Queer Talker

Ben Cicchetti
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Queer Talker is a podcast celebrating the stories and journeys of LGBTQ+ individuals from all walks of life, from business leaders to celebrities and influencers. Through open and authentic conversations, we explore themes of identity, authenticity, and the power of living boldly.

  1. 6d ago

    Queer Panic with Kaue Garcia & Ryan O’Neill

    Kaue Garcia and Ryan O’Neill are back, and this time they’re facing Queer Panic. The owners of Keighley Cougars and Keighley Town FC take on Queer Talker’s rapid-fire questions, revealing their first celebrity crushes, favourite queer film and TV show, who made the first move, who takes longer to get ready and, crucially, who would survive longest in a zombie apocalypse. We also discover why Kaue refuses to watch the UK version of Queer as Folk, why Ryan thinks hiding is a legitimate zombie survival strategy, and what happens when they’re asked to describe each other in just one word. For the full story of Kaue and Ryan’s relationship, their journey into professional sport and why they believe LGBTQ+ visibility in football and rugby matters, listen to their full Queer Talker episode. Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.comInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@queertalkerTikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti

    Queer Panic with Kaue Garcia & Ryan O’Neill

  2. Sep 8

    Kaue Garcia & Ryan O’Neill: Love, Pride & Changing the Game

    What happens when two queer kids who never felt like they belonged in sport grow up and buy a rugby club and a football club? Kaue Garcia and Ryan O’Neill are the owners of Keighley Cougars Rugby League Club and Keighley Town Football Club, but their relationship with sport hasn’t always been an easy one. In this episode of Queer Talker, Kaue and Ryan open up about growing up gay on opposite sides of the world, experiencing bullying, coming out, finding each other in a Bangkok nightclub and building a life and businesses together. They also share the extraordinary story of how they came to own Keighley Cougars, why they decided to put LGBTQ+ inclusion at the heart of the club, and what happened when rainbows, drag queens and Pride arrived at the rugby ground. We talk about homophobia in sport, trans inclusion, allyship, taking their values into football and why creating spaces where LGBTQ+ people genuinely feel they belong matters. And after 14 years of marriage, multiple businesses and now two sports clubs, Kaue and Ryan reveal how they somehow still manage to work, live and build everything together. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Kaue and Ryan's journey in sports and activism 01:50 Kaue's childhood in Brazil and early experiences with bullying 04:03 Ryan's boarding school experience and coming to terms with his sexuality 07:06 How their personal journeys led to owning and transforming sports clubs 14:56 The inception of the Pride game and inclusivity initiatives at the clubs 25:14 Challenges and successes in creating a welcoming environment 35:03 The role of visibility and representation in sports communities 45:06 Balancing commercial realities with social values in club management 54:50 Advice to their younger selves and future generations of LGBTQ+ youth Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.comInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@queertalkerTikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti

    Kaue Garcia & Ryan O’Neill: Love, Pride & Changing the Game

  3. Sep 1

    KY Kelly: Drag Race UK, Finding Confidence & Becoming the Queen of Lubrication

    Before KY Kelly was one of the queens of RuPaul’s Drag Race UK season eight, she was a kid putting on shows in her living room and running upstairs in her mum’s fluorescent pink catsuit. In this episode of Queer Talker, KY joins Ben Cicchetti to talk about growing up knowing she was different, secretly watching Queer as Folk, coming out at 16 and the friends and family who helped her find the confidence to be herself. KY opens up about the creation of the Queen of Lubrication, why drag became an armour that gave her a confidence Anthony didn’t always have, and why she wanted to represent more mature, old-school British cabaret queens on Drag Race UK. We also talk about LGBTQ+ representation, her experiences performing in Priscilla, Queen of the Desert and Everybody’s Talking About Jamie, standing alongside the trans community, protecting queer spaces and the reality of mental health behind the makeup, wigs and performance. Plus, KY reveals why she applied for Drag Race three times, how she’s preparing for the inevitable social media opinions, and the advice she’d give the little kid performing in that fluorescent pink catsuit today. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to KY Kelly and episode overview 02:24 KY Kelly's childhood, early performances, and feeling different 04:55 First awareness of LGBTQ+ community through media and real life 06:23 Realization of queerness during high school years 08:11 Journey to authenticity and coming out at 16 09:48 Family support and the importance of chosen family 12:08 Discovering drag and performing as a form of self-expression 13:45 How KY Kelly developed the drag persona and name origin 17:24 Confidence in drag and the impact of stage presence 18:40 Decision to join Drag Race UK and feeling ready 20:06 British drag culture and its influence on KY Kelly 21:45 The story behind the name KY Kelly 22:15 Telling queer stories through musical theatre and its impact 24:26 Representation in media and the importance of visibility 25:28 Challenges faced by the trans community and advocacy 30:56 Handling social media hate and mental health strategies 41:25 Advice to younger self and closing thoughts Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@queertalker TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti

    KY Kelly: Drag Race UK, Finding Confidence & Becoming the Queen of Lubrication

  4. Aug 25

    Adelle Barker: I Don’t Know How To Be Trans & Finding Authenticity

    What happens when you finally stop adapting to the person everyone expects you to be and start living as yourself? Multi-award-winning activist Adelle Barker transitioned at 36, after spending much of her life feeling lost, confused and, in her words, simply adapting to get through. In this episode of Queer Talker, Adelle opens up about the early signs she didn’t yet understand, secretly exploring her femininity, the fear of being discovered and the moment she finally realised she didn’t have to pretend anymore. We talk about what meaningful trans inclusion actually looks like in the workplace, why LGBTQ+ employee networks matter, navigating visibility in the current climate and the idea behind her brilliantly named newsletter, I Don’t Know How to Be Trans. Adelle also explains why there is no handbook for transition, why every trans person’s experience is different, and why her advice to young LGBTQ+ people is simple: trust your instincts and bet on yourself. An open, funny and deeply human conversation about authenticity, visibility and discovering the freedom of waking up as yourself. Chapters 00:00 Queer Panic rapid fire questions 07:43 First awareness of LGBTQ+ identities 11:30 Early signs of queerness and secret dressing 14:00 Acceptance and living authentically 17:06 Meaningful trans inclusion at work 20:58 Messy process of transitioning and embracing mistakes 23:31 Realization that you don’t need to have everything figured out 34:38 Balancing visibility with self-care 38:02 Advice to younger self and young LGBTQ+ people 40:06 Closing remarks and message of community support Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@queertalker TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti

    Adelle Barker: I Don’t Know How To Be Trans & Finding Authenticity

  5. Aug 11

    Alexander Hayden: I Kissed A Boy, Growing Up Gay Where It Was Illegal & Finding Himself

    Growing up in St Kitts & Nevis, Alexander Hayden never questioned whether he was gay because, as he explains, “I didn’t know the closet existed.” In this episode of Queer Talker, Alexander shares what it was like growing up in the Caribbean, where same-sex relationships were illegal, moving to boarding school in the UK, and slowly discovering who he really was. We talk about code-switching between two versions of himself, the emotional moment he returned home after the law changed, living with a visible difference, and why representation matters for LGBTQ+ people growing up in countries where acceptance is still a work in progress. Alexander also takes us behind the scenes of I Kissed A Boy, reveals what it was really like arriving as the final bombshell, reflects on the show’s cancellation, and explains how the experience changed his life. This is an honest conversation about identity, confidence, belonging and learning that you don’t have to hide who you are. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Queer Panic 04:58 Growing up in the Caribbean and cultural identity 07:02 Discovering the queer community and first experiences 10:11 Coming out and self-acceptance journey 14:55 Decriminalization in Nevis and returning home 16:59 Using platform to support Caribbean LGBTQ+ communities 20:46 Dealing with visible differences and confidence 24:56 Joining 'I Kissed a Boy' and show experience 29:51 Lessons learned from the show and personal growth 36:00 Advice to younger self and LGBTQ+ community Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@queertalker⁠ TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti

    Alexander Hayden: I Kissed A Boy, Growing Up Gay Where It Was Illegal & Finding Himself

  6. Jul 28

    Amanda Collier: The Traitors, Finding Her Tribe & Living Authentically

    Amanda Collier became one of the breakout stars of The Traitors after delivering one of the season’s most memorable lines: “I can’t be Hugo’s wife. Don’t be so ridiculous. I’m a lesbian.” But behind that joyful moment is a much bigger story of resilience, public service, representation and finding your purpose. In this episode of Queer Talker, Amanda joins Ben Cicchetti to reflect on growing up in a working-class family, being bullied at school, and spending three decades in the Metropolitan Police, where she eventually became a Detective Chief Inspector. Amanda opens up about navigating homophobia within the police in the early 1990s, finding the mentor who helped her keep going, and eventually becoming a leader to some of the people who had once bullied her. She also takes us inside The Traitors, from nearly joining an earlier series to immediately suspecting Stephen, almost saving herself from elimination, and watching her spontaneous declaration of being a lesbian become a powerful moment of visibility for LGBTQ+ viewers. Amanda also discusses the heart condition discovered during the casting process, why she now approaches fitness and life differently, and how the platform she gained from the show has helped her support charities, speak to young people and encourage others to find their tribe. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Amanda's early life 01:58 Amanda's childhood and discovering her identity 08:57 Her police career and navigating being LGBTQ+ in law enforcement 17:58 Joining The Traitors and iconic moments 35:05 Amanda's impact as a role model and advocate 49:49 Her diagnosis with hereditary heart disease and future plans 54:09 Final advice and closing thoughts Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti

    Amanda Collier: The Traitors, Finding Her Tribe & Living Authentically

  7. Jul 14

    Charlie Craggs: Joy, Authenticity & Fighting Back

    Charlie Craggs is an award-winning author, activist and the creator of Nail Transphobia, the campaign that used free manicures to start conversations about trans lives. In this episode of Queer Talker, Charlie joins Ben Cicchetti for one of the most honest and uplifting conversations yet. Together they discuss growing up, bullying, finding authenticity, the importance of representation, why Nadia Almada changed Charlie’s life, and why humour can be one of the most powerful forms of activism. Charlie also reveals exclusively that Nail Transphobia is returning, shares details of her next book, and explains why she refuses to let anyone take away her joy. They also discuss: Growing up as a queer childBeing bullied at schoolNadia Almada and Big BrotherFinding authenticityNail TransphobiaTrans rights in 2026Social media and activismStanding up for yourselfWhy joy is an act of resistance A funny, emotional and incredibly empowering conversation. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Queer Panic 00:26 First album and music memories 01:21 Lip sync song choice and queer media favorites 01:59 Favorite queer icons and representation 03:06 Meeting Nadia Almada and her impact 08:27 Nadia Almada’s victory and representation 09:07 Young Charlie’s understanding of gender and identity 11:01 Media treatment of trans people over decades 13:28 Trans rights and societal progress 16:48 Trans men in society and bathroom debates 21:23 Authenticity and self-acceptance journey 23:36 The Nail Transphobia campaign’s origins and impact 35:32 Upcoming book and advocacy plans 45:31 Advice to younger self and resilience 48:18 Protecting joy and handling negativity 50:30 Closing remarks and gratitude Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti

    Charlie Craggs: Joy, Authenticity & Fighting Back

  8. Jun 30

    Simon Blake OBE: Stonewall, Thriving & Backing Yourself

    Simon Blake OBE has dedicated much of his life to making the world a safer, fairer place for LGBTQ+ people. As CEO of Stonewall, one of the world’s most influential LGBTQ+ organisations, Simon joins Ben Cicchetti for a thoughtful and deeply personal conversation about authenticity, activism, hope and why our goal should never simply be to survive, but to thrive. Simon reflects on growing up in Cornwall in the 1970s, the first time he saw himself represented on screen, coming out to his parents, and the powerful words his father shared years later: “I’m so glad that you gave us the chance to love you in all of you.” We also discuss: The role and future of StonewallLGBTQ+ rights in 2026Why progress isn’t always linearDiversity, equity and inclusionWhy representation mattersThe importance of empathySocial media and activismLeadership and trusting your gutAdvice for young LGBTQ+ peopleWhy we should aim to thrive, not just surviveThis is a conversation full of warmth, wisdom and hope from one of the most important voices in the LGBTQ+ community. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Simon Blake and Queer Panic Questions 03:55 Childhood and Early Influences 08:11 Realizing Difference and LGBTQ+ Awareness 11:46 Authenticity and Coming Out Journey 15:58 Career Path and Leadership Insights 20:10 The Role of Stonewall and Personal Connection 23:40 Navigating the Culture War for LGBTQ+ Rights 26:42 Stonewall's Vision and Strategy for 2026 30:22 Balancing Urgency and Strategy in Advocacy 35:36 The Role of Businesses in Promoting Inclusion 39:46 The Impact of Politicization on LGBTQ+ Lives 47:56 Advice for the Younger LGBTQ+ Generation Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti

    Simon Blake OBE: Stonewall, Thriving & Backing Yourself
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Queer Talker is a podcast celebrating the stories and journeys of LGBTQ+ individuals from all walks of life, from business leaders to celebrities and influencers. Through open and authentic conversations, we explore themes of identity, authenticity, and the power of living boldly.

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  • Creator
    Ben Cicchetti
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    44
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Ben Cicchetti
  • Show Website
    Queer Talker

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