Parenting Porcupines

Kasie Whitener , Jessica Ethridge, Melissa Couture, Alex Thornton

Libertarian Moms (and Dads) talk about raising our children by teaching them not to hurt people or take their stuff, how to think not what to think, and that taxation is theft. Unofficially associated with the South Carolina Libertarian Party. Politics, parenting, and free-range day-drinking.

  1. Get in the Game!

    11/10/2023

    Get in the Game!

    Photo by Tara Winstead on Pexels.com So it’s been a while since we did a live show and that’s because some crazy shit has gone down in the last few weeks. We went to the Libertarian Party national convention in Reno (Kasie and Jess and Melissa’s husband) which was kind of a shit show and then we all had covid. Well, again, Kasie and Jess. Then, fresh off covid, we had our South Carolina state convention to nominate candidates for political office in this state and lo and behold Jessica Ethridge was nominated to run for Lieutenant Governor on a ticket with journeyman candidate Morgan Bruce Reeves who was looking for a political home and seems to have finally found it with the SCLP. Congrats to Dr. Reeves and Jessica. Check out their website here! In addition, our own journeyman candidate, Melissa Couture, is throwing her hat in the ring for school board which is a race she didn’t need state party approval for, but is not her first time on the ballot. So congrats, Melissa. This episode we talk to both Jess and Melissa about being candidates, taking the LP message forward, fighting off the stigma of national LP b******t and finding balance between work, family, and public service. We also talk about elections as voluntary service to your community, not launchpads for international stardom and riches. We talk about the real issues facing voters in our state and how we keep being distracted by the bull shit distracting us from solving real problems as community participants. Finally, we’ll touch on some of the anticipated learning we expect our campaigns will bring and we can circle back to these fears in December. Read more on our blog

    29 min
  2. Greedflation and other stupid shit people say about the economy

    11/10/2023

    Greedflation and other stupid shit people say about the economy

    Over the last couple of months we have seen an unprecedented shortage in baby formula. It is devastating to see it first hand as I (Jessica) have a cousin whose daughter has Rett Syndrome. She is completely disabled and cannot chew, and  there is a very specific brand of formula that she is able to tolerate and upon which she relies for all of her nutrition. As of this evening she has only 12 days left in her supply. It is sold out at every supplier, and on back order from the manufacturer.   In October 2021 the FDA received a whistleblower complaint regarding conditions in Abbott Laboratories. There was no action until late December, when the investigation was initiated, followed by inspection in January 2022 and recall following in February. Abbott holds about 43% of the market share, according to a 2011 USDA Report (most recent data available). Abbott is also has exclusive contracts with many states’ WIC programs and USDA Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Programs (SNAP) which provide nutritional services to low-income families.  Only three major companies control the vast majority of the baby formula marketRoughly 98% of baby formula distributed in the US is manufactured domesticallyDue to regulation it is very difficult to import any supply from international providersThe shortage is disproportionately impacting those low-income families relying upon government assistance to provide formulaOf course the government’s response to the problem it created was to throw more money at it. This week congress approved a $28 million emergency spending bill to assist low-income families with purchasing baby formula. Because let’s not address the root of the problem, right? This is a perfect example of how regulation can stifle competition and cripple the market. Baby food isn’t the only market that’s being unveiled as crooked, crony, government shenanigans. Supply chain woes caused by covid have revealed broken systems in: Meat packingStudent loan services providers and college ed (link) – so-called “scam schools” like the Marinello Schools of Beauty were found to be over-charging and under-providing and so $238M in loans to such schools were “forgiven” – meaning the students and the schools are off the hook. But guess who’s on it? Taxpayers.Big techCryptoAnd every Libertarian’s favorite, the fed (link) – who “hiked” interest rates by a ½ point in a continuing effort to control the economy. Cuz yeah. Central control of the economy is a real thing, right? right?And those war- and inflation-driven problems in the energy sector (link) and retail (link) Thankfully, there’s the Democrats to blame “greedflation” (link) or corporations and swiftly prepare legislation that would limit profits. Cuz yeah. That’ll work. ::facepalm:: Read more on our blog

    33 min
  3. Social Media Hysteria is becoming the new American pastime

    11/10/2023

    Social Media Hysteria is becoming the new American pastime

    In Season 2, episode 2, way back in January 2021 – holy cow! – we talked about the Crisis Cycle and the way the media has trained us (like monkeys) to get hysterical about specific things for specific reasons. The latest crisis to obsess some digital parts of the USA is the imminent takeover of Twitter by the billionaire Elon Musk. Musk has said he will remove the restrictive censorship policies at the social media platform and work to develop the technology so the service acts more like a public square. So we can unpack that a little, I mean, everyone is talking about it. But let’s also talk about social media in general and how young it is and how we don’t always get the business model or understand the real opportunity or risk of social media.  Then let’s talk about how online outrage seems to be our new favorite thing to do. We love to be caught up in the drama of the celebrities-said-and-then-we-said-and-you-should-be-mad-because. Okay. It’s exhausting. That’s not even all the things that belong in that hyphenated hysterical expression. Here’s a quick where you stand: Have you recently received via text a tiktok video? Are you aware Johnny Depp has been testifying this week? Has anyone ever called your attention to a drama unfolding and you realized, too late, that it was on Facebook? Do you have rules for your own social media usage? What about rules for your kids’ social media usage? What’s the right way to contextualize what they/we are seeing online? How can we get back into the real world and put perspective on the shit happening online? It’s all a business, right, so does knowing the business side of it help? Or does our logical business brain just annoy those social media junkies? (LOL) Read more on our blog

    37 min
  4. Death and Taxes

    11/10/2023

    Death and Taxes

    Benjamin Franklin once said “There are only two things certain in life: death and taxes”. With the 2021 tax deadline just behind us in our rearview mirrors it seems fitting to talk about the other certainty, death. Or, more specifically the death penalty.  This has been a topic of conversation in South Carolina for several months now. Last year, 2021, our legislature passed, and our governor signed, a bill that would allow for Death Row Inmates to choose how their execution would be carried out if lethal injection drugs were not available. They could choose either the electric chair or a firing squad. Yes, you read/heard that correctly- a firing squad. On March 18, 2022 (last month) the South Carolina Department of Corrections announced that it had finished its preparations, and that it is now able to carry out execution by firing squad.  And so here we are. It was announced on April 15 that Robert Bernard Moore, who was convicted and sentenced to death in the 1999 killing of a convenience store clerk, had chosen the firing squad as his method of execution and the date was set for April 29. Yesterday the South Carolina Supreme Court issued a temporary stay of execution, blocking South Carolina from carrying out its first ever execution by firing squad. Moore’s attorneys cited pending litigation in which they are challenging the constitutionality of the State’s execution methods. As they should.  So I (Kasie) wrote two blogs on this for the SCLP. One, last February (2021) I was crazy pissed. Here’s the link. The second was today, and while I was less angry with lawmakers, I was just as angry with the hypocrites (link). This afternoon, sitting by my neighbor’s pool, I talked about the topics of both blogs with H. A very astute nearly 14-year-old, HB observed: The state gets shit wrong a LOT. So how can we trust them to get this right? (I, Jessica, personally know a Death Row survivor. Charles Wakefield, Jr. was framed, charged, convicted and sentenced for a crime he did not commit. He spent 35 years in prison waiting to be executed before finally being paroled. He is actively working with a group of attorneys to clear his name. You can read more about his story here, and be sure to check out the Murder Etc Podcast)The punishment doesn’t fit the crime here. Why haven’t we appealed the sentence?Addiction is a sickness. Shouldn’t we try to help people who are sick?Okay, so on the taxes bit, we just want to mention this having been the week we supposedly rendered unto Caesar what is Caesar’s. And yet … Read more on our blog

    31 min
  5. Jesus was the OG libertarian

    11/10/2023

    Jesus was the OG libertarian

    Growing up many of us were taught that there are three things you don’t discuss in mixed company: 1. Politics, 2. Religion, and 3. Football. Living in the Social Media age, those are no longer taboo topics and are regularly discussed/debated on digital forums. What is also interesting is that those first two are beginning to find themselves colliding within churches as our division widens. We have never been so connected, yet still we are so far apart. I (Jess) attend a progressive Baptist church, much more love-based and mission driven than the fire and brimstone Southern Baptist Church in which I grew up. Our pastors often talk about responsibilities we have to our communities in our mission to live and serve in the example of Christ. It is a shame that we live in a world where loving your neighbor, the simplest of commandments, is considered “progressive”, but I digress.  Our Young Adults bible study group is currently working through an interesting book titled The Righteous Mind, Why Good People are Divided by Politics and Religion written by author Jonathan Haidt. I have not gotten very far into the book, but it provides a summary of the various political parties and the general messages people share in relation to them. Admittedly, I was very curious (probably more skeptical) when we began the study, and jumped ahead to read what “research” had told them about Libertarianism.  While the author has done a good job of breaking out a lot of policy-related principles, and our disdain for the misuse of government authority, he has left out two of our core and guiding principles that are the most important. The first is the Non-Aggression Principle (the NAP), which is the cornerstone of Libertarianism that rejects the use of force to achieve social or political goals. In short- Don’t hurt people and don’t take their stuff. The second is free will, or the freedom to make the decisions about your own affairs (so long as they don’t infringe on the rights of another).  So I (Kasie) attended a BIble study last year with a good friend and a group of women who were interested in studying the role of women in the foundation and perpetuation of the Christian church since its founding (i.e. Jesus’s time). We discovered through study that Jesus relied heavily on women in his practice and ministry and that the role(s) of those women have been, over the years, mangled by patriarchal interpretations of Christ. Now, I am sure you are wondering what any of this has to do with Jesus and talking to our kids about the intersection of politics and religion. The answer is simple… Jesus was a Libertarian, and both the Non-Aggression Principle and the concept of free will support this statement, even in the most elementary of ways. There are many examples written in the Gospels, but these three examples are simple and relatable when we are having conversations with kids about the correlation between core Libertarian principles and the teachings of Christ/Word of God: God’s love is not contingent upon compliance, but rather it is given freely and humans were given the freedom to choose whether they accept his love and his graceThe Ten Commandments include not killing and not stealing (which sounds an awful lot like the NAP)There are numerous accounts of Jesus healing the sick and feeding the poor without mandate, support, or even permission from the governmentHe even turned water into wine, making him, quite possibly, the most notorious bootlegger ever (that is a joke, guys) – yeah, but I know of Bible study in Spartanburg called What Would Jesus Brew. They meet at a brewery.Read more on our blog

    31 min
  6. The Sisterhood of Motherhood

    11/10/2023

    The Sisterhood of Motherhood

    However rewarding, being a mom can at times feel overwhelming. Kids don’t come with instructions, but they do each come with their own unique and individual personalities. Navigating parenting challenges can at times seem nearly impossible and even more lonely, but as the Turkish Proverb goes- “No road is long with good company.” With that in mind, the idea behind tonight’s episode was born. Support for one another: What do we mean when we say “support one another”Have you been supported by other moms, and how?Kasie – my best friend Jessica had a daughter almost 10 years before me so I go to her for almost everything: “Is this normal?” I haven’t always been great at supporting others. I am working on making myself more available and making time to reach out and connect.Provides support for our children: Supporting one another creates a network by which we can better support our children. “Indirect support” can create an environment where a mother is encouraged and empowered by other moms, which can have a positive impact on the mental health of the mother. What are some examples of indirect support you have received?Melissa – I’m a member of a few parenting FB groups. They can give you reassurance that you are not the crazy one. Especially when you are trying to do things differently than everyone else. I.E. limits on screen time, free-range, home/un schooling.Kasie – our neighborhood moms have a good amount of dialogue around schools, teachers, activities, and other suchness. Sharing the things we learn and hear and know gives us a wider (longer?) list of possibilities for our kids.“Direct support” creates an environment whereby “the village” has a more constant and visible role in the childrens’ lives.  Examples may be friends and family who actively participate in the lives of the children, providing role models and reinforcement. What are some examples of direct support you have received?Kasie – we have coaches and dance instructors (hired help?) but also neighbors who have a sense of who Hollie is and what she’s good at and what our values are. My mom and sister are influential in H’s life, too.Melissa – My mom and Grandmother take my kids for sleepovers quite often. When #3 was born my MIL stayed at my house for 3 months to watch her while I adjusted and went back to work.– How do you build your village?  – How do you  invest in your “village”?  – How does this support/encourage us to live the message of liberty?  Kasie – we built our village with Friday afternoons on the driveway. We invited neighbors over to join us and they became our network. It’s a valuable activity to invest in friends and spend time with them. Our monthly SCLP meetings I LOVE for Hollie to come so she can get to know ya’ll and Casey Crowe and we saw Victor at Beef’s on St Patrick’s Day and she greeted him like an old pal.It is easy to get wrapped up in the neverending day-to-day hustle and bustle, but building and investing in your village is absolutely one of the most beneficial things we can do for ourselves and our children. Read more on our blog

    42 min

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Libertarian Moms (and Dads) talk about raising our children by teaching them not to hurt people or take their stuff, how to think not what to think, and that taxation is theft. Unofficially associated with the South Carolina Libertarian Party. Politics, parenting, and free-range day-drinking.