – “And yet, over and over again, we are often making the same choices, choosing the same narratives and treading the same path. Why is that?”  10:38-10:49 – Samantha Mellerson – “Somehow we've become so conflict averse that we dare not present an idea that's different or that may be perceived as against the norm of what's happening, right?” 10:49-11:03 - Dr. Bruce Perry – “I think part of the issue is that people tend to view the world and problems from their frame of reference, from where they're standing.” What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing by Dr. Bruce Perry and Oprah Winfrey11:03-11:42 - Luke Waldo – But what I love about Frameworks’ approach, and what I’ve learned through Overloaded, is that framing isn’t manipulation, or coercion or even persuasion. It’s stewardship. It’s about creating the conditions, the mental space where truth and empathy can coexist. Or even better: where it can thrive. How might we do that in the face of harmful, dominant narratives? 11:42-16:13 - Jessica Moyer – Exploration of the individualism and “care matters most” mindsets. 16:13-16:44 - Luke Waldo – “Those mental models are then reinforced by narratives, which can lead to how we behave, pass laws, on-board practices and procedures; it reinforces how we see our overloaded parents, caregivers, and families.” 16:44-17:32 - Dr. Bruce Perry – “And so by and large, really, you know, 40, 50, 60 years ago, uh, the majority of people that were solving problems around education, child welfare, mental health were looking at it through the lenses of an adult.” 17:32-19:00 - Luke Waldo – Story about fatherhood and the “empty vessel” myth. 19:00-19:28 - Annessa Hartman – “I think one common story I often hear from people is that we keep people poor so that they can stay on these services.” 19:28-20:23 – Luke Waldo – “Time and time again, history tells us that when we accept dominant narratives uncritically, we make decisions, often motivated or informed by fear or suspicion, not understanding or empathy.” [Media clips about overloaded families and child welfare] 20:23-23:32 - Jessica Moyer – “What we found to be most effective in the end was to sort of redefine care itself, to define care much more broadly, to define care as something that is a collective endeavor.” 23:32-24:09 - Luke Waldo – “And what Jess is saying is that by broadening our definition of, in this case, care, we turn empathy into infrastructure for better, more constructive narratives. This is where narrative becomes strategy.” 24:09-24:16 - Annessa Hartman – “We need people who understand what it's like to live paycheck to paycheck.” 24:16-24:32 - Dr. Bruce Perry – “Form real relationships.” 24:32-25:05 - Desmond Meade – “…if we can get people to love who, what they despise the most, or who they hate the most, then they're capable of loving everyone, right?” 25:05-26:47 - Dr. Nadine Burke Harris – “The more you just kind of scrape under the surface and start to look at how these odds are set, right, the more, the easier it is you to recognize the embedding of some of these structural inequities in our society.” 26:47-27:17 – Luke Waldo - When we tell stories that reflect our interdependence, we make it possible for systems to act on that truth. A final, if not nagging, question Season 4 seeks to answer: How do we do that?  27:17-29:01 – Jessica Moyer – “So expanding that concept of care to something that's collective, inclusive and expansive, I think, is something that everybody can do.” 29:01-30:40 - Luke Waldo - Narrative change is patient, strategic work. It’s about returning, again and again, to the same truth: that families thrive when communities do. Every conversation, every story, every small policy that affirms that truth, it all tills the soil. And over time, that soil grows something new: belonging, stability, and shared possibility. I would like to again thank Prevent Child Abuse America for their partnership and the opportunity to co-host their podcast, The Shift: Voices of Prevention, at their 2025 national conference. If you’d like to hear the full episodes where the many voices and clips that you heard today came from, find The Shift: Voices of Prevention wherever you listen to this podcast or you can find the links below. From Pain to Power: Dr. Nadine Burke Harris on Healing and PreventionQuantum Leap Possibilities of Prevention with Dr. Bruce PerryReimagining Together: Seeding System Success with Samantha Mellerson and Tshaka BarrowsLove as a Force for Justice with Desmond MeadePolicy Through Lived Experience with Rep. Annessa HartmanFraming Family Well-Being: From Blame to Belonging | Jessica MoyerIn our next episode, Jess Moyer joins me in the studio to go deeper. We'll explore the mechanics of how narratives work, how mindsets get activated, how stories reinforce or challenge those patterns, and most importantly, how we can make strategic choices in our framing to shift culture and policy. If you've been wondering how to actually apply these ideas in your work, your conversations, or your community, episode two is where we dig into the how. 30:40 - Luke – Closing Credits Join the conversation and connect with us! Visit our podcast page on our ICFW website to le

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  2. EPISODE 2

    "We Need Both": The Science and Stories of Strategic Communication with Jessica Moyer

    Overloaded: Understanding Neglect Season 4 Show Notes: Episode 2: “We Need Both”: The Science and Stories of Strategic Communication Today’s episode included the following speakers (in the order they appear): Host: Luke Waldo Experts: Jessica Moyer – FrameWorks InstituteClaudia Rowe – National Book Award Finalist and Seattle Times Dr. Bruce Perry – Child Trauma AcademyDesmond Meade – Florida Rights Restoration Coalition00:00-04:22 – Luke Waldo - Jess Moyer and her metaphors from our first episode still have me thinking. Tilling the soil for social change. Not persuading, not convincing, but rather creating the conditions for new ways of thinking to grow. But what exactly are we tilling? What lies beneath the surface that needs turning over? Introduction to Jess Moyer and her bio. I'm honored that Jess has joined us again to serve as my copilot for breaking down and analyzing some of the powerful narrative change efforts that we are hearing this season from many of our other guests. But before we get into some of that conversation, let's start again with what Jess and FrameWorks Institute do and why it's so important in this moment we are living in. 4:22-6:26 – Jessica Moyer – “FrameWorks is a social science research and advocacy organization. We study the relationship between culture and communication, how each of those things kind of shapes and is shaped by the other. And we are really interested in how we can use our communications to engage with how we think as a culture in our sort of shared cultural practices. Our mission is about framing the public discourse and building public will for positive social change.”  6:26-8:03 – Luke Waldo – Could you elaborate on the difference between a story or an anecdote about a family, for example, and a narrative that pattern of stories? And how does a strategically framed story interrupt an entrenched, harmful narrative? 8:03-10:07 – Jessica Moyer – “Each of those stories, it fills in the details in their own particular ways, but there are common patterns across those stories, and that that commonality is the shared narrative.”  The “Bootstraps” narrative and The Pursuit of Happyness. The Pursuit of Happyness– Chris Gardner10:07-10:40 – Will Smith - “and don't ever let somebody tell you you can't do something, not even me. All right. You got a dream. You got to protect it. People can't do something themselves. They want to tell you, you can't do it. You want something. Go get it. Period.” The Pursuit of Happyness movie10:40-11:52 – Jess Moyer – “I think an important takeaway here is that it's an insight of the work of narrative change, that we can make some choices. It sometimes seems inevitable that a story gets told in the way that it does, but actually we can tell the same story in so many different ways, and the different ways that we tell it have different implications for how we think in general and can bring about different effects.” 11:52-12:25 – Luke Waldo – I'm going to use an example that I just heard from Claudia Rowe, who wrote a book called Wards of the State: The Long Shadow of American Foster Care. And she talks about a similar Pursuit of Happiness and bootstraps story in which a young man in foster care enters foster care when he's 11,12 years old…  Wards of the State: The Long Shadow of American Foster Care – Claudia Rowe12:25-15:13 – Claudia Rowe and Luke Waldo – The story of Jay and the mentor 15:13-16:10– Luke Waldo – But I'm curious, why do we either ignore that part of the story, right, that that in many ways, our success is as much an outcome of the other people in our lives that believe in us, that invest in us, that lift us up, that pick us back up, right? That, that they, they, they help us put those boots on so that we can pull ourselves up by those bootstraps, right? Why is that part of the story often times ignored, or, for that matter, in some cases, just not told? 16:10-20:03 – Jessica Moyer – “The individualism mindset is so strong and so dominant, it's really easily activated.” “I think it's also, I mean, it's interesting to think about that person's story and the alternative tellings that are, that maybe require a little bit more work, because we have to get we have to first recognize what the default thinking is, and then actively choose to take a different approach, to try to understand what are the other mindsets that are available that we might want to work hard to to queue up and to build on.” 20:03-21:10 – Luke Waldo – We have to be cognizant of the fact that there are many dominant narratives oftentimes at play in the same moment. We're put in a position where we if we want to get to curious, we have to really start to ask ourselves, why all of those particular narratives are being triggered in the first place, right? 21:10-22:01 – Claudia Rowe and Luke Waldo – “And as Claudia Rowe, again, said quite a bit in our conversation, is she wanted to tell this story because she was continuously struggling with, she's always been struggling with these, you know, these monikers, these, these frames of she talked about the monster…”  22:01-22:57 – Luke Waldo – So what is the single most common and harmful framing choice you see advocates make when talking about issues like child welfare or family well-being, and what specific framing choice or choices could or should replace it? 22:57-27:02 – Jessica Moyer – “…some framing choices are harmful, but they're actually a whole lot more of them that are just maybe not actively harmful, but kind of get us stuck, or kind of fail to get us unstuck.” Communication traps. 27:02-29:24 – Luke Waldo – So in the season, we've heard from Dr Bruce Perry. He talks in in his conversation, and again, hear this whole conversation at The Shift, but he does talk at one point about how people have really connected when he talks about about the brain, the brain feels like science… The Shift: Voices of Prevention – Dr. Bruce Perry29:24-29:46 - Dr. Bruce Perry – “…because the brain's interesting, and for many people, it feels and this is probably not fair, but it feels more like science than when you talk about social science or psychology, which a lot of people have weird biases about. We're saying the same thing. But if you use kind of brain examples, people go, Oh, the brain.” 29:46-30:23 - Luke Waldo – Building off what you just said from a FrameWorks perspective, what is the value of kind of explanatory metaphors, again, like tilling the soil for social change, while also really pairing it or supporting it with concrete science or research or evidence? And do you feel like either the kind of metaphors, the storytelling or the concrete science is more powerful in changing culture and mindsets? 30:23-34:11 – Jessica Moyer – “That's a great question and a fun one to answer, and I'm I think the short answer is that we need both. We absolutely need both to bring science into our communications. And metaphors are a natural way of thinking and talking. We use them all the time, oftentimes without even realizing that we're using them. But also, an interesting thing is, like you sort of alluded to, metaphors are really, are an effective explanatory tool, and that makes them really well suited to translating science. In fact, the earliest work that FrameWorks did was to translate the science of early childhood development the science of brain development, you know, starting in in the earliest days and weeks of life.” FrameWorks Institute – Early Childhood and Brain Science34:11-35:07 – Luke Waldo – So how do you recommend communicators, or how do you recommend that communicators practically do this without losing kind of the human element of the story? And what specific details or contextual factors should we always put in and never leave out? 35:07-37:17 - Jessica Moyer – “I think of it as being about telling a fuller story about people and about our lives and experiences, because we we don't, we don't exist in a vacuum, right? We interact with our surroundings, and we're influenced by our environments, and we influence our environments, and we're shaped by our relationships and the spaces that we occupy. So that's part of putting parents or putting anyone in context is sharing the full kind of experience of their being and everything that they come in contact with and are in relationship with.” 37:17-37:49 - Luke Waldo – What are a few examples of policies or programs that become kind of legible or good examples of forms of caregiving when framed this way? And you know, for one instance, one that we talk about a lot in our work. How do we reframe a discussion about, say, housing assistance as a form of care?  37:49-40:48 – Jessica Moyer – “I think just by making the connection explicit, and that doesn't have to be a complicated framing choice. Oftentimes really subtle, kind of seemingly very minor, framing choices can have big impacts. In this case, it really matters if we name that there's a connection between, for example, housing policies and the well-being of children, and it's not that hard for folks to see. And also that that lexicon of care, the language of caregiving, is an effective way to do that gives us some tools for doing that.”  40:48-41:42 – Luke Waldo – Desmond Meade in particular speaks really powerfully about how narratives of the other or them can lead to the dehumanization or demonization of groups of people. He then talks about reframing and building a narrative to activate a sense of us, and he does that through this idea of love. The Shift: Voices of Prevention – Desmond Meade41:42-42:00 - Desmond Meade – “How I push it up is having people see a reason to love someone. No, I think the key is, if we can get people to love who, what they despise the most, or who they hate the most, then they're capable of loving e

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  3. SEASON 4 TRAILER

    Overloaded: Understanding Neglect - Season 4 Trailer

    0:08 - Luke Waldo: The first three seasons of Overloaded explored the forces that overload families from poverty to social isolation, systemic racism to mistrust of our systems. But this season, we're looking at something more invisible, the stories behind those forces. And how stories shape what we believe, how we act, and who we hold responsible. Join me, Luke Waldo, on Wednesday, February 4th for season 4 of Overloaded: Understanding Neglect, where we're taking apart the stories that define our families, our communities, and our future, and building better ones together. Through conversations with changemakers like Frameworks Institute’s Jess Moyer… 0:59 – Jess Moyer: What we're talking about is kind of an ambitious endeavor. And what we're seeking to change are things that are really entrenched.  1:08 – Luke Waldo: Doctors Nadine Burke Harris and Bruce Perry… 1:11 – Dr. Nadine Burke Harris: Do you want me to speak truthfully? 1:13 - Dr. Bruce Perry: People tend to view the world and problems from their frame of reference. 1:18 - Dr. Nadine Burke Harris: The more you just kind of scrape under the surface the easier it is to recognize that those structures are not accidental. 1:28 – Luke Waldo: National Book Award finalist Claudia Rowe… 1:31 - Claudia Rowe: Some of those storylines have not changed all that much, and I am surprised, frankly, that I still encounter them even up to, you know, like last week. 1:42 – Luke Waldo: American Bar Association Center on Children and the Law Director Prudence Beidler Carr… 1:47 - Prudence Beidler Carr:  We've essentially created a mechanism for determining that a child who was living in a home where the parents were found unfit, not because they've abused their child, not because there's an imminent risk of harm, not because that child has experienced a safety issue, but because the parents sought help, were rejected from that help, and now unfit to care for their child, so their child is removed from their care. 2:15 – Luke Waldo: National Lived Experience Leader Valerie Frost… 2:18 – Valerie Frost: You know it’s really humbling to have systems involvement in that way that’s shocking. Because I now know, for the rest of my life, I don’t really have anything. Right now, on this call, CPS could come knock on my door, they could go pick up my kids from school. They could do any day. 2:36 – Luke Waldo: And Anti-Hate Advocate Pardeep Singh Kaleka amongst many others, we explore the question: “What stories shape how we see the world? And how can we tell them differently? 2:49 – Pardeep Singh Kaleka: Maybe we can go past what we say about each other… 2:55 – Luke Waldo: Join us on Wednesday, February 4th when we premiere season 4 wherever you listen to your podcasts.

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Overloaded: Understanding Neglect explores the complex crisis of child neglect and family separation in America, where 37% of all US children experience a Child Protective Services investigation and nearly 70% of children in foster care are separated from their families due to neglect. Hosted by Luke Waldo, Director of Program Design and Community Engagement at the Institute for Child and Family Well-being, this podcast builds a shared understanding of neglect as a preventable public health crisis. Through conversations with national and local research and policy experts, inspiring changemakers, and lived experience leaders, we examine the forces that overload families - from poverty and social isolation to systemic racism and institutional failures - and explore innovative pathways toward solutions. Across four seasons, we've journeyed from understanding the problem to identifying Critical Pathways - Economic Stability, Social Connectedness, Community Collaboration, and Workforce Inclusion and Innovation - from transforming systems to examining the stories that shape our beliefs and actions. Each season builds on the last as part of the Strong Families, Thriving Children, Connected Communities initiative, bringing together those who know these issues best to reimagine how we support families and prevent the separations that tear them apart. We believe neglect is preventable. Join us as we work together to change the conditions and improve the odds for children and families to thrive.