Refined & Unhinged

Refine Social Club

A mother-daughter podcast on womanhood, real talk, and the wild ride of self-discovery. From refined reflections to unhinged confessions—this is womanhood, uncensored. Refined & Unhinged is the unapologetically honest podcast that dives deep into the evolving female experience—hosted by mother-daughter duo Jen Dryden Hess and Ali Stricklin. Jen is an empty nester navigating her Third Act with bold curiosity, while Ali is running multiple businesses and raising two daughters in Los Angeles. Together, they unpack the beautifully chaotic journey of being a woman—no topic off-limits, no filter applied. Each week, you’ll hear raw, intergenerational conversations that span personal growth, self-discovery, sexuality, motherhood, mental health, relationships, wellness, career pivots, financial literacy, and society’s messiest expectations. Sometimes it’s deep. Sometimes it’s hilarious. It’s always authentic. What makes Refined & Unhinged special is our commitment to building a community where women’s stories become bridges. Each episode features relatable experiences that remind you you’re not alone in your journey. By sharing both our vulnerabilities and victories, we’re creating more than just a podcast—we’re fostering a movement of connection that extends beyond the airwaves. Whether you’re a 25-year-old questioning everything or a 65-year-old rewriting the rules, this is your space to feel seen, laugh out loud, and connect with women doing the work (imperfectly) at every stage. Expect guest interviews from experts and everyday women alike, generational hot takes, and sofa-side wine fueled chats. The conversations don’t end when the episode does. Join our thriving community of open-minded, open-hearted women who are embracing the mess, the magic, and everything in between. Continue these important discussions, find your tribe, and attend exclusive in-person events through the Refine Social Club—where podcast listeners become real-life connections. Visit www.refinesocial.club to find events in your city and join a community of women supporting women. Refine Social Club Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/refinesocial.club Refined & Unhinged Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/refinedandunhinged Refined & Unhinged Show Notes: https://www.refinesocial.club/podcast

  1. JAN 28

    We Don’t Play About Our Sleep

    Sleep shouldn’t feel this hard — and yet, for so many of us, it does. In this episode, Ali Stricklin and Jen Dryden Hess dives into the very real, very relatable struggle of getting quality rest. From years of poor sleep habits to experimenting with every wellness trend imaginable, Je & Alii share what they’ve learned about sleep hygiene, lifestyle choices, and the small changes that actually make a difference. The conversation explores how everyday factors like alcohol, caffeine, stress, screen time, and inconsistent routines quietly sabotage our sleep quality — even when we think we’re “doing everything right.” Jen also opens up about how technology and sleep-tracking devices can be both helpful and misleading, and why awareness matters more than perfection. SHARE & REVIEW: If this episode resonated, please share with a friend or write a review. We would love to hear from you. Screenshot your share or review and DM us for a chance to win our monthly swag giveaway! FOLLOW: Refined & Unhinged: @refinedandunhinged Refine Social Club: @refinesocial.club Host: Ali Stricklin: @alistricklin Host: Jen Dryden Hess: @jendrydenhess The podcast by Refine Social Club Join our thriving community of open-minded, open-hearted women who are embracing the mess, the magic, and everything in between. Continue these important discussions, find your people, and attend exclusive in-person events—where podcast listeners become real-life connections. Join our list to stay in the know.

    40 min
  2. JAN 13

    "Let Them" & Let Me Apologize

    In this episode, Ali & Jen chat about their reactions, takeaways, and feelings after diving into the Let Them theory by Mel Robbins and, naturally, spiral into some hilarious (and humbling) childhood stories where Ali very confidently tested her mom’s patience. What starts as a conversation about emotional control, expectations, and letting people be who they are quickly turns into a reflection on how deeply a child can test their parent’s will to “Let Them”. From stress and people-pleasing to boundaries, communication, and emotional maturity, this episode unpacks how much energy we waste trying to manage things that were never ours to control in the first place. They explore what it actually looks like to “let them” in real life. If you’ve ever tried to control the room, your parents, your kids, or literally everyone around you… yeah, us too. SHARE & REVIEW: If this episode resonated, please share with a friend or write a review. We would love to hear from you. Screenshot your share or review and DM us for a chance to win our monthly swag giveaway! FOLLOW: Refined & Unhinged: @refinedandunhinged Refine Social Club: @refinesocial.club Ali: @alistricklin Jen Dryden Hess: @jendrydenhess The podcast by Refine Social Club Join our thriving community of open-minded, open-hearted women who are embracing the mess, the magic, and everything in between. Continue these important discussions, find your people, and attend exclusive in-person events—where podcast listeners become real-life connections. Join our list to stay in the know.

    42 min
  3. 12/10/2025

    Let’s Talk About Sex with Guest: Deb Tsagris

    In this week’s episode of Refined & Unhinged, we sit down with psychotherapist Deborah Tsagris for a raw, honest conversation about female pleasure, intimacy, and what actually happens behind closed doors…especially once you throw kids, careers, and real-life chaos into the mix. We get into everything: how our anatomy shapes our sexual experiences, why self-exploration matters more than most women were ever taught, and the messy, beautiful dynamics of desire, orgasm, and partnership. Deb breaks down the cultural conditioning we carry around sex. We discuss how cultural conditioning shows up in our relationships and why so many women feel disconnected from their own pleasure. We also talk about the real challenges of balancing parenting and intimacy. How you keep a relationship alive when there are tiny humans knocking at the door, how to talk to your kids about their bodies without making it weird, and why reclaiming your sexuality as a woman is not optional… it’s absolutely essential. At its core, this episode is about taking shame out of the conversation, communicating honestly, and giving women permission to want more. It’s normal and healthy to want more; more pleasure, more connection, more understanding of your own body and needs. SHARE & REVIEW: If this episode resonated, please share with a friend or write a review. We would love to hear from you. Screenshot your share or review and DM us for a chance to win our monthly swag giveaway! FOLLOW: Refined & Unhinged: @refinedandunhinged Refine Social Club: @refinesocial.club Ali: @alistricklin Jen Dryden Hess: @jendrydenhess The podcast by Refine Social Club Join our thriving community of open-minded, open-hearted women who are embracing the mess, the magic, and everything in between. Continue these important discussions, find your people, and attend exclusive in-person events—where podcast listeners become real-life connections. Join our list to stay in the know.

    1h 20m
  4. 11/04/2025

    Wine Tasting Without Pretense with Guest Sonja Magdevski

    In this engaging conversation, Ali Stricklin & Jen Dryden Hess interview Sonja Magdevski on her experiences in the wine industry, emphasizing the importance of community, storytelling, and the joy of wine tasting. She discusses navigating the challenges of today's wine market and how generational shifts are reshaping alcohol consumption patterns.  Sonja opens up about her personal journey as a winemaker, highlighting the significance of creating welcoming wine experiences and embracing the unique character of each vintage. The discussion explores the evolving role of women in the industry and reflects on wine as a powerful medium for connection and self-discovery. There is no pretense here, just women who love and appreciate wine and the experience of sharing a glass.   FOLLOW: Sonja Magdevski,  Founder and Winemaker at Clementine Carter   SHARE & REVIEW: If this episode resonated, please share with a friend or write a review. We would love to hear from you. Screenshot your share or review and DM us for a chance to win our monthly swag giveaway! FOLLOW: Refined & Unhinged: @refinedandunhinged Refine Social Club: @refinesocial.club Ali: @alistricklin Jen Dryden Hess: @jendrydenhess The podcast by Refine Social Club Join our thriving community of open-minded, open-hearted women who are embracing the mess, the magic, and everything in between. Continue these important discussions, find your people, and attend exclusive in-person events—where podcast listeners become real-life connections. Join our list to stay in the know.

    1h 1m
  5. 10/21/2025

    The Power of Journaling: From Stream of Consciousness to Manifestation

    In this episode of Refined & Unhinged, Ali Stricklin & Jen Dryden Hess  dive deep into the transformative practice of journaling and how putting pen to paper can unlock clarity, growth, and self-discovery. Whether you're documenting your deepest thoughts or planning your dream future, journaling offers a powerful tool for personal development. They explore the beauty of stream of consciousness writing, share practical tips for reintroducing good habits into your routine, and discuss why starting small is the secret to sustainable change. Learn why incremental gains matter more than grand gestures when it comes to building lasting habits. Along the way, they share unfiltered stories about journal manifestations, shopping for lingerie in Paris, and discuss the cathartic ritual of burning journals whose stories no longer serve us.   Episode Mentions: The Artists Way by Julia Cameron Skylight    SHARE & REVIEW: If this episode resonated, please share with a friend or write a review. We would love to hear from you. Screenshot your share or review and DM us for a chance to win our monthly swag giveaway! FOLLOW: Refined & Unhinged: @refinedandunhinged Refine Social Club: @refinesocial.club Ali: @alistricklin Jen Dryden Hess: @jendrydenhess The podcast by Refine Social Club Join our thriving community of open-minded, open-hearted women who are embracing the mess, the magic, and everything in between. Continue these important discussions, find your people, and attend exclusive in-person events—where podcast listeners become real-life connections. Join our list to stay in the know.

    36 min
5
out of 5
10 Ratings

About

A mother-daughter podcast on womanhood, real talk, and the wild ride of self-discovery. From refined reflections to unhinged confessions—this is womanhood, uncensored. Refined & Unhinged is the unapologetically honest podcast that dives deep into the evolving female experience—hosted by mother-daughter duo Jen Dryden Hess and Ali Stricklin. Jen is an empty nester navigating her Third Act with bold curiosity, while Ali is running multiple businesses and raising two daughters in Los Angeles. Together, they unpack the beautifully chaotic journey of being a woman—no topic off-limits, no filter applied. Each week, you’ll hear raw, intergenerational conversations that span personal growth, self-discovery, sexuality, motherhood, mental health, relationships, wellness, career pivots, financial literacy, and society’s messiest expectations. Sometimes it’s deep. Sometimes it’s hilarious. It’s always authentic. What makes Refined & Unhinged special is our commitment to building a community where women’s stories become bridges. Each episode features relatable experiences that remind you you’re not alone in your journey. By sharing both our vulnerabilities and victories, we’re creating more than just a podcast—we’re fostering a movement of connection that extends beyond the airwaves. Whether you’re a 25-year-old questioning everything or a 65-year-old rewriting the rules, this is your space to feel seen, laugh out loud, and connect with women doing the work (imperfectly) at every stage. Expect guest interviews from experts and everyday women alike, generational hot takes, and sofa-side wine fueled chats. The conversations don’t end when the episode does. Join our thriving community of open-minded, open-hearted women who are embracing the mess, the magic, and everything in between. Continue these important discussions, find your tribe, and attend exclusive in-person events through the Refine Social Club—where podcast listeners become real-life connections. Visit www.refinesocial.club to find events in your city and join a community of women supporting women. Refine Social Club Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/refinesocial.club Refined & Unhinged Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/refinedandunhinged Refined & Unhinged Show Notes: https://www.refinesocial.club/podcast