Relative Strangers

Taylor Mali
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Poet and teacher Taylor Mali knows more about his family than anyone really needs to know, especially the branch that has lived in New York City for 400 years. However, they don't all know him or each other—they are relative strangers to each other—so getting all 450 of them to meet in person in the summer of 2024 is going to be a struggle or a train wreck.

  1. 09/30/2025

    14. The Aftermath

    Over a year after the event, Taylor Mali finally describes what The Marble House Meeting was actually like, from champagne at The Met to coffee in the cemetery, all in the company of cousins he'd never met before and may never see again. This is a short and imperfect episode, and this should not be the first one you listen to if you haven't heard any before. The founding sponsor of Relative Strangers is FamilyTreeChart.com. Use promo code METROPOLITAN to get 10% off your first order. Please follow the podcast on Instagram at RelativeStrangersPodcast, where Taylor is generally a little less dramatic.

    15 min

  2. 07/23/2024

    13. The Prospect of Freedom

    In this episode, which is the first to have been recorded after the singularly wonderful and marvelously successful Marble House Meeting at the end of June, Taylor has a proper conversation with Kate McCabe, the retired educator, amateur historian, and self-described "Morristown Girl" who knows more about the family of James Colles than anyone who—unlike her—actually shares some of his DNA. McCabe talks about some of the prickly personalities that tried to fit in with the family. She calls Emily Johnston De Forest a "rockstar." She explains "the squabble" over Colles's estate and is pretty sure what good works his son George Wetmore Colles did with the funds he pilfered from it. "To what extent does James Colles owe his wealth to the slave trade?" is another question that gets asked and answered. There is some profanity in this episode, and Taylor explains that hooking up with cousins in his family is definitely a thing, "but only because we all find one another so attractive!" The founding sponsor of Relative Strangers is FamilyTreeChart.com. Use promo code METROPOLITAN to get 10% off your first order. Please follow the podcast on Instagram at RelativeStrangersPodcast, where Taylor is generally a little less dramatic.

    34 min

  3. 07/01/2024

    12. The Letter

    One hundred sixty-one years ago today—on July 1, 1863, which was a Wednesday—Frances Colles Johnston, the 37-year-old wife of John Taylor Johnston, took advantage of the sudden quiet in her father's summer house in Morristown, NJ, and dashed off a letter to her baby brother George Wetmore Colles who was fighting for the Union Army in The Civil War. In this episode of Relative Strangers, Taylor Mali talks with retired educator Kate McCabe, the self-proclaimed "Morristown Girl" who lived across the street from the Colles summer house and has been inside it and played in its back yard. It was McCabe who found the original handwritten letter and brought it to the attention of this podcast. The letter itself is read and performed by actor and friend-of-the-podcast Megan McQuillan. The founding sponsor of Relative Strangers is FamilyTreeChart.com. Use promo code METROPOLITAN to get 10% off your first order. Please follow the podcast on Instagram at RelativeStrangersPodcast, where Taylor is generally a little less dramatic.

    20 min

  4. 05/28/2024

    11. We Children (Ausable Club Recollections)

    This episode is built around a 40-year-old recording of Eva Mali Noyes and her brother Henry "Harry" Mali conducted in 1984 by David and Rosemary Coffin. The recording was discovered by Cousin Amy Stewart Webb (1955) in a box of her mother's belongings, and the complete unedited recording can be accessed here. Cousin Taylor Mali (1965) had the audio restored (thanks to artificial intelligence and audio engineering teacher Chad Anderson), and he plays selected segments of the interview while providing context.  The founding sponsor of Relative Strangers is FamilyTreeChart.com. Use promo code METROPOLITAN to get 10% off your first order. Please follow the podcast on Instagram at RelativeStrangersPodcast, where Taylor is generally a little less dramatic.

    26 min

  5. 04/13/2024

    10. The Mothers & the Grandmothers

    With about 10 weeks to go before 100 distant cousins get together in New York City for the first time in over a century, Taylor Mali takes a closer look at three female ancestors that all the relative strangers share, Frances Colles, Rachel Ogden Wetmore, and Adrienne Cuvelier. Also included at the end of this episode are voice memos sent in from Cristin O’Keefe Aptowicz, Caroline Dubois, Kate McCabe, Megan McQuillan,  Tony Stewart, Olivia Jacobs, and Cordelia Pierson. Last, be sure to visit @RealtiveStrangersPodcast on Instagram to watch Trip Stowell talk about the Mystery Trunk that we will all break into on Saturday! The founding sponsor of Relative Strangers is FamilyTreeChart.com. Use promo code METROPOLITAN to get 10% off your first order. Please follow the podcast on Instagram at RelativeStrangersPodcast, where Taylor is generally a little less dramatic.

    35 min

  6. 03/12/2024

    9. Hanky Panky in Marble House in 1872!

    This episode begins with the most SHOCKING, PRURIENT, and SCANDALOUS installment of "The Scullion's Hearth," Taylor Mali's entirely fictional (although completely plausible) account of what life might have been like in Marble House as seen through the eyes of housemaid named Bridget (beautifully read by New York City actress Megan McQuillan)! Also included are some updates on planned activities for the long-awaited family reunion in June of 2024. The founding sponsor of Relative Strangers is FamilyTreeChart.com. Use promo code METROPOLITAN to get 10% off your first order. Please follow the podcast on Instagram at RelativeStrangersPodcast, where Taylor is generally a little less dramatic.

    19 min

  7. 02/15/2024

    8. "Drunk Cousin with an iPhone"

    Taylor talks with his second cousin Sarah Elder (1947) about how to be a lady and the tribal nature of most of the world. They talk about privilege and whether you can hide it, the paucity of motherly love, and the "poor cousins" who had to attend The Chapin School. What do you have the strength to endure out of kindness alone? Taylor recites entirely too many poems in the course of the interview, but Sarah confesses to having sex in the maid's rooms of her grandmother's apartment. Interestingly, this is the first episode of the series in which the name John Taylor Johnston is never mentioned.  The founding sponsor of Relative Strangers is FamilyTreeChart.com. Use promo code METROPOLITAN to get 10% off your first order. Please follow the podcast on Instagram at RelativeStrangersPodcast, where Taylor is generally a little less dramatic.

    32 min

  8. 12/10/2023

    7. "We Were Forced to Eff Ourselves"

    Taylor Mali interviews distant cousin B. A. Van Sise, a charmingly nerdy photographer and polymath and one of the closest living relatives of Walt Whitman. THERE IS ONE WELL-PLACED SWEAR WORD EARLY IN THE EPISODE. There's also news of The Marble House Meeting at The Metropolitan Museum of Art and audio clips of Broadway actor Michael Crane reading selections from Taylor's grandfather's journal. Van Sise asks Taylor whether his extended family considers him their "shepherd" or their "Judas Goat." Last, if you are a relative stranger and plan to be at the opening cocktail reception, you might want to remind yourself of the words to "Edelweiss."  The founding sponsor of Relative Strangers is FamilyTreeChart.com. Use promo code METROPOLITAN to get 10% off your first order. Please follow the podcast on Instagram at RelativeStrangersPodcast, where Taylor is generally a little less dramatic.

    31 min
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Poet and teacher Taylor Mali knows more about his family than anyone really needs to know, especially the branch that has lived in New York City for 400 years. However, they don't all know him or each other—they are relative strangers to each other—so getting all 450 of them to meet in person in the summer of 2024 is going to be a struggle or a train wreck.

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  • Creator
    Taylor Mali
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2025
  • Episodes
    15
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Relative Strangers
  • Show Website
    Relative Strangers