Married and Connected

Kameran Al-Areqi
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Married & Connected helps high-achieving couples build stronger, more emotionally connected marriages. Hosted by certified marriage coach Kameran Thompson Alareqi, each episode blends psychology, faith, and practical tools to improve communication, rebuild trust, and reignite connection. Hear real couples and experts share how to break patterns, heal attachment wounds, and create a marriage that actually works. New episodes every Monday.

  1. 5D AGO

    Ep 126: Is Money Your Replacement for Presence? Redefining Masculine Leadership with Thomas Blottenberger

    Are you providing for a lifestyle or providing for a connection? In this powerful episode, Kameran sits down with Thomas Blottenberger, founder of the Risk Reward Agency and a transformational coach for successful men. Thomas reveals a hard truth: most men use money as a "metric for being a good boy," yet find themselves inwardly hollow and relationally disconnected. We dive deep into why "math is not money," how childhood wounds dictate your bank account balance, and why most men choose the predictability of a career over the vulnerability of a marriage. If you’ve ever felt like you’re "buying peace" at home because you have none internally, this episode is your roadmap to radical honesty and emotional mastery. Key Takeaways: Money as an Energy Multiplier: Why financial success often amplifies internal chaos rather than solving it.The Transactional Trap: How men treat marriages like balance sheets and why "buying peace" never leads to intimacy.Presence vs. Paycheck: Understanding the difference between caretaking and grounded leadership.The Masculine Wound: Why many men view money as a "stand-in" for their fathers and how that creates a loathing/love relationship with wealth.The Power of Subtraction: Why finding joy isn't about adding more "stuff," but subtracting the false narratives that keep you stuck.Highlights: The pivot from financial advisor to transformational coach.Why math is not money: The psychology behind our financial choices.Money as a mirror: What your bank account says about your internal state.Conflict avoidance and why men default to transactional living. The "Peace for Provision" trade: Why men feel attacked when wives ask for connection.Deep Dive: When money becomes "Dad" in a man's subconscious.The Secret to Joy: Why you must subtract before you can lead.Connect with the Guest & Community: Join the Conversation: Ready to take these lessons deeper and connect with like-minded couples and individuals? Join our community! 👉 [Join the Skool Community Here] Connect with Thomas Blottenberger: Website: https://go.theriskrewardagency.com/welcome Instagram: @mr.blottenbergerKeywords for SEO: Masculine leadership, marriage advice for men, emotional mastery, Thomas Blottenberger, financial psychology, relationship connection, healing childhood wounds, providing for family, spiritual growth in marriage, transactional relationships, men's coaching. Support the show

    1h 5m
  2. Ep 125: Year End Reset: A Ritual for Closing 2025 & Reconnecting for the New Year

    12/30/2025

    Ep 125: Year End Reset: A Ritual for Closing 2025 & Reconnecting for the New Year

    In this special end-of-year episode of Married and Connected, Kameran guides you through a "Holiday Reset Ritual." In This Episode, We Cover: The 2025 State of Marriage: A look at the top Google searches for couples this year (hint: it wasn’t about money, it was about emotional safety).The "Three-Layer Gratitude" Practice: Why saying "thanks for doing the dishes" isn't enough, and how to use gratitude to reset your nervous system.Lessons from the Experts: The top relationship insights from 2025 featuring wisdom from The Gottman Institute, Esther Perel, Matthew Hussey, Marriage 365 and more.Wounds vs. Patterns: How to recognize if you are acting out of an anxious or avoidant attachment style, and how to heal it next year.The "Name It to Tame It" Ritual: A step-by-step guided conversation to have with your partner tonight to close the chapter on the hard stuff and seal your intentions for 2026.Key Quotes: "Every couple wants to feel like they are on the same team. Not roommates. Not co-parents. But a safe place to land.""Gratitude isn't just manners; it is a biological reset button for your relationship.""You don’t drift into a great marriage. You decide your way there."Resources Mentioned: The Gottman Institute (Micro-moments of connection)Esther Perel (Erotic Intelligence and Attention)Topics: Attachment Styles, The Mother/Father Wound, Mental LoadWork With Kameran Option 1: For Couples (1:1 Coaching) Are you tired of having the same fight over and over again? Do you want 2026 to be the year you finally break the generational patterns holding your marriage back? Listening to a podcast gives you the what, but coaching gives you the how. I currently have 2 spots open for couples to work with me 1:1 starting in January. This is intimate, deep-dive work where we look at your specific attachment styles, your communication loops, and build a custom roadmap for your connection. Link: Book your Consultation for 1:1 Couples Coaching Here Option 2: For Wives (Edifying Eden Group) Starts January 5th | Limited to 10 Women If you are walking into the new year feeling the heavy weight of resentment, or if you are tired of the cycle of yelling to be heard only to feel guilty five minutes later—this is your invitation. Edifying Eden is my exclusive small group for the wife who is ready to turn her home back into a sanctuary. Together, we will: Ditch the Resentment: Clear out the bitterness that keeps you disconnected.Stop the Yelling: Learn to regulate your emotions so you can respond, not react.Be Heard: Learn to speak so your family listens the first time.Biblical Womanhood: Step fully into the grace and wisdom of the Proverbs 31 wife.We begin January 5th. Because this is a high-touch sisterhood, I am only accepting 10 women. Email Kameran at coaching@recognizingpotential.com for more info. Connect with Kameran: Instagram: @married.and.connectedWebsite: www.recognizingpotential.comSubscribe & Review: If this episode helped you reset, please leave a review! It helps other couples find the tools they need to stay married and connected. Happy New Year, friends! Support the show

    28 min
  3. Ep 124: I Want My Spouse to Change But They Won't! (and what to do about it)

    12/22/2025

    Ep 124: I Want My Spouse to Change But They Won't! (and what to do about it)

    Are you waiting for your spouse to finally "get it"? Whether it’s their communication style, a habit that hurts the family dynamic, or an emotional wall they’ve built, the pain of wanting your partner to change—and being met with resistance—is one of the loneliest experiences in a marriage. In this deep-dive episode of Married and Connected, we move past the cliché advice of "just talk to them" and look at the hard science and psychology of change. We explore why your partner is neurologically wired to resist pressure, how to move from anxious pursuit to secure influence, and the life-changing power of emotional sobriety. If you feel like you’re negotiating with potential instead of living in reality, this episode is your roadmap back to yourself. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: The Change Paradox: Why wanting change isn’t wrong, but why "forcing" it triggers the psychological phenomenon of Reactance.Attachment Styles & Conflict: How secure, anxious, and avoidant attachment styles dictate how we ask for change—and why some methods are doomed to fail.The Neurobiology of Resistance: Understanding the "ego defense" and why your partner’s brain perceives your requests as a threat to their identity.Emotional Sobriety: A deep dive into Dr. Andrea Vitz’s framework—learning to regulate your own internal state without using your partner’s behavior as a "drug."Control vs. Influence: Practical ways to set boundaries without ultimatums and stop the cycle of self-abandonment.The Hard Truths: How to distinguish between "hope" and "negotiating with potential," and how to know when waiting has become self-betrayal.Featured Research & Frameworks: Dr. Alexandra Solomon: On the importance of relational self-awareness and focusing on the "Self" within the "Us."Dr. Andrea Vitz: On the principles of Emotional Sobriety and taking 100% responsibility for your own emotional peace.The Gottman Institute: Research regarding "Positive Sentiment Override" and how safety is a prerequisite for behavioral change.Attachment Theory: How childhood survival strategies (avoidance/anxiety) manifest as resistance in adult marriage.Resources Mentioned: Loving Bravely by Dr. Alexandra SolomonThe You You've Never Met by Dr. Andrea Vitzwww.recognizingpotential.comConnect with Us: Instagram: @married.and.connectedSubscribe & Review: If this episode resonated with you, please leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify!Keywords: Marriage advice, relationship change, how to get my husband to change, attachment theory in marriage, emotional sobriety, Dr. Andrea Vitz, Dr. Alexandra Solomon, secure attachment, marriage boundaries, marital conflict, avoidant partner, anxious attachment style. Support the show

    52 min

  4. 12/08/2025

    Ep 123: Let’s Go to Bed (Together): Why Bedtime Matters More Than You Think

    Host: Kam — Marriage Coach, Gottman-trained Episode: Sleep & Shared Rhythms Series Episode Summary Tonight’s episode dives into one of the most underrated marriage habits: going to bed at the same time. No, it’s not about forcing one partner to stay awake or having the perfect bedtime routine. It’s about the micro-moments of connection that happen when couples sync their rhythms. We talk about: Why shared bedtimes increase emotional connection, intimacy, and trustWhat the research says about sleep syncing and marital satisfactionHow bedtime can become a ritual of safety, peace, and closenessWhat to do if you and your spouse naturally have different chronotypesThe sneaky ways separate bedtimes create “roommate syndrome”Practical steps to slowly shift into a shared rhythm without pressure or resentmentIf you’re craving more connection, this is one of the simplest—and most powerful—places to start. What You’ll Learn The psychological comfort created by falling asleep next to someone you feel bonded toHow shared bedtimes naturally increase sex frequency (without forcing anything)Why your nervous system regulates better when you fall asleep with your spouseReal-life examples of couples who fixed distance in their marriage by fixing bedtimeHow to build a bedtime rhythm even in busy seasons, shift work, or with kidsTry This Tonight (Homework) Choose 1 night this week to go to bed at the same time.Climb into bed, put your phones away, keep the TV off (or take it out of your room completely), and share ONE thing:What felt good today?What felt hard?How can I love you well tomorrow?End the day with physical closeness—a hug, a kiss, hand-holding, or just touching feet.Micro-connection builds macro-trust. Links & Resources Marriage Membership on Skool: The community for couples who want connection, growth, and peaceWork With Kam: Book a marriage coaching session to discuss coaching optionsIf You Loved This Episode… Please take 2 seconds to rate the podcast—it helps more couples find hope, connection, and support. Support the show

    35 min
  5. Ep 122: The Cost of Comfort in Marriage: How Playing It Safe Can Destroy Your Relationship

    11/25/2025

    Ep 122: The Cost of Comfort in Marriage: How Playing It Safe Can Destroy Your Relationship

    This week on Married and Connected, we dive deep into the cost of comfort in marriage and how playing it safe can quietly erode intimacy, trust, and growth. Comfort in a relationship isn’t inherently bad—but when it becomes a default, a hiding place, or a shield, it can quietly sabotage your connection. In this short episode, Kameran Thompson Alareqi breaks down practical, research-backed strategies to reignite growth, deepen connection, and break free from ego-driven patterns that leave couples stuck. 💥 Black Friday Specials – Limited Spots 💥 Individual Coaching: $1,500 (50% off) – One-on-one sessions to tackle your marriage challenges head-on. Limited to 3 Marriage Retreat: $1,700 per couple – A transformational getaway to reconnect, reset, and restore your partnership. Limited to 6 Edifying Eden: $750 (50% off) – A powerful group program designed to help women stop yelling to be heard, learn to set boundaries, quit quietly burning out in life and parenting, step into the Proverbs 31 wife role, and cultivate grace-filled strength in all areas of life. Limited to 10. These offers are only available for a limited time. Secure your spot and transform your relationship today. Key Takeaways from This Episode: How comfort can become a slow leak in your marriage foundation. Practical tools to balance ease with growth and intimacy. Recognizing ego-driven behaviors that prioritize safety over connection. Research-backed strategies for identifying when comfort is hurting your marriage. Ways to implement easy, moderate, and advanced interventions to reinvigorate your partnership. Resources & Contact Info: Learn more and secure your Black Friday offers: www.recognizingpotential.com Email directly for coaching spots or free consultations: coaching@recognizingpotential.com Disclaimer: The content of this episode is for educational and informational purposes only. Kameran Thompson Alareqi and Recognizing Potential are not responsible for the application of this content in your personal life. Individual results may vary. Listen, Learn, Apply, and Transform Your Marriage. Support the show

    27 min
  6. Ep 121: A Lack of Care or Something Else?

    11/16/2025

    Ep 121: A Lack of Care or Something Else?

    Most partners don’t fall out of love— they fall out of care. In this powerful episode, marriage coach Kameran Thompson Alareqi breaks down why “care” is more than acts of service, more than love languages, and more than doing the dishes. It’s about being noticed, being considered, and being held in mind. Too many couples secretly believe: “My partner doesn’t care about me.” And the truth is…it’s rarely intentional neglect. It’s almost always a lack of awareness, emotional attunement, and early conditioning that taught people to be “I-focused” instead of “we-focused.” In this episode, you’ll learn how to rebuild a culture of care inside your home—one grounded in emotional connection, presence, and shared responsibility. 💡 In This Episode, We Cover: Why care—not love languages—is the true core of connection What it really means to be noticed, valued, and emotionally held The most common reasons partners seem like they “don’t care” How childhood conditioning shapes your ability to care for others How to communicate unmet needs without nagging or conflict The difference between caring for your partner and caring about them Small daily behaviors that instantly increase connection How to shift from reactive patterns to intentional, supportive teamwork Why neglect often stems from unintentional emotional blindness How to rebuild shared awareness and relationship safety Care in relationships is about emotional connection, not performance Partners crave being noticed, considered, and remembered Many couples experience an invisible care deficit A thriving marriage requires a culture of care, not random gestures Most neglect is actually a lack of emotional awareness Small intentional behaviors build connection, safety, and intimacy Communication and curiosity are essential for relationship health 🎙️ Soundbites You’ll Love: “Care is about being noticed—not about doing more.” “You cannot have emotional connection without emotional awareness.” “Most partners don’t stop caring. They stop being taught how to care.” “When care disappears, resentment grows.” Chapters: 00:00 — The Real Meaning of Care in Relationships 00:42 — Why Emotional Awareness Shapes How We Love 03:18 — Childhood Conditioning That Blocks Care 09:55 — How to Ask for Care Without Conflict 15:40 — Rebuilding a Culture of Care at Home 23:12 — Small Daily Gestures That Change Everything 💛 Want a More Caring, Connected Marriage?Apply for private marriage coaching with Kameran Thompson Alareqi. Transform communication, rebuild connection, and learn the skills your marriage is missing. 👉 www.recognizingpotential.com or email coaching@recognizingpotential.com Disclaimer:This podcast is educational only and not a substitute for therapy or legal advice. Kameran is not responsible for how listeners apply the information. Support the show

    24 min
  7. EP 120: The Christmas Compass: How to Navigate Holiday Expectations Without Losing Your Joy (or Your Marriage)

    11/11/2025

    EP 120: The Christmas Compass: How to Navigate Holiday Expectations Without Losing Your Joy (or Your Marriage)

    The holidays are supposed to bring joy, not resentment—and yet, every year, countless couples end up fighting about unmet expectations, mental load, and emotional burnout. In this episode of Married & Connected, certified marriage coach Kameran Alareqi shares how to use the Christmas Compass to realign your marriage, your mindset, and your peace this holiday season. We’ll unpack: ✨ Why resentment always comes from unspoken expectations ✨ How to express what you actually need—without guilt or control ✨ The difference between weaponized incompetence and healthy boundaries ✨ How to practice weaponized competence (yes, that’s a thing!) to bring out the best in your partner ✨ How to use systems and small rituals to stay connected when life gets busy ✨ Practical tools to navigate holiday chaos with clarity, care, and calm If the holidays often leave you feeling unseen, overwhelmed, or frustrated, this episode will help you lower expectations, increase connection, and rediscover joy—without doing it all yourself. 🎁 Mentioned in this episode: ✨ Ad by GoodKind.shop — Shop Advent Blocks and GratiCube, powerful family tools to bring faith, gratitude, and connection back to your holiday season. 💬 Want to take this deeper? Work 1:1 with Kameran Alareqi, Certified Marriage Coach, to create systems that strengthen your marriage year-round. 👉 Apply for private coaching at www.recognizingpotential.com or email Kam at coaching@recognizingpotential.com ⚠️ Disclaimer: This podcast is for educational purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy or legal advice. Kameran Alareqi and Married & Connected are not responsible for how listeners apply the information discussed. Support the show

    23 min
  8. Ep 119: Your Father Wound is Calling the Shots

    10/24/2025

    Ep 119: Your Father Wound is Calling the Shots

    In this episode, we’re getting real about something most adults never stop to unpack — the father wound. Whether your dad was absent, emotionally unavailable, or even well-intentioned but distant, the imprint he left is shaping the way you love, lead, and connect today. You’ll discover how the unmet needs from your father are still influencing your marriage, your triggers, your self-worth, and even your ability to trust. This isn’t about blame — it’s about awareness, healing, and breaking generational patterns so your family story ends differently. In this episode, you’ll learn: What the “father wound” actually is and how it shows up in adulthood The hidden ways it affects your marriage, intimacy, and communication Why so many high-achievers carry a “silent ache” from their fathers How healing your father wound strengthens your relationship with God and your spouse Practical steps to begin healing and reclaiming your emotional freedomHow to avoid creating a father wound in your own children or future children Order your GoodKind products today! Use the code DIVORCEPROOF at checkout for 10% off ✨ Advent Blocks — Make the countdown to Christmas meaningful again with this intentional, hands-on way to point your family back to Jesus. 🌟 GratiKube — Build daily gratitude into your home and teach your kids to focus on what truly matters. If this episode stirred something in you — that quiet “this is me” moment — it might be time to invest in healing what’s underneath. Apply now for 1:1 Marriage Coaching with Kameran. Together, we’ll identify the patterns running your relationship, heal the root wounds, and help you rebuild a marriage marked by trust, safety, and connection. 👉 Apply for Coaching Here to begin your restoration journey today. Keywords: father wound healing, marriage coaching, Christian marriage podcast, emotional healing, fatherless homes, childhood trauma in marriage, relationship coaching, family of origin issues, healing from emotional neglect, Christian couples therapy Support the show

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Married & Connected helps high-achieving couples build stronger, more emotionally connected marriages. Hosted by certified marriage coach Kameran Thompson Alareqi, each episode blends psychology, faith, and practical tools to improve communication, rebuild trust, and reignite connection. Hear real couples and experts share how to break patterns, heal attachment wounds, and create a marriage that actually works. New episodes every Monday.

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  • Creator
    Kameran Al-Areqi
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2026
  • Episodes
    127
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2026 Married and Connected
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