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Becky Shaffer: RAW: Real Adult Wisdom A Kinda funny, Kinda Serious Podcast for Anyone's Ears..... Welcome to the RAW, Live in Confidence Podcast, where we believe in the power of personal transformation. We're here to reignite your passion and redefine your path. Join me, Becky Shaffer, as we delve into the depths of self-discovery, explore strategies for building unshakeable confidence, and uncover the secrets to living a life you love. Sit back, take a listen to topics that affect all of us.

  1. Aug 12

    I have to Keep Everyone Happy

    Do you feel responsible for keeping everyone happy—even when it costs you your own peace? In this episode of Real Adult Wisdom, we uncover the hidden “should” behind people-pleasing, why we fear disappointing others, and how to set healthier boundaries. With honest conversation, a little humor, and practical Becky Tools, you’ll learn that you can care about people’s feelings without taking full responsibility for them.

  2. Jul 23

    I Should Be Over It By Now

    How many times have you told yourself, "I should be over this by now?" Whether it's the pain of a breakup, the loss of a loved one, childhood trauma, betrayal, a dream that didn't work out, or simply the life you thought you'd have, many of us place unrealistic deadlines on our healing. In this episode of Words That Keep Us Stuck, Becky Shaffer explores why healing isn't measured by time—it's measured by growth. You'll discover how the word "should" keeps us trapped in guilt and shame, why comparison makes healing even harder, and how to replace self-judgment with self-compassion. As always, Becky shares practical tools and a Live in Confidence Toolkit to help you challenge limiting beliefs, embrace your own healing journey, and take one confident step forward.

  3. Jul 14

    I Should Be Further Along

    In this episode of Real Adult Wisdom, Becky Shaffer explores the invisible timelines we create around money, relationships, purpose, healing, and success. She shares her own experience of moving her entire life at 50 and learning that starting over does not mean starting behind. You’ll also walk away with the Timeline Audit, a simple tool to help you stop measuring your life against someone else’s journey and recognize what progress looks like for you now. You are not behind. You are living a life that could never be measured by someone else’s timeline.

  4. Jul 11

    Stop Shoulding Yourself

    Stop Shoulding Yourself. Words That Keep Us Stuck: The “Should” Series How often do you catch yourself saying, “I should have known better,” “I should be further along,” or “I should say yes”—even when something inside you is telling you no? In this episode of Real Adult Wisdom, Becky Shaffer explores the emotional weight behind the words “I should” and “I should have.” Sometimes these phrases point to a genuine responsibility. Other times, they are rooted in regret, shame, comparison, fear, or expectations that never truly belonged to us. Becky breaks down the important difference between taking responsibility and punishing ourselves: Responsibility helps us grow. Shame keeps us looking backward. You will learn how to recognize whether a “should” is coming from your own values or someone else’s expectations, how hindsight can distort the way you judge past decisions, and how to replace self-criticism with honest, compassionate accountability. This episode also includes practical tools to help you: Identify the hidden belief behind your “shoulds”Separate responsibility from shameReframe regret into a usable lessonRecognize the difference between growth and self-abandonmentMake decisions based on your values rather than guilt or approvalMove from “I should have” to “Knowing what I know now, I choose…” You cannot change what you knew then, but you can decide what you do with what you know now. Keep the lesson. Make the repair. Release the punishment. This episode is inspired by themes from Becky’s book, The Why Not Me? Concept, and is part of the new Words That Keep Us Stuck series.

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  5. Apr 26

    Nobody Prepares You for Life 2.0

    In Episode 1 of the Life 2.0 series, Becky Shaffer opens the door to the honest, raw, and deeply human experience of starting over in midlife. This episode is not about having it all figured out. It is about what happens when the life you built shifts, the roles you played begin to fall away, and you are left asking, “Who am I now?” Through empty nesting, heartbreak, loss, healing, and reinvention, Becky connects the heart of Life 2.0 with the message behind her book, The Why Not Me? Concept: that starting over is not failure. It may be the first time you are finally choosing yourself. This episode is for the woman who has survived, adjusted, carried, rebuilt, and kept going — but now feels called to live differently.

  6. Mar 12

    The Conditioning of Nice: Why Women Struggle to Advocate for Themselves

    Becky Shaffer, author of The Why Not Me? Concept and Solari, author of The Sacred Undoing, bring raw, honest conversations to the podcast as they sit down with guest Paula Mathias, author of Speak Up. Together, they unpack why so many women struggle to advocate for themselves, the conditioning that keeps women silent, and the powerful steps women can take to reclaim their voice in their careers, relationships, and lives. To get more information on Paula: website:paulamathias.com IG and TikTok: @Paulamathiasauthor Speak Up book: https://a.co/d/ied9FJR

  7. Feb 24

    Real Change Starts in the Brain

    In this episode of Real Adult Wisdom, we’re talking about what actually has to shift neurologically before your habits, boundaries, confidence, and clarity can shift in real life. Dr. Lisa Riegel has spent over two decades studying how the brain drives behavior, and more importantly, how we can work with it instead of constantly fighting against it. She’s an educator, researcher, author, and someone who deeply understands that fulfillment, whether in a classroom, a workplace, or a relationship. Her information can be found at: www.lisariegel.com Also, all podcasts, blogs, and to order "The Why Not Me? Concept," you can go to www.liveinconfidence.com for all of Becky's information.

  8. Feb 10

    When Your Living Environment Doesn't Match Who You Are Becoming.

    We are excited to have Kim Costa, AS FEATURED on HGTV, ABC, Atlanta Magazine, and Opeal, join our show. Growth isn’t just about mindset; it’s about alignment. When your living environment doesn’t match who you’re becoming, your body feels it first. On Real Adult Wisdom, we’re exploring how aligning your space, routines, and daily life with your soul creates real, sustainable change—not just motivation.

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Becky Shaffer: RAW: Real Adult Wisdom A Kinda funny, Kinda Serious Podcast for Anyone's Ears..... Welcome to the RAW, Live in Confidence Podcast, where we believe in the power of personal transformation. We're here to reignite your passion and redefine your path. Join me, Becky Shaffer, as we delve into the depths of self-discovery, explore strategies for building unshakeable confidence, and uncover the secrets to living a life you love. Sit back, take a listen to topics that affect all of us.

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