Real Talk

Dr. Africa Rainey

A podcast about Diversity, mental health and everything in-between.

  1. 05/22/2023

    Relationships

    Relationships, the sacred bonds, we share with others. The purpose of relationships is to develop a greater understanding of oneself. However, in our culture, relationships have become more about learning another person in order to be what the other person wants you to be vs who you really are. We often enter relationships with an understanding of what we can get from another person vs what we can bring into the relationship to help foster compassion, empathy, and support creating opportunities for growth. Today will go over what’s called the Four Horsemen created by couple expert John Gottmann. The four horsemen are patterns of communication in couple relationships which can predict the ending of a relationship. We will also go over antidotes to the horsemen or healthier communication patterns geared toward supporting your partner and the relationship.  Thank you to Epidemic Sound for these amazing artists: NIGHTCAP Wesky Pableno Push N’ Glide Heyson  DJ Mayson                                                                       References Fulwiler, M. (n.d.). Managing Conflict: Solvable vs. Perpetual Problems. The Gottman Institute. Retrieved May 21, 2023, from https://www.gottman.com/blog/managing-conflict-solvable-vs-perpetual-problems Panganiban, K. (n.d.). The Four Horsemen: The Antidotes. The Gottman Institute. Retrieved May 21, 2023, from https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-the-antidotes/

    26 min
  2. 04/23/2023

    Neurodiversity

    It has been long established in science that the physical attributes of humans are directly correlated to the environment. As animals, we hold an ability to alter our physical selves through the beauty of evolutionary mutation to ensure our survival as a species. For example, our skin pigmentation. Why are certain individuals darker in pigmentation and others lighter?. This is primarily due to the environment. Darker skin has a number of attributes, such as being a barrier to water loss, greater cohesiveness and provides an antimicrobial defense. Darker skin also prevents the breakdown of folic acid, which is an essential nutrient in reproduction. As humans moved north from the equator, our bodies no longer needed to divert energy and resources toward making darker skin because the environment no longer demanded it. Over the course of thousands of years, a mutation allowing for lighter skin tones emerged.  In the case of neurodiversity, it is thought environmental factors may also play a significant role in creating neurodiverse individuals. What is neurodiversity? What can it look like in some individuals? What are some ways you can demonstrate being a diversity ally to neurodiverse individuals? Stay tuned!  Thank you Epidemic Sound for these incredible artists: Blue steel,  cushy,  Damma beatz Tilden Parc  Feat. King Sis Ballpoint Heyson Hank Lotion Dj Eely Iso Indies                                                                           References Armstrong, T. (2011). The Power of Neurodiversity: Unleashing the Advantages of Your Differently Wired Brain (published in Hardcover as Neurodiversity). Hachette Books. Doyle, N. (2020, September 30). Neurodiversity at work: a biopsychosocial model and the impact on working adults. NCBI. Retrieved April 22, 2023, from https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7732033/ Nelson, K. (2023, February 10). Masking at Work for Neurodivergent People. Verywell Mind. Retrieved April 22, 2023, from https://www.verywellmind.com/neurodivergence-at-work-to-mask-or-not-to-mask-7108000 Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD): Symptoms & Treatment. (2022, August 30). Cleveland Clinic. Retrieved April 22, 2023, from https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/24099-rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-rsd

    26 min
  3. 03/23/2023

    Forgiveness

    Being hurt, intentionally or unintentionally can leave an individual feeling a sense of pain and betrayal. Many of us have our own personal stories of pain, anger and bitterness from a person or event in which we were deeply hurt. How can we begin to release these feelings, once we’ve acknowledged and processed them? How can we demonstrate forgiveness? On today’s episode we will discuss what forgiveness and unforgiveness is, misconceptions around forgiveness and five core components of practicing forgiveness.  Research has demonstrated, nearly every aspect of an individual's life changes for the better upon becoming more forgiving, lower stress levels,  greater resiliency, longer life, significant feelings of happiness, and preventing  or reducing the risk of disease. Forgiveness can have a profound impact on mental health and well-being, so much so that forgiveness therapy is being utilized as a method of treatment among therapists Thank you to Epidemic sound for the amazing artists:  Glowiing  Tilden Rompe  Lawd Leche  House of Say Run the clock  Ballpoint A Mi Madre Caro Luna References Amish Grace and Forgiveness - LancasterPA.com. (n.d.). Lancaster, PA. Retrieved March 22, 2023, from https://lancasterpa.com/amish/amish-forgiveness/ King Jr., Martin Luther ‘Loving Your Enemies’ Rev. King, Jr.'s Subject,” Atlanta Daily World, 30 August 1952. For a later example of this sermon that follows this early outline, see King, “Loving Your Enemies,” Sermon Delivered at Dexter Avenue Baptist Church, 17 November 1957, in The Papers of Martin Luther King, vol. 4: Symbol of the Movement, January 1957-December 1958, ed. Clayborne Carson, Susan Carson, Adrienne Clay, Virginia Shadron, Kieran Taylor (Berkeley and Los Angeles: University of California Press, 2000), pp. 315-324; Luskin, F. (n.d.). Wanting “Yes” and Getting “No”. Greater Good Science Center. Retrieved March 22, 2023, from https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/video/item/wanting_yes_getting_no Park, W. (2020, November 10). What other cultures can teach us about forgiveness. BBC. Retrieved March 19, 2023, from https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20201109-what-other-cultures-can-teach-us-about-forgiveness Worthington, E. L. (2005). Handbook of Forgiveness (E. L. Worthington, Ed.). Taylor & Francis.

    24 min
  4. Gender

    02/22/2023

    Gender

    Today we will examine each area of gender and how perceptions of gender identity and expression may vary from culture to culture. As our culture has evolved so has the construct of gender allowing for a broader range of gender identities and expression.  Today, we’ll learn ways to support, embrace and respect these identities! Gender is quite a broad term covering three primary areas: biological, or the idea individuals assigned male have an xy chromosome and individuals assigned female have an  xx, chromosome, sociological which are outward expressions of identity, roles, and societal expectations and psychological or how an individual perceives and expresses themselves that change over time. Thank You to the artists at Epidemic Sound for their incredible music: Nightcap Ballpoint Ooyy feat. HDBeenDope Netzy Lawd Ito feat. Tilden Parc  References Denworth, Lydia. “Is There a Female Brain.” Scientific American, no. September, 2017, pp. 38-44. Drexel IT-VCAP. Two Spirit People: Sex, Gender, and Sexuality Now and Then. 2012, https://vimeo.com/79920103. Accessed 3 February 2023. Video. Iantaffi, Alex, and Meg-John Barker. How to Understand Your Gender: A Practical Guide for Exploring who You are. Jessica Kingsley Publishers, 2018. Montanez, Amanda. “Beyond XX and XY.” Scientific American, no. September, 2017, pp. 50-52. Olson, Kristina R. “When Sex and Gender Collide.” Scientific American, no. September, 2017, pp. 44-50. “Seven Things About Trans People That You Didn't Know.” Human Rights Campaign, https://www.hrc.org/resources/seven-things-about-transgender-people-that-you-didnt-know. Accessed 19 February 2023. “The World's Women 2020: Trends and Statistics | United Nations.” the United Nations, 20 October 2020, https://worlds-women-2020-data-undesa.hub.arcgis.com/. Accessed 19 February 2023.

    28 min
  5. 10/16/2022

    Coming out

    On today’s episode we’ll be discussing coming out in relation to both gender and sexuality. Also, steps you can take if you’re considering coming out. Our daily lives, activities and relationships are so heavily influenced by gender and sexuality. Should we decide to deviate from gender and sexual societal norms and beliefs, then we must “announce it” to the people we care about, are related to and are employed by. We must ‘come out’ over and over again throughout our lives as we meet new people and have new experiences. Coming out can be a stressful and even dangerous process which will continue as long as we hold restrictive views around gender and sexuality. A special thank you to the incredible artists from Epidemic Sound: Craig Reever  Beiba Lu-Ni Azucares                                                                             References Heinemann, Joseph & Atallah, Sandrine & Rosenbaum, Talli. (2016). The Impact of Culture and Ethnicity on Sexuality and Sexual Function. Current Sexual Health Reports. 8. 10.1007/s11930-016-0088-8. Jankowiak, William R., Shelly L. Volsche, and Justin R. Garcia. “Is the Romantic–Sexual Kiss a Near Human Universal?” American Anthropologist. N.p., 06 July 2015. Web. 24 May 2017 Tavitis. M., Perez, E.O., (2019) Language influences mass opinion toward gender and LGBT equality. Princeton University, Princeton, NJ. Retrieved Oct 10, 2022 from: https://doi.org/10.1073/pnas.1908156116 The Trevor Project coming out PDF for LGBT+ youth https://www.thetrevorproject.org/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/Coming-Out-Handbook.pdf Sylvia Rivera Speech “Y'all better quiet down”  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jb-JIOWUw1o

    17 min

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