Ownit! Powercast

Mary Baker
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The Own It! Powercast is all about personal growth. It's about taking time to learn, grow and change, with You in the driver's seat. Life coach, counselor and teacher Mary Baker will walk you through the necessary ingredients to have great self-confidence, live with purpose and on purpose, and finally start to love your life. This is a show about taking charge of your personal growth, and about taking your fear and turning it into powerful choices that will create sustained changes. Finally understand what's been in your way all along, and the tools you need to get to where you want to be. So if you're serious about transforming your relationships with yourself and others, then this is the podcast for you!

  1. FEB 3

    EP320: Why Negotiating Needs Feels So Hard (And What It Reveals About Your Boundaries)

    In this episode, I explore why the struggle to speak up isn't usually about communication skills, but about what our discomfort reveals regarding boundaries, emotional maturity, and internal safety. Rather than focusing on what others are doing wrong, this conversation turns inward, helping listeners understand what's happening inside them when needs arise and why those moments can feel so charged. You'll learn how early experiences shape your relationship with needs, how to tell the difference between needs, demands, and boundaries, and why recurring reactions like guilt, over-explaining, or shutting down are important signals — not personal flaws. This episode sets the foundation for a deeper month-long exploration of boundaries, choice, and healthy communication, offering a grounded starting point for anyone who wants to speak up without losing themselves.   Unmet needs don't disappear — they leak out as resentment,  exhaustion, or self-doubt.      Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/

    22 min

  2. JAN 27

    EP319: When Divorce Isn't Just Divorce: How Control Masquerades as Conflict

    In this episode, I'm joined by Lisa Johnson, co-founder of Been There Got Out, for an important conversation about coercive control and high-conflict divorce. Together, we explore the critical difference between typical divorce conflict — which usually de-escalates over time — and controlling behavior that escalates, creating ongoing fear, instability, and exhaustion. Lisa is a high-conflict divorce strategist and a certified domestic violence advocate who has successfully represented herself through scores of court appearances. Her case was published in the Connecticut Law Journal and is now being used as legal precedent...something that's incredibly rare for a self-represented litigant. Her live testimony also helped pass Jennifer's Law in Connecticut, making it the third state in the country to expand its legal definition of domestic violence to include coercive control: a form of abuse that so many people experience, but often struggle to name or be taken seriously around. Lisa and her partner, Chris, now coach people navigating high-conflict relationships, divorce, custody battles, and what many describe as co-parenting hell — helping them have the best possible outcome in family court and beyond. They also offer a weekly Legal Abuse Support Group for those dealing with narcissistic opponents in legal matters.  Lisa explains how coercive control can include manipulation, financial abuse, and legal abuse, often carried out in quiet, passive ways that are easily misunderstood or minimized. The episode sheds light on why some individuals never "cool down," how the legal system can be used as a tool of control, and why patience and better communication are not enough in these situations.   Domestic violence doesn't always leave bruises. It can look like creating fear through quiet control, financial strain, or legal pressure.     Find out more about Lisa here:   https://beentheregotout.com/         Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words         Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour

    53 min

  3. JAN 20

    EP318: Letting Go So You Don't Lose Yourself

    Many people feel emotionally drained not because they care too much, but because they carry too much. In this episode, I explore why empathy often turns into exhaustion, especially for those who learned early to manage emotions and prevent conflict. We talk about how over-carrying impacts the nervous system, boundaries, and sense of self, even when relationships appear 'fine' on the surface. This conversation looks at what healthy detachment actually is — and what it isn't. I break down the difference between empathy and emotional fusion, explain why emotional ownership matters, and share how staying grounded allows for deeper connection without self-loss. This episode is an invitation to stay compassionate and self-respecting at the same time.   Respect means  trusting others to meet themselves  where they are.      Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words      Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Top of Form Bottom of Form

    22 min

  4. JAN 13

    EP317: Healthy Boundaries for a New Year

    As a new year begins, many people feel the pull to reset, and at the same time, notice how hard it is to protect their energy, time, and emotional space. In this episode, I explore why boundaries can feel especially tender right now, particularly when the world feels uncertain or overwhelming. We talk about how stress and fear impact our nervous systems, and why this context matters when we're trying to show up with clarity and self-respect. I share insights on recognizing when boundaries are being tested in subtle ways, how to respond without guilt or defensiveness, and why healthy boundaries don't damage relationships — they actually make them safer and more honest. This episode is an invitation to practice clarity with compassion, especially when it feels uncomfortable or new.   Their repeated confusion about your boundary  is rarely confusion. It's avoidance  of accountability.   Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words         Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour

    21 min

  5. JAN 6

    EP316: Why January Can Feel Harder Than It Should

    January isn't about reinvention. It's about re-orientation. Many people come into January feeling scattered, tired, or strangely disconnected…and assume they should be further along by now. In this episode, I talk about why that experience makes sense, especially after a year that asked so much of our nervous systems. Rather than pushing for motivation or clarity, we explore what's really happening underneath the surface when life has been overwhelming for a long time. I share why re-centering begins with boundaries that define the self, not pressure to perform or fix anything. We look at how small, anchoring choices help restore a sense of agency and safety - and why self-trust is rebuilt through consistency, not intensity. This conversation is an invitation to slow down, reconnect, and begin the year with steadiness instead of urgency.   Sometimes what we call  lack of motivation is really a need for safety.   Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Top of Form Bottom of Form

    29 min

  6. 12/16/2025

    EP315: Your Holiday Bill of Rights

    The holidays often come with unspoken expectations to overgive, overexplain, and override our own needs. In this episode, I introduce the concept of a Holiday Bill of Rights: compassionate reminder of what we are allowed to honor during a season that can easily pull us back into old roles and patterns. Rather than focusing on "doing more self-care," this episode centers on self-loyalty, emotional honesty, and boundaries that protect our nervous system, energy, and well-being. If the holidays tend to stir guilt, grief, or pressure to perform, this conversation offers language, permission, and relief.   Three Key Takeaways 1.    Boundaries are not about control, they're about self-respect. Honoring your limits doesn't require agreement or approval from others. Feeling guilt doesn't mean you're doing something wrong; it often means you're doing something different. 2.    You're allowed to stop abandoning yourself for the sake of tradition. Just because something has always been done a certain way doesn't mean it still fits. Growth often requires renegotiating expectations, especially during the holidays. 3.    Your nervous system matters more than appearances. Emotional safety, rest, and clarity are not luxuries. When you listen to your body and honor your needs, you create a more grounded and authentic holiday experience.   Tradition should create connection,  not obligation. If it costs you your peace, you're allowed to opt out.     Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words       Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour

    21 min

  7. 12/10/2025

    EP314: Holiday Self Care Begins with Telling Yourself the Truth

    In this episode, we're continuing our holiday self-care series with one essential truth: real peace begins when we're honest about what we can actually handle. The holidays tend to pull us back into old roles and emotional patterns, leaving us overwhelmed, overextended, and disconnected from ourselves before we even realize it. Today, we explore why this happens, how to recognize the subtle moments of self-abandonment, and what it looks like to care for yourself from a place of truth instead of pressure or performance.   Three Takeaways 1. You'll learn the surprising reason holiday stress often has less to do with events and more to do with old emotional patterns we slip into without noticing. 2. We'll talk about how to identify the quiet, subtle moments where you start abandoning yourself… and what a small shift toward honesty can do for your peace. 3. You'll walk away with simple, practical questions that help you stay grounded, connected, and true to yourself no matter what the season brings.   You can't set a healthy boundary  if you aren't willing to  tell yourself the truth first.     Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour

    22 min

  8. 12/02/2025

    EP313 From the Vault EP191 Real Self-Care Means Following Through

    This week, we're pulling a good one from the vault… Welcome to Episode 191 where we dig into how real self-care means following through on what we need to do to take care of ourselves.  In this episode we dive deeper into the idea that TRUE self-care is when we make it real.  When we follow through on both holding the line on our boundaries and taking responsibility for what we have promised ourselves we would take care of. Self-care involves following through with actions that nourish your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. We talked last week about some of the good things and not so good things to have in our life.  If you haven't had a chance to listen to that yet you might want to do that first…and come join us back here when you're done so this episode will make more sense. When you commit to taking care of yourself, it means setting boundaries, saying no to things that drain you, prioritizing rest and relaxation, and making time for activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. Following through with these actions not only benefits your own well-being, but also supports your ability to be assertive and advocate for yourself in all areas of your life.   Key Elements: ·        Explore the some of the consequences of not following through on self-care ·        Identify how taking care of ourselves is the best way to feel more confident. ·        Identify ways to make it easier to commit and follow through.   You don't have to  prove anything  this holiday season – not your worth, not your patience, not your strength.   Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour

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The Own It! Powercast is all about personal growth. It's about taking time to learn, grow and change, with You in the driver's seat. Life coach, counselor and teacher Mary Baker will walk you through the necessary ingredients to have great self-confidence, live with purpose and on purpose, and finally start to love your life. This is a show about taking charge of your personal growth, and about taking your fear and turning it into powerful choices that will create sustained changes. Finally understand what's been in your way all along, and the tools you need to get to where you want to be. So if you're serious about transforming your relationships with yourself and others, then this is the podcast for you!

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  • Creator
    Mary Baker
  • Years Active
    2019 - 2026
  • Episodes
    332
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Show Website
    Ownit! Powercast