QuitByHealing - beat p*rn addiction to level up your life

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QuitByHealing - beat p*rn addiction to level up your life

Discover the best approach to becoming p*rn free & improving your mental health. QuitByHealing is your resource for improving your mental health and turning a bad habit into your life's greatest opportunity for self development.

  1. 3 DAYS AGO

    2 Powerful Tools for Overcoming Addictive Urges

    Join the QuitByHealing newsletter: https://quitbyhealing.com/newsletter/ What do you do when you are struggling with addictive urges? How can you stop yourself from compulsively doing things you later regret and falling back into bad habits? The most effective tools I've found to deal with these issues are the 2 awareness tools I'm presenting in this video. I call them Spotlight Awareness and Embodiment. Chapters: 00:00 Intro 00:49 When your bad habit have the most power over you 01:26 Tool 1 - Spotlight Awareness 02:11 Checking in with Thoughts and Emotions 03:09 Keep following the thread 04:23 Underlying emotions leading to addictive behavior 06:03 Arriving at resolution 06:48 Turn it into a new habit 07:20 Tool 2 - Embodiment 07:50 How it Works 08:30 What to do if embodiment feels difficult to access 09:06 Focus on what is most noticeable 10:13 Learning to drop from your mind to your body 11:42 Rest your awareness with sensations 12:28 Why resistance doesn't work 14:30 How to combine these tools 15:37 Practicing awareness 15:58 Use these tools to make real progress 17:22 Conclusion

    18 min

  2. 12/19/2024

    The Self Control Illusion

    Join my newsletter: https://quitbyhealing.com/newsletter/ The better your self control, the more successful you'll be. It's people who are good at delaying gratification that end up more successful, happier, better off and wealthier, compared to people who have low self control and act impulsively. Common sense, right? Well, it turns out that almost everything you've ever been told about self control is actually a misunderstanding. Many studies have shown that people with "high self control" do indeed end up healthier, happier and better off... but when you look closer, "self control" is actually a mis-labeling. What from the outside might look like self control is actually a combination of completely different characteristics. What's worse, if you want to join this group of successful individuals, trying to exert more self control is actually making things worse, not better. So let's dig into it and see how this applies to building habits, breaking bad habits and addictions and being smart about improving your life. Chapters: 00:00 It all started with a marshmallow 02:20 False Conclusions 03:17 Delayed Gratification = Success? 04:59 "Self Control" is the wrong label 07:29 Trait vs. State 09:40 Self Control is for Losers 11:21 Key to Success 1 14:26 Key to Success 2 17:56 Key to Success 3 21:40 Summary 22:51 Believe Your Own Experience Sources: - https://docs.iza.org/dp14920.pdf - https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/39096668/ Footage from: - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d8M7Xzjy_m8 - https://youtu.be/4L-n8Z7G0ic

    24 min

  3. 10/31/2024

    How to Speedrun Healthy Masculine Development

    Join the QuitByHealing newsletter: https://quitbyhealing.com/newsletter/ Men nowadays grow up without anyone teaching us how to become real men. We stay stuck in boyhood for far too long and it's a painful experience! But if you feel lost and confused like many do, it's not your fault. For some reason, you were not given the guidance and life skills that you deserved! In today's podcast episode, I have a conversation with a friend of mine who had exactly this problem in his life - and then solved it in a very short amount of time. Darriall is someone I've personally known as he rapidly went through the stages of development for healthy masculinity (https://youtu.be/nLsEGUF3JUg). You can find Darriall here: https://www.instagram.com/dmjport/ https://www.threads.net/@dmjport https://www.linkedin.com/in/darriall In this episode: 00:00 The guidance we aren't getting 01:18 A real life example of breaking free 03:26 Literally leaving the comfort zone 07:41 Fake adversity doesn't work 09:05 What if you can't afford to leave? 14:44 Going Ghost Mode (the wrong way) 19:39 Why you should have a 💩 job 24:18 Get yourself unhooked (or you'll never succeed) 25:42 Why the 🤬 did no one tell you this?! 33:27 The advice you need to hear (not what you WANT to hear) 35:26 Don't get stuck in the trap 37:34 It's still your comfort zone (even if you hate it here) 42:34 Building mental fortitude 44:35 How to meet billionaires 50:04 Do it like a rapper 52:02 Conclusion

    55 min

  4. 10/16/2024

    How to lose all interest in p*rn (even as a long time addict)

    Join the QuitByHealing newsletter: https://quitbyhealing.com/newsletter/ The goal is not just to quit porn, it's to become completely uninterested in porn. And yes, that is possible, no matter how severely addicted you are right now. Today, we look at a story that explains this. It can be hard to imagine that you'd literally become 100% addiction free, for most people. But once you understand the "alternate reality" that I explain in this video, you'll have a new perspective. This story will show you the true roots of addiction and the mental health issues that are closely tied to it. And it also shows you the way out. This is about how to become the man who is completely uninterested in porn and other addictive stuff. Quit porn addiction in just 21 days: https://quitbyhealing.com/program/ In this episode: 00:00 Intro 00:44 Coping Early On 01:45 Managing vs. Healing 02:06 Once an Addict Always an Addict? 02:52 What Causes Addiction 04:05 An Alternative Scenario 04:33 Early Experiences 05:41 Why We Have Dysfunctional Families 06:33 Negative vs. Positive Imprint 07:58 A Healthy Exploration 09:54 The Unhealthy Reality 11:11 Boys and Girls 13:19 Our Culture Creates Addicts 14:44 Become Immune to Addiction 16:48 The Man Who is Uninterested 17:01 This is Not Just About You 18:05 What to Do Next

    19 min

  5. 09/25/2024

    Watching P*rn is Worse than Cheating (in these 2 ways)

    Get my free Introspective Writing crash course: https://quitbyhealing.com/newsletter/ Could it be that using pornography while in a relationship is actually WORSE than cheating? That sounds like a crazy claim, but there are at least 2 ways in which it is indeed worse. We live in a world where it is normalized to watch porn. Even in a relationship, many people wouldn't be surprised that one partner (or both) still watch porn in secret. It's easy to dismiss this and assume it's harmless. Maybe even a good way to balance out mismatched libidos between the partners! Unfortunately, this is not the whole truth. And when you look more closely at the long term effects and at the causes underneath, a very different picture reveals itself. 00:00 Could it really be worse than cheating? 00:58 Reason Nr. 1 - Brain Health 01:37 Evolutionary Perspective on Infidelity 02:48 Ethics vs. Health 03:33 Casual Use 05:04 What's better for the relationship? 05:29 The Long Term Harm 06:12 How it all goes wrong 06:29 The "Mismatched Libido" Excuse 07:50 Do women really have lower libido than men? 08:55 Using porn in a "healthy" way? 10:26 What happens when you keep numbing 10:39 Scenario 1 12:07 Putting your life back together 12:43 No longer the man-child 13:41 Scenario 2 14:19 The slow death of a relationship 14:49 Stuck in the same cycle 15:16 Sadly, I speak from experience 16:08 None of this means cheating is good 16:24 The third option 17:23 Make the honest choice 18:12 Set a High Standard 20:26 This is Why You Need to Step Up 21:30 How to Do the Honorable Thing Quit porn addiction forever, in just 21 days: https://quitbyhealing.com/program/ Sources: - The Evolution of Desire by David M. Buss - The State of Affairs and Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel - Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan Related videos: - The 5 levels of porn addiction: https://youtu.be/yLnDilkqGQA - How to quit while in a relationship: https://youtu.be/F28Rnel63xY - Fake desires caused by porn consumption: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gzPCWITx0GQ

    23 min

  6. 09/08/2024

    Intrusive Thoughts: This Gets WORSE After You Quit P*rn?!

    Get the introspective writing course here: https://quitbyhealing.com/newsletter/ Quitting porn is often seen as the solution to many problems, but what if it makes intrusive thoughts worse during recovery? Intrusive thoughts are a withdrawal symptom that can be very frustrating to deal with, when you're quitting a bad habit or addiction. Unlike other withdrawal effects, many people find that intrusive thoughts actually get WORSE, the longer you stay clean. Why does this happen and what can you do to eliminate these unwanted, unwelcome thoughts that pop into your head, once and for all? That's what we're examining in today's video, including a practical case study and the one key insight you need to never have this problem again. If peace of mind has been difficult for you to get after you quit your addiction, this video contains the knowledge you've been missing. Chapters: 00:00 This gets worse instead of better? 01:19 Part of the solution is not skipping 01:44 Why do intrusive thoughts happen? 03:21 Normal part of the recovery process 05:05 The crucial difference 06:40 It’s just how the brain works 09:18 Negative emotions are a strong signal 10:18 Your response to intrusive thoughts 11:37 The “emotional charge” model 12:20 How it all connects 13:03 Solutions, Part 1 14:23 Solutions, Part 2 15:15 Solutions, Part 3 17:45 A case study 18:52 How to never have intrusive thoughts 20:36 A new perspective on intrusive thoughts 21:44 One more thing

    23 min

  7. 08/05/2024

    Is Discipline Overrated? How it can slow you down and what to do instead

    Discipline and hard work are the keys to success, right? It's how you accomplish your goals and create the life you envision... at least, that's what we're constantly being told. But while discipline is a useful tool, it's not useful in every situation. And when it comes to achieving your goals, discipline can actually end up slowing you down rather than getting you there faster. In today's episode, we unpack this unusual idea, so you can know the pitfalls of being overly reliant on discipline and you can detect the opportunities where there is an easier way to get better results. If one of your goals is to overcome p*rn addiction, sign up for my new, free newsletter here, to get access to my best tools and strategies: https://quitbyhealing.com/newsletter/

    20 min

  8. 07/31/2024

    From Boy to King - the stages of masculine development

    To become a man, you must progress through a natural process of maturing: from boy to Knight, to Prince to King. Unfortunately, we live in a world where this natural progression is denied to most of us. And instead, we have social media, OnlyFans, vapes and junk food to keep us stuck in boy mode... Join the newsletter & get access to my free courses: https://quitbyhealing.com/links/ The result is clear: we've got a lot of boys walking around in adult bodies, these days. We've lost and forgotten all the tools our ancestors had, to help in the difficult transition, the teach a boy how to become a real, complete man. Nowadays, we get stuck in childhood in many ways. We become passive consumers of entertainment media and entertainment goods. And yet, no matter how comfortable we are or how much we entertain and stimulate ourselves, we never actually feel good in a lasting kind of way. The solution to this is to get unstuck and progress through the stages of development that, as a man, you have a natural inclination to go through. In this episode of the QuitByHealing Podcast, you'll discover the 4 stages of development that every man must go through, how to go through them and where it typically goes wrong. Chapters: 00:00 Intro 01:00 The 4 Stages 01:08 The Page - looking up to his heroes 01:51 The Knight - adventure calls! 02:23 Play and skill development 05:11 The Prince - time to build 07:19 The crisis at the end of the Prince phase 08:41 Multiple attempts as a Prince 10:05 The King - the mature man, in service of others 11:27 How to apply this to your life 12:25 How we get stuck 13:57 Addiction is seeking a substitute for real development 15:22 The eternal Page 16:24 A world designed to keep you immature 17:40 Getting stuck in the Prince stage 19:12 Avoiding failure is overrated 20:36 You can’t skip to the King stage 22:08 Which stage are you in? 24:00 Observe the stages in others 25:19 How you can progress to become The King The stages of development presented in this episode are based on Alison Armstrong's work "The Amazing Development of Men" and I highly recommend you check it out.

    26 min
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