Reframe This...

Corinna Rosenkilde
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A therapist and his wife walk into a podcast... Matt Rosenkilde is a Licensed Professional Therapist with over a decade of experience, and Corinna is his wife, best friend and co-host. Tune in each week as they rotate through themes such as marriage, faith and mental health - grounded in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy principles, but shared in a way that's relatable. Whether you're looking for tools to reframe your thoughts, encouragement for your faith, or just a reminder that you're not the only one figuring it all out, you'll find a seat at the table here.

  1. JAN 7

    Ep. 14 Reframe This... Time & Order: Don't Rush the Verdict

    In this episode of Reframe This, Matt and Corinna explore how often we rush our lives to a verdict before the process is complete. Borrowing the framework of Law & Order, they remind us that verdicts don’t come first—investigation does. Yet in our own lives, we’re quick to declare, “I’m failing,” or “This isn’t working,” long before the evidence is in. The reframe is simple but powerful: peace doesn’t come from outcomes—it comes from order. Through personal stories, humor, and thoughtful insight, they unpack how order isn’t about control, but intentional structure. When we organize our lives around identity and action rather than results, we create space for peace—even while things are still unfinished. Messy seasons aren’t meaningless. They’re often where the most important work is happening. Key TakeawaysUnfinished doesn’t mean failed—sometimes the investigation is still ongoingPeace grows from intentional action, not perfect outcomesStructure creates safety; control creates anxietyLessons often come before blessingsScriptures ReferencedEcclesiastes 3:1 – There is a time for everything and a season for every activityProverbs 24:3–4 – Wisdom and understanding come before fullnessProverbs 16:9 – We plan our course, but our steps are established over time If you’re walking through a season that feels overwhelming and would benefit from extra support, working with a licensed therapist can help you navigate it with care and intention. You can find a therapist near you using Psychology Today’s Therapist Directory. For listeners in Arizona:Matt’s practice, Dynamis Counseling, offers therapy and support for individuals, couples, and families. Arizona residents are welcome to reach out to learn more or get connected with a therapist who fits their needs.

    20 min

  2. 12/31/2025

    Ep. 13 Reframe This... Not a New Year - A New Day

    In this episode of Reframe This, Matt Rosenkilde challenges the traditional “New Year, New Me” mindset that often leads to burnout and discouragement by February. Rather than waiting for January 1st to make a change, Matt explores the idea that transformation doesn’t require a new year—just a new choice and a meaningful why. He reframes New Year’s resolutions as small, consistent shifts that are anchored to identity and purpose, not external pressure or perfection. Through personal reflections, stories, and evidence from therapy and faith, Matt explains how small changes, made consistently, can lead to sustainable growth. He emphasizes that growth isn’t about dramatic, immediate results, but about making a series of 1% improvements each day that compound over time. If you’ve ever felt like resolutions don’t stick, or that change is too difficult to sustain, this episode offers a fresh perspective that invites you to reframe your approach to growth—whether it’s a new habit, personal goal, or mindset shift. Show NotesKey Reframes from the Episode: Change is a direction, not a deadline: Avoid the pressure of big changes that happen in a rush; focus on continuous small shifts.Identity changes through behavior—not before it: Be the person you want to become by practicing small behaviors aligned with that identity.Every day is a reset, not a restart: Give yourself grace and view missteps as part of the process, not a reason to quit.Reflection Questions: Where have you been treating growth like a deadline instead of a direction?What small change have you dismissed because it felt insignificant?What identity are you trying to feel before acting, and what behavior could support it now?Where have you mistaken a slip for failure?What’s one 1% shift you can make today?💡 Reframe of the Week"You don’t need a new year to change; you need a meaningful why and a consistent choice. Real transformation happens one decision at a time, and the smallest shifts, repeated daily, compound into lasting growth." 🕊️ Spiritual ReflectionLamentations 3:22-23 — “Because of the Lord’s great love, we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning…” Zechariah 4:10 — “Do not despise these small beginnings…” 📚 Resources Mentioned:Atomic Habits by James Clear: A must-read for anyone interested in how small habits can lead to big changes over time. Learn more about Atomic HabitsPsychology Today’s Therapist Directory: If you’re seeking support for your mental health, you can find a licensed therapist near you. Visit Psychology TodayFor listeners in Arizona: Dynamis Counseling: Matt’s practice provides therapy services for individuals, couples, and families. If you're in Arizona, reach out to Dynamis Counseling to get matched with a therapist who fits your needs. Learn more about Dynamis Counseling📬 Stay ConnectedIf you have a topic you'd like us to reframe, or a question for the show, feel free to reach out at info@reframethis. Until next time:Remember, you don’t need a new year to start creating change. You have a new day, a new choice, and a new chance—right now. 💛

    19 min

  3. 12/24/2025

    Ep. 12 Reframe This... Belief Isn’t Certainty—It’s an Anchor

    In this reflective solo episode of Reframe This, Matt explores the often-overlooked power of belief and how it quietly shapes our confidence, relationships, faith, and endurance—especially during seasons of uncertainty. While belief is frequently framed as religious or philosophical, Matt reframes it as deeply functional: an internal anchor that determines how we interpret setbacks, navigate conflict, and remain grounded when emotions feel unstable. Using relatable examples—from childhood wonder and believing in Santa to adult relationships, marriage, and purpose—Matt unpacks what happens when belief erodes and why anxiety often rises in its place. Rather than encouraging forced optimism or certainty, this episode invites listeners to reconsider belief as a choice—something we revisit, practice, and sometimes borrow when we’re tired. Throughout the conversation, Matt blends therapeutic insight, personal experience, and spiritual reflection to help listeners gently reclaim belief in themselves, others, and the meaning beneath their everyday lives. The episode ultimately reframes belief not as proof or emotional intensity, but as what we choose to stand on when clarity isn’t available. 💡 Reframe of the Week “Belief isn’t about certainty—it’s about what you choose to stand on when certainty isn’t available.” Belief grounds us when emotions are wobbly, restores meaning when life feels heavy, and reminds us that wonder didn’t disappear as we grew older—it evolved. Choosing belief isn’t pretending everything is okay; it’s choosing an anchor when understanding runs out. 🕊️ Spiritual Reflection Matt shares how his understanding of belief is shaped by faith while inviting listeners of all backgrounds into reflection rather than agreement. These passages highlight belief as confidence, trust, and anchoring—especially when emotions fluctuate or circumstances feel unclear: Hebrews 11:1 — “Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.”A reminder that belief is not proof or certainty, but confidence and assurance when we can’t see the outcome.Proverbs 3:5–6 — “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding…”An invitation to consider what we lean on when our own understanding feels insufficient.These reflections emphasize that every human needs an anchor—whether faith, values, philosophy, or lived experience—to steady us when emotions and circumstances are unreliable. 🧠 Mental Health & Support Resources If this episode stirred questions about belief, anxiety, burnout, or emotional fatigue, connecting with a licensed therapist can be a meaningful next step. Find a Therapist Near You:Psychology Today Therapist Directoryhttps://www.psychologytoday.comFor Arizona Residents:Matt’s practice, Dynamis Counseling, provides therapy services for individuals, couples, and families. Arizona residents can reach out to learn more or get matched with a therapist who fits their needs.https://www.dynamiscounseling.comHave a topic you’d like us to reframe?📧 Email us at info@reframethis.org

    18 min

  4. 12/18/2025

    Ep. 11 Reframe This... Kindness is a Choice: We Don't Have to Feel Kind to Be Kind

    In this holiday-focused episode of Reframe This Podcast, Matt dives deep into how we can practice kindness, love, and grace during the holiday season—even when our emotions don’t align with the expectations around us. The holidays often bring a complicated mix of joy, stress, exhaustion, and family dynamics. Matt reflects on how we can choose kindness, love, and grace intentionally, even when those feelings don’t come naturally. Matt challenges the common misconception that kindness requires us to “feel” a certain way first. Instead, he reframes these values as actions we can choose, regardless of how we feel. From navigating stressful family gatherings to managing holiday shopping crowds and the pressure to be perfect, Matt shares practical strategies for maintaining grounded, intentional connections during a busy and emotionally charged time. 💡 Reframe of the Week“Kindness isn’t a feeling you wait for—it’s a value you choose to live from. Love isn’t proven by how warm you feel, but by how intentionally you act. Grace doesn’t excuse harm, but it gives space for compassion in the middle of a difficult moment.” 🕊️ Spiritual ReflectionMatt closes with some grounding reflections from Scripture that support the idea of practicing kindness, love, and grace when emotions are complicated, especially during the holiday season: 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 — Love is described not as a feeling, but through verbs: patience, kindness, restraint, and humility. It is a choice, not an emotion.Colossians 3:12-14 — “Clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. And over all these virtues, put on love.” Just as we intentionally choose our clothes every day, we must also intentionally choose these virtues.These reflections encourage us to ground ourselves in values, especially during a season that can feel emotionally complex. Mentioned in this Episode: Mark Manson’s book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fck* — The concept of emotions as “signposts, not commandments.”Psychology Today’s Therapist Directory — Find a licensed therapist near you to help with navigating holiday stress and emotional well-being.Resources for Support:If you're struggling with mental health or emotional overwhelm during the holidays, speaking with a licensed therapist can provide much-needed support. You can find a therapist near you through Psychology Today's Therapist Directory. For listeners in Arizona:Matt’s counseling practice, Dynamis Counseling, offers therapy services for individuals, couples, and families. Arizona residents can reach out to Dynamis Counseling to get matched with a therapist who fits their needs. Visit Dynamis Counseling for more information. Subscribe & Share:If today’s episode encouraged you, share it with someone who might need a little extra kindness, love, or grace this holiday season. And don’t forget to leave us a review! Reviews help others find this podcast and join the conversation. Contact Us:Have a topic you’d like us to reframe? Email us at info@reframethis.org.

    20 min

  5. 12/10/2025

    Ep. 10 Reframe This... Expectations: When Expectations Hijack the Holidays

    In this holiday-focused episode of Reframe This, Matt dives into the powerful role that holiday expectations play in shaping our emotional experience and overall mental health. He unpacks why the holidays often feel overwhelming—not because something is wrong with us, but because we’re carrying layers of spoken, unspoken, and inherited expectations that no human nervous system was designed to hold. From family traditions and pressure to “be happy,” to grief anniversaries, perfectionism, and financial strain, Matt explores how these expectations influence the way we think, feel, and relate during the season. He offers practical tools for navigating these pressures with clarity and compassion, including setting boundaries, redefining traditions, communicating needs openly, and creating a “bare minimum holiday plan” that protects peace instead of performance. Matt emphasizes that holiday exhaustion is not a personal failure—it’s accumulated pressure—and that we’re allowed to honor our capacity, rest, and show up authentically instead of perfectly. Throughout the episode, he reframes holiday stress as an opportunity to choose sustainability over expectation and gentleness over obligation, making space for a healthier, more grounded connection with ourselves and others. 💡 Reframe of the Week“Holiday overwhelm isn’t a sign of weakness—it’s a sign of carrying expectations no human nervous system was meant to hold. When we choose clarity and compassion over performance, the holidays become more sustainable and far more meaningful.” 🕊️ Spiritual ReflectionMatt closes with grounding reflections from Scripture that speak to being seen in our overwhelm and supported in our process: Psalm 139 — A reminder that we are fully seen, even in our holiday stress and emotional heaviness.Philippians 1:6 — “He who began a good work in you will carry it on…” We are in process, and God meets us in each step, not in perfection. These reflections invite us to offer ourselves the same compassion God offers us—especially during a season that often demands more than we have to give. If you’re navigating holiday stress and want support for your mental health, consider speaking with a licensed therapist. You can find a professional near you through Psychology Today’s Therapist Directory. For listeners living in Arizona:Matt’s practice, Dynamis Counseling, provides therapy services and support for individuals, couples, and families. Arizona residents can reach out to Dynamis Counseling to learn more or get matched with a therapist who fits their needs.

    23 min

  6. 12/03/2025

    Ep. 9 Reframe This... Postpartum Depression: A Season, Not Your Identity

    In this compassionate and eye-opening episode, Matt and Corinna explore the often-hidden reality of postpartum depression—what it looks like, why it happens, and how both moms and dads can navigate it with hope, honesty, and support. Drawing on personal stories, clinical insight, and moments of faith, they unpack the emotional, biological, and relational weight that can surface during the early months of parenthood. Together, they discuss how mental health, exhaustion, intrusive thoughts, anger, and unrealistic expectations can reshape a family’s sense of self—and why none of it is a reflection of anyone’s worth or ability. The conversation highlights how grace-based communication can protect relationships, how partners can walk through this time without shame, and why asking for help is an act of wisdom, not weakness. With practical tools, encouragement for single parents, insights on paternal postpartum depression, and resources for building community, this episode offers a grounded, gentle companion for anyone facing the challenging season of parenting. Whether you're in the thick of it or supporting someone who is, this reframe reminds you: you’re not broken, you’re not alone—and healing happens in connection. References & Resources MentionedPostpartum Support International (PSI)Website: postpartum.netPSI Helpline: 1-800-944-4773Online support groups and nationwide resourcesPSI Facebook & Instagram CommunitiesSocial support spaces for parents navigating postpartum mental healthMomwell PodcastEpisodes and education focused on maternal mental healthDad University PodcastFatherhood education and support, including paternal postpartum mental healthProverbs 31 MinistriesMotherhood: What Nobody Talks About – three-part podcast seriesCompanion PDF resource: What Nobody Talks About Brooke Shields – Down Came the RainMemoir exploring infertility, IVF, postpartum depression, and recovery

    48 min

  7. 11/26/2025

    Ep. 8 Reframe This... Gratitude: The Superpower You Might Not Be Using

    In this Thanksgiving week episode of Reframe This, Matt and Corinna dive into the powerful role that gratitude can play in improving our mental health and emotional wellbeing. Gratitude is often seen as something we feel, but in this episode, they discuss how it can be practiced consistently to reshape the way we think, feel, and relate to others. They explore how gratitude not only shifts our perspective but also has therapeutic benefits that regulate our nervous system, build resilience, and improve relationships. Through personal stories, including the struggles they faced in their own marriage, Matt and Corinna show how gratitude helped them navigate tough times and emerge stronger. The episode highlights how practicing gratitude, even in the midst of hardship, can enhance our mental health by fostering hope, clarity, and emotional balance. By choosing gratitude every day, we don’t deny the challenges in our lives but instead find ways to move through them with purpose and peace. 💡 Reframe of the Week “Gratitude isn’t about ignoring the hard — it’s about finding something to hold onto in the midst of it. It’s a practice that can reshape the way we experience life, even in the most challenging times.” 🕊️ Spiritual Reflection Matt and Corinna close with these reflections on gratitude from Scripture: 1 Thessalonians 5:18 — “Give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” Gratitude is a choice, not dependent on the situation.Psalm 100:4 — “Enter his gates with thanksgiving and his courts with praise.” Gratitude is the doorway to peace, grounding us in what is good, even in tough moments.James 1:2-3 - "Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance." If you’re looking for more support on your mental health journey, consider speaking with a licensed therapist. You can find a professional near you through Psychology Today’s Therapist Directory. Resource Links: What If We Saw Everything As the Gift That It Is? VideoThe science of gratitude and how it can affect the brain

    36 min

  8. 11/19/2025

    Ep. 7 Reframe This... Conflict Part 3: Resolution & Turning Conflict into Connection

    In this powerful episode of Reframe This, licensed therapist Matt and his wife and co-host Corinna unpack how healthy conflict, emotional safety, and clear boundaries can transform our relationships and improve our mental health. Building on last week’s discussion of avoided and lingering conflict, they move one step deeper—into what it actually looks like to resolve conflict with intention, curiosity, and care. With vulnerability and humor, Matt and Corinna share how easy it is for unspoken expectations, emotional overwhelm, and differing communication styles to create unnecessary tension. But instead of seeing conflict as a threat, they show how reframing it as a pathway to deeper connection can strengthen trust, empathy, and partnership. 🧠 Key Topics & Takeaways✔️ The internal locus of control — why focusing on our own emotions and reactions leads to healthier conflict resolution. ✔️ Boundaries as emotional safety — how internal and spoken boundaries protect peace and prevent resentment. ✔️ How unspoken expectations create resentment — and why mind reading and “you should know” thinking harm relationships. ✔️ The role of humility in conflict — being right fuels pride, but understanding fuels connection. ✔️ Showing love during conflict — choosing calm engagement, validating emotions, and staying curious. ✔️ The danger and usefulness of the “why” — how to share your reasoning without sounding defensive or dismissive. ✔️ Team-oriented communication — shifting from “me vs. you” to “us vs. the problem.” ✔️ Regulating the emotional ladder — why no conflict is resolved from a heightened emotional state. ✔️ Practical tools for conflict resolution: 💡 Reframe of the Week“Conflict isn’t the problem — disconnection is. Being right doesn’t bring peace; it brings pride. Healthy conflict, handled with grace and boundaries, strengthens relationships.” 🕊️ Spiritual Reflection1 Corinthians 13:5 — Love is not easily angered and keeps no record of wrongs.Healthy conflict means addressing this issue, not weaponizing past ones. Romans 12:18 — “As far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.”Peace isn’t passivity—it’s choosing grace, honesty, and emotional responsibility. If this episode highlighted areas you’d like to grow in or unpack more deeply, consider speaking with a licensed therapist. You can search for a provider through Psychology Today’s Therapist Directory. Resource Links:Internal vs. External Locus of Control Boundaries

    35 min
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A therapist and his wife walk into a podcast... Matt Rosenkilde is a Licensed Professional Therapist with over a decade of experience, and Corinna is his wife, best friend and co-host. Tune in each week as they rotate through themes such as marriage, faith and mental health - grounded in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy principles, but shared in a way that's relatable. Whether you're looking for tools to reframe your thoughts, encouragement for your faith, or just a reminder that you're not the only one figuring it all out, you'll find a seat at the table here.

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  • Creator
    Corinna Rosenkilde
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    14
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © 2025 Corinna Rosenkilde
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