33 episodes

In a society where we are constantly re-defining what it means to be a man, Brad Gage brings you a podcast that asks guests to be vulnerable about masculinity and gender issues - looking at who they are now, who they aim to be, and the space in-between.

Real Feels Brad Gage

    • Education
    • 5.0 • 23 Ratings

In a society where we are constantly re-defining what it means to be a man, Brad Gage brings you a podcast that asks guests to be vulnerable about masculinity and gender issues - looking at who they are now, who they aim to be, and the space in-between.

    Why Large Age Gap Relationships Can Feel Gross

    Why Large Age Gap Relationships Can Feel Gross

    Is age just a number? Using celebrities, TV, and pop culture, Brad Gage digs into the psychology of age-gap relationships, why older men and younger women are attracted to each other, how it can sometimes result in an unequal power dynamic, and what can be done to help these relationships thrive.
    Includes analysis of age-gap May-December romances, Evolution Theory, Gender Roles, "Daddy Issues", plus Dane Cook and Jerry Seinfeld dating teenagers. It'll all make sense when you listen.
    Written and Hosted by Brad Gage
    Produced by Brad Gage and Allison Mandell
    Editing by Brad Gage

    • 18 min
    What Happens After #MeToo? Restorative Justice

    What Happens After #MeToo? Restorative Justice

    What should come after the #MeToo era? Restorative Justice is a process that hands the power to the victim after harm is done, while still working in collaboration with the person who did the harm. This way all those involved can release some of the shame, anger, or secrecy surrounding the incident. Because sometimes victims need something more than what law and order can provide.
    Written, Edited, and Performed by Brad Gage
    Music by Russell Henson Check out Russell's music here: https://www.russellhenson.com/
    Find resources on Restorative Justice through the Ahimsa Collective https://www.ahimsacollective.net

    • 6 min
    Male Sex Coach Cam Fraser Talking Porn, Masturbation, and Communication

    Male Sex Coach Cam Fraser Talking Porn, Masturbation, and Communication

    Cam Fraser is Australia's leading men's sex coach who you can find through his engaging, thoughtful, and frequently funny Instagram videos. He speaks to men about everything from masturbation, to porn, to myths about male sex organs. Luckily, we have become friends, and today’s episode is where I get to ask him all my juicy questions about taboos, if porn is energetically cheating on your partner, and how men can help themselves take the shame out of porn, and sex and masturbation. Cam is really all about liberation from the ideas that keep men in the dark about their sexuality, and I am HERE FOR IT.

    • 50 min
    How Pickup Artists Ruined Dating

    How Pickup Artists Ruined Dating

    Pickup Artists might seem old, corny, and pretty ridiculous to most people, but since their mid-2000’s rise in popularity, the philosophy of THE GAME has influenced a generation of young men to manipulate their way to sex. With pickup gurus like Ross Jeffries, Neil Strauss, and Mystery teaching men for decades how to cut the female experience out of dating, they've made a lasting influence on the minds of modern single guys. Brad breaks down the “rules”, the mindset, and the emotional disconnection in hopes to find a better way to find love.
    Writing / Hosting / Graphics / Editing by Brad Gage
    Produced by Brad Gage and Allison Mandell
    Special thanks to: Dana Swanson Caron Clancey Matt Fried Jesse McKiel Ben Gonzales Ryan Thomas Andrew Delman Max Johanson

    • 18 min
    Amanda Crew on Eating Disorders and Sexual Trauma

    Amanda Crew on Eating Disorders and Sexual Trauma

    Amanda Crew (HBO's Silicon Valley) and Brad have been friends a long time, but recently bonded over each of them finding movements they are truly passionate about. For Brad, it's reframing toxic masculinity, and for her, it's re-educating people around eating disorders. She's been vocal about it in her work with Project Heal, but in this conversation, we get to the genesis of her journey through anorexia.
    Amanda also gets frank about her own experiences with sexual trauma, providing advice about how romantic partners of victims can maneuver sex in a way that honors body autonomy and past events.
    Thanks for listening and if you want to find out more about Project Heal, which is an organization working to break down systemic, healthcare, and financial barriers to eating disorder treatment - go to theProjectHeal.org. Also - if you or someone you love is a victim of sexual violence seeking resources or support, you can find that and more at RAINN.org where they are in partnership with more than 1,000 local sexual assault service providers across the country.
    Hosted, Produced, and Edited by Brad Gage
    Subscribe to Real Feels on YouTube for more videos about how we form a new, more empathetic masculinity.

    • 43 min
    Kaitlyn Hollysmith and Her Story of Trans Visibility

    Kaitlyn Hollysmith and Her Story of Trans Visibility

    Today’s episode is mostly a story - one both personal to me and educational. It’s with Kaitlyn Hollysmith, a lawyer, a mother, a wife, and a friend...who back in my college fraternity days - was my little brother. Kaitlyn is trans. Here on the show, we reconnect after 10 years of that normal drift apart that happens after you leave college, but she saw what I was doing with Real Feels, and reached out. 
    Her story about finding who she really was, how she got close to committing suicide, and triumphing into a married life with a young son - I can’t think of a more heroic journey. So, here is Kaitlyn Hollysmith spending some time to tell her story with me, right now.
    Thanks for listening and if you or someone you love is looking for a place with resources and crisis help for LGBTQ+ youth, check out thetrevorproject.org
    Hosted, Produced, and Edited by Brad Gage

    • 37 min

Customer Reviews

5.0 out of 5
23 Ratings

23 Ratings

Swiftie_Number1 ,

A Thank You

Thank you so much for being such a wonderful podcast that provides understanding and promotes positive communications between individuals.

miguel_a_ferrer ,

Presence and Vulnerability

A phenomenal example of how vulnerability, honesty and self awareness leads to discovery, empowerment, and emotional/mental wealth.

AEEEE202 ,

More, please!

Brad is a wonderful and genuine host. I love that the focus of this podcast is the things we think and ponder but rarely share with others. It’s refreshingly honest and it cultivates good in this world. Can’t wait to see how the podcast grows with time!

Top Podcasts In Education

Mel Robbins
Dr. Jordan B. Peterson
Jordan Harbinger
The Atlantic
Rich Roll
Ashley Corbo