52 episodes

This podcast will help all parents with kids of all ages to learn how to decode the mysteries and challenges of being a parent in today's challenging times. We will concentrate on practical parenting approaches that you as a parent can use right away! There are tips and tricks as well as plenty of real life stories to help you see that you can make a difference in your family's life in simple yet noticeable ways. In order for your kids to change, you need to change first! The ripple effect is real and lasting. Enjoy the ride!

Parenting Decoded Mary Eschen

    • Kids & Family
    • 4.9 • 37 Ratings

This podcast will help all parents with kids of all ages to learn how to decode the mysteries and challenges of being a parent in today's challenging times. We will concentrate on practical parenting approaches that you as a parent can use right away! There are tips and tricks as well as plenty of real life stories to help you see that you can make a difference in your family's life in simple yet noticeable ways. In order for your kids to change, you need to change first! The ripple effect is real and lasting. Enjoy the ride!

    52 - Manners Lesson: Chewing Food

    52 - Manners Lesson: Chewing Food

    In this third installment of my manners series we discuss how to train your kids to chew their food with their mouths closed.  It can be a challenge but with some consistency, love and a bit of fun and games it's possible to move your kids into the social graces. 

    There are two books for younger kids that might come in handy:
    “How Dinosaurs Eat Their Food” by Jane Yolen
    “Dinner with Olivia” by Emily Sollinger

    Here's a copy of the TRANSCRIPT on my website.

    Also,  feel free to email me with other questions -- mary@parentingdecoded.com.

    • 8 min
    51 - When Kids Drain Your Energy

    51 - When Kids Drain Your Energy

    When kids drain our energy by doing things that drive us crazy we need to respond in a loving and empathetic manner.  However,  when we're so tired of them doing things that drain us -- like whining, talking back, fighting with their siblings, or ignoring screen time limits -- we just don't know what to do. 

    In this podcast you'll learn not only how to recognize things that drain your energy but how to let your kids know and then ask them to do things for you that help replenish that energy.   

    Our kids to need to learn to recognize how their poor decisions to misbehave affect other people.  We want to raise kids who are respectful and responsible and this energy replacement can help do just that!

    Click here for a list of Energy Drain Replacement Ideas

    TRANSCRIPT HERE

    If you have questions, email me at mary@parentingdecoded.com. 

    • 14 min
    50 - Mary's Parenting Report Card By Her Sons

    50 - Mary's Parenting Report Card By Her Sons

    What was Mary like as a parent?  In this special episode hear from Mary's two grown sons on what it was like growing up with Mary as a parent.  They talk about how natural consequences shaped them and how energy drains encouraged them to make better decisions among other topics.

    This episode was created at the request of Mary's Facebook Group, Parenting Decoded, who were curious about the long term impact of good, solid parenting techniques on children.  What better examples than Mary's boys who went from having a helicopter mom to a consultant mom when they were in middle school.  A big change!

    What grade did Mary get from her boys on her parenting skills?  Take a listen and hear it for yourself!

    • 30 min
    49 - Manners Lesson: "Thank You"

    49 - Manners Lesson: "Thank You"

    In this episode we learn how to get our kids to say “thank you” and how to help develop a general sense of appreciation for not only “things” but also training them in thankfulness which will help to promote an “attitude of gratitude”. 


    Start Early Be ConsistentGive Praise for using Thank You Use Family Meetings to Set ExpectationsSet up Family Thanking EventsDinner time thank you routinesBedtime blessings routineThank you note practice for birthdays and holidaysMake it FUN!  We'll talk about a few ideas for setting up a "fancy dinner" so we can practice all our manners in a creative and fun way. Lastly,  we'll go over how important modeling good "thank you" practices can be in helping bring thankfulness in our homes.  
    TRANSCRIPT AVAILABLE HERE

    • 9 min
    48 - Cultivating Kindness in Kids

    48 - Cultivating Kindness in Kids

    We all want our kids to grow up being kind and courteous.  In this episode I talk with Teresa Ramirez, a motivational speaker and Kindness Koach.  Listen to lots of fun ideas on how to promote kindness inside and outside your home.  

    Here's some of the ideas we talk about!

    - Model it INSIDE your home
     Use Family Meetings to talk about how to be kind to each other Come up with a list of ideas from putting sweet notes in lunch boxes to doing surprise chores for some oneMake a meal for everyone, Give an extra long hug, pick some flowers for someonePlan a "date" with one of your family members including taking care of the plans and making all the food- Model it OUTSIDE your home
    Help neighbors, hold doors open, help someone with packages at a store, pick up garbage a a parkDo service projects together - help at a fundraiser,  work at a food pantry,Send letters or draw pictures to friends who are shut-in Visit a senior centerWrite fun and cheerful messages with sidewalk chalk outside your homeHave a lemonade stand to raise funds for a charity or causeTo get to Teresa's Facebook Page and order your FREE BUBBLES OF JOY!: 
    JOURNEY IN KINDNESS
     To read the full article from Happy Family Happy You:  38 ACTS OF KINDNESS

    • 27 min
    47 - Manners Lesson: "Please"

    47 - Manners Lesson: "Please"

    This is the first podcast in a series relating to getting our kids to learn manners which are fundamental to their becoming responsible, respectful adults.  Starting with Life Lessons early has the biggest impact but in this series of podcasts, whether you have a toddler or a teen, it's worth investing in their future through manners.

    Here are the basics of what's covered in this podcast:
    1 - Start young!  The earlier the better.  Using "baby sign language" if you have a very little one. 
    2- With Older Kids Set Family Rules around Manners.  Use a Family Meeting to talk about how important manners and and that you're going to start with focusing on the use of "please" in your home.
    3 - Practice!  It takes lots and lots of practice to get your kids to use please but you need to do it OVER and OVER again.  When they don't ask with a "please" just ask them again. 
    4 - Expect more from older kids.  Once they have the basics of using "please" have them incorporate "may I please" instead of just "please can I have".
    5 - Role Play!  Enjoy some of the learning with your kids by setting up fun events that you can practice and exaggerate what you're doing.  Maybe a special candlelit dinner once a month?  Maybe a Game Night where you exaggerate asking for dice or cards using "please".
    6 - Model What you Want.  You as the adult are constantly watched by your kids.  Make sure you're using "please" appropriately.
    7 - Leverage the Please Request.  Your kids WANT something from you.  Use this as "currency" that is so valuable to them that they're willing to use "please" to get it.  Follow through with it even if they're sassy.  Don't get distracted if they are snarky!

    TRANSCRIPT AVAILABLE HERE

    Email Mary at mary@parentingdecoded.com.
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    • 10 min

Customer Reviews

4.9 out of 5
37 Ratings

37 Ratings

CharmaineSherry ,

Priceless parenting tools

I love these tips for parenting! The best part of it is the result of having independent & happy young adults. The end result of having mutual love & respect between parents & their children is priceless . The choice of words parents use to get children to think for themselves. These are the most practical tools for all parents.👌 Thank you Mary!

sillysillyg ,

Must listen podcasts for all parents

Mary’s podcasts are full of the wisdom and advice that is priceless for any parent desiring to raise responsible citizens of this world. Fantastic variety of relevant topics that you will undoubtedly learn from, laugh from and grow from. Subscribe now!

pj243546 ,

Awesome guide for parenting in today’s times

Mary’s podcasts have been a savior for us as our kids started getting older and navigating through the various challenges involved therein became harder and harder.It has been invaluable to have her expertise and experience to lean on. Our parenting experience and relationship with the kids has improved significantly since we started incorporating the principles that she teaches.It also helps us be prepared for the challenges that haven’t happened yet but that could in the future so that we are not caught in a deer in headlights moment.Thank you Mary for this amazing resource and we hope to continue to hear more from you in the future.

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