Podcast Benomtad

Ben Lundy

Open, friendly, philosophical discussions about folktales, society, culture, and wisdom.  

  1. MAR 7

    The Myth of Narcissus: Seeing Only Oneself

    Echo was cursed to only repeat what others had said, and fell in love with Narcissus, who shunned her.  She wasn’t the only one Narcissus treated coldly.  He found himself in a grove with a pool of water, and, falling deeply in love with what he saw when he bent over it, he was mesmerized until he died.   We discuss this myth, using Bulfinch’s version, and go on to discuss psychology, philosophy and spirituality against the background of Narcissus, his rejection of Echo, and being lost in the pool.   Chapters:   00:00 Introduction 10:25 The Pool 16:22 The Reflection of Narcissus’ Pool is What the Mind Sees 22:34 Narcissus Rejects Love for Another 27:30 Attachment Theory 36:40 Divorce 48:40 Rousseau & Amour-Propre 57:26 Why Narcissists Don’t Seek Help 1:07:45 Narcissism and the Ecological Crisis 1:08:45 Realizing True Nature and Narcissism 1:15:28 An Antidote to Ecocentrism 1:21:10 Vervaeke’s Narcissism: Unearned Positive Regard 1:30:34 Dialogue as Spiritual Practice 1:33:44 Echo’s Touch Repulses Narcissus 1:37:08 The Echo of Orpheus 1:42:30 On the Edge of Narcissus’ Pond 1:50:00 The Decline of Social Media: Cultivating the Mask 2:12:30 A Surge in the Need for Religion 2:18:02 Not Forcing the Religion   Thank you for watching!  Please check out:   The Podcast Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLMIlJwXEK2vqfEOVgfclRgZNXO4boyP3T   The Episode Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLMIlJwXEK2vq-TnaienDlJJ1ZdTknAqVn   For more in this podcast, please go to: Podbean: https://benomtad.podbean.com Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/podcast-benomtad/id1748320863 YouTube: https://m.youtube.com/@scissorsandpaper/videos Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4kJPGlaJjGVyLa9AKhci6t?si=8XXrX9FUT3CU71reCfA5kQ X: https://x.com/Benomtad Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/benomtad   I plan to conduct more interviews with various guests, so please check back later for those.

    2h 21m
  2. MAR 2

    Grimm's "The Seven Ravens:" Sacrifice for Family

    A father had seven sons, but no daughters, and wished for and finally got one.  His sons went to get water for the Christening, but dropped the bucket into it.  They did not know what to do, so they stayed out, and the father in his frustration wished them to become ravens, and so they did, and flew away.  Now the daughter grew to be healthy and beautiful, and did not know of her brothers.  But one day in town she heard others talking of them, and she felt guilty.  She decided to go out and find them, encountering bodies at the ends of the cosmos, sacrificing her finger in a glass mountain, and meeting a strange mountain creature.  But the ring she brought reminded them of their human lives, and with the help of the stars, the daughter is able to restore her family.     Join us for a short meditation, the reading of this tale, and a discussion of it!     Chapters:   00:00 Introduction 00:15 Short Breathing Meditation & Oasis Contemplation 08:08 Reading of “The Seven Ravens” 14:16 The Theme of Sacrifice in this Story 15:59 Pagan Worldview Seeping Through this Story 21:54 The Image of the Glass Mountain 24:22 The Wish in Folktales 25:35 The Celestial Symbols 28:04 The Theme of Sacrifice & Closing Thoughts “The Seven Ravens,” trans. Lucas & illus. by Arthur Rackham: https://en.wikisource.org/wiki/The_Fairy_Tales_of_the_Brothers_Grimm_(Rackham)/The_Seven_Ravens   (A Clip from the Episode Grimm’s “The Seven Ravens:” Sacrifice for Family)   Thank you for watching!  Please check out:   The full video episode: https://youtu.be/VVukeVNsl6A   The Podcast Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLMIlJwXEK2vqfEOVgfclRgZNXO4boyP3T   The Episode Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLMIlJwXEK2vq-TnaienDlJJ1ZdTknAqVn   Lumsden’s “Beauty and the Beast:” https://en.wikisource.org/wiki/Beauty_and_the_Beast_(Lumsden_and_Son)   For more in this podcast, please go to: Podbean: https://benomtad.podbean.com Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/podcast-benomtad/id1748320863 YouTube: https://m.youtube.com/@scissorsandpaper/videos Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4kJPGlaJjGVyLa9AKhci6t?si=8XXrX9FUT3CU71reCfA5kQ X: https://x.com/Benomtad Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/benomtad   I plan to conduct more interviews with various guests, so please check back later for those.   Clip Intro Music “A Baroque Letter” - Aaron Kenny

    30 min
  3. FEB 19

    "Beauty and the Beast:" The Need for Beauty

    A rich merchant with three sons and three daughters– the eldest daughters hold out on marriage to a Duke or Earl, but the youngest, aptly-named Beauty, does so to stay with her father a few more years.  The merchant falls in his fortunes, and they have to move to the country.  The men apply themselves to husbandry and tillage, and Beauty to housework, but the eldest stay lazy.   One day, the merchant gets a letter about a ship arriving with effects of his and he sets off, asking his daughters what they would like.  The eldest ask for goods of luxury, but Beauty only for a simple rose.  When the merchant arrived at port, they went to law with him about the goods, and he left poor as before.   Glad, however, to return to his family, the merchant got lost in the woods as a storm brewed.  He spied a castle lit from top to bottom in the distance and took shelter there.  Strangely, the beautiful manor was unoccupied, although a large meal was set out.  He ate and eventually began to explore the house and its luxurious apartments.  Sleep overtook him in one of them.   In the morning he was delighted to see arbours outside, and went to them, dining on chocolate mysteriously set out for him on the way.  Remembering Beauty’s gift request, he took a rose, but then a ferocious beast appeared and set on him.  For his abuse of hospitality, he would die, but the merchant pleaded with the Beast, mentioning his daughters.  The Beast said to return with the daughter, who must willingly enter into marriage with him.  He was allowed to leave with a gold-laden chest.   Despondent, the merchant returned home.  The sisters blamed Beauty for her gift, and the brothers wanted to kill the beast.  However, the merchant knew they did not stand a chance, and Beauty would not hear of her father’s going back without her.   Beauty, despairing, was visited by a fine lady in her dreams the first night.  The lady said she was pleased with Beauty’s reasons for staying there, and that she would be rewarded.  Beauty lived at the castle, dining alone with beautiful music and books, and not seeing her suitor until he appeared at nine every night.  She was horrified by his appearance, but over time she began to have affection for  him, and to look forward to his visits.  She would not consent to his nuptial offer, however, and when she saw in a magic mirror that her father was sick with longing for her, she asked to return home for a week’s visit.  Beast consented, but warned her he might die of grief should she not return in time.  He gave her a ring to lay on her bedside before sleep.   Beauty woke up back at home, finding her sisters have been married off and her brothers gone to the army.  She is surprised at the trunk of clothes near her bed.  Her sisters came for a visit, but when the week was up they conspired and feigned tears to make her stay longer, thinking the beast would devour her in rage at her tardiness.  She consented, but worried after the Beast and one day dreamed of him sprawled out on the lawn.  After an additional week, she lay the ring at her bedside and was joyful to wake up in the palace.   She could not find the beast, however, and was despondent when she found him outside as in her dream.  She consented to marry him, and he became a handsome prince.  He’d been transformed by a fairy and was not allowed to tell the conditions of his liberation.  Beauty was overjoyed to find her family living in the castle, but her sisters were turned into stone for their envy and malice by the same lady who’d appeared to Beauty in her dreams.     Please join us as we read and discuss this English translation of Beaumont’s “Beauty and the Beast,” a story about virtue and vice, just desserts, and judgment, and the transformative power of beauty.   Lumsden’s “Beauty and the Beast:” https://en.wikisource.org/wiki/Beauty_and_the_Beast_(Lumsden_and_Son) 00:00 Introduction 00:43 Brief Meditation 05:43 Reading of Lumsden’s 1820 version 39:28 Ideal Feminine Virtue 41:15 Class in this Story 42:30 The Youngest is Prettiest 44:18 Beauty is the Only Complete Person 46:15 Difference between this story and “Cupid and Psyche” 49:20 The Empty, Ugly Palace 57:14 Why are Beauty’s Sisters Transformed into Statues? 58:45 The Beast Lacks Wit 59:45 The Significance of the Rose 1:03:31 The Power of not Being Deceived by Appearances   The full video episode: https://youtu.be/G3AhWHN4Gyc?si=kJxXDtlQT7Q3rv0c   Audio episode: https://benomtad.podbean.com/e/a-fairy-tale-of-a-good-but-endangered-boy/   The Podcast Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLMIlJwXEK2vqfEOVgfclRgZNXO4boyP3T   The Episode Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLMIlJwXEK2vq-TnaienDlJJ1ZdTknAqVn   For more in this podcast, please go to: Podbean: https://benomtad.podbean.com Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/podcast-benomtad/id1748320863 YouTube: https://m.youtube.com/@scissorsandpaper/videos Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4kJPGlaJjGVyLa9AKhci6t?si=8XXrX9FUT3CU71reCfA5kQ X: https://x.com/Benomtad Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/benomtad   I plan to conduct more interviews with various guests, so please check back later for those.

    1h 7m
  4. FEB 9

    A Fairy Tale of A Good but Endangered Boy

    VonSchönwerth’s “The Knight’s Sash” is a story about an intrepid son without a father, who continually does his duty, eventually wins love and devotion.  We summarize and then discuss the story. A hunter’s widow and her son, Hans, were always wandering around, but they espied a castle in the forest, and the giant living there eventually married his mother.  He loved hunting, and one day he saw a tree with no branches, and a knight’s sash at the top that he got.  Written on it was: “Whoever puts me on will have superhuman strength.”  He shot a deer and carried it home.  The giant and the mother started worrying about the boy’s strength, and the giant feigned illness and they told Hans the only cure was lioness's milk. Hans went to a lioness in a nearby cave, who was standing in a submissive gesture, and he threw away his weapons and embraced her.  She followed him home and his parents cooked up another mission.   Not far away, a giant’s castle supposedly had apples growing on its grounds that would cure his stepfather.  The giant was out robbing and looting, and Hans picked some apples, and then broke into the castle and found a princess tied up, stark naked.  He started a bonfire in the yard and that attracted soldiers from her country, who offered to take Hans with them, but he refused, for his father was sick. Hans’ mother noticed the sash, and she prepared a bath for him so he would take it off.  The giant poked out Hans’ eyes and threw him out of the castle.  Hans traveled with his lioness, and almost died of thirst, but the lioness jumped on the cart of a passing wine merchant and revived him with the wine.  The merchant took Hans to the city, and the princess noticed him from her window, and she ran down, embraced him, and took him to an oculist who made him artificial eyes.  Her father the king was happy to have a successor, but after the wedding, the people rioted, not wanting to be led by a blind man.   Hans and his wife wandered.  One day they came to a brook, and they witnessed two mice, one blind being led by the other, who washed the blind one’s eyes, and it regained its sight.  The princess did the same for Hans, and they returned joyfully to the town.  They lived happily until Hans died, whereupon the lioness lay down in his grave until she too died.   00:00 Introduction 00:43 Short Breathing Meditation 04:55 Summary of “The Knight’s Sash” 12:05 A Short Story Chock full of Information and Drama 14:07 A Giant Threatened by Hans 15:56 Hans, Son of a Hunter 18:05 Hans and His Mother Find a Castle in the Woods  25:00 Nonviolent Hans 25:54 A Giant and a Bad Father 27:50 A Bad Father Threatened by Hans 32:14 Maturing, Dutiful Hans, is Thrown Out 37:53 Hans, Guileless with His Parents, Gets a Lion  45:50 Why Aren’t the Princess and the Lioness Ever Seen Together? 47:56 The Marauding Giant and His Dead Father 51:13 The Tale’s Good Father & Hans’ Brokenness 52:45 Hans is Helped by his Wife 54:34 The Stark Naked Woman & Hans’ Bonfire 1:00:45 Hans Finally SEES at the Story’s End 1:03:30 Hans’ Power from Lowly Creatures   The full video episode: https://youtu.be/uwukpEQrSys   The Podcast Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLMIlJwXEK2vqfEOVgfclRgZNXO4boyP3T   The Episode Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLMIlJwXEK2vq-TnaienDlJJ1ZdTknAqVn   For more in this podcast, please go to: Podbean: https://benomtad.podbean.com Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/podcast-benomtad/id1748320863 YouTube: https://m.youtube.com/@scissorsandpaper/videos Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4kJPGlaJjGVyLa9AKhci6t?si=8XXrX9FUT3CU71reCfA5kQ X: https://x.com/Benomtad Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/benomtad   I plan to conduct more interviews with various guests, so please check back later for those.   Clip Intro Music “A Baroque Letter” - Aaron Kenny

    1h 8m
  5. FEB 4

    Acceptance of Folly & Death

    LL and I do a short breathing meditation, then a zoom out contemplation.  After checking in about recent challenges, we discuss Marcus Aurelius’s Meditations, Book 12, Entry 36, the last in the book, seemingly shortly before his own death, which discusses one’s place in the cosmos and the relation to death.     Man, thou hast been a citizen in this great state [the world];121 what difference does it make to thee whether for five years [or three]? for that which is conformable to the laws is just for all. Where is the hardship then, if no tyrant nor yet an unjust judge sends thee away from the state, but nature who brought thee into it? the same as if a prætor who has employed an actor dismisses him from the stage.122⁠—“But I have not finished the five acts, but only three of them.”⁠—Thou sayest well, but in life the three acts are the whole drama; for what shall be a complete drama is determined by him who was once the cause of its composition, and now of its dissolution: but thou art the cause of neither. Depart then satisfied, for he also who releases thee is satisfied.   Gratitude to Standard eBooks for the translation: https://standardebooks.org/ebooks/marcus-aurelius/meditations/george-long/text/single-page#book-12   00:00  Introduction 00:47 Invitation to do an Exercise Snack 01:23 Brief Breathing Meditation 08:07 Zoom Out Contemplation 16:02 Reflection on Zooming Out 18:10 Spirituality Without Dogma?  22:23 Daily Spirituality Despite Bad Decisions 33:20 Anger is Usually a Secondary Emotion 35:17 Magical Thinking in Difficult Situations 40:50 Marcus Aurelius’ “Meditations,” Last Entry: “The god who lets you go is at peace with you.” 48:27 Coming to Terms with Death & Chuang-Tzu’s Dialogue with a Skull 53:37 Near-Death Experiences (NDE) & Acceptance   The full video episode: https://youtu.be/Vz5ZMbFuMZ0   The Podcast Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLMIlJwXEK2vqfEOVgfclRgZNXO4boyP3T   The Episode Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLMIlJwXEK2vq-TnaienDlJJ1ZdTknAqVn   For more in this podcast, please go to: Podbean: https://benomtad.podbean.com Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/podcast-benomtad/id1748320863 YouTube: https://m.youtube.com/@scissorsandpaper/videos Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4kJPGlaJjGVyLa9AKhci6t?si=8XXrX9FUT3CU71reCfA5kQ X: https://x.com/Benomtad Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/benomtad   I plan to conduct more interviews with various guests, so please check back later for those.   Clip Intro Music “A Baroque Letter” - Aaron Kenny

    57 min

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