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Turns out children arrive with no manual. There's no coherent online tutorial.
Between staying up to date with emerging technologies and balancing work and home life in an industry that often requires un-timeable bug fixes, on call schedules, and more, working parents are balancing a lot.
Parents are also exploring additional technical issues like "screen time" or internet privacy, coming at these issues from a different perspective as technologists ourselves.
We cover all of these topics and more using a panel of parents coming from diverse perspectives and a variety of technological backgrounds. We'll shine light onto these issues and provide a valuable food for thought for these folks.
Want to ask a question that the panelists can discuss in an episode? Email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.
And if you're loving the podcast and want to support us, please visit our Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev)!
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Turns out children arrive with no manual. There's no coherent online tutorial.
Between staying up to date with emerging technologies and balancing work and home life in an industry that often requires un-timeable bug fixes, on call schedules, and more, working parents are balancing a lot.
Parents are also exploring additional technical issues like "screen time" or internet privacy, coming at these issues from a different perspective as technologists ourselves.
We cover all of these topics and more using a panel of parents coming from diverse perspectives and a variety of technological backgrounds. We'll shine light onto these issues and provide a valuable food for thought for these folks.
Want to ask a question that the panelists can discuss in an episode? Email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.
And if you're loving the podcast and want to support us, please visit our Patreon (https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev)!
Sponsor Spotlight: Nurture Life (https://www.nurturelife.com/?utm_source=instagram&utm_medium=social_paid&utm_campaign=conversion&utm_content=influencer_parentdrivendevelopment-20200326&pc=PARENTDRIVEN)
Get 30% off your first TWO Nurture Life orders with code PARENTDRIVEN30

    058: Co-Parenting

    058: Co-Parenting

    Parent Driven Development

    Episode 058: Co-parenting with Brandon Hays

    Welcome Brandon!

    Brandon Hays is a dad and engineering leader based in Austin, TX. His professional mission is to help the tech industry improve by organizing people to accomplish things together in environments that recognize and support their "human-ness". His personal mission is to survive parenthood until the kids are in college.


    02:40 Brandon's co-parenting


    Starting with traditional gender roles
    Co-parenting was a foriegn concept until remote work..
    The invisible work becomes more visible
    Covid has forced parents to confront the amount of work it takes to raise kids


    06:30 Co-parenting during the pandemic


    Awareness that things changed… kids cannot return to school
    Brandon becomes the educator during the pandemic
    The amount of work to parent became too high when everything shut down
    Reworking the home dynamic when one partner needs help
    Asking for flexibility in places where he had previous thought was not available before


    10:53 Working out responsibility between partners


    Clear contracts
    Splitting up tasks and making them known to each partner
    Alternating cooking dinner and clean up
    Family clean day
    Creating activities for kids, even after a long day
    Check in with your partner, how are you feeling burden?


    14:05 Recognize your partner's strengths


    Being comfortable with how each partner co-parents
    Recognition of each partner
    Optimize each parenting style and continue to check in
    Asking and taking the self-care when it is needed


    17:30 Working together

    19:10 How has Covid refocused things?!


    Strengthened the team mentality
    Hard to sustain the intensity of the pandemic
    Constant change, the on-call parent


    24:40 Prioritization - Do our actions line up with our values?

    27:00 Take away: preserve time for planning and reflection

    28:35 Genius / fail moments


    Allison checks in while her son is in virtual school and feels major mom guilt…
    Chris’s family visits and brings his camper for a huge win!
    Arit slyly phases out her daughters stuffed animal #genius
    Jess’s son goes full into minecraft, but it may be too much.. #possiblegenius
    KWu repurposed geotags for wooden toys for her kids #genius
    Brandon get creative taking pictures of his kids in their natural habitat


    How can I support the podcast?

    Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.


    Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.


    Chris Arcand
    Jess
    Arit
    Allison
    KWu
    Special Guest: Brandon Hays.
    Sponsored By:
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    • 40 min
    057: Virtual School

    057: Virtual School

    Parent Driven Development

    Episode 057: Virtual School

    03:04 Welcome to Parent Driven Development

    03:30 Virtual school with school age children


    Kindergarten, middle school, high school
    Missing out on the life experiences
    Pros and cons


    05:25 Exposure to other students


    Not enough time to build up relationships within the zoom chats
    Teachers stepping up to engage the kids with each other and in class
    Tough in kindergarten because the kids can’t break off without a teacher


    11:29 Less the supervising time on virtual school


    First week, very hands on, but less and less over time
    Kids have learned to adapt quite quickly


    14:00 Extra hands to help


    Parents can do work, but not focused work while supervising zoom school
    Extra help definitely makes a difference


    15:45 Homework


    Losing track of how to turn in assignments for middle/highschoolers
    No take home HW for kindergarten
    State assessments
    Perk - you can rewatch the class video if you have questions


    21:45 Teacher Props!


    Powerpoints
    Yoga and stretch breaks
    Partner reads
    Side chats
    Parent updates


    25:00 Is life better with zoom school?


    Allison is satisfied with the cards dealt, but mourns the first day of school memories
    Chris thinks in some ways, it’s better


    30:15 Genius / fail moments


    Chris figures out how to turn facetime back on his son’s devices, but has to keep track of his use.. #genius/fail
    Allison plans her move around the time of year her kids would need to change seasonal clothes. Less work, more organized #genius


    How can I support the podcast?

    Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.


    Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.


    Chris S
    Allison
    Sponsored By:
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    Meals are focused on organic produce, antibiotic- and hormone-free proteins and whole grains, and offer a FULL serving of veggies in every meal. Nurture Life has recently launched new and exciting meals, such as the Chicken, sweet potato, & waffle finger food for babies and the Butter Chicken with Peas, Rice, & Mini Naan for toddlers, kids, & Teens. In addition to these new offerings, there will also be additional meals that will be available on the menu for a limited time period to continue to provide innovative, flavorful and unique meals options for families.


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    Get the best meals for your kids and family delivered right to your door—available for every zip code across the contiguous United States. Get 30% off your first TWO Nurture Life orders with code PARENTDRIVEN30.

    Visit nurturelife.com to redeem and find a moment of relief when it comes to meal time. Promo Code: PARENTDRIVEN30The Preschool Box: Hey parents, whether you are going back to school or learning from home, the Preschool Box is here to help!
    The Preschool Box is all about helping children unlock their potential by making learning FUN!

    Each month, The Preschool Box will send you a box packed full of engaging and educational activities with a focus on reading and math skills that will prepare your little one for success in school. It’s AMAZING!

    These monthly “work at yo

    • 34 min
    056: Child Care Educators with Jessica Sager

    056: Child Care Educators with Jessica Sager

    Parent Driven Development

    Episode 056: Child Care Educators with Jessica Sager of All Our Kin.

    All Our Kin is a nationally recognized nonprofit organization that trains, supports, and sustains family child care educators—transforming opportunities by ensuring that children and families have the foundation they need to succeed in school and in life.


    Jessica Sager is the co-founder and chief executive officer of All Our Kin. A graduate of Barnard College and Yale Law School, Jessica co-teaches a Yale University seminar on “Child Care, Society, and Public Policy”. She has provided commentary on child care issues for Time, The Hill, New America, and Education Week. She currently lives in New Haven, CT, with her husband and their fifteen-year-old daughter.


    00:58 Welcome, Jessica Sager!


    Paul Tough: Helping Children Succeed & How Children Succeed
    Child care as profession in the home
    Making invisible workers as child care professionals visible through All Our Kin


    04:18 Changing the way we value child care in our society


    Low income, closures, possible risk of losing convenient access
    More visible with current covid crisis
    At a crossroads


    06:30 We’re not meant to raise kids alone - How All Our Kin helps


    All our kin in supporting child care educators around the country through their model
    Advocate for a different way to treat child care
    Direct work to educators and family; delivery ppe, public health guidance, supporting emotional and mental wellbeing of child care educators, playing new virtual roles


    10:03 How can others help advocate for child care


    View as public good
    Employers need to step up


    12:40 The impact in marginalized communities


    Positive impact on the economy; all our kin as a rate of return 15-20% on their investment
    Equity; making sure kids have a safe place to go even during the pandemic
    Non standard hours are needed most by essential workers


    16:50 Family care network


    Designed as a hub and place of support for educators; helping people become licesned to become a professional educator, support them as educators, training on how to run a business, located in a place/community and building out their network.
    Educators are often passionate and utilize all the support and tools of All Our Kin to make meaningful and lasting change


    20:20 Moving to the virtual space


    People are showing up! Connection is desired and needed


    22:10 Local support wins


    Cultural differences, but deep similarities for shared passion and love for raising kids
    New Haven model succeeds in the Bronx and Nebraska


    25:50 Genius / fail moments


    Kwu makes an awesome new corn chowder recipe, but her toddler wasn’t enjoying it.. #fail
    Chris struggles to get his kids online for zoom school.. As a senior engineer himself.. #fail
    Jess is at a crossroads over too much screen time for her son… but minecraft.... #genius/fail
    Jessica got an adorable pandemic kitten, but the kitten has been zoom bombing important school and work presentations. #genius on the kitten #fail on the zoom bombs


    How can I support the podcast?

    Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.


    Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.


    KWu
    Chris S
    Jess
    Special Guest: Jessica Sager.

    • 34 min
    055: Jambo Books with Mijha Godfrey

    055: Jambo Books with Mijha Godfrey

    Parent Driven Development

    Episode 055: Jambo Books

    02:22 Welcome, Mijha Godfrey!

    Mijha Godfrey is the founder of Jambo Books. Jambo, which means both “hello” and “welcome” in Swahili, is a book subscription service for children aged 0 – 13 where all the books feature lead characters who are children of color. The stories in Jambo Books focus on the beauty of childhood, the joys of friendship and family, the thrill of new adventures, the wonderful tapestry that is the life of a child of color.


    Mijha is passionate about helping parents raise children who won’t need to be taught how to tolerate people who are different from themselves because they will expect and enjoy healthy inclusion.


    04:04 The importance of a diverse library


    Not letting experience resonate in only trauma or holiday


    05:25 When should parents start showcasing different representations in their community to their children?


    Yesterday.. aka ASAP, as young as infants
    Race is recognized from an early age and the earlier exposure the better
    Showcasing universal things all children go through, not just culturally recognized celebrations
    Normalizing life experience of children of color


    09:32 Jambo celebrates all representations


    Books are a gentle gateway
    Letting children of color know that they belong in all spaces


    13:40 How do you choose books for Jambo?


    All books sent out are fiction
    Must star a child of color
    Has to be a good story, impactful


    15:45 How do you introduce the ideas in the books to your children?


    Confront stereotypes head on!
    Can I touch your hair?


    19:40 What push back have you experienced?


    Standing strong in their mission


    24:20 Tips for book storage?


    More shelves!
    Recycle and pass forward books in the community


    26:15 Genius / fail moments


    KWu's son turned 3! Yayy.. but feeling guilty that she is a couple years behind on the yearly photo albums. #fail
    Allison's daughter boy-cots her virtual doctors appointment, her son zips off virtual kindergarten and chaos is all happening at once! #fail
    Arit's daughters nails a technical aspect of potty training. #genius
    Mijha's daughter reads a book that sparks a racail conversation on a playdate. History well learned, but not wanting to her daughter to do the race work #winfail


    How can I support the podcast?

    Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.


    Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.


    Support us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community!


    Panel

    KWu
    Allison
    Arit
    Special Guest: Mijha Godfrey.
    Sponsored By:
    Nurture Life: Parents everywhere are going through so much stress and uncertainty right now. It’s hard to find sources of relief nowadays. This is why we are Parent Driven Development love Nurture Life.


    Nurture Life provides nutritious, ready-to-eat meals for babies starting at 10 months old, toddlers, kids, and teens, delivered fresh right to your door. Meals are designed to meet the nutrient and portion needs for each age group, and are developed by Nurture Life’s registered dietitians and chefs.


    Meals are focused on organic produce, antibiotic- and hormone-free proteins and whole grains, and offer a FULL serving of veggies in every meal. Nurture Life has recently launched new and exciting meals, such as the Chicken, sweet potato, & waffle finger food for babies and the Butter Chicken with Peas, Rice, & Mini Naan for toddlers, kids, & Teens. In addition to these new offerings, there will also be additional meals that will be available on the menu for a limited time period to continue to provide innovative, flavorful and unique meals options for families.


    Nurture Life easy subscription model allows you to sign up for weekly deliveries, skip weeks, or pause your subscription whenever you want. You can build your own box to select the right mix of meals for your fam

    • 38 min
    054: How to Manage Your Tech Career With Kids

    054: How to Manage Your Tech Career With Kids

    Parent Driven Development

    Episode 054: How to Manage Your Tech Career With Kids

    01:17 How do personal priorities and desired job circumstances change?


    Flexibility + time off
    Managing parents during emergencies
    Building resilience within a company


    08:18 Chaos monkey


    Applying the method to people
    Setting quality expectations that everyone agrees on


    10:45 Benefits are important


    Healthcare, dental care, infertility, adoption, etc…


    12:46 Perceiving direct reports from a manager perspective about what parents really care about


    Salary should fit one's needs, they aren’t worried if their kids need braces
    What employees care about matters!
    Managers syncing up for 1:1 calls is essential
    Standing meetings


    17:30 Time management


    Planning interruptions as a parent
    Coding flow
    Essential reminders
    Working nights and weekends by choice


    27:57 Genius / fail moments


    Chris Arcand hacked his three-year-old sleep with a soothing sound bath #genius
    Chris Sexton’s son is a Scout and had to tackle the virtual retreat by sleeping in the yard for one week to mimic the real thing. Quarantine win #genius


    How can I support the podcast?

    Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.


    Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.


    Support us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community!


    Panel

    Chris Arcand
    Chris Sexton

    • 33 min
    053: The Parenting Playbook with Anna Mackenzie

    053: The Parenting Playbook with Anna Mackenzie

    Parent Driven Development

    Episode 053: The Parenting Playbook with Anna Mackenzie

    Sponsor: Nurture Life

    Welcome, Anna Mackenzie

    Anna Mackenzie is a Software Engineer who is dedicated to improving parental leave policies in tech. She is currently working at Voiceflow, a software startup that specializes in workflow tools for building voice experiences. She is the co-author of “The Expecting Playbook,” a toolkit that helps start-ups of all sizes to roll out supportive parental leave policies. Her follow-up book, titled “The Parental Playbook,” provides start-ups with the necessary tools to support parents upon their return to work. In 2018, Anna was named as one of the Top 25 Women of Influence in Canada, as well as one of the Top 30 Women In Tech Making a Difference by the DMZ.


    02:40 How did you come up with the idea? Why write these books?


    Being a minority in the industry
    Starting to ask difficult questions to companies she was interviewing for
    No startup policy that lead to leadership roles for women
    Companies need a better hiring practices for women


    05:50 Asking about parental leave during interviews


    Maternity AND paternity leave
    Are companies set up to have employees transition easily in and out of leave?


    08:40 Changing perspective in the workplace


    The work place was designed for a world that no longer exists
    The necessary reason to be LOUD about things you believe in


    13:35 Good policies get great people


    Employer thinking about childcare > parents thinking about childcare
    Diversity includes parents


    17:10 How are companies adjusting to parents during COVID19


    Moms are typically affected more
    How can we restructure what work looks like - long overdue!


    18:40 How to be inclusive of parents when they come back from leave


    Changing activities other than happy hour
    Adding a lock to the pumping room
    The importance of having diverse leadership and voices


    20:45 Psychological safety


    What’s OK for parents to mention to their team?
    Will the team think less because a parent is sleep deprived
    Employees do better work


    26:15 Genius / fail moments


    KWu gets her son to help with the dishes one utensil at a time to keep him from making a mess in the living room. #genius
    Allison creates an obstacle course to keep her kids occupied, which includes a captain’s hat! #genius
    Arit stays consistent potty training her daughter and finally gets onto the other side of potty training! #HUGEwin
    Anna’s dog gets sprayed by a skunk at a friend's house, cleans him off and then goes home, to only get skunked again in her backyard!! #fail


    How can I support the podcast?

    Please follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.


    Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.


    Support us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community!


    Panel

    Allison McMillan
    Arit Amana
    KWu
    Special Guest: Anna Mackenzie.
    Sponsored By:
    Nurture Life: Parents everywhere are going through so much stress and uncertainty right now. It’s hard to find sources of relief nowadays. This is why we are Parent Driven Development love Nurture Life.


    Nurture Life provides nutritious, ready-to-eat meals for babies starting at 10 months old, toddlers, kids, and teens, delivered fresh right to your door. Meals are designed to meet the nutrient and portion needs for each age group, and are developed by Nurture Life’s registered dietitians and chefs.


    Meals are focused on organic produce, antibiotic- and hormone-free proteins and whole grains, and offer a FULL serving of veggies in every meal. Nurture Life has recently launched new and exciting meals, such as the Chicken, sweet potato, & waffle finger food for babies and the Butter Chicken with Peas, Rice, & Mini Naan for toddlers, kids, & Teens. In addition to these new offerings, there will also be additional meals that will be available on

    • 35 min

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No kids, still great.

I don’t have kids, but I’m IN. TO. THIS. Great information about overcoming social pressures and navigating difficult situations in the context of kids, but you know, adults can be a little childish sometimes too. :)

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Great panel discussion about being a software professional while juggling the raising of kids.

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