Be A Better Parent | For Every Child It Takes A Village... The Same Goes For Every Parent!

Celia Kibler
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Being a parent is hard—in fact, it’s quite the adventure! For every child it takes a village, the same goes for every parent! We all need questions answered, and we need to know stuff we don’t even know we need to know. Welcome to the Be A Better Parent Podcast, your essential resource for valuable advice and information that relates to you and your kids. Join Celia Kibler, Family & Relationship Empowerment Coach & Author of RAISING HAPPY TODDLERS, with over 40 years of mom & professional experience. Celia offers the best advice that NO ONE ELSE GIVES YOU about raising kids in today's world.

  1. S9E20 (Mini-Series EP 08): Are We Feeding Our Kids… or Their Future Therapy Sessions?

    2d ago

    S9E20 (Mini-Series EP 08): Are We Feeding Our Kids… or Their Future Therapy Sessions?

    Because the conversations we have around food today can shape the way our children think about themselves for years to come. Have you ever encouraged your child to clean their plate, offered dessert as a reward, or made a casual comment about your own weight without thinking much of it? Most parents have. The truth is, many of the messages we send about food are messages we inherited ourselves. We often repeat them with the best intentions—without realizing how deeply they can influence our children's relationship with food, their bodies, and even their self-worth. In this episode of the Raising Eyebrows Miniseries, Celia Kibler and Dr. Kailey Buller tackle a topic that affects every family: the powerful connection between food, emotions, body image, and the messages children absorb from the adults around them. Because children are always listening. They're listening when we talk about food. They're listening when we talk about our bodies. And they're learning from what we do just as much as what we say. In this thoughtful and eye-opening conversation, Celia and Dr. Kailey explore how parents can create a healthier, more positive environment around food without turning meals into battles, rewards, punishments, or sources of shame. Why children's bodies naturally change and grow in different ways throughout childhoodHow comments about weight, appearance, and food can impact a child's self-imageThe difference between encouraging healthy eating and creating unhealthy pressure around foodWhy parents decide what and when food is served, while children decide if and how much they eatPractical ways to introduce new foods without creating power strugglesHow curiosity and play can make mealtimes less stressful and more enjoyableWhy food should not become the primary reward for good behaviorSimple ways to help children build a positive relationship with food and their bodies One of the most important reminders in this episode: Food is not something children need to earn, fear, or feel guilty about. It's nourishment. It's connection. It's part of family life. And when we remove pressure, shame, and judgment, we create space for healthier habits and healthier relationships. That doesn't mean every meal will be perfect. It doesn't mean your child will suddenly love broccoli. And it definitely doesn't mean parenting around food becomes easy overnight. But it does mean you can approach these conversations with more confidence, more understanding, and a lot less stress. If you've ever worried about picky eating, body image, emotional eating, or the messages your child is receiving about food, this episode offers practical guidance and reassuring reminders that can help you move forward with greater clarity. Tune in to this episode of Raising Eyebrows your weekly dose of sanity in a world full of parenting noise. We're so glad you're here. To stay connected with Celia Kibler, follow @beabetterparentdotcom and explore more support through the Be A Better Parent Skool community at skool.com/beabetterparent. You can also connect with Dr. Kailey Buller at @vitalswithdrbuller for thoughtful, evidence-based support around motherhood, family health, and raising children with confidence. And if you want parenting support right when real life is happening, be sure to download the Be A Better Parent app. It offers on-demand guidance, practical tools, and real-time support to help you respond with more calm, clarity, and confidence right when you need it most.

    1h 1m
  2. S9E20 (EP 200): Can You Have a Good Divorce? What Every Parent Needs to Know to Protect Their Kids

    3d ago

    S9E20 (EP 200): Can You Have a Good Divorce? What Every Parent Needs to Know to Protect Their Kids

    We've all seen the ugly version. The screaming. The lawyers. The kids stuck in the middle, learning to pack a bag every week and tiptoe between two worlds that can't stand each other. But what if I told you it doesn't have to look like that? In this episode, I sit down with Sarah Armstrong — author of The Mom's Guide to a Good Divorce: What to Think Through When Children Are Involved and The Art of the Juggling Act: Bite-Size Guides for Working Parents — for an honest, hopeful conversation about something most people don't believe is even possible: a good divorce. And here's the thing. Sarah and I both lived it. We're two parents who went through divorce, kept our kids out of the crossfire, and came out the other side with families that are still families. I've been divorced for over 30 years, remarried for 30, and we still hug at the holidays. So this isn't theory. This is two moms telling you it can be done. Sarah will be the first to say she's not an advocate for divorce. No one gets married planning to get divorced. But when a couple does land there — and half of them do — our children are the ones whose lives get turned upside down by a decision they never got to make. And we owe it to them not to let them become collateral damage. What You'll Hear in This Episode Why "a good divorce" isn't a fantasy — and the moment Sarah's seven-year-old daughter, Grace, defined it better than any expert ever couldThe "compartmentalization muscle" — how to feel your big emotions fully without letting your kids carry the weight of themWhy slamming your ex in front of your child is the same as slamming your child (because they're half that other person)The parent-teacher conference moment that revealed just how rare healthy co-parenting really isWhat it means to stand on the same side of the soccer field — and why that small choice tells your child everythingThe one question I ask every couple before they go down this path, and why it once brought a parent to tearsSarah's final reflection: how to embrace your new normal, look ahead, and stop dwelling in the negativesThis conversation is full of heart, honesty, and a good dose of humor, because even in a divorce, you should still be allowed to laugh. About Sarah ArmstrongSarah spent her career in the corporate global marketing world and never planned to become an author. Then her own divorce — and the friends who kept asking how she did it so well — turned into a book that now travels in the purses of women going through the hardest season of their lives, keeping them calm. Her work is built around one belief: a good divorce is a possible outcome if you stay focused on it and put in the effort. Resources for You The Mom's Guide to a Good Divorce and The Art of the Juggling Act by Sarah Armstrong — find everything at gooddivorce.guideRaising Happy Toddlers by Celia Kibler — available at beabetterparent.comBe A Better Parent App — download at beabetterparent.com for on-demand, real-time parenting support right when you need it most If you're walking through divorce right now, please hear me: it's scary, and it takes real courage. Ask for the help. You deserve it, and you're worthy of it. And if this episode gave you hope — or you know someone who needs it — share it, leave a review, and pass it along. There are so many parents out there feeling lost in this, and your share might be the thing that helps them give themselves some grace. As always, I wish you days filled with peace, love, and lots of laughter. Laughter really is the best medicine.

    44 min
  3. S9E19 (Mini-Series EP 07): Who’s Actually Running This House? (Because It Might Not Be You)

    Jun 1

    S9E19 (Mini-Series EP 07): Who’s Actually Running This House? (Because It Might Not Be You)

    Have you ever found yourself negotiating over shoes, brushing teeth, bedtime… and suddenly wondered how your child became the one calling the shots? You’re definitely not alone. And if parenting has felt like a constant tug-of-war between wanting to raise independent kids and trying to keep the peace at home, this conversation is for you. In this episode of the Raising Eyebrows Miniseries, Celia Kibler and Dr. Kailey Buller tackle one of parenting’s biggest questions: How do you give your kids independence and responsibility… without accidentally handing over leadership of the whole house? Because children absolutely need choices. They need chances to practice responsibility. They need room to grow, make mistakes, and build confidence. But they also need loving boundaries, clear direction, and parents who can lead with calm confidence. In this warm and practical conversation, Celia and Dr. Kailey share real-life examples and simple strategies to help parents create more cooperation at home without power struggles, constant repeating, or feeling like every little thing turns into a battle. How to give kids choices without turning every moment into a negotiationWhy clear boundaries actually help children feel safer and more securePractical ways to handle brushing teeth, cleanup, school mornings, and transitions with less resistanceWhy routines help children feel more confident and capableHow praise and encouragement build responsibility and independenceWhy not every parenting moment needs correcting and how to stop nitpickingEasy ways to bring more fun, connection, and cooperation into your everyday routines One of the most powerful reminders in this episode: Your child can absolutely have a voice in your home but you are still the team leader. That doesn’t mean parenting has to feel rigid. It doesn’t mean being harsh. And it definitely doesn’t mean getting everything perfect. It means creating a home where your child feels heard, respected, and empowered while still knowing they can count on you for leadership, consistency, and connection. And if parenting has felt overwhelming lately, this episode is also a reminder that you are allowed to learn as you go. No guilt. No perfection. Just practical tools, thoughtful conversations, and encouragement from two parents who understand how real parenting actually feels. Tune in to this episode of Raising Eyebrows your weekly dose of sanity in a world full of parenting noise. We’re so glad you’re here. To stay connected with Celia Kibler, follow @beabetterparentdotcom and explore more support through the Be A Better Parent Skool community at skool.com/beabetterparent. You can also connect with Dr. Kailey Buller at @vitalswithdrbuller for thoughtful, evidence-based support around motherhood, family health, and raising children with confidence. And if you want parenting support right when real life is happening, be sure to download the Be A Better Parent app. It offers on-demand guidance, practical tools, and real-time support to help you respond with more calm, clarity, and confidence right when you need it most.

    48 min

  4. May 7

    S9E19 (EP 199): Raising Resilient Kids — What It Really Means (And What Most Parents Get Wrong)

    You've said it. I've said it. We've all said it: "Don't worry — kids are resilient." But what if that phrase, however well-meaning, is actually doing more harm than good? In this powerful episode, Celia Kibler sits down with Stacy Schaffer, MA, LPC — a dedicated children's and adolescent therapist with over 20 years of experience, Founder of Strong Hearts Counseling in Arvada, Colorado, and author of the brand-new book With Love from a Children's Therapist — for a conversation every parent needs to hear. Stacy brings her whole self to this episode: her clinical expertise, her deeply personal story, and the raw honesty that has made her one of the most trusted voices in children's mental health. Together, she and Celia dig into the real meaning of resilience, why kids' emotions don't just "go away," and what parents can do right now to raise children who are truly equipped for life — not just surviving it. What You'll Hear in This Episode Resilience is earned — not assumed.Stacy challenges the popular belief that kids automatically bounce back from trauma or loss. When we call children resilient without addressing their emotions, we may be unknowingly teaching them to suppress what they feel. Stacy shares her own heartbreaking experience of losing her mother and being praised for her "strength" — only to realize later that the praise made her afraid to actually grieve. Your child's brain isn't finished — and that changes everything.The human brain doesn't fully develop until age 25. That means your child literally does not have the neurological tools to process trauma, regulate impulse, or reason through emotion the way an adult can. Celia and Stacy explore what this means for everyday parenting — including why asking "Why did you do that?" is often one of the least effective questions you can ask. The hidden danger of "bedroom kids."Celia raises a crucial warning for parents of tweens and teens: when children disappear into their rooms and disengage from family life, parents lose visibility into their emotional world. One TikTok, one Snapchat moment of exclusion — and a child can spiral into isolation or depression without a parent even knowing it happened. Tech, social media, and the tracking trap.Snap Maps. Find My Friends. Being "left on red." Stacy and Celia get real about how digital tools designed for safety and connection are being used by kids to surveil, exclude, and hurt one another — and how parents can stay aware without turning their kids into expert secret-keepers. The question that changes everything.Stacy ends the episode with one simple, transformative question that every parent can start using today — a question that invites your child in, validates their experience, and builds the kind of trust that lasts a lifetime. Stacy Schaffer is a Licensed Professional Counselor, the Founder and Director of Strong Hearts Counseling in Arvada, Colorado, and the author of With Love from a Children's Therapist: #lessonsihavelearnedalongtheway (2025). With over 20 years of experience working with children, adolescents, and young adults ages 3–30, Stacy specializes in grief, trauma, and Synergetic Play Therapy. She is also a trauma survivor herself, and her book weaves together her personal story with the wisdom she's gathered on both sides of the therapy couch.📖 Get the book: authorstacyschaffer.com💻 Connect with Stacy: stacyschaffer.com RESOURCES FOR YOU! With Love from a Children's Therapist by Stacy Schaffer — available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Audible, and SpotifyRaising Happy Toddlers by Celia Kibler — available at beabetterparent.comBe A Better Parent App — download at beabetterparent.comIf this episode moved you, challenged you, or gave you even one tool to try today — please share it with another parent who needs to hear it. Leave a comment, leave a review, and help someone else find this conversation. Because the world gets better when parents get better.

    49 min
  5. S9E18 (Mini-Series EP 06): When the Conversation Feels Hard - How to Talk to Your Kids About Tough Things With Calm and Confidence

    Apr 13

    S9E18 (Mini-Series EP 06): When the Conversation Feels Hard - How to Talk to Your Kids About Tough Things With Calm and Confidence

    There is something about difficult conversations that can make even the most loving parent want to avoid them, delay them, soften them too much, or come in with more emotion than they meant to. In this episode of the Raising Eyebrows Miniseries, Celia Kibler and Dr. Kailey Buller talk about why these conversations matter so much, how to approach them with more calm and confidence, and what it really looks like to stay connected to your child when the topic is hard. Whether you are talking about behavior, friendship struggles, boundaries, growing up, family changes, or anything your child may not want to hear, this conversation is here to remind you that hard talks do not have to break connection. They can build it. Celia and Dr. Kailey unpack how to be honest without being harsh, how to stay steady when emotions rise, and how to create the kind of safety that helps children open up instead of shut down. This is a grounded, real-life conversation for parents who want to stop second-guessing every word and start having the kinds of talks that lead to trust, emotional safety, and stronger relationships at home. If you have ever walked away from a conversation thinking, “I should have handled that better,” this episode will help you find a calmer and more effective way forward. To stay connected with Celia Kibler, follow @beabetterparentdotcom and explore more support through the Be A Better Parent Skool community at skool.com/beabetterparent. You can also connect with Dr. Kailey Buller at @vitalswithdrbuller for thoughtful, evidence-based support around motherhood, family health, and raising children with confidence. And if you want parenting support right when real life is happening, be sure to download the Be A Better Parent app. It gives you on-demand guidance, practical tools, and real-time support to help you respond with more calm, clarity, and confidence, right when you need it most.

    58 min
  6. S9E17 (Mini-Series EP 05): Yelling Works. Until It Doesn’t. What to Do When Calm Parenting Feels Impossible

    Mar 25

    S9E17 (Mini-Series EP 05): Yelling Works. Until It Doesn’t. What to Do When Calm Parenting Feels Impossible

    There is a reason so many parents feel confused, discouraged, and exhausted when it comes to discipline. One minute you are told you are too soft. The next minute you are told you are too hard. Then somewhere in the middle of trying to hold it all together, you raise your voice again and end the day feeling guilty, frustrated, and defeated. In this episode of the Raising Eyebrows Series, we are talking honestly about why yelling may seem like it works in the moment, but slowly chips away at the kind of home and relationship most of us are actually trying to build. We dig into the difference between discipline and punishment, why fear gets quick compliance but not real growth, and what calm parenting actually looks like when you are tired, triggered, and trying your best in real life. This is not about being perfect. It is not about never getting frustrated. And it is definitely not about pretending parenting is easy. It is about learning how to guide your children with more clarity, more confidence, and more self-control, even when calm feels far away. If you have ever wondered how to correct your child without constant power struggles, shame, or yelling, this conversation will meet you right where you are. For more support, parenting tools, and real-life guidance, come connect with Celia here:Instagram: @beabetterparentdotcom Skool Community: skool.com/beabetterparentAnd be sure to download the Be A Better Parent App, available on the App Store and Google Play. You can also follow Dr. Kailey Buller for thoughtful, grounded support on motherhood, postpartum, and family health at:Instagram: @vitalswithdrbuller And if this episode speaks to your heart, we want to personally invite you to join us for the Day of Calm Global Summit, happening April 3 to 6, 2026. This is a powerful online gathering created to help parents, educators, leaders, and caring humans come together around one very important truth: calm changes everything. You can learn more and reserve your place at CalmSummit.org.

    57 min
  7. S9E16 (Mini-Series EP 04): You Gave Them an iPad. You’re Not a Monster. Raising Kids in a Digital Dumpster Fire

    Feb 22

    S9E16 (Mini-Series EP 04): You Gave Them an iPad. You’re Not a Monster. Raising Kids in a Digital Dumpster Fire

    Screens are everywhere, and most parents are stuck in the same loop: How much is too much? Am I ruining their brain? Is this just what modern childhood looks like now? In this Raising Eyebrows episode, Family & Relationship Empowerment Coach Celia Kibler and double-board-certified physician Dr. Kailey Buller unpack the real story on screen time so you can stop guessing, drop the guilt, and make confident choices for your family. You will hear clear, practical guidance on what the research actually says about screens from babyhood through the teen years, including why the early years are so sensitive, why slower, calmer shows make it easier for kids to transition away, and how too much screen time affects sleep, mood, tantrums, and language development. Celia and Dr. Kailey talk about background TV, shared screen time, FaceTime with grandparents, and those “just this once” moments on a flight or in a waiting room, so you know what really matters and where you can relax. Then they turn to what to do instead of handing over a device. From loose-parts play with toilet paper rolls, boxes, noodles, and bowls, to obstacle courses, nature walks, grocery store adventures, rainbow dinners, and silly “make up stories” in the car or before bed, you will walk away with simple, screen-free ideas that build your child’s brain, feed their imagination, and actually make the day feel easier and more fun for you too. To go deeper with Celia’s calm parenting support, join the Be A Better Parent Skool Community at skool.com/beabetterparent, where you can connect with other parents and get access to more coaching, classes, and replays. Explore more of Celia’s resources at BeABetterParent.com and follow her on Instagram at @beabetterparentdotcom. For medical, postpartum, and newborn guidance you can trust, follow Dr. Kailey Buller on Instagram at @vitalswithdrbuller for compassionate, science-backed advice that helps you feel steadier in those early years. And if you are ready for calm, on-demand support in your pocket, download the Be A Better Parent app on the App Store and Google Play. You will get 24/7 parenting guidance, expert videos, and community support so you never have to figure this out alone

    44 min
  8. S9E15 (Mini-Series EP 03): Too Strict. Too Soft. Somehow Still Wrong. Discipline Without Losing Your Soul (or Your Mind)

    Feb 15

    S9E15 (Mini-Series EP 03): Too Strict. Too Soft. Somehow Still Wrong. Discipline Without Losing Your Soul (or Your Mind)

    If the word "discipline" makes you tense up or think of punishment, it’s time for a major perspective shift. In this third episode of the Raising Eyebrows series, Dr. Kailey Buller and I are pulling back the curtain on one of the most misunderstood parts of parenting: how we actually teach our children to do better. We move past the myths of "time-outs" and "punitive measures" to explore the biological reality of what is happening in your child's brain when they are struggling. If you’ve ever felt like you’re stuck in a loop of yelling just to be heard, join us as we explore how to move from being the "loud parent" to a calm, empowered leader who focuses on teaching rather than just reacting. We dive deep into the messy difference between punishment and true discipline — which actually comes from the word disciple, meaning to teach. Dr. Kailey brings her medical expertise to the table to explain why a "logical consequence" isn't just a fancy phrase, but a necessary tool for building self-reliant adults. We discuss the "witching hour" for both parents and kids, and why your own physical and mental state is often the secret ingredient to a more peaceful home. If you’re tired of the conflicting advice that oscillates between "too soft" and "too harsh," this conversation will give you the clarity to find the middle ground that actually works for your unique family. It’s time to raise those eyebrows at the old-school methods that don't serve your connection and discover a path toward respect, cooperation, and long-term results.

    59 min
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Being a parent is hard—in fact, it’s quite the adventure! For every child it takes a village, the same goes for every parent! We all need questions answered, and we need to know stuff we don’t even know we need to know. Welcome to the Be A Better Parent Podcast, your essential resource for valuable advice and information that relates to you and your kids. Join Celia Kibler, Family & Relationship Empowerment Coach & Author of RAISING HAPPY TODDLERS, with over 40 years of mom & professional experience. Celia offers the best advice that NO ONE ELSE GIVES YOU about raising kids in today's world.

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