Have you ever found yourself in the middle of writing a book, feeling like you should be further along? Like everyone else writes faster, thinks clearer, and somehow has it all figured out? You're not alone—and you're probably measuring the wrong things. In this episode, Kathi Lipp and Roger Lipp introduce a powerful framework from Dan Sullivan and Dr. Benjamin Hardy's book The Gap and the Gain and explore how it applies specifically to the writing journey. If you've ever felt stuck in the "messy middle" of your book, this conversation will help you understand why—and give you a new way to measure your progress. The Hidden Emotional Cost of Writing a Book Writing a book takes more than time and energy—it takes a chunk of your life. The thinking, clarifying, discarding, revising, editing, and waiting all carry an emotional weight that most writers don't talk about enough. And when you're in the thick of it, it's easy to feel perpetually behind. Understanding the Gap vs. the Gain The gap is the space between where you are and where you want to be—all those unchecked boxes, unwritten chapters, and comparisons to other writers. The gain is everything you've learned, clarified, and accomplished along the way. Most writers focus on the gap, but the gain is where the real progress lives. Why Writers Quit in the Messy Middle Most writers don't quit at the beginning or the end—they quit in the middle, where the effort is high and the affirmation is low. This is where the gap mindset can sabotage you, leading to constant restructuring, over-editing, or starting over entirely. Recognizing this danger zone is the first step to pushing through. Key Takeaways for Your Writing Journey By the time you write your first word, you may already be 20-30% done—all that research, speaking, and thinking countsClarity is progress, even when you can't measure it on a spreadsheetDiscernment about what doesn't belong in your book is just as valuable as what doesNothing has to be wasted—content that doesn't fit your book can become social media posts, speeches, or future projectsAsk yourself weekly: What do I understand now that I didn't before?Four Questions to Track Your Gain Kathi Lipp shares four powerful questions to help you see your own progress: What do I understand now that I didn't understand before?Is there a part of my message that feels clearer?What false version of this have I released?How have I grown as a writer, not just someone producing words?If you're in the midst of writing a book and feeling stuck, this episode offers the perspective shift you need. Stop measuring yourself against the book you haven't finished—and start celebrating the writer you're becoming.
