In this episode, I speak with Gabrielle Oliveira, an anthropologist whose work explores migration, parenting, and the lives of children moving across borders. We begin with her reflections on raising her own children and how becoming a parent reshaped the way she understood her research. She describes the gap between ideals and practice, the constant need for flexibility, and how every phase of parenting reveals something new about ourselves. That tension between theory and lived experience becomes a guide for understanding the families she studies. Our conversation opens into the deeper human realities of global movement. Gabrielle explains why migration has always been a basic part of human life and how modern borders, surveillance, and fear have changed the story. She shares examples of children bringing memories of detention into classroom moments, showing how experiences of displacement appear in small, unexpected ways. We talk about xenophobia, inequality, and the narratives that shape who society considers deserving. Through her stories, it becomes clear that migration is not only about crossing a border but about carrying entire worlds of culture, memory, and hope into a new place. The episode becomes personal as we explore what it means to not know. Gabrielle describes the humility required for ethnographic work, the thousands of hours she spent inside families’ homes, and the courage it takes to sit in discomfort without trying to control the narrative. We reflect on the importance of listening in education, on what it means for teachers to build trust with students, and on how curiosity can become a way of honoring the lives of others. This conversation is about migration, but it is also about wonder, responsibility, and the ongoing work of learning how to see. 00:37 — Meeting Gabrielle and her work on migration and parenting02:00 — What parenting teaches us about uncertainty04:30 — Ideals versus real life in teaching and caregiving07:00 — Cultural stories about love, parenting, and childhood09:00 — Migration as philosophy and lived experience11:00 — How movement today differs from the past13:30 — Borders, surveillance, and the politics of fear16:00 — Racism, xenophobia, and narratives of who belongs19:00 — Religion, culture, and the idea of "Western civilization"21:00 — Immigration debates, infrastructure, and real constraints24:00 — Fear of difference and how stories shape perception25:30 — Education, assimilation, and the role of schools28:00 — Why teachers rarely ask about students’ lives30:00 — Classroom examples and the challenge of deep listening33:00 — Trauma, trust, and how children express migration histories36:00 — Teaching practices that help children feel seen39:00 — How little we know and the humility to keep learning41:30 — Expertise, lived knowledge, and the limits of certainty45:00 — The nature of ethnographic research and deep hanging out48:00 — Following conversations rather than directing them51:00 — What fieldwork does to the researcher55:00 — Curiosity, ego, and the meaning of attention