Relational Longevity, A Podcast For Couples

Ellen Boeder and Jayson Gaddis
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Welcome to The Relational Longevity Podcast with Jayson and Ellen, where we discuss long-term partnership, parenting, and how to keep your most important relationships thriving for the long haul.

  1. قبل ٥ أيام

    Individual Work vs Couples Work

    Can you improve your relationship by working on yourself alone? Jayson and Ellen explore the difference between individual work and couples work, and why lasting change requires both people to participate. They discuss why couples need a shared vision for where they are going, the limits of solo growth, and why maintaining your relationship before it is in crisis is one of the smartest investments you can make. If you want a relationship that keeps getting better over time, this episode is for you. Timestamps: 2:00 - why couples need to do the work together10:00 - can you improve your relationship on your own?15:00 - where are you going as a couple?21:00 - start maintaining your relationship before it's too lateLinks: ​⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ellen's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠​⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jayson's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you find this show valuable, please follow the show on Spotify, give us a rating and tell your friends and family about Integrated!

  2. ٤ أغسطس

    High Performing Couples Ongoing Challenge

    Why do so many high performing couples struggle behind closed doors? Jayson and Ellen explore the challenges of traditional partnership roles, how resentment builds when couples stop feeling like a team, and the mistakes many men make without realizing it. They discuss the importance of creating understanding, why marriage takes consistent effort, and how making your partner feel understood and cared for changes everything. If you want a relationship that thrives instead of just survives, this episode is for you. Timestamps: 1:29 - struggles in traditional partnerships4:04 - children need a primary caregiver6:08 - how resentment builds in relationships10:18 - mistakes men make inside this relationship structure16:02 - creating understanding in a relationship24:00 - marriage is hard work28:00 - make your partner feel understood and cared forLinks: ​⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ellen's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠​⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jayson's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you find this show valuable, please follow the show on Spotify, give us a rating and tell your friends and family about Integrated!

  3. ١٥ يوليو

    Things We’ve Learned Parenting for 17 Years

    What have Jayson and Ellen learned after 17 years of parenting? They share why parenting is downstream of partnership, what it means to be a team as parents, and how to validate your child’s feelings while still setting boundaries. They also explore why all feelings are welcome but not all behaviors are, how offering too many choices can overwhelm kids, and why letting children lead play matters. They close by talking about parental leadership and what it means to surrender to the parenting experience. If you are raising kids and want a more grounded approach, this episode is for you. Timestamps: 1:40 - parenting is downstream of partnership4:22 - being a team as parents8:21 - validating feelings while setting boundaries with kids13:30 - all feelings are welcome, all behaviours are not18:59 - don't give your child choice paralysis31:15 - letting kids lead play34:50 - empowering parents to step into leadership44:38 - surrendering to the parenting experienceLinks: ​⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ellen's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠​⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jayson's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you find this show valuable, please follow the show on Spotify, give us a rating and tell your friends and family about Integrated!

  4. ٨ يوليو

    Why Insight, Info and Tools Are Not Enough to Make It Work Long-Term

    Why is it so hard to apply what you already know in your relationship? Jayson and Ellen explore why gathering more information isn’t always the answer and how intimate partnerships bring underlying attachment issues to the surface. They explain why relationship tools only work when you understand how and when to use them, how knowing the deeper "why" behind your relationship matters, and how leaning into challenges can transform your partnership. If you feel stuck despite knowing what to do, this episode is for you. Timestamps: 1:00 - Why isn't more information moving the needle in your relationship?5:30 - Why is it so hard to apply your knowledge in intimate partnerships?8:00 - Partnership brings up underlying attachment issues15:00 - How you use relationship tools matters20:00 - Understand the "why" in your relationship24:00 - The reward for leaning into challenge in your relationshipLinks: ​⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ellen's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠​⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jayson's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you find this show valuable, please follow the show on Spotify, give us a rating and tell your friends and family about Integrated!

  5. ١ يوليو

    Relational Code

    What is a relational code and why does every couple need one? Jayson and Ellen explain how shared agreements create a stronger partnership and why equality is essential for real collaboration. They explore the importance of growing together, staying relationship oriented under stress, and supporting each other's autonomy while working as a team. They also share how having clear relationship agreements can help you navigate challenges with more trust and less conflict. If you want to build a relationship that lasts, this episode is for you. Timestamps: 1:19 - What is a relational code?5:21 - Why having a relational code is important8:45 - Equality is required for good collaboration13:51 - Valuing growth as a couple17:52 - Staying relationship oriented under stress20:42 - Supporting your partner's autonomy while in collaboration26:57 - How your relationship agreements can help youLinks: ​⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ellen's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠​⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jayson's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you find this show valuable, please follow the show on Spotify, give us a rating and tell your friends and family about Integrated!

  6. ١٧ يونيو

    Communication

    How much of communication is actually non verbal? Jayson and Ellen break down why what you say matters less than how you say it and how your partner is receiving it. They explore the importance of tracking your partner while you speak, how to find the real issue underneath the fight, and what it means to actually listen. They also explain why good listening is reciprocal and why going straight to solutions usually makes things worse. If you want better conversations and less conflict, this episode is for you. Timestamps: 3:05 - how much of communication is non-verbal?5:30 - check your parter's response while you're speaking12:03 - finding the real issues under the fights15:46 - how to listen21:57 - good listening is reciprocal25:25 - don't go right to solutionsLinks: ​⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ellen's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠​⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jayson's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you find this show valuable, please follow the show on Spotify, give us a rating and tell your friends and family about Integrated!

  7. ١٠ يونيو

    Why Your Nervous System Matters

    Jayson and Ellen explore how nervous system regulation impacts relational longevity and why being attuned to your partner changes everything. They talk about slowing down before trying to solve problems, becoming more aware of unconscious patterns, and not losing sight of your partner’s feelings. They also make the case for creating a home that actually feels safe. If you want a calmer, more connected relationship, this episode is for you. Timestamps: 1:26 - The nervous system and relational longevity4:55 - Are you attuned to your partner's nervous system?11:06 - Being more sensitive to your partner before solving problems17:50 - Being aware of unconscious processes23:54 - Don't lose sight of you partner's feelings27:15 - Make home a safe placeLinks: ​⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ellen's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠​⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jayson's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you find this show valuable, please follow the show on Spotify, give us a rating and tell your friends and family about Integrated!

  8. ٣ يونيو

    2 Key Things About Attachment

    Why is attachment so important in a relationship? Jayson and Ellen break down what makes a partner different from a friend and why dependency is not the problem people think it is. They explore what it means to be someone your partner can count on, how to decide what kind of partnership you actually want, and why you have to consider what is good for you, your partner, and the relationship as a whole. If you want to build something solid, this episode is for you. Timestamps: 1:56 - why is attachment so important?3:53 - the difference between a friend and a partner8:41 - dependancy11:36 - don't forget that your partner is counting on you18:18 - decide what you want your partnership to look like20:40 - is this good for me, you and us?Links: ​⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ellen's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠​⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jayson's Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you find this show valuable, please follow the show on Spotify, give us a rating and tell your friends and family about Integrated!

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Welcome to The Relational Longevity Podcast with Jayson and Ellen, where we discuss long-term partnership, parenting, and how to keep your most important relationships thriving for the long haul.

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  • صناع العمل
    Ellen Boeder and Jayson Gaddis
  • سنوات النشاط
    ٢٠٢٥ - ٢٠٢٦
  • الحلقات
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  • التقييم
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  • حقوق النشر
    © Ellen Boeder and Jayson Gaddis
  • موقع البرنامج على الويب
    Relational Longevity, A Podcast For Couples

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