RAWHONEY Kristine

Ahhhh, I can be so good at making sure I don't hear "no"! Perhaps that's why I developed the need to be perfect, because perhaps being perfect meant I wouldn't hear "no". But are "no's" really that bad? It all depends on what you make it mean. When you say you are afraid of rejections, what are you really saying? You're probably really saying that you're afraid people may find out there's SOMETHING WRONG WITH YOU. So you're avoiding "no" because it may trigger internal feelings of unworthiness. Running away from no won't solve the problem. Change how you see your self and your worth and watch how you'll begin to perceive "no"! It's the most liberating lesson once you've learned it! It's BEAUTIFUL! Happy going out there and hearing NO! :D 

How would others have to change in order for you to feel good? You feel like they're not putting in the effort to connect? You feel like they're not acting loving, open, appreciative of you? It must make you feel bad... Hence why you wish they were different towards you. I get it.

So now, are you going to sit and wait for them to be different? Are you just going to wait for them to be more loving towards you, more open, more relaxed, more connected?

Or... Are you going to learn to GIVE ALL OF THOSE THINGS to YOURSELF first? You want to feel good? Figure out what you NEED from others, and then learn to give it to yourself to feel good. 

Then, take it one step further by learning to give to other people these things FIRST instead of waiting around for it to happen. 

Oh, your life is about to change!

Are you always waiting for the next thing to happen, for you to acquire in order to do more and to feel good? Are you continuously waiting for that next vacation? That next degree? That next $1000 in your bank account to feel good? Are you waiting until you're a millionaire in order to feel happy about yourself? 

Have you ever considered FEELING good FIRST, then you execute whatever it is you get to execute, and THEN HAVING all that your heart's ever desired?

What if the secret is in learning how to get yourself to feel good at the snap of a finger before taking action AND THEN having all the good things follow?

Consider that perhaps the reason why you don't have the results you want in your life is because the way you've been embodying, the way you have been showing up has not been serving you.. 

How often do you show up to something EXCITED, HAPPY, TRUSTING, CALM, CONFIDENT, POWERFUL, AUTHENTIC regardless of what you think might be the outcome? How often do you take control of your power regardless of what situation you're in?

Maybe work doesn't suck just because it sucks. Maybe it's the attitude you're carrying before you start work that only attracts to you the way you're being. 

If you choose to BE positive before you do something, your results WILL BE positive.
If you choose to BE negative and hateful, and doubtful and fearful before you do something, your results will be just that. 

Take control of how you want to feel before you do anything and your life will change dramatically! 

Your mind is going to SCREAM at you to stop and sit down. It wants you to be comfortable when you're getting ready to go after your dreams. When you're doing what's best for you, your mind will hop in and DO ITS THANG. It's gonna tell you you're not cut out for it, and it's gonna serve so many, "What if's" that you can't help it but to answer back sometimes. If you're gonna answer back, instead of agreeing with all the negative possible outcomes, you're gonna scream, "I'm GONNA DO IT ANYWAY. WATCH ME." Always go back to your WHY. WHY did you want to do it in the first place? Be reminded, and DO IT ANYWAY! 3 

Get your ass back up! I know it's been rough, it's been tough and you feel like you're back to square one. You may feel like you're not cut out for this path you've chosen, you may feel tired of anticipating the long and windy road ahead of you, but "DAMN IT!" I TELL YOU! You've come WAY too far to just sit our butt down like this. You're destined to continue. SHINE ON, BABY! Listen to this and be fueled with all the energy again!

It hurts because we've been hurt one too many times. The pain cuts so deep that we vow to never give anyone the power to hurt us ever again. What we don't realize when we operate with that mindset is that we're also not allowing anyone to truly connect with us and love us in the way that we deserve. Living with abandoment wounds is no fun, because as much as we want real relationships (partnership & friendships), we are equally as afraid of the "what if?" What if it doesn't work out and what if I end up hurt like before? How will I ever take it?!" 

But it's also no fun to never be able to connect authentically and genuinely, on the deepest level with someone. Let me remind you that you deserve to. Will you really run away forever from what you're destined to be able to do - to connect?