I would love to hear from you. Send me questions or comments. What happens when the person who once guided you now needs your guidance? We invited author Ingrid Hansen Pop to talk about the hidden pressures of caregiving, why smart problem‑solvers still feel stuck, and how small mindset shifts can lower stress fast. From the myth of “I must fix everything” to the hard truth that plans fall apart under medical uncertainty, we get honest about what actually helps when a parent’s health changes. We dig into sibling dynamics without sugarcoating them. Some of us rush to lead; others freeze or avoid. Instead of chasing perfect consensus, we map clear lanes—medical, financial, logistics—so responsibilities are shared and expectations are real. Ingrid offers gentle scripts for raising tough topics with parents who won’t ask for help, using specific observations and empathy rather than judgment. We also highlight the quiet tells that support is needed: spoiled food, unread mail, trouble with steps, and favorite hobbies that no longer click. Caregiving gets lighter when you build a team. Think like migrating geese: no one flies alone. We show how to recruit neighbors, church friends, and community services for rides, check‑ins, and errands, and why every caregiver needs one friend designated for venting. For holidays and milestones, we share practical tweaks—earlier start times, shorter visits, daylight driving—that honor dignity while reducing risk. Throughout, Ingrid points to resources from her book, Becoming An Orphan, and a supportive online group that helps you problem‑solve in real time. If you’re feeling the weight of reversed roles, this conversation offers clarity, language, and next steps you can use today. Listen, take what fits, and share it with someone who needs a little less guilt and a little more team. If this helped, subscribe, leave a review, and pass it on to a friend who’s navigating care right now. Go to barnesandnoble.com to purchase Becoming An Orphan, and visit becominganorphan.com for resources and our online support group. Support the show