RelationShifts

Larry Little

Leadership has become a buzzword. In this podcast, Dr. Larry Little skips the over-used cliches and industry jargon about leadership and digs deep into the moments when real people have been faced with hard decisions about what kind of leader they want to be. Leadership doesn’t happen in the vacuum of an office or boardroom, but in the moments when we strive and fail and try again to show up for our team, our friends, our families, and ourselves. This series will feature personal interviews with leaders from all walks of life, and give you insight into how they showed up in the moments that made them who they are today- the moments when they chose to cross the line.

  1. 1d ago

    RelationShifts | AI Can’t Replace This

    Artificial Intelligence is changing the way we work, communicate, solve problems, and make decisions. I’m a believer in AI and its potential. But as AI becomes more human-like, we need to make sure we don’t become less human. The greatest risk may not be that AI becomes too relational. It may be that our relationships become too artificial. That’s why I believe the formula for success in the future is simple: AI + RI = Success. Artificial Intelligence combined with Relationship Intelligence can produce powerful results. AI should support our relationships, not substitute for them. It can help us prepare, think, create, organize, and communicate more effectively. But it cannot replace the value of looking someone in the eye, truly listening, asking a sincere question, working through a disagreement, or simply being present. In fact, emerging research is raising this very issue: as we outsource more communication and interaction to AI, we risk outsourcing some of the moments when trust and connection are actually built. That means we have to recognize when convenience becomes avoidance. It may be easier to send an AI-generated message than to have a difficult conversation. Easier to ask AI for an answer than to ask another person a thoughtful question. Easier to interact with technology than to navigate the messiness of real relationships. But those uncomfortable human moments are where we develop empathy, emotional intelligence, communication skills, trust, and the ability to understand one another. As AI gets better, I believe those distinctly human relational skills will become more valuable, not less. Take a minute to listen to this week’s Relationshifts podcast episode as we talk about how to shift from depending on AI alone to combining it with RI. The people and organizations that thrive will not simply be those who know how to use the best technology. They will be the ones who combine the power of technology with the ability to connect, communicate, build trust, and genuinely care about people. When we choose to shift from artificial connection only to adding intentional human connection, we will make a difference. Larry

  2. Aug 11

    RelationShifts | MAD Kids: Hear it From the Kids

    Have you ever been in a conversation where, while the other person is talking, you’re already thinking about what you’re going to say? I have. We may call it listening, but sometimes we’re really just waiting for our turn to give an answer. Recently, at our Eagle Kids Camp, I was reminded of something incredibly simple: Sometimes the best thing we can give someone isn’t an answer. It’s a question. Our campers spent time learning about personalities, relationships, and what it means to Listen, Learn, and Lead. They were given room to be uncomfortable, make mistakes, try again, and discover some things for themselves. And that may be a lesson all of us need. Listen. Listening opens the door. Before we can understand someone, we have to be willing to truly hear them. Learn. Ask sincere questions. Be curious about what someone thinks, feels, or sees that you may be missing. A sincere question can uncover something that confidence alone may miss. Lead. Leadership isn’t always about having the answer. Sometimes leadership means creating enough space for someone else to discover the answer, and then helping them take the next step. This week, I want to challenge you to ask one more question before giving your answer. “What do you think?”“Tell me more.”“What am I missing?” Those simple questions can change a conversation and strengthen a relationship. And if you want to hear this lesson from some people who may explain it better than I can, listen to our latest epsiode of the Relationshifts podcast and hear directly from the kids at Eagle Camp. I think you’ll enjoy what they have to say. When we choose to shift from having the answer to asking the question, we will make a difference. Larry

  3. Jul 28

    RelationShifts | World Cup: The Scoreboard in Your Head

    How do you feel when someone "calls you out" for something you've done… or maybe something you haven't done? For me, there have been times when, instead of simply hearing what they're saying, I begin searching through my mental files for evidence that they've made mistakes too. "You think I did that? Well, let me remind you of what you did." Most of us would never admit that we keep score in our relationships, but we do. Every relationship has a scorecard. The question isn't whether we're keeping score. The question is: What are we counting? Are we counting every disappointment, forgotten promise, insensitive comment, and moment when the other person fell short? Or are we counting the times they showed up, made an effort, apologized, grew, encouraged us, and got it right? The truth is, we're the ones who decide what we count. Giving credit doesn't mean ignoring hurtful behavior or avoiding honest conversations. Healthy relationships require accountability. But accountability is very different from keeping a running total of everything another person has ever done wrong. Giving credit means recognizing effort. It means noticing progress instead of demanding perfection. It means becoming aware of our natural tendency to focus more on what's wrong than what's right. Check out our latest episode on the Relationshifts podcast, where we talk about what it means to stop keeping score and start giving credit. Before adding another mark to someone's scorecard, pause and ask yourself: What am I choosing to count? Look for the effort. Acknowledge the improvement. Give credit for the progress, even when there's still room to grow. The scorecard in every relationship will never be completely balanced. We will all disappoint one another. We will all need grace. When we choose to shift from keeping score to giving credit, we will make a difference. Larry

  4. Jul 7

    RelationShifts | Why Vacations Fail: Renew, Don’t Recover

    I've become more convinced than ever that the secret to a great trip isn't the destination... it's the expectations we bring with us. Most vacations don't unravel because of bad weather, delayed flights, or even the occasional wrong turn. They struggle because everyone arrives with a different picture in their mind of what the "perfect vacation" should look like. One person wants adventure. Another wants rest. One wants to see everything. Another just wants to sit by the water. Neither is wrong, they're simply different. The same principle is true in our relationships. Conflict often begins when we spend more time trying to control the situation than being flexible. Healthy relationships leave room for different personalities, different preferences, and different ways of enjoying life. They require self-awareness to recognize our own expectations and clear communication to express them. It means being curious to understand someone else's perspective, along with the willingness to be uncomfortable when things don't go exactly as we planned. This week's episode of our Relationshifts podcast explores how to have a fun and successful vacation and more importantly, how to apply that to our relationships. Whether you're traveling this summer or simply navigating everyday life, this conversation will help you enjoy both your vacation and those you care about a little more. When we shift from controlling the experience to managing our expectations, it will make a difference in our vacations and our relationships.

  5. Jun 2

    RelationShifts: Replace the Habits that Hurt Relationships

    Most relationships don’t sour because of one big moment. They slowly drift because of patterns that never change. A sarcastic comment here. A lack of appreciation there. Avoiding hard conversations. Interrupting. Assuming the worst. Being distracted when someone is trying to connect. Over time, these repeated habits create repeated outcomes. The good news? The same principle works in reverse. Healthy relationships are built through healthy habits practiced consistently over time. If there is a habit that is hurting one of your relationships, consider these four steps: See It. Self-awareness is the starting point for change. You can’t change what you refuse to acknowledge. Ask yourself: "What am I doing consistently that may be creating distance instead of connection?" Decide. Every habit has a cost. When we choose to keep an unhealthy pattern, we are also choosing the consequences that come with it. Ask yourself if the habit is worth what it is costing you. Replace It. Don’t just remove a habit—replace it. If you want to stop criticizing, replace it with encouragement.If you want to stop interrupting, replace it with listening.If you want to stop assuming, replace it with asking questions. The goal isn’t simply to stop a behavior. The goal is to replace it with one that strengthens the relationship. Invite Others In. Change happens faster with accountability. The people who care about us often see our blind spots more clearly than we do. Ask someone you trust: "Would you help me notice when I slip back into this habit?" A healthier relationship rarely requires a completely different person. More often, it requires a different pattern. Be sure to check out this week’s episode of the Relationshifts podcast, where we wrap up our Crossing Generational Lines series. We discuss why what we often call a generational gap is really a relational gap—and how stronger relationships begin when we recognize and replace the habits that create distance. When you shift from habits that hurt to behaviors that help, it will make a difference. Larry

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Leadership has become a buzzword. In this podcast, Dr. Larry Little skips the over-used cliches and industry jargon about leadership and digs deep into the moments when real people have been faced with hard decisions about what kind of leader they want to be. Leadership doesn’t happen in the vacuum of an office or boardroom, but in the moments when we strive and fail and try again to show up for our team, our friends, our families, and ourselves. This series will feature personal interviews with leaders from all walks of life, and give you insight into how they showed up in the moments that made them who they are today- the moments when they chose to cross the line.