Reclaiming Identity

Kristen Zuray, Abbi DeWitt, Lydia Zuray
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Have you wondered why God allowed bad things to happen to you? Do you find yourself second guessing your decisions? Do you feel that no matter how hard you try, your efforts are never good enough? Are you tired of having bad relationships in your family, friends, and significant others? We're so glad you're here! This podcast will give you the tools to help you heal your relationship with God, others, and yourself so that you will have stronger faith, feel confident, and find balance in your life. We are Kristen Zuray, Abbi DeWitt, and Lydia Zuray, a mother/daughter team of Christian Life Coaches and Mentors from the Adi Project. From previously struggling with relational heartbreak, spiritual and emotional abuse, and long term chronic illness- we have struggled to understand God's goodness and His ultimate design for us. We tried to ignore our pain, placed our self-worth in our work, and chased after people's approval only to feel even more lost and rejected. We began to put up walls with the very God who's known for breaking them down. God showed the truth that our identities don't come from our hands. Identity is not about what we do, it's about who God is. We were designed to be a reflection of His image. When we seek to understand and believe in the truth of God's identity and in how He sees us, we begin to heal from our past traumas, grow in confidence, and begin living out in our purposes. If you are ready to reclaim your God-given identity, heal from your relationships, and discover the truth of who God is, then this podcast is for you! So, grab your spiritual armor, a cup of strong coffee, and join us in reclaiming your identity in Christ. Disclaimer: "The views and opinions expressed on Reclaiming Identity are those of the authors and do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of any organization, employer, or company. The information provided in this podcast is for general informational and entertainment purposes only and should not be construed as professional advice. Listeners should always seek the advice of a qualified professional regarding any specific concerns." Want to work together? Here's how we can help you reclaim your God-given identity and purpose! * Snag a free gift and find out more at https://www.adiproject.org * Coaching: Has the past silenced who you are? Do you want to get unstuck? Sign up for private coaching sessions with one of Adi Project's coaches: https://www.adiproject.org/christian-coaching * Courses: Do you wonder where God was in your trauma? Want to go deeper in your faith but aren't ready to commit to coaching? Purchase the 9 week Called By Name video course, book, and workbook. https://www.adiproject.org/adi-books-and-merch * Resources: Do you want to learn more about identity but don't want to read another self-help book? Are you drawn to fantasy fiction? We have you covered with the Redemption of Adi trilogy. https://www.adiproject.org/adi-books-and-merch * Community: You don't have to walk this journey alone. Join our Identity Building Facebook community and connect with others who are discovering their true identity and purpose. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1437640954240014

Episodes

  1. 51m ago

    What Does An Identity Crisis Have to Do With Relationships? 5 Ways Relationships Are Impacted

    HELP! I Lost Myself in a Relationship. Have you ever felt like your dreams disappeared, your confidence faded, or your entire identity became wrapped up in another person? Many people don't realize they're experiencing an identity crisis until a relationship begins to consume every part of their life. Whether the relationship is romantic, a friendship, a family relationship, or even a church community, losing your sense of self can leave you questioning who you are. In this episode of the Reclaiming Identity Podcast, Lydia and Abbi explore five warning signs that your identity has become entangled in a relationship. Together, they discuss how trauma, insecurity, fear, people-pleasing, and unhealthy attachment can quietly reshape the way you think, feel, and make decisions. In this episode, you'll discover: Why you can't remember your own dreams anymore. When obligation replaces genuine love and desire. Why the thought of leaving a relationship makes you question who you are. How your friendships, family, passions, and hobbies slowly disappear. Why you begin doubting your own thoughts, feelings, and instincts. Healing begins when your identity is rooted in Christ rather than another person. If you've ever wondered why you keep repeating unhealthy relationship patterns or feel like you've lost yourself trying to keep someone else happy, this conversation will help you recognize the signs of a relationship identity crisis and begin reclaiming the person God created you to be. Whether you're recovering from a toxic relationship, navigating codependency, healing from church hurt, or simply longing to rediscover your God-given identity, this episode offers biblical encouragement and practical insight to help you move forward in freedom. Want to work together? Here's how we can help you reclaim your God-given identity and purpose! * Snag a free gift and find out more at https://www.adiproject.org * Coaching:  Has the past silenced who you are? Do you want to get unstuck? Sign up for private coaching sessions with one of Adi Project's coaches:  https://www.adiproject.org/christian-coaching * Courses: Do you wonder where God was in your trauma? Want to go deeper in your faith but aren't ready to commit to coaching?  Purchase the 9 week Called By Name video course, book, and workbook.  https://www.adiproject.org/adi-books-and-merch * Resources: Do you want to learn more about identity but don't want to read another self-help book? Are you drawn to fantasy fiction? We have you covered with the Redemption of Adi trilogy. https://www.adiproject.org/adi-books-and-merch * Community: You don't have to walk this journey alone. Join our Identity Building Facebook community and connect with others who are discovering their true identity and purpose. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1437640954240014

    What Does An Identity Crisis Have to Do With Relationships? 5 Ways Relationships Are Impacted

  2. Jul 20

    Authenticity: How To Be Yourself Confidently and honestly

    What does it mean to live authentically after trauma? Many people believe trauma changes who they are forever. In reality, while painful experiences may change how we function, they do not change the identity God has given us. Kristen Zuray and Abbi DeWitt discuss authenticity, overcoming people-pleasing, navigating life transitions, and learning to honestly embrace each season of life without guilt or shame. Abbi shares her personal story of adjusting to pregnancy, motherhood, and physical limitations while discovering that authenticity means living truthfully with confidence—not pretending to be who you used to be. In this episode you'll learn: • How trauma impacts authenticity • Why healthy boundaries matter • How to overcome guilt and shame • Biblical encouragement for living confidently • Practical ways to embrace your identity in Christ Whether you're healing from trauma, recovering from church hurt, or simply longing to live more honestly, this episode offers practical and biblical encouragement for walking confidently in who God created you to be. Learn more about The Adi Project and discover how Christian coaching can help you reclaim your identity, heal from trauma, and walk confidently in your God-given purpose. Want to work together? Here's how we can help you reclaim your God-given identity and purpose! * Snag a free gift and find out more at https://www.adiproject.org * Coaching:  Has the past silenced who you are? Do you want to get unstuck? Sign up for private coaching sessions with one of Adi Project's coaches:  https://www.adiproject.org/christian-coaching * Courses: Do you wonder where God was in your trauma? Want to go deeper in your faith but aren't ready to commit to coaching?  Purchase the 9 week Called By Name video course, book, and workbook.  https://www.adiproject.org/adi-books-and-merch * Resources: Do you want to learn more about identity but don't want to read another self-help book? Are you drawn to fantasy fiction? We have you covered with the Redemption of Adi trilogy. https://www.adiproject.org/adi-books-and-merch * Community: You don't have to walk this journey alone. Join our Identity Building Facebook community and connect with others who are discovering their true identity and purpose. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1437640954240014

    Authenticity: How To Be Yourself Confidently and honestly

  3. Jul 11

    How Is Identity Affected By Trauma? Can I Lose Something I Never Had?

    How Trauma Affects Your Identity | Healing from Trauma & Finding Your Identity in Christ Are you struggling to move forward after trauma? Do painful experiences still shape how you see yourself, others, or even God? In this episode of Reclaiming Identity, host Abbi DeWitt sits down with trauma-informed coach, author, and speaker Kristen Zuray to explore how trauma affects your identity—and how healing begins by replacing lies with God's truth. Trauma doesn't just leave emotional scars. Whether you've experienced childhood trauma, spiritual abuse, emotional abuse, chronic illness, narcissistic relationships, or other painful experiences, trauma can reshape your beliefs about your worth, your purpose, your relationships, and your identity in Christ. In this episode, you'll discover: • What trauma really is and why it changes the way we see the world • The different types of trauma, including childhood trauma, emotional trauma, physical trauma, complex trauma, and spiritual trauma • Common trauma symptoms like anxiety, fear, isolation, anger, sleeplessness, and loss of identity • How trauma creates false beliefs about yourself and about God • Why your beliefs influence your future decisions more than your past experiences • Kristen's personal journey of healing from spiritual trauma and reclaiming her identity in Christ • Practical encouragement for beginning your own trauma healing journey through biblical truth If you've ever wondered why you struggle with people-pleasing, fear, perfectionism, shame, or feeling "not enough," this conversation will help you understand the connection between trauma and identity—and remind you that your past does not define your future. Healing doesn't happen by pretending the trauma never occurred. Healing happens when God's truth replaces the lies trauma taught you. Ready to reclaim your identity? Want to work together? Here's how we can help you reclaim your God-given identity and purpose! * Snag a free gift and find out more at https://www.adiproject.org * Coaching:  Has the past silenced who you are? Do you want to get unstuck? Sign up for private coaching sessions with one of Adi Project's coaches:  https://www.adiproject.org/christian-coaching * Courses: Do you wonder where God was in your trauma? Want to go deeper in your faith but aren't ready to commit to coaching?  Purchase the 9 week Called By Name video course, book, and workbook.  https://www.adiproject.org/adi-books-and-merch * Resources: Do you want to learn more about identity but don't want to read another self-help book? Are you drawn to fantasy fiction? We have you covered with the Redemption of Adi trilogy. https://www.adiproject.org/adi-books-and-merch * Community: You don't have to walk this journey alone. Join our Identity Building Facebook community and connect with others who are discovering their true identity and purpose. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1437640954240014

    How Is Identity Affected By Trauma? Can I Lose Something I Never Had?

  4. Jul 3

    Is Life Unbalanced? Here is How To Bring Balance Through Identity

    Is Life Unbalanced? Here's How to Bring Balance Into Your Life Through Identity | Reclaiming Identity Podcast Are you constantly doing more but feeling less fulfilled? Have achievements, productivity, ministry, or responsibilities left you emotionally exhausted instead of joyful? In this week's episode of Reclaiming Identity, Host Abbi sits down with Lydia Zuray for an honest and powerful conversation about what happens when life becomes unbalanced — and how losing balance can slowly disconnect you from your identity, peace, and relationship with God. Lydia shares her personal journey of living in an overworked, emotionally drained season where her identity slowly began shifting to meet the expectations and needs of everyone around her. From ministry pressures to nonstop productivity, she opens up about how imbalance affected her emotionally, spiritually, and mentally — and what it took to finally break free from that cycle. In this episode, they discuss: How to recognize when your life has become unbalanced Why productivity and achievement can quietly become identity The emotional signs of imbalance: stress, anxiety, confusion, exhaustion, and feeling lost How fear and people-pleasing can fuel an overworked lifestyle The spiritual impact of neglecting your "secret place" with the Lord Why even good things like ministry can become unhealthy when rooted in fear instead of obedience Lydia and Abbi also unpack the deeper lies that often produce an unbalanced life, including: "The more productive I am, the more significant I become." "If I stop, I will fail people." "My value comes from what I accomplish." Together, they explore the biblical story of Mary and Martha and the importance of seeking God first instead of allowing work, chaos, or external expectations to consume your identity. In this episode, Lydia shares 5 practical steps that helped her move from burnout and imbalance into peace, clarity, and healing: Spend intentional time with the Lord Change environments that are no longer healthy Learn strategic rest Allow yourself to be alone and face what's happening internally Move forward boldly into who God created you to be This conversation is for anyone who feels overwhelmed, emotionally depleted, disconnected from themselves, or trapped in a cycle of constantly doing without truly living. If you've been sacrificing peace for productivity, this episode will encourage you to slow down, reconnect with God, and reclaim your identity outside of performance and achievement. ✨ FREE Coaching Session Available Our 1-on-1 coaching is designed to help you break free from what's been holding you back, deepen your understanding of your identity in God, and walk confidently in your purpose. Whether you're pursuing healing, personal growth, spiritual identity, or trauma recovery, we meet you right where you are. Start with a completely free 30-minute session at: adiproject.org Want to work together? Here's how we can help you reclaim your God-given identity and purpose! * Snag a free gift and find out more at https://www.adiproject.org * Coaching:  Has the past silenced who you are? Do you want to get unstuck? Sign up for private coaching sessions with one of Adi Project's coaches:  https://www.adiproject.org/christian-coaching * Courses: Do you wonder where God was in your trauma? Want to go deeper in your faith but aren't ready to commit to coaching?  Purchase the 9 week Called By Name video course, book, and workbook.  https://www.adiproject.org/adi-books-and-merch * Resources: Do you want to learn more about identity but don't want to read another self-help book? Are you drawn to fantasy fiction? We have you covered with the Redemption of Adi trilogy. https://www.adiproject.org/adi-books-and-merch * Community: You don't have to walk this journey alone. Join our Identity Building Facebook community and connect with others who are discovering their true identity and purpose. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1437640954240014

    Is Life Unbalanced? Here is How To Bring Balance Through Identity

  5. Jul 3

    Identity Red Flags: 5 Signs You Are In An Identity Crisis

    Identity Red Flags: 5 Signs You Are in an Identity Crisis | Reclaiming Identity Podcast Are you struggling to feel like yourself lately? Do you feel disconnected, lost, restless, or unsure of who you really are anymore? In this episode of Reclaiming Identity, Host Lydia Zuray sits down with trauma-informed life coach and author Kristen Zuray to unpack the hidden signs of an identity crisis and why identity matters so deeply in every area of life. Together, they discuss: What an identity crisis actually is Personal experiences with losing and rediscovering identity The emotional and spiritual impact of living disconnected from yourself The 5 major signs that you may be in an identity crisis Kristen also shares powerful biblical examples of identity struggles through the lives of Moses, Jacob, Paul— showing how confusion, insecurity, shame, burnout, and transition have affected people throughout Scripture. In this episode, you'll learn: Why major life transitions can destabilize identity How trauma, burnout, comparison, and external expectations affect your sense of self Why many people feel "fake" or disconnected internally What the Bible says about identity, purpose, and transformation How identity becomes unstable when rooted in approval, achievement, status, or appearance instead of God If you've been feeling emotionally exhausted, spiritually disconnected, or unsure of your direction in life, this conversation will encourage you to begin reclaiming who God created you to be. ✨ FREE Coaching Session Available Our 1-on-1 coaching is designed to help you break free from what's been holding you back, deepen your understanding of your identity in God, and walk confidently in your purpose. Whether you're pursuing personal growth, spiritual identity, or trauma recovery, we meet you right where you are. Start with a completely free 30-minute session at: adiproject.org Want to work together? Here's how we can help you reclaim your God-given identity and purpose! * Snag a free gift and find out more at https://www.adiproject.org * Coaching:  Has the past silenced who you are? Do you want to get unstuck? Sign up for private coaching sessions with one of Adi Project's coaches:  https://www.adiproject.org/christian-coaching * Courses: Do you wonder where God was in your trauma? Want to go deeper in your faith but aren't ready to commit to coaching?  Purchase the 9 week Called By Name video course, book, and workbook.  https://www.adiproject.org/adi-books-and-merch * Resources: Do you want to learn more about identity but don't want to read another self-help book? Are you drawn to fantasy fiction? We have you covered with the Redemption of Adi trilogy. https://www.adiproject.org/adi-books-and-merch * Community: You don't have to walk this journey alone. Join our Identity Building Facebook community and connect with others who are discovering their true identity and purpose. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1437640954240014

    Identity Red Flags: 5 Signs You Are In An Identity Crisis

  6. May 30

    What is identity and Why is identity important?

    Who are you when the titles, roles, and expectations fall away? In the very first episode of Reclaiming Identity, host Abbi DeWitt sits down with Kristen Zuray—founder of the Adi Project, trauma-informed coach, author, and speaker—to explore one of the most important questions we can ask ourselves: What is identity? Have you ever looked in the mirror and felt disconnected from the person staring back at you? Maybe you've spent years defining yourself by your relationships, career, responsibilities, or the expectations of others—only to feel lost when life changes. In this honest and deeply personal conversation, Kristen shares her own journey of discovering who she truly was beyond the labels of pastor's wife, cop's wife, executive director, author, and founder. Together, Abbi and Kristen unpack how identity is shaped by our upbringing, relationships, trauma, faith, values, and life experiences—and why understanding your identity changes everything. From the decisions we make to the relationships we build, identity influences our confidence, emotional health, purpose, and resilience through life's hardest seasons. If you've ever struggled with insecurity, people-pleasing, feeling unseen, or wondering where you truly belong, this episode will remind you that you are not alone—and that healing and clarity are possible. This episode also introduces the heart behind the Adi Project, the mission of Reclaiming Identity, and the hope that comes from rediscovering who you were created to be.

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Have you wondered why God allowed bad things to happen to you? Do you find yourself second guessing your decisions? Do you feel that no matter how hard you try, your efforts are never good enough? Are you tired of having bad relationships in your family, friends, and significant others? We're so glad you're here! This podcast will give you the tools to help you heal your relationship with God, others, and yourself so that you will have stronger faith, feel confident, and find balance in your life. We are Kristen Zuray, Abbi DeWitt, and Lydia Zuray, a mother/daughter team of Christian Life Coaches and Mentors from the Adi Project. From previously struggling with relational heartbreak, spiritual and emotional abuse, and long term chronic illness- we have struggled to understand God's goodness and His ultimate design for us. We tried to ignore our pain, placed our self-worth in our work, and chased after people's approval only to feel even more lost and rejected. We began to put up walls with the very God who's known for breaking them down. God showed the truth that our identities don't come from our hands. Identity is not about what we do, it's about who God is. We were designed to be a reflection of His image. When we seek to understand and believe in the truth of God's identity and in how He sees us, we begin to heal from our past traumas, grow in confidence, and begin living out in our purposes. If you are ready to reclaim your God-given identity, heal from your relationships, and discover the truth of who God is, then this podcast is for you! So, grab your spiritual armor, a cup of strong coffee, and join us in reclaiming your identity in Christ. Disclaimer: "The views and opinions expressed on Reclaiming Identity are those of the authors and do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of any organization, employer, or company. The information provided in this podcast is for general informational and entertainment purposes only and should not be construed as professional advice. Listeners should always seek the advice of a qualified professional regarding any specific concerns." Want to work together? Here's how we can help you reclaim your God-given identity and purpose! * Snag a free gift and find out more at https://www.adiproject.org * Coaching: Has the past silenced who you are? Do you want to get unstuck? Sign up for private coaching sessions with one of Adi Project's coaches: https://www.adiproject.org/christian-coaching * Courses: Do you wonder where God was in your trauma? Want to go deeper in your faith but aren't ready to commit to coaching? Purchase the 9 week Called By Name video course, book, and workbook. https://www.adiproject.org/adi-books-and-merch * Resources: Do you want to learn more about identity but don't want to read another self-help book? Are you drawn to fantasy fiction? We have you covered with the Redemption of Adi trilogy. https://www.adiproject.org/adi-books-and-merch * Community: You don't have to walk this journey alone. Join our Identity Building Facebook community and connect with others who are discovering their true identity and purpose. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1437640954240014

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  • Creator
    Kristen Zuray, Abbi DeWitt, Lydia Zuray
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    6
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026
  • Show Website
    Reclaiming Identity