Perfectionism is a highly misunderstood concept. This mindset and lifestyle is often pursued in an attempt to save ourselves from negative life experiences such as awkwardness, embarrassment, and shame.
This podcast delves into the negative impacts of perfectionism and how and why it damages individuals, relationships, and families.
With five years of perfectionism research and a couple of decades of life experience, your co-hosts Anna and Alysha will take you through the different ways you can recognize, cope with, and heal from perfectionism through their mindset of connectionism.
1:6 - Our Stories and Final Thoughts
We made it!! We are at the final episode of this series. We decided to use this episode to share our full personal stories with perfectionism and some final thoughts that we weren't able to touch on in the previous episodes. Some of our best nuggets of wisdom are packed into these 45 minutes, so be sure to tune in!
Thank you to our listeners for sticking with us and relating to our content. We are so excited for our next series to come out!
1:5 - Socially-Prescribed Perfectionism
In this episode, we cover our last form of perfectionism. Socially-Prescribed perfectionism derives itself from pressures set by a culture, society, or other external groups. A lot of elements play into this from of perfectionism including social media and social circles.
Tune in to hear ways to recognize, identify, and combat this form of perfectionism!
1:4 - Other-Oriented Perfectionism
In this episode, we explore the relationship-killing form of perfectionism: other-oriented. Being an other-oriented perfectionist has a double-edged sword. It can be a very lonely way to live in addition to being really toxic for yourself and others. Often, other-oriented perfectionism is born from self-oriented perfectionism. You're only as hard on others as you are on yourself!
Tune in to hear symptoms of this form, long-term impacts, and most importantly, how to combat it!
1:3 - Self-Oriented Perfectionism
Welcome back to Popping Perfectionism! Today we dive into the inner-workings of one of our most familiar and dreaded topics: self-oriented perfectionism. This form of perfectionism packs quite a punch and is where the other forms of perfectionism (to be discussed in coming episodes) typically stem from.
Join us on this episode as we talk about the symptoms of this type of perfectionism, its impacts on relationships and self-esteem, and most importantly - ways to combat it.
1:2 - Chameleon Syndrome & Two Dimensions
In this episode, we talk about the two foundational dimensions of perfectionism as well as a common side effect of perfectionism: The Chameleon Syndrome.
By participating in the two perfectionism dimensions of unrealistic goals and self-criticism, we train our minds to constantly beat down on our self-esteem, worth, and identity. This often causes us to then take on Chameleon Syndrome as a defense mechanism. Chameleon Syndrome allows us to blend in with our environments, consistently displaying other people's ideal versions of ourselves. This prevents us from being our authentic selves which then inevitably ruins any chance of connection.
By instead practicing Connectionism, we can combat this mindset and move more freely in the world as our true, honest selves.
1:1 - Perfectionism and Connectionism
In this episode, we explore the "what" behind perfectionism, Connectionism, and how this podcast came to be. The world has perfectionism all wrong: it's not a virtue - it's a vice. We talk about ways to recognize a perfectionist mindset and even more importantly, ways to combat it - through Connectionism.
I really enjoyed listening to this podcast on my walk today—just subscribed. Perfectionism is something I’m trying to learn more about, so as to have a more free and spontaneous lifestyle. Love the podcast name, down-to-earth personalities, and simplicity in listening.
Authentic and Enlightening
Anna and Alyssa are so easy to listen to and relate to and their content is helpful and instructive. Their messages are great for anyone to hear and helped me understand myself and others better.