Weekend Service for May 31Scripture Readings: Luke 2:41-52The goal of parenting adolescents is not to control but to cultivate wisdom, character, and connection that last. The call is holding on while letting go. Early on, protection makes sense. The oven is a bad place for a toddler. But adolescence needs guidance, not gates. The cookie recipe image does the work here: measurement, patience, and practice teach reality better than grabbing the whole bag of flour. Influence learns how to let go while still holding on, and it resists the urge to overcorrect.Adolescence frustrates because what works on a tantruming four-year-old falls flat on a questioning twelve-year-old. Their pushback can feel like rebellion, but most of it is normal development by God’s design. The dog-training story makes the point plain. Daisy could be obedient, but she never gained wisdom, judgment, conviction, or faith. Children must grow those on purpose.Luke 2 lets Jesus lead the way. At twelve he stays in the temple, listens and asks questions, amazes the teachers, then goes home and lives obediently. The text holds both identity-seeking and family honor together. Mary stores it up and learns. Identity formation is the work of these years: Who am I, where do I belong, what do I believe, what is my purpose? Parents can hand down habits, but teens must own faith for themselves, or the world will gladly hand them another name.Connection out-influences control. James says be quick to listen, slow to speak, slow to get angry. Coaching from the dugout illustrates it: ask, draw out fear, and then coach courage. Intentional one-on-one time builds a safe home where kids bring news, good or bad. Rules matter, but the destination is wisdom. Proverbs 4 presses it home: get wisdom, develop good judgment.Training decision-making is a gift for the day a child leaves. Bring them into choices now, while influence is strong. Luke 2 ends with a parent’s posture: obedience, treasuring, and trust. The limits of control will surface, and fear will rise. Release the illusion of control, give children to God, and lean into faithful influence. The adolescent years are not about perfect pictures. They are about deepening influence so sons and daughters grow into adults who follow Christ on their own.[00:00] Welcome[00:10] From diapers to adolescents[01:10] Cultivating wisdom, not control[02:27] Oven-to-kitchen growth analogy[03:37] Influence without overcorrecting[04:48] Toddlers vs. adolescents[07:59] Daisy: obedience isn’t wisdom[11:56] Jesus at twelve, temple focus[16:49] From parents’ faith to personal[17:46] Connection over control: listen slow[22:30] Get wisdom, develop judgment[24:32] Training decision-making for life[25:59] Mary treasures, trusting God[27:57] Releasing control, embracing influence[30:52] Raising adults who follow Christ