Pre Marriage 101 Santos Ortiz Jr

This question needs to be asked before marriage so that you both have a clear understanding on why you both want to be with each other. This should give you and your partner clear knowledge on the real reason, and it may not be why you think. 

This weeks episode we discuss the popular subject of sex. This isn't the conversation about what you want to do to one another, but what should be talked about beforehand; the uncomfortable stuff. The stuff we avoid because of our pride or because its so taboo to talk about. This week I'm venturing into new territory with the inclusion of the Clubhouse app. This gives me a live audience and numerous guests; making my podcast more interactive than most. Hope you enjoy the changes and one day join in on my Clubhouse room, PreMarriage_101.

Are you the type to want to be up under your spouse? Are you the type that needs ample room? When you’re in you emotions, do you need ppl around for support or do you want to be alone? When angry/sad, do you want to approach the situation head on or do you need some time alone to cool off/gather your thoughts? Just on a daily basis, do you like to be alone for some time? Do you need that alone time periodically?
In all these scenario, you or they may need some or a lot of space. Some ppl don’t require any space. And, there are those who require someone to be there. Do you know enough about yourself to answer these? Can you handle someone who is the opposite? Can you come to a medium, find a middle ground that benefits both of you? Or, are your needs non negotiable, there’s no way around them, you need some one there or that space?
This is very important because there are time we need to recharge or heal. Everyone’s process is different. Some need someone there to help pick up the pieces or comfort them to heal. Some ppl need that alone time. If you aren’t given this, you can’t be mentally healthy. And this will destroy a relationship.

We have two options here. The first one is easy. We have certain things that men and women did from a role specific society. Men took care of the finances and those "manly" chores around the house. Women took care of everything else including all domestic chores and caring for the children. the second option is based on the "new" rules that have blurred the lines between gender roles. So today's questions are, depending are which you follow, what would you do and what do you refuse to do? What chores will you share? And, what is up in the air depending on who's around when it needs to be done?

A lot of us come into relationships with children. Some of them live with us, some don't. All our circumstances are different concerning this. Some of us have great co-parent, some have none. But, some of us have the co-parent from hell! Saying this, we have different relationship with the other parent and understandings when it comes to new partners entering our lives. So, my question is, and I know it will vary considerably...
How do we approach discipline between your partner, your child, and your co-parent?