Plan A Happy Life

Stephanie Fleming

Stephanie Fleming, happiness activist and the creative entrepreneur behind The Happy Planner, is here to help you (yes, you!) plan a happy life. Every week, Stephanie and her daughter Kayla tackle one approachable way you can bring a little more happiness into your relationships, career, home, and everyday life.

  1. 05/25/2020

    Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone & Try Something New!

    Today we chat about the benefits of stepping out of your comfort zone! Routines build habits and habits can be extremely helpful when trying to introduce new behaviors into your daily life.  However, as with most things, the magic lies somewhere in the middle. Too rigid...you miss out on all the potential that spontaneity or trying something new can bring.  Too "loosey goosey", with no self-discipline and you’ll never get anything accomplished. You may be the life of the party, up for anything, all the time but your life may also get a bit out of control. Trying new things is really scary for a lot of people.  Why? FEAR or fear of failure - humans actually fear an unknown outcome more than they do a negative or bad one.  That helps explain why it’s so daunting for so many of us to try new things.  To just let go and try.  One of the best ways to combat the fear is to ask yourself, “What is the worst that could happen?”  Is the worst really that bad?  Bad enough to stop you from trying? Let’s look at the benefits of trying new things! You may discover new passions, interests or activities that you enjoyIt challenges you - keeps you sharp and you continue to learnIt feels good/ builds confidenceIIt gives you an new sense of appreciation and respect for other people that do or excel at that particular activity or thingIt keeps you flexible (not rigid) - (Definition: A person with a rigid personality is, as the word describes, inflexible. They find it very hard to understand and sometimes even acknowledge the perspectives, feelings, and ideas of other people)  A really fun way to help make these new things come to life is to...CREATE A VISUAL BUCKET LIST! (combination of vision board and a bucket list) Step 1 - Decide the time frame for your bucket list. Is it for the spring? Is it for the year?  Step 2 - Decide what items will be on your bucket list. I like adding both big and small adventures. That way, when I’m looking for something to do, I have a lot of options. These can be anything you want, from big trips to simple things you want to do with your family and friends, or for yourself. For example, for my summer bucket list, I want to go kayaking, participate in a color run, take a fishing trip, and even try out a sensory deprivation float tank. (That last one honestly has me a little freaked out, but I want to give it a try!) Step 3 - Create a way to track your bucket list. I like to use the Happy Planner Page Protectors for this (the ones for 2x2 cards), but you can use whatever works for you. I write out each item on my list on a 2x2 piece of cardstock and slide them into the pockets. Step 4 - Find an image that represents that item. You can use a picture, magazine clippings, or an image from Pinterest or a Google search. I just took screenshots and that worked perfectly. Size your images to 2x2 (or whatever size you need) and trim.  Step 5 - Put the list where you will see it and be inspired by it. That could be on your refrigerator, on your mirror, or on your desk. I keep mine in my planner so I see it every day. Step 6 - When you check an item off your list, be sure to capture the moment with a photo or selfie. You’ll be so glad you did. Add your photo to your bucket list as a lovely reminder of dreams come true. We want to see your visual bucket lists! Follow and tag us on Instagram @planahappyplifepod Can't wait to see the new things you try! xo Steph & Kayla

    52 min
  2. 04/27/2020

    Lessons From Historical Optimists

    During these uncertain times (COVID-19) it is easy to feel down and have a pessimistic attitude. BUT it is truly possible to change your outlook and choose the happy side! It may not change the challenges we face but the way we face them and how we choose to tackle them. These 3 incredible people who have lived before us are the epitome of optimism… in unfortunate - even tragic - situations. Their words are wise and true. NELSON MANDELA - South Africa’s first black president, Nobel Peace prize winner and anti-Apartheid icon.  Spent 27 years in prison. “I am fundamentally an optimist. Whether that comes from nature or nurture, I cannot say. Part of being optimistic is keeping one’s head pointed toward the sun, one’s feet moving forward. There were many dark moments when my faith in humanity was sorely tested, but I would not and could not give myself up to despair. That way lays defeat and death.” – Nelson Mandela “Everyone can rise above their circumstances and achieve success if they are dedicated to and passionate about what they do.” – Nelson Mandela “Do not judge me by my successes, judge me by how many times I fell down and got back up again.” – Nelson Mandela “When people are determined they can overcome anything.” – Nelson Mandela ANNE FRANK – Diary of a Young Girl – She started her diary at the age of 13 while hiding from the Germans during WWII.  She hid for 2 years, writing all the while until she and her family were found and sent to Auschwitz…the infamous concentration/death camp.  She died before she was 16.  Her father, Otto, survived and published her diary.   “Think of all the beauty still left around you and be happy.” – Anne Frank “I've found that there is always some beauty left -- in nature, sunshine, freedom, in yourself; these can all help you.” – Anne Frank “I can’t imagine how anyone can say: ‘I’m weak’, and then remain so. After all, if you know it, why not fight against it, why not try to train your character?” – Anne Frank “We all live with the objective of being happy; our lives are all different and yet the same.” – Anne Frank   HELEN KELLER – Author, activist and lecturer – Helen was left deaf, blind and mute as a result of an unknown illness at the age of 19 months. Her lifelong instructor and eventual companion, Anne Sullivan, taught Helen to communicate by spelling words with her hands, using sign language.  Helen couldn’t see, so she had to feel the hands of the person communicating with her.  The process was really difficult for her and as she recalls, she became extremely frustrated because she didn’t even know the words existed.  On January 22, 1916, Keller and Sullivan traveled to the small town in Wisconsin to deliver a lecture at the Mabel Tainter Memorial Building. Details of her talk were provided in the weekly Dunn County News on January 22, 1916:  A message of optimism, of hope, of good cheer, and of loving service was brought to Menomonie Saturday—a message that will linger long with those fortunate enough to have received it.  When part of the account was reprinted in the January 20, 2016 edition of the paper under the heading "From the Files", the column compiler added  According to those who attended, Helen Keller spoke of the joy that life gave her. She was thankful for the abilities that she did possess and stated that the most productive pleasures she had were curiosity and imagination. Keller also spoke of the joy of service and the happiness that came from doing things for others ... Keller imparted that "helping your fellow men were one's only excuse for being in this world and in the doing of things to help one's fellows lay the secret of lasting happiness." She also told of the joys of loving work and accomplishment and the happiness of achievement. Although the entire lecture lasted only a little over an hour, the lecture had a profound impact on the audience.    "When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us." – Helen Keller "I take happiness very seriously. It is a creed, a philosophy and an objective." – Helen Keller "Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement; nothing can be done without hope." – Helen Keller "Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see the shadows." – Helen Keller "Many of us delude ourselves with the thought that if we could stand in the lot of our more fortunate neighbor, we could live better, happier and more useful lives…It is my experience that unless we can succeed in our present position, we could not succeed in any other." – Helen Keller “True happiness... is not attained through self-gratification, but through fidelity to a worthy purpose.” – Helen Keller We hope this brings you a new optimistic outlook for life. We can do this! xo Stephanie & Kayla

    48 min
  3. 04/20/2020

    Developing Mental Toughness: Life lessons from the baseball field with Tyler Rahmatulla

    Today, we have a VERY special guest…Tyler Rahmatulla, Stephanie’s son and Kayla’s brother! Tyler is a husband, father of 3 boys (and another one on the way), and former professional baseball player. He played all through his childhood in to his adult years – from Mater Dei High School, UCLA and ultimately playing for the St. Louis Cardinals’ minor league teams. In this episode, he talks with us about the life of a collegiate and professional athlete and how it demands a mental toughness in order to be successful.  Throughout Tyler’s baseball career he worked with some incredibly wise mentors, coaches and fellow athletes. Along the way he learned lessons of “mental toughness” that he put to use on the field and continues to implement in his daily life today. Among those mentors was Ken Ravizza, a sport psychologist, who played a major role in changing Tyler’s mental game for the better. He consulted with countless athletes and helped them reach peak performance - all starting with their mind.  “Destructive little voices in your head are often fueled by destructive emotions. Try to turn off your emotions and think logically”- Ken Ravizza Some topics we cover: Confidence vs conceitPreparation / planningControl the controllablesBeing PresentTyler also hosts a podcast: The Brushback Baseball Podcast It covers all things baseball, baseball, and more baseball. Tyler and co-host David Klein (avid Dodgers fan, stat memorizer, and semi-pro baseball historian) are at opposite ends of the baseball spectrum but use this dialog to share each unique perspective. They aim to share weekly discussions of MLB news, life/mindset of a ballplayer, the business side of baseball and interviews with players, coaches, and everybody in between. You can find them on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, & Instagram. Tyler's Instgram And because we can... A proud mom and little sister moment: Check out Tyler's home run mentioned in the episode here & here.   xo Stephanie & Kayla

    1h 26m
4.9
out of 5
199 Ratings

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Stephanie Fleming, happiness activist and the creative entrepreneur behind The Happy Planner, is here to help you (yes, you!) plan a happy life. Every week, Stephanie and her daughter Kayla tackle one approachable way you can bring a little more happiness into your relationships, career, home, and everyday life.