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  1. Why Negativity Feels Normal (And How to Break Free)

    FEB 11

    Why Negativity Feels Normal (And How to Break Free)

    Episode 53 In this episode of Relationships with the Soul, Nick and Lily unpack why negativity is everywhere right now—and why “just stay positive” isn’t cutting it. In This Episode, We Cover * 00:00 – Intro: Why negativity blocks fulfillment, creativity, and intimacy * 01:35 – Why negativity feels normal: the brain’s safety wiring * 03:20 – Evolution + modern fear triggers (and how fear hijacks clarity) * 05:38 – Notifications + outrage = fight/flight/freeze all day * 07:01 – Overstimulation, social pressure, and “mind control” when ungrounded * 09:36 – Childhood conditioning: how early fear becomes your operating system * 11:31 – The news as hypnosis: fear, ratings, and staying hooked * 13:08 – The 10-minute rule: boundaries with negative people * 15:05 – Emotional dumping: why negativity transfers onto you * 17:11 – Boundaries + self-trust: choosing yourself without guilt * 18:45 – Fear and negativity are linked (the hidden thought behind self-sabotage) * 19:58 – How the news spreads negativity: uncertainty + emotional spikes * 22:35 – Gossip as “connection” (and why it leaves you feeling empty) * 24:23 – The real disconnect: negativity blocks vulnerability and closeness * 26:00 – Vulnerability example: tragedy → transformation → deeper connection * 28:36 – “How are you?” and why most people can’t answer honestly * 30:44 – Fulfillment requires vulnerability (not just “positive” emotions) * 33:39 – Vulnerability forces you to slow down (tools for couples) * 37:34 – One person shifting can change the whole dynamic * 38:16 – Cheat sheet: practical ways to step out of negativity * 41:53 – Lily’s closing question: where is fear shaping your life? * 43:16 – Wrap-up: acceptance, lifestyle, and topic requests via DM Key Lessons From This Episode 1) Negativity is often survival wiring—not “who you are” Your brain scans for threats to keep you safe. Expecting the worst can feel protective, even when the threat isn’t real. 2) Fear hijacks clarity When you’re in fight/flight/freeze, you’re not thinking well—you’re reacting. Media + constant updates can keep you stuck in that state. 3) Overstimulation makes you easier to control When you’re ungrounded and constantly stimulated, you’re more susceptible to fear narratives, reactivity, and emotional manipulation. 4) Your childhood still runs your adult operating system Unseen beliefs, language, and early experiences quietly shape your tone, risk tolerance, and relationship patterns. 5) Gossip + news can create “contact” but not connection It keeps conversations going, but it doesn’t deepen intimacy—because negativity blocks vulnerability. 6) Boundaries protect connection (they don’t destroy it) A 10-minute timer can be a loving, practical way to stop being someone’s emotional dumping ground. 7) Vulnerability creates fulfillment Slowing down, telling the truth, and staying present—even in discomfort—builds real intimacy and trust. 8) One person shifting the dynamic can change everything You don’t need both people “on board” immediately. One person slowing down, breathing, and responding differently can reshape the whole interaction. The Negativity Reset Cheat Sheet 1) Audit your inputs * Turn off notifications that spike fear. * Don’t start your day with news, outrage, or doom scrolling. 2) Stop donating attention to negativity * A negative thought can arise without you feeding it. * Ask: “Do I want to engage with this?” 3) Use the 10-minute boundary * “I’ve got 10 minutes—wanted to check in.” * You can love people without absorbing their emotional sludge. 4) Replace surface talk with emotional truth Instead of news/gossip, try: * “What’s been weighing on you lately?” * “What are you avoiding?” * “What’s something you’ve been afraid to admit?” 5) When conflict hits: slow down first * Breathe. * Drop your shoulders. * Put a hand on your chest. * Ask: “What am I feeling underneath this?” 6) Track where fear is shaping your life Lily’s question: * “Where is fear shaping my tone, my conversations, and my worldview?” 7) Accept where you are—and choose your next response You don’t need to be perfect.You just need to respond with more awareness than you did last time. 📙Follow Nick and Lily on Substack 🪷 Explore The Relationships With A Soul Brand 💻Visit Nick’s Website 💻Visit Lily’s Website Enjoyed This Episode? You May Also Enjoy Help Grow The Podcast: Since this is a new podcast, I’d really appreciate your support. Here are three ways you can help grow the podcast: * Follow the Relationships With A Soul podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favorite podcasting platform * Share this episode with a friend who you think will find it valuable Get full access to Relationships With A Soul at nickneve.substack.com/subscribe

    45 min
  2. Finding Your Spiritual Path Through Creativity, Kundalini, and Astrology- w/ Joanna Pitt

    FEB 4

    Finding Your Spiritual Path Through Creativity, Kundalini, and Astrology- w/ Joanna Pitt

    In this episode of Relationships with the Soul, we sit down with Joanna Pitt — Kundalini teacher, meditator, and professional evolutionary astrologer — to talk about how spiritual awakening often happens slowly, organically, and in ways we never expect. Joanna shares how her path began not in an ashram, but through singing, creativity, and community, and how one powerful gong + breathwork experience cracked open an entirely new relationship to consciousness. We explore skepticism, validation-seeking, spiritual “upgrades,” astrology as both a science and a symbolic language, and how to navigate collective intensity without losing your center. In This Episode, We Cover * Joanna’s background + how you know her (including officiating Nick & Lily’s wedding) (00:00) * “I was a good girl”: the linear life path + why it started feeling empty (02:00) * Why creativity opens the heart and becomes a gateway to spirituality (04:10) * How one community leads to another: guru talk → breathwork → bodywork → Kundalini (06:20) * The gong breathwork moment: out-of-body experience, visions, and shock (08:30) * Why it can take years to “chisel open” skepticism and fear (11:10) * Unexpected teachers: how a positive vocal coach cracked Joanna’s heart open (13:40) * Sound as a spiritual technology: singing, vibration, resonance, and embodiment (16:10) * The validation trap after spiritual experiences: “Is this real? Am I crazy?” (18:30) * “Spirituality is caught, not taught”: why experiences can’t be forced (21:10) * What an “upgrade” feels like — and how to stay grounded through it (24:10) * How astrology entered Joanna’s life: “when the student is ready…” (27:10) * Life cycles across traditions: Saturn return, Uranus opposition, and spiritual markers (30:10) * If you’re skeptical: start with the moon — and remember you live on a spinning planet (33:10) * The practical case for astrology: tides, farming cycles, ancient science, history patterns (36:10) * Astrology as archetypes + depth psychology: why symbols help us understand ourselves (39:40) * “You can’t convince anyone”: lived experience is what makes it real (42:30) * Using astrology as guidance (not obsession): macro seasons > rigid prediction (45:10) * Fighting your life’s “energy” creates anxiety — learning to flow changes everything (48:50) * Navigating collective intensity: authenticity, boundaries, nervous system support (52:10) * Why negative energy is harder to tolerate now — and how Joanna handles it (55:40) * The collective reckoning: cycles, power structures, destruction + creation (58:40) * Victim vs. transformation mindset: using darkness as a pivot point (01:03:10) * Joanna’s daily practice: 31-minute bowing practice + mantra + yoga (01:06:30) * Accountability and group practice: how to choose what works for your personality (01:09:40) * Gatekeeping, “initiations,” and approaching traditions with respect + humility (01:12:40) * The value of staying open: your body becomes the compass (01:16:20) * Where to find Joanna + her astrology beginner class (starts Feb 7) (01:19:10) Key Lessons From This Episode 1) Your spiritual path might start through creativity, not crisis Joanna’s awakening began through singing and performance, which opened her heart, expanded her community, and made her receptive to deeper experiences. 2) Skepticism isn’t a flaw — it’s a stage Many people need years of “little chisels” before spirituality feels safe enough to explore. Fear and disbelief are part of the culture we’re raised in. 3) Sound and embodiment can open doors the mind can’t Singing, mantra, and gong work aren’t just “woo” — they’re somatic technologies that change your state by changing your nervous system and vibration. 4) Spiritual experiences can trigger validation-seeking After a breakthrough moment, the mind often asks: “Is this real? Am I broken? Did I imagine it?”The lesson: learn to trust your experience without needing external confirmation. 5) “Spirituality is caught, not taught” A teacher can’t give you their experience — they can only create the conditions. Everyone receives teachings differently because everyone’s “blueprint” is different. 6) Astrology works best as macro guidance, not micromanagement Joanna prefers astrology as a seasonal lens: the larger arc you’re moving through — not rigid prediction or outsourcing decisions. 7) Cycles are real — and fighting them creates suffering When you resist what’s trying to evolve in your life, it often shows up as anxiety, depression, or feeling stuck. The goal isn’t control — it’s alignment. 8) Collective chaos demands nervous system support Joanna’s advice for intense times:Know your values, regulate your nervous system, stay embodied, and choose your environment carefully. 9) Destruction can be the doorway to creation Things breaking down isn’t always failure. Sometimes it’s the necessary clearing that makes a new era possible — personally and collectively. 10) Your body is the compass Instead of forcing “the right path,” try, notice, and let your body tell you what’s true. If something doesn’t resonate now, it may later — and that’s normal. Follow Joanna Pitt * Website * Instagram: @joanna__pitt Upcoming Class: Astrology Beginner’s Class — starts February 7 (6 sessions over 3 weeks) Enjoyed This Episode? You May Also Enjoy 🪷 Explore The Relationships With A Soul Brand Help Grow The Podcast: Since this is a new podcast, I’d really appreciate your support. Here are three ways you can help grow the podcast: * Follow the Relationships With A Soul podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favorite podcasting platform * Share this episode with a friend who you think will find it valuable Get full access to Relationships With A Soul at nickneve.substack.com/subscribe

    58 min
  3. Freedom Through Non-Doing: How Letting Go Changed Everything

    JAN 28

    Freedom Through Non-Doing: How Letting Go Changed Everything

    In this powerful conversation with Dan Goldfield, we unpack: how stress becomes identity, why “doing more” doesn’t create peace, and how non-dual awareness can change your relationship with anxiety, pain, and effort itself. In this value-packed episode, we cover: * Dan’s pivotal 2015 breaking point—and how chronic pain revealed hidden stress and tension (01:15) * Why “nothing is wrong with your body” can be painful to hear—but liberating to realize (04:20) * How Alexander Technique exposed the link between posture, tension, identity, and validation-seeking (07:10) * The moment Dan realized two weeks off didn’t fix anything—and why that changed his life (10:05) * Why stress is normalized as the “price of admission” for success (12:25) * Dan’s existential “why” question—and how it led him to Dharma teachings (15:40) * The difference between meditation (as a practice) and mindfulness (as a way of living) (19:10) * Why some teachings say “doing is the problem”—and what real relaxation actually means (22:30) * A clear definition of mindfulness: “remembering to be here now” (26:10) * Why many people secretly use meditation as avoidance (and how to stop bypassing emotion) (29:25) * The non-duality reframe: freedom isn’t gained—it’s recognized (33:10) * Why one-size-fits-all spirituality fails—and how good teachers match the method to the moment (36:40) * A simple “awareness of awareness” experiment to glimpse the space behind stress (39:20) * Dan’s remote monk training—and how he turned daily life into a monastery (42:15) * The “operating system” metaphor: noticing mental processes vs. trying to overwrite them (45:10) * What changes after recognition: relationships, career alignment, motivation, and ease (49:05) * A powerful cancer-care story: how these teachings supported Dan’s family through crisis (52:10) * Why crisis can be an opening—and how this work supports OCD, phobias, depression, and more (56:20) * Where to find Dan and how to reach him directly (01:00:40) Connect With Dan 📙Follow Dan on Substack, X, or Youtube Inquiries: Dan@Dangoldfield.com Key Lessons From This Episode: Lesson 1: Stress and pain often aren’t “random”—they’re patterns Sometimes the body is revealing what the mind has been carrying for years: tension, proving, validation-seeking, and fear.When you stop treating symptoms like enemies, you can finally work at the root. Lesson 2: Your identity can be made of tension—and you won’t even know it Dan’s biggest insight was that the “way he was” felt normal until he experienced another way of being.Awareness creates the option to change. Without it, you’re just living on autopilot. Lesson 3: Mindfulness isn’t a vibe—it’s remembering Mindfulness (sati) is “remembering to be here now.”Not fixing. Not forcing. Not escaping. Just returning to what’s actually here. Lesson 4: You can use meditation as a coping mechanism Even “healthy” practices can become avoidance if the motivation is:“I don’t want to feel this—make it go away.”Freedom comes from allowing emotions to move through—not trying to override them. Lesson 5: Non-duality points to the part of you that was never stressed The core shift is recognizing the “space” in which stress appears.That space isn’t anxious. It’s aware of anxiety.That awareness is the doorway to peace—not a technique. Lesson 6: One method doesn’t fit everyone—and it changes over time Some people need step-by-step practices first. Others need direct pointing.The best “hierarchy” is simply: what’s right for you right now. Lesson 7: Peace doesn’t require a slower life—it requires a new relationship to experience Non-duality isn’t about escaping chaos.It’s about recognizing calm in the middle of it—and letting the mind unwind indirectly. Lesson 8: Recognition comes first—then life reorganizes When you stop pushing, misaligned motivations fall away.That can lead to career shifts, breakups, new priorities—less effort, more alignment. Lesson 9: Thoughts and emotions don’t last as long as we think They “self-terminate” when we stop feeding them with more processes.High-resolution awareness reveals that what feels permanent is actually cycling rapidly. Lesson 10: This work builds confidence for life’s biggest moments When crisis hits—illness, fear, uncertainty—these teachings can become something you rely on, not something you “try.”That’s real freedom: not the absence of challenge, but a different ground beneath it. Enjoyed This Episode? You May Also Enjoy 🪷 Explore The Relationships With A Soul Brand Help Grow The Podcast: Since this is a new podcast, I’d really appreciate your support. Here are three ways you can help grow the podcast: * Follow the Relationships With A Soul podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favorite podcasting platform * Share this episode with a friend who you think will find it valuable Get full access to Relationships With A Soul at nickneve.substack.com/subscribe

    1h 4m
  4. The Hidden Cost of Hustle Culture

    JAN 21

    The Hidden Cost of Hustle Culture

    In this empowering episode we explore: the emotional cost of hustle culture—and why real change starts with awareness, reflection, and choosing connection over constant striving. In this value-packed episode, we cover: * Why some of the most meaningful insights come from unplanned conversations (01:15) * How hustle culture keeps us in constant motion without reflection (02:10) * Why productivity without self-connection leads to burnout (03:05) * How unconscious patterns quietly drain our energy over time (04:00) * Why reflection—not force—is what actually creates lasting change (05:05) * The importance of pausing to integrate what resonates emotionally (06:10) * How choosing connection over distraction reshapes relationships (07:20) * Why doing inner work for yourself benefits every relationship in your life (08:30) And more… 📙Follow Nick and Lily on Substack 🪷 Explore The Relationships With A Soul Brand 💻Visit Nick’s Website 💻Visit Lily’s Website Key Lessons from This Episode Lesson 1: Not Everything Powerful Is Planned Some of the deepest insights arise organically.When we allow space for real conversation, truth surfaces naturally. Growth often happens when we stop trying to control the outcome. Lesson 2: Hustle Culture Disconnects Us From Ourselves Constant doing leaves no room for reflection.Without pause, we repeat patterns instead of changing them. Movement without awareness isn’t progress. Lesson 3: Reflection Is a Form of Self-Respect Taking time to reflect isn’t laziness—it’s leadership over your own life.Insight comes from stillness, not speed. You can’t change what you don’t pause to see. Lesson 4: Inner Work Strengthens Every Relationship When you build a stronger relationship with yourself,your relationships with others naturally improve. The foundation of every connection is self-connection. Lesson 5: Awareness Opens Doorways to Change This episode isn’t about judgment—it’s about noticing.Awareness creates options where unconsciousness creates repetition. Change begins the moment you see clearly. Lesson 6: Choosing Connection Is a Daily Practice Connection doesn’t happen accidentally in a distracted world.It’s a choice you make again and again. Connection grows where attention goes. Lesson 7: You’re Doing This Work for You Personal growth isn’t about fixing yourself—it’s about honoring yourself.That choice ripples outward into every part of life. You’re worth the effort it takes to slow down. Enjoyed This Episode? You May Also Enjoy Help Grow The Podcast: Since this is a new podcast, I’d really appreciate your support. Here are three ways you can help grow the podcast: * Follow the Relationships With A Soul podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favorite podcasting platform * Share this episode with a friend who you think will find it valuable Get full access to Relationships With A Soul at nickneve.substack.com/subscribe

    46 min
  5. How Convenience and Dopamine Are Quietly Disconnecting Us

    JAN 15

    How Convenience and Dopamine Are Quietly Disconnecting Us

    In this empowering episode we explore: How modern convenience and high-dopamine technology quietly reshape our nervous systems, relationships, and sense of connection—and why choosing effort, presence, and boundaries may be the key to a calmer, more fulfilling life. In this value-packed episode, we cover: * How dopamine and convenience quietly reshape modern life and relationships (01:05) * Why “saving time” doesn’t automatically improve life satisfaction (02:40) * How frictionless living makes real connection feel inconvenient (04:45) * Why we underestimate the emotional payoff of in-person connection (06:50) * How low-effort dopamine trains the brain to avoid real engagement (09:10) * Why social connection is a muscle that weakens when we stop using it (11:30) * How fear grows when convenience replaces human interaction (13:40) * Why having your phone out—even unused—reduces presence (15:30) * How reduced device use calms the nervous system and lowers anxiety (17:45) * Why information overload keeps us in a constant state of stress (19:40) * How instant access creates unrealistic expectations of availability (21:30) * The Amazon/convenience example—and how isolation builds gradually (23:20) * Why saving time often leads to filling life with more tasks, not meaning (25:00) * Practical ways to set limits with technology without rejecting it entirely (26:50) * Why awareness—not shame—is the starting point for change (28:40) * Simple practices to choose connection over distraction daily (30:10) * Using anxiety as a barometer for overstimulation and tech overuse (31:45) * The core takeaway: how choosing connection reshapes fulfillment (33:00) And more… 📙Follow Nick and Lily on Substack 🪷 Explore The Relationships With A Soul Brand 💻Visit Nick’s Website 💻Visit Lily’s Website Key Lessons from This Episode Lesson 1: Convenience Isn’t Neutral Convenience removes friction—but friction is what builds connection.When everything is easy, meaningful effort feels overwhelming. What’s convenient isn’t always what’s nourishing. Lesson 2: Dopamine Shortcuts Rewire Desire High-dopamine, low-effort rewards train the brain to avoid depth.Over time, comfort replaces connection. The brain learns to choose ease over fulfillment. Lesson 3: Connection Is a Muscle Conversation, presence, and vulnerability weaken when unused.Avoidance grows where practice disappears. What you don’t exercise, you begin to fear. Lesson 4: Phones Fragment Presence Even an unused phone pulls attention away from connection.Presence requires full engagement. Partial attention creates partial connection. Lesson 5: Information Overload Fuels Anxiety The nervous system wasn’t designed for constant stimulation.More input doesn’t mean more clarity. An anxious mind is often an overstimulated one. Lesson 6: Convenience Raises Expectations When tasks become easier, expectations increase.Time saved is quickly consumed by more demands. Efficiency doesn’t equal freedom. Lesson 7: Avoidance Masquerades as Efficiency Online ordering and digital communication often replace human interaction.What feels efficient can quietly isolate. Avoidance feels safe—but it shrinks your world. Lesson 8: Self-Regulation Is Non-Negotiable No one will set boundaries with technology for you.Freedom comes from intentional use. Your attention is your responsibility. Lesson 9: Awareness Beats Shame Screen time isn’t a moral failure—it’s data.Curiosity leads to change faster than judgment. Awareness opens the door to choice. Lesson 10: Choose Connection Over Distraction Real fulfillment comes from presence, conversation, creativity, and reflection.Less stimulation. More meaning. Connection feeds the soul—distraction only numbs it. Enjoyed This Episode? You May Also Enjoy Help Grow The Podcast: Since this is a new podcast, I’d really appreciate your support. Here are three ways you can help grow the podcast: * Follow the Relationships With A Soul podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favorite podcasting platform * Share this episode with a friend who you think will find it valuable Get full access to Relationships With A Soul at nickneve.substack.com/subscribe

    36 min
  6. Why You Can't Set Boundaries (And How It's Destroying Your Sense of Self)

    JAN 7

    Why You Can't Set Boundaries (And How It's Destroying Your Sense of Self)

    In this empowering episode, we explore: Why setting boundaries feels so difficult for so many people, how childhood dynamics shape our ability to say no, and how reclaiming responsibility for your emotions, time, and energy is the foundation of self-respect, identity, and healthy relationships. In this value-packed episode, we cover: * Why “boundaries” became a buzzword — and what people still misunderstand about them (01:48) * Reframing boundaries as self-regulation instead of walls or punishment (03:36) * Why boundaries are meant to protect your nervous system and inner peace (03:56) * How flexible boundaries create healthier relationships over time (04:28) * Why people with poor boundaries often grew up without a voice (06:50) * How childhood silencing leads to adult guilt and people-pleasing (07:54) * Enmeshment: when children become emotional regulators for parents (13:35) * Why guilt and shame surface when you finally try to set boundaries (18:25) * The fawn response: people-pleasing as a trauma response (28:36) * How sacrificing yourself destroys self-trust and identity over time (36:32) * Why disappointing others is unavoidable — and necessary (33:25) * How boundaries teach others how to treat you (23:29) * Why over-explaining weakens boundaries instead of strengthening them (48:50) * The moment boundaries stop being scary and start feeling empowering (47:12) * How self-respect grows every time you choose yourself (53:34) 📙Follow Nick and Lily on Substack 🪷 Explore The Relationships With A Soul Brand 💻Visit Nick’s Website 💻Visit Lily’s Website Key Lessons From This Episode Lesson 1: Boundaries Are About Regulating Yourself — Not Controlling Others Boundaries exist to protect your peace, not to punish or manipulate people.“A boundary isn’t a wall — it’s how you keep your nervous system intact.” Lesson 2: Most Boundary Issues Start in Childhood When children aren’t allowed to have opinions or say no, they grow into adults who fear disappointing others.“If you were never allowed to say no as a child, it makes sense that it feels dangerous now.” Lesson 3: Enmeshment Destroys Identity When a child becomes responsible for a parent’s emotions, the child never gets to become themselves.“You can’t build a sense of self if you’re busy regulating someone else.” Lesson 4: Guilt Is Not a Moral Compass Guilt often keeps people stuck — looping instead of healing.“Guilt isn’t growth. It’s a burden you were taught to carry.” Lesson 5: People-Pleasing Is a Trauma Response Fawning isn’t kindness — it’s survival.“If I keep you happy, I’ll be safe.”That belief keeps people trapped for decades. Lesson 6: You Are Not Responsible for Other People’s Emotions Allowing others to feel discomfort is not abandonment — it’s respect.“You don’t need to rescue people from their feelings.” Lesson 7: Over-Explaining Weakens Boundaries You don’t owe anyone a courtroom defense for protecting your peace.“Clarity is stronger than justification.” Lesson 8: Boundaries Teach Others How to Treat You Self-respect creates external respect — not the other way around.“When you respect yourself, the line becomes visible.” Lesson 9: You Can Care and Still Set Limits Boundaries do not mean you don’t care — they mean you do.“Caring doesn’t require self-abandonment.” Lesson 10: A Strong Relationship With Yourself Comes First You live with yourself your entire life.That relationship determines every other one.“Disappointing others is sometimes the price of self-respect.” Enjoyed This Episode? You May Also Enjoy Help Grow The Podcast: Since this is a new podcast, I’d really appreciate your support. Here are three ways you can help grow the podcast: * Follow the Relationships With A Soul podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favorite podcasting platform * Share this episode with a friend who you think will find it valuable Get full access to Relationships With A Soul at nickneve.substack.com/subscribe

    57 min
  7. Why We're Becoming Weaker As A Society (And How To Fix It)

    12/30/2025

    Why We're Becoming Weaker As A Society (And How To Fix It)

    In this empowering episode, we explore: How to use technology as a tool instead of a crutch, why unchecked device use quietly steals your agency, and how reclaiming responsibility for your time reconnects you with your innate power to consciously direct your life. In this value-packed episode, we cover: * Using technology to support your life instead of controlling it (01:10) * The difference between conscious tech use and unconscious dependency (01:22) * How devices subtly numb you from the changes you know you need to make (01:36) * Why distraction often replaces fulfillment without you noticing (01:50) * Asking the hard question: who is really directing your life? (02:05) * Why no one else can manage your life or your time for you (02:18) * Taking full responsibility for your choices as a turning point (02:32) * The moment empowerment clicks when you reclaim agency (02:47) * Reconnecting with your innate power to influence your future (03:02) * Choosing to consciously direct your life instead of handing that power away (03:18) Connect with Nick: 📙Follow Nick on Substack 🪷 Explore The Relationships With A Soul Brand 💻Visit Nick’s Website Key Lessons From This Episode Lesson 1: Technology Should Support Your Life — Not Run It Devices are tools, not decision-makers.When they start dictating your behavior, your agency quietly disappears. “Technology should serve you — not replace you.”“Support is different than control.” Lesson 2: Distraction Often Masks Avoidance Excessive screen time can numb you from the changes you know you need to make. “Distraction feels harmless until you realize what it’s costing you.”“What you avoid today becomes what controls you tomorrow.” Lesson 3: No One Else Is Coming to Manage Your Life Responsibility can feel heavy — but it’s also where your power lives. “No one can direct your life for you.”“Responsibility isn’t a burden — it’s access to freedom.” Lesson 4: Ownership Creates Empowerment The moment you accept full responsibility for how you use your time, something shifts internally. “Power returns the moment excuses leave.”“Your life responds when you take ownership.” Lesson 5: Your Time Reveals Your Priorities How you spend your attention is how you shape your future. “Your calendar tells the truth before your words do.”“Time is where intention becomes reality.” Lesson 6: Awareness Is the Gateway to Change You can’t adjust what you refuse to look at. “Awareness turns unconscious habits into conscious choice.” Lesson 7: Fulfillment Requires Conscious Direction A fulfilling life doesn’t happen by accident — it’s designed through choice. “Fulfillment begins where autopilot ends.” Lesson 8: Reclaiming Power Feels Like Remembering Something When you reconnect with your agency, it feels familiar — because it’s always been there. “Power isn’t gained — it’s remembered.” Lesson 9: Preparing for the Future Requires Honesty Being honest about where the world is headed allows you to adapt intentionally. “Clarity about the future creates confidence in the present.” Lesson 10: You Are Meant to Direct Your Own Life Your life experience should be shaped by your values — not external forces. “The most important decision is who gets to steer your life.”“Choose to direct your life instead of handing that power away.” Enjoyed This Episode? You May Also Enjoy Help Grow The Podcast: Since this is a new podcast, I’d really appreciate your support. Here are three ways you can help grow the podcast: * Follow the Relationships With A Soul podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favorite podcasting platform * Share this episode with a friend who you think will find it valuable Get full access to Relationships With A Soul at nickneve.substack.com/subscribe

    13 min
  8. The Procrastination Trap and Why Your Mind Doesn't Allow you To Take Action

    12/23/2025

    The Procrastination Trap and Why Your Mind Doesn't Allow you To Take Action

    In this empowering episode, we explore: Why fear feels overwhelming before you start but fades once you take action, how building a new business mirrors everyday skills you already trust yourself to do, and how a simple framework can help you break free from feeling stuck and finally move toward the life you want. In this value-packed episode, we cover: * Why complex tasks feel effortless once they become familiar (01:10) * How driving is a perfect example of fear turning into automatic confidence (01:22) * Why building a business follows the same learning curve as everyday skills (01:35) * The importance of simply getting started instead of waiting to feel ready (01:48) * How research replaces fear with clarity and direction (02:01) * Why fear feels intense but is never actually fatal (02:14) * How the mind exaggerates risk and discomfort to keep you safe — and stuck (02:28) * Recognizing the “heavy weight” feeling as a signal that something needs to change (02:44) * Introducing a simple framework for identifying what’s really holding you back (03:02) * Why honoring your gifts and chasing your dreams matters more than ever (03:20) Connect with Nick: 📙Follow Nick on Substack 🪷 Explore The Relationships With A Soul Brand 💻Visit Nick’s Website Key Lessons From This Episode Lesson 1: Fear Shrinks Once You Start Moving Fear feels overwhelming before action, but it loses its power the moment you engage.“Fear thrives on hesitation — not action.”“Nothing changes until you take the first step.” Lesson 2: Confidence Is Built Through Repetition What once felt terrifying becomes automatic through practice and exposure.“Confidence is just familiarity over time.”“You weren’t born knowing — you learned.” Lesson 3: Building a Business Isn’t Special — It’s Learnable Entrepreneurship follows the same process as any other skill you’ve mastered.“Every expert was once a beginner.”“You already know how to learn hard things.” Lesson 4: Your Mind Exaggerates Danger to Keep You Comfortable Fear often sounds urgent, dramatic, and catastrophic — but it’s rarely accurate.“Fear feels fatal, but it never is.”“Your mind is loudest when you’re about to grow.” Lesson 5: Getting Started Is More Important Than Getting It Right Momentum comes from movement, not perfection.“Clarity follows action — not the other way around.” Lesson 6: Feeling Stuck Is a Signal, Not a Failure That heavy weight you feel isn’t weakness — it’s information.“Stuck doesn’t mean broken — it means misaligned.” Lesson 7: You Don’t Need the Full Picture to Begin You can start changing your life before you fully understand what’s holding you back.“You don’t need certainty — you need direction.” Lesson 8: Simple Frameworks Create Massive Change Structure gives your mind something solid to stand on when everything feels unclear.“Simplicity creates momentum.” Lesson 9: You Can Pull Yourself Out of Long Ruts Even a decade of stagnation can be reversed with the right tools and commitment.“It’s never too late to start choosing yourself.” Lesson 10: The World Needs You Living Your Purpose When you honor your gifts, you don’t just change your life — you impact others.“Your dreams matter more than your fear.”“The world needs more people who choose courage.” Enjoyed This Episode? You May Also Enjoy Help Grow The Podcast: Since this is a new podcast, I’d really appreciate your support. Here are three ways you can help grow the podcast: * Follow the Relationships With A Soul podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favorite podcasting platform * Share this episode with a friend who you think will find it valuable Get full access to Relationships With A Soul at nickneve.substack.com/subscribe

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