Pause. And Rewind...

Neil Hudson-Basing
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I’m Neil (he/him) - host of my podcast, Pause. And Rewind… I’ll be chatting to change makers, thought leaders & role models who all share a common goal. They’re striving to make the world a more inclusive place. And let’s face, we need it! Each guest has a unique story when it comes to doing their thing. We often know who people are in the now. But how much do we really know about them? Pause. And Rewind… takes a moment to explore the experiences in my guests’ lives that led them to where & who they are now. Cos’ everyone loves an origin story! We’ll dive into tales, anecdotes and what makes our guests tick. So, are you ready to Pause. And Rewind… ?

  1. Pause. And Rewind... with Saba Ali | Defiant. Compassionate. Humble.

    HACE 4 DÍAS

    Pause. And Rewind... with Saba Ali | Defiant. Compassionate. Humble.

    “I've never shied away from my past, I've never hidden anything. I don't believe in sugarcoating, what's happened to me. Because the reality is that my life's turned out amazing. I've been able to use my trauma to actually help heal other people as well as myself. I'm still learning every day and I've never forgotten my roots.” Powerful words from Saba Ali (she/her) - this week’s guest for ‘Pause. And Rewind…’ Saba is one of the most consistent, engaged & supportive humans I have the privilege of knowing. She’s an award-winning advocate & consultant with a broad range of expertise in areas with marginalised groups  around intersectionality, race & sexuality, violence against women & girls and cultural abuse. She’s worked extensively with the Met & Crown Prosecution Service and she’s the Safety and Met Liaison Manager at UK Black Pride, Interim Chair for the Ban Conversion Therapy Coalition & LGBTQIA+ Network Lead for the Royal Society of Arts.  It’s been quite a year for Saba. Back in April, she was awarded the Role Model of the Year at the Diva Awards 2025 - a thoroughly well-deserved & proud moment I got to witness. And very recently, Saba & her affectionately described ‘partner-in-crime’ Eva Echo recently won a long, drawn out tribunal case against some TERFS. We reflect on these moments & before diving into Saba’s origin story. Little Saba didn’t have the best start to live and often daydreamed of a fantasy world to escape childhood trauma & cultural abuse. With her mother as her perpetrator, she found it difficult to make sense of the world & felt a lot of anger. She looked for love in the wrong places & drug abuse followed. Finding herself in priority housing, nudged along by the support of a former colleague, Saba began her journey of healing - something she attributes to therapy & closure when her mother passed when Saba was in her early 40s. Her chosen words ‘defiant, compassionate & humble’ make a lot of sense for her origin story. Today, Saba shares how she lives life day to day and describes her world as a happy one. We chat about her love of community, the people who have shaped her, finding her way into inclusion & discovering her identity. Oh and her cats! There’s a few laughs around her belief that people are ‘just so stupid’ - Enjoy! PLEASE NOTE: This episode features conversations around cultural abuse, drug use & challenging family circumstances to please take care of yourself whilst listening.

    1 h y 25 min
  2. Pause. And Rewind... with Alex Feis Bryce | Eventful. Non-Linear. Lucky.

    9 SEP

    Pause. And Rewind... with Alex Feis Bryce | Eventful. Non-Linear. Lucky.

    “When people think about diversity & inclusion, they don’t often think about sex workers but they’re some of the most marginalised people globally in different communities so it feels natural to consider them.” Alex Feis-Bryce (he/him) is an award-winning third sector leader, campaigner and policy adviser with a track record of driving social change and services to support some of the most marginalised and oppressed people in society.  He’s the CEO of Diversity Role Models, a charity that delivers anti-bullying & diversity training in schools to students, staff & governors as well as parents & careers. His incredible career spans working as a political advisor, co-founding sex- worker safety charity National Ugly Mugs and working internationally advising organisations supporting sex workers and LGBTQ+ people.  Alex describes himself as a “weird little kid”who was rather eccentric & chose to wear big glasses! He even created his own history museum in the garden shed. This was stifled during his teenage years which he found frightening but it’s something he lent into more during the freedom of sixth form colleague and today. Throwing himself into football as a way of fitting-in has resulted in a love of the sport which brings him peace & joy. Alex’s work has also been hugely shaped by his personal experiences. On his first night out in Manchester after starting university, Alex was raped & during this conversation, he shares how he dealt with this in his own way, the positive responses he’s received from talking about his experience and how this led to his roles with Survivors UK and We Are Survivors. Contrary to how many other CEOs are perceived, Alex shared how he veers towards being conflict avoidant in work & relationships where he tends to focus on meeting the needs of others. A trait says a lot about the way Alex shows up in the world, his values & compassion. We talk about his early political career & the MP who had a huge influence on him, a mutual love of the book ‘The Dice Man’ by Luke Reinhart & the importance of Diversity Role Models for young people today. Their work is under threat due to pulled government funding. Their crowdfunding campaign, with a target of £100k, is crucial in ensuring they can continue their anti-bullying workshops in schools & collegues. So if you can donate, it would be hugely appreciated and you can do so here: https://www.iglyo.org/opportunities/drm-fundraiser-2025. His contribution was recognised earlier this year when he was named in the Pride Power List which celebrates the 100 most “powerful, dedicated and wonderful people within the LGBTQIA community who do everything in their power to make LGBTQIA life that little bit brighter.” You’ll hear why during this episode. PLEASE NOTE: This episode contains conversations about sexual abuse & rape so please take care of yourself whilst listening.

    1 h y 25 min
  3. Pause. And Rewind... with Kacey DeGroot | Random. Hilarious. Resilient.

    2 SEP

    Pause. And Rewind... with Kacey DeGroot | Random. Hilarious. Resilient.

    “I feel like I can make wins. I can win in the classroom & I can win in my school but it feels like I can win more for LGBT+ people & Trans people & Trans students as well as educators.” Kacey DeGroot (she/her), my first guest for season 4 of ‘Pause… And Rewind…’, is a drama teacher and trade unionist on a mission. She’s currently campaigning to be elected as the Deputy General Secretary of the National Education Union (NEU), the largest education union in Europe, representing teachers, lecturers, support staff, and school leaders in the UK's maintained and independent schools and colleges. Having been involved for many years within the NEU’s LGBTQ+ committee, she’s ready to step up. Which has come at a crucial time with schools feeling the impact of the Supreme Court Ruling & EHRC guidance on gender & bathrooms. Kacey began teaching in 2005 and when she transitioned in 2018, it was the support of union members that got her through. She made a video for her whole school & she was able to thrive in her role as a teacher. Fast forward to today’s landscape for Trans+ folk and things are much more challenging - something Kacey has felt the brunt of. But she is feeling the spirit of fight & resistance within herself & the community. We talk about Little Kacey being a ‘daydreamer’ & an ‘oddbod’ with a desperate desire to fit in. We also chat about the influence of her dad as a market trader on her theatrical flair along with the realisation of her ADHD & transness, her career journey from door to door sales to performing and becoming a teacher which she loves. Kacey is at an exciting crossroads in her life. Listen in to this conversation and please do show your support for Kacey however you can. If you’re a teacher & part of the NEU, please consider voting for Kacey. If you know a teacher, share Kacey’s story with them. Kacey is a voice for change - she’s got the experience, she’s done the work and we need more Trans+ people in positions like the one she’s campaigning for. Read more about Kacey’s campaign here | https://www.kaceydegroot.org/deputy-general-secretary PLEASE NOTE | We do cover some challenging topics during this conversation around mental health, suicide & the current landscape for the Trans+ community. Please take care of yourself whilst listening.

    1 h y 26 min
  4. Pause. And Rewind... with Harry Gay | Kicking-Off. Chaos. Serenity.

    6 AGO

    Pause. And Rewind... with Harry Gay | Kicking-Off. Chaos. Serenity.

    “I’ve experienced things I never thought I’d experience. I’ve experienced freedom I never thought I would have. I didn’t even know it existed.” This a powerful reflection around sobriety from this week’s guest on ‘Pause. And Rewind…’ that I really relate to. Harry Gay (he/him) - YES, that’s his real name and there’s a brilliant story about it in this episode - is a DJ, event producer & activist. He’s the Founder & Co-Director of London-based DJ collection Queer House Party which started as online venture during lockdown fronted by a crew of frontline workers who threw their DJ equipment together & went with it. It’s since become a mainstay of nightlife in the capital - bold, political, unapologetic.  Harry brings a shit ton of creativity, skill & energy to his DJing & reflects on the journey as DJ & Queer House Party, what it stands for and how it’s evolved organically.  Little Harry grew up in Hertfordshire in a working class, single parent household and we chat about his constantly being in trouble at school, family dynamics & feeling out of place. His experience of ADHD, and a later diagnosis, have helped him make sense of much of this and he goes on to describe how going sober has also become a part of that. Which is particularly timely given he’s just celebrated his third soberversary. Despite struggling with education, Harry went on to become top of his class at university and his studies, as well as settling into London life, informed much of his work around activism, advocacy & campaigning on a variety of issues including supporting asylum seekers, homelessness & youth advocacy.  When asked what he’s proud of, Harry reflects on his 15 year old self sneaking out to G-A-Y bar in Soho where he started to find community, belonging & an interest in politics. He also fondly reflects on the angry energy he had in his 20s. These days, despite being in nightlife and living the freelance life, he enjoys calmness. And the three words Harry uses to describe his origin story - Kicking-Off. Chaos. Serenity - really capture him & his origin story. “Trust yourself. No-one knows what they’re doing. It’s a realisation I had far too late”. He’s not just one of my favourite DJs out there. Harry is someone I’ve personally learned a lot from & I’m so grateful for this conversation as I close out season 3. Enjoy!

    1 h y 17 min
  5. Pause. And Rewind... with Emily Hamilton | Stubborn. Tenacious. Frightened.

    23 JUL

    Pause. And Rewind... with Emily Hamilton | Stubborn. Tenacious. Frightened.

    “I don’t care if it’s just one person at a time. Because one person talks to one person talks to one person. That’s how you win.” LGBTQ+ inclusion and rugby in the topic here as this week’s guest on ‘Pause. And Rewind…’ shares their efforts in founding & becoming the Chair of the World's First LGBTQIA+ supporters' association in World Professional Rugby, QuinsPride at Harlequins. It’s impressive - and so is Emily Hamilton (she/her).  Emily is Deputy CEO of Trans in the City and a FTSE 100 Vice President with a 25 year career in Strategic Change and Transformation. She’s a global speaker on Trans+ inclusion, mental health & business effectiveness. She sits on advisory panels for the Police and CPS in the cause of eradicating LGBTQ+ Hate Crime and Violence against Women and Girls. She’s award winning - rightly so - and she’s using her passion, expertise & skills to improve the lives of trans+ individuals in the workplace & beyond. Little Emily grew in West London and knew she was different. She had a fascination with jewelry & wanted to be Madonna. During an appointment with a child psychologist in an early attempt to come out. “I’m a girl”,  she shared. She knew she’d said something wrong from the response leading to conversion therapy.  Masking, self preservation & shame are all part of Emily’s story. And whilst she reflects fondly of her career in the military, like other guests, there was the constant fear of ‘the knock on the door’. Emily’s advocacy for mental health means she openly shares her multiple experiences of attempting suicide & the life-saving call from a dear friend being the reason she is still her today. And she’s proud to still be here. “If you’re not here, you can’t do any more good, can you?”. I know I speak for so many people when I say I’m truly glad Emily is still here. The words Emily uses to describe her origin story are ‘Stubbon. Tenacity. Frightened.’ All of which shape Emily, her purpose & her lived experience as a bisexual, Trans woman. And whilst the current landscape for the Trans+ community is frightening and has taken her back to a darker space over the last 6 - 9 months, Emily sees hope - more organisation & urgency, a greater sense of community & egos dropping away as we come together. She believes change is possible. The army taught her that “if the political will is there you can change rapidly”. We talk through her career shift from the army to business as well as self-care & kindness, accountability & forgiveness, the cost of visibility, Emily’s pride in her wonderful daughter & not waiting for permission to ‘do the thing’. Please note | We cover some challenging topics in this episode, specifically around mental health & suicide so please take care of yourself whilst listening.

    1 h y 33 min
  6. Pause. And Rewind... with Aby Hawker | Run Towards It.

    16 JUL

    Pause. And Rewind... with Aby Hawker | Run Towards It.

    “It’s all about changing hearts & minds. That’s kind of me all over really.” With a career in PR working across small & large agencies through to founding TransMission PR - lovingly described as her third child - for Aby Hawker (she/her), it’s truly a mission driven by love, values & an incredibly clear stance on what it’s all about. That being to flip the narrative and prioritise uplifting Trans+ representation & stories across the board. Aby is the first LGBTQ+ ally I’ve had on ‘Pause. And Rewind…’ and we talk about her journey to the space she’s in now as a cisgender, straight woman from taking on comms in Trans+ healthcare for Gender GP over a decade ago through to founding a Trans+ focused PR agency that centres collaboration, lived experience & expertise and positive change for the community. I was curious as to how much of Aby’s origin story has influenced the Aby we know & love today… Little Aby was a self-labelled “total swot” who wasn’t easily deterred from her goals. She reflects on how this was driven by a need to please, potentially as a result from coming from a divorced background, but how it’s got her to where she needed to be. Being born in Italy & spending time there throughout her life meant that Aby completed a degree in languages which sparked the revelation “now I know what I don’t want to do”. Aby’s determination, clarity around who she is & a firm belief in what’s right & wrong clearly shows up in her work now. An eternal optimism, tenacity & learning to be a bit braver are fundamental to her story and the three words she uses to describe herself & her origin story ‘Run Towards It’ couldn’t be more fitting. We chat about career failures, take-aways for anyone wanting to go into PR, parenting, success & happiness and some solid advice including ‘don’t be a dick’. Enjoy! If your organisation would like to work with TransMission PR, get in touch | https://transmissionpr.com/ Oh and go stream ‘First Day’ on YouTube - available to watch now | https://www.youtube.com/@firstdaytvseries

    1 h y 5 min
  7. Pause. And Rewind... with Andrew Flewitt | Unapologetic. Proud. Love.

    9 JUL

    Pause. And Rewind... with Andrew Flewitt | Unapologetic. Proud. Love.

    “To blend is not something I want to do.” And this certainly shows with this week’s guest on ‘Pause. And Rewind…’. Whether it’s through their creative outlets, owning their queerness as a superpower or busting out nail polish that matches the front cover of their debut book, Andrew Flewitt (he/him) is passionate, unapologetic & ambitious. He’s the host & producer of the podcast ‘Queer I Am’, now approaching its sixth season, public speaker and now author. In our conversation, Andrew reflects on his twenties as a period where he did blend having followed a fairly heteronormative approach to life - something he didn’t realise at the time but that he’s definitely not following now! Andrew’s life has been massively shaped by loss. It’s the centre of his newly published book ‘Do You Believe in Life After Loss: Queer Stories of Loss, Hope & Resilience’. It’s a topic the book, & this conversation, dives into. Through interviews with those featured in the book as well as his own experiences, Andrew is changing the way we look at & talk about loss because essentially, as he states, “we all lose”. From the death of one of his best friends at 26 and his father several years ago through to the breakdown of his relationship, & subsequent reconciliation, with his partner Theo, Andrew shares it all. He also reflects on the importance of walking from toxic family dynamics - an experience that resonates deeply with me - and how this is often best for everyone. We discuss how Little Andrew LOVED Tina Turner & was a bit of a dreamer as well as his early working life as a hotel receptionist & the insurance industry before establishing a career in HR. Having chased success, he admits it’s a role he enjoys - that’s ultimately led him to where & who he is now - but it’s his creativity that’s his true passion. Pursuing that came later in life with a growing confidence & life experience. “I love a lot. I love hard.” This is also pretty clear when you get to Andrew so listen in & enjoy… Oh & go grab a copy of his new book from your local queer independent retailer & download ‘Queer I Am’.

    1 h y 24 min
  8. Pause. And Rewind... with Darkwah | Effervescent. Emotional. Eventful.

    2 JUL

    Pause. And Rewind... with Darkwah | Effervescent. Emotional. Eventful.

    “It's exhausting existing authentically in a world that claims to value authenticity. But at every turn of that authenticity being revealed asks it to politely put itself in the box that it was given.” This conversation is PACKED with deep reflection & wise wise wise words of wisdom from Darkwah (they/them), this week’s guest for ‘Pause. And Rewind…’ Darkwah is a multi-disciplinary artist, content creator, activist & visionary with a passion for beauty, self-expression & community. We explore where all of these things stem from including Little Darkwah’s upbringing, breaking away from tradition & not ever feeling safe to give all of themself to those around them; through to a moment looking in the mirror whilst residing at a YMCA where they decided to stop running away. The conversation gets fired up from the start with Darkwah expressing their rage at companies pulling back on their support for Pride & the LGBTQ+ community. It’s a rage born out of love for humanity. Love is a common theme during this episode. We explore Darkwah’s journey into polyamory, its complexities, lessons & joy. Darkwah shares how their partner Dom has shown them how to love themself and  given them space to “be still, reflect a little more & be softer to the touch.” Together they’ve got a new venture coming up called ‘Grow Your Glow’ in collaboration with Blossom LGBT+ which they’re super excited about! Our chat also covers putting the term ‘maybe’ in the bin, the importance of finding your ‘why’ when thinking about inclusion, what’s on the menu when cooking for friends & an enthusiastic outburst for Britney Jean Spears. As always, Darkwah SHOWS UP in this episode… ENJOY! Please note | We cover some challenging topics in this episode, specifically around mental health & suicidal thoughts so please take care of yourself whilst listening.

    1 h y 20 min
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I’m Neil (he/him) - host of my podcast, Pause. And Rewind… I’ll be chatting to change makers, thought leaders & role models who all share a common goal. They’re striving to make the world a more inclusive place. And let’s face, we need it! Each guest has a unique story when it comes to doing their thing. We often know who people are in the now. But how much do we really know about them? Pause. And Rewind… takes a moment to explore the experiences in my guests’ lives that led them to where & who they are now. Cos’ everyone loves an origin story! We’ll dive into tales, anecdotes and what makes our guests tick. So, are you ready to Pause. And Rewind… ?

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    Neil Hudson-Basing
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