Ownit! Powercast

Mary Baker
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The Own It! Powercast is all about personal growth. It's about taking time to learn, grow and change, with You in the driver's seat. Life coach, counselor and teacher Mary Baker will walk you through the necessary ingredients to have great self-confidence, live with purpose and on purpose, and finally start to love your life. This is a show about taking charge of your personal growth, and about taking your fear and turning it into powerful choices that will create sustained changes. Finally understand what's been in your way all along, and the tools you need to get to where you want to be. So if you're serious about transforming your relationships with yourself and others, then this is the podcast for you!

  1. 1D AGO

    EP323 Your Brain on Fear: Why You React Before You Think

    Why do we react before we think? Why does a simple conversation sometimes feel loaded, urgent, or overwhelming? In this episode, we explore what's happening inside your brain when fear takes the lead — and why your reactions can feel so convincing in the moment. You'll begin to understand how your nervous system learned to equate certain emotional experiences with danger, even when you're not actually unsafe. We'll unpack the subtle signs that survival mode is running the show: in your body, your communication, and your decisions, and introduce one powerful question that can interrupt the cycle. If you've ever wondered why you over-explain, shut down, people-please, or react more strongly than you intended, this conversation will help you recognize what's happening and begin moving toward steadier ground.   There is a difference between  something being uncomfortable  and something being unsafe. When you learn to tell the difference, everything changes.     Check Out this New Resource:    Get Started Asking for What You Need! Identify the healthy ways to negotiate needs and build trust in your relationships. https://findyourvoicecourse.com/saywhatyouneed     Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words   Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour   Top of Form Bottom of Form

    31 min

  2. FEB 25

    EP322: Real Communication: Regulated, Respectful, and Responsible

    We talk a lot about "good communication," but most of what people call good is actually just conflict avoidance. In this episode, we explore what emotionally mature communication really looks like — especially in the moments when it's hardest to stay steady. If you've ever left a conversation replaying it in your head, wishing you'd said less, or said it differently, this one is for you. We'll unpack the subtle shifts that build trust instead of tension — and why accountability is one of the strongest relational skills you can develop.   Mature Communication Is not silence. It isn't people-pleasing. It's not walking on eggshells. Calm means regulated. It means your tone matches your truth. Without raising your voice. You can say: "That doesn't work for me. "I need more notice." "I'm not okay with that."     Check Out this New Resource:    Get Started Asking for What You Need! Identify the healthy ways to negotiate needs and build trust in your relationships. https://findyourvoicecourse.com/saywhatyouneed     Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words       Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour   Top of Form Bottom of Form

    28 min

  3. FEB 18

    EP321: Detachment and Choice: Why Over Explaining and People Pleasing Aren't Communication

    In this episode, we continue the month's focus on choice by exploring how easily communication can become a way to manage discomfort instead of express truth. Many of us were taught that being clear means saying more, softening our message, or keeping others comfortable—but those habits often pull us further away from ourselves. This conversation invites you to look more closely at over-explaining and people-pleasing, not as communication issues, but as signals that detachment may be missing. Together, we unpack why emotional honesty feels so hard when we're afraid of reactions, and how learning to detach can help you stay calm, grounded, and connected to your truth. Rather than offering scripts or quick fixes, this episode focuses on awareness, self-trust, and the quiet power of choice, especially in the small moments where we usually override ourselves.   Real communication happens when you remember you have a choice.     Check Out this New Resource:    Get Started Asking for What You Need! Identify the healthy ways to negotiate needs and build trust in your relationships. https://findyourvoicecourse.com/saywhatyouneed     Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words         Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Top of Form Bottom of Form

    20 min

  4. FEB 3

    EP320: Why Negotiating Needs Feels So Hard (And What It Reveals About Your Boundaries)

    In this episode, I explore why the struggle to speak up isn't usually about communication skills, but about what our discomfort reveals regarding boundaries, emotional maturity, and internal safety. Rather than focusing on what others are doing wrong, this conversation turns inward, helping listeners understand what's happening inside them when needs arise and why those moments can feel so charged. You'll learn how early experiences shape your relationship with needs, how to tell the difference between needs, demands, and boundaries, and why recurring reactions like guilt, over-explaining, or shutting down are important signals — not personal flaws. This episode sets the foundation for a deeper month-long exploration of boundaries, choice, and healthy communication, offering a grounded starting point for anyone who wants to speak up without losing themselves.   Unmet needs don't disappear — they leak out as resentment,  exhaustion, or self-doubt.      Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/

    22 min

  5. JAN 27

    EP319: When Divorce Isn't Just Divorce: How Control Masquerades as Conflict

    In this episode, I'm joined by Lisa Johnson, co-founder of Been There Got Out, for an important conversation about coercive control and high-conflict divorce. Together, we explore the critical difference between typical divorce conflict — which usually de-escalates over time — and controlling behavior that escalates, creating ongoing fear, instability, and exhaustion. Lisa is a high-conflict divorce strategist and a certified domestic violence advocate who has successfully represented herself through scores of court appearances. Her case was published in the Connecticut Law Journal and is now being used as legal precedent...something that's incredibly rare for a self-represented litigant. Her live testimony also helped pass Jennifer's Law in Connecticut, making it the third state in the country to expand its legal definition of domestic violence to include coercive control: a form of abuse that so many people experience, but often struggle to name or be taken seriously around. Lisa and her partner, Chris, now coach people navigating high-conflict relationships, divorce, custody battles, and what many describe as co-parenting hell — helping them have the best possible outcome in family court and beyond. They also offer a weekly Legal Abuse Support Group for those dealing with narcissistic opponents in legal matters.  Lisa explains how coercive control can include manipulation, financial abuse, and legal abuse, often carried out in quiet, passive ways that are easily misunderstood or minimized. The episode sheds light on why some individuals never "cool down," how the legal system can be used as a tool of control, and why patience and better communication are not enough in these situations.   Domestic violence doesn't always leave bruises. It can look like creating fear through quiet control, financial strain, or legal pressure.     Find out more about Lisa here:   https://beentheregotout.com/         Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words         Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour

    53 min

  6. JAN 20

    EP318: Letting Go So You Don't Lose Yourself

    Many people feel emotionally drained not because they care too much, but because they carry too much. In this episode, I explore why empathy often turns into exhaustion, especially for those who learned early to manage emotions and prevent conflict. We talk about how over-carrying impacts the nervous system, boundaries, and sense of self, even when relationships appear 'fine' on the surface. This conversation looks at what healthy detachment actually is — and what it isn't. I break down the difference between empathy and emotional fusion, explain why emotional ownership matters, and share how staying grounded allows for deeper connection without self-loss. This episode is an invitation to stay compassionate and self-respecting at the same time.   Respect means  trusting others to meet themselves  where they are.      Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words      Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Top of Form Bottom of Form

    22 min

  7. JAN 13

    EP317: Healthy Boundaries for a New Year

    As a new year begins, many people feel the pull to reset, and at the same time, notice how hard it is to protect their energy, time, and emotional space. In this episode, I explore why boundaries can feel especially tender right now, particularly when the world feels uncertain or overwhelming. We talk about how stress and fear impact our nervous systems, and why this context matters when we're trying to show up with clarity and self-respect. I share insights on recognizing when boundaries are being tested in subtle ways, how to respond without guilt or defensiveness, and why healthy boundaries don't damage relationships — they actually make them safer and more honest. This episode is an invitation to practice clarity with compassion, especially when it feels uncomfortable or new.   Their repeated confusion about your boundary  is rarely confusion. It's avoidance  of accountability.   Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words         Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour

    21 min

  8. JAN 6

    EP316: Why January Can Feel Harder Than It Should

    January isn't about reinvention. It's about re-orientation. Many people come into January feeling scattered, tired, or strangely disconnected…and assume they should be further along by now. In this episode, I talk about why that experience makes sense, especially after a year that asked so much of our nervous systems. Rather than pushing for motivation or clarity, we explore what's really happening underneath the surface when life has been overwhelming for a long time. I share why re-centering begins with boundaries that define the self, not pressure to perform or fix anything. We look at how small, anchoring choices help restore a sense of agency and safety - and why self-trust is rebuilt through consistency, not intensity. This conversation is an invitation to slow down, reconnect, and begin the year with steadiness instead of urgency.   Sometimes what we call  lack of motivation is really a need for safety.   Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!   Need more?  Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:   https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words     Hey! My signature course is live!  I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program.  Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/   Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!  https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour     Top of Form Bottom of Form

    29 min
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The Own It! Powercast is all about personal growth. It's about taking time to learn, grow and change, with You in the driver's seat. Life coach, counselor and teacher Mary Baker will walk you through the necessary ingredients to have great self-confidence, live with purpose and on purpose, and finally start to love your life. This is a show about taking charge of your personal growth, and about taking your fear and turning it into powerful choices that will create sustained changes. Finally understand what's been in your way all along, and the tools you need to get to where you want to be. So if you're serious about transforming your relationships with yourself and others, then this is the podcast for you!

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  • Creator
    Mary Baker
  • Years Active
    2019 - 2026
  • Episodes
    335
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Show Website
    Ownit! Powercast