Relatively Stable

Kimberly Carter

In Relatively Stable we delve into the journeys of those who have faced challenges, uncovered their passions, and discovered resilience along the way. Whether you're here for the stories, seeking inspiration, or simply drawn to the wisdom we glean from horses—and life—you’re in the right place. Let’s dive into the narratives that remind us how to stay relatively stable, no matter what comes our way. stableroots.substack.com

  1. 25 juin

    Granny Magic

    Granny Magic: A witness statement from the Blue Ridge Mountains What if the old women knew something we've forgotten? This week, I'm taking you back to one hot summer afternoon when I ran into a burning kerosene heater, my cousins called Aunt Daisy, and she "talked the fire" out of my burn with a prayer passed down through generations. That memory opens the door to a much larger conversation about Appalachian folk traditions, the rise of cottagecore and grannycore, the tension between faith and science, and why so many of us are suddenly longing for the wisdom our own grandparents often left behind. Along the way, I share the story of my remarkable Aunt Winchester, explore the rituals that still survive throughout the Blue Ridge Mountains, and offer my own witness statement about mystery, prayer, healing, horses, and the things I've experienced that I cannot explain away. Whether you believe every story or remain wonderfully skeptical, I hope this episode reminds you that paying attention has always been one of humanity's oldest forms of wisdom. Because perhaps the real magic was never in the rituals themselves. Perhaps it was in remembering how to notice. In this episode: - The day Aunt Daisy prayed the fire out of my burn - The mountain women who carried healing traditions through generations - Why cottagecore and grannycore have become cultural movements - The relationship between Appalachian folk practices and Christianity - Talking fire, stopping blood, weather signs, moon lore, dreams, saints, and horses - Why I believe science and mystery belong in the same conversation - My own witness statement about living in a world that is far stranger than we've been taught If this episode resonates with you, I'd love to welcome you to Stable Roots, where every week I explore the intersection of horses, history, grief, faith, psychology, and the stories that shape the way we live. Love,Kim Get full access to Stable Roots at stableroots.substack.com/subscribe

    29 min
  2. 18 juin

    Shut Up and Listen

    The Ability to Be Taught Why horses care less about what we think we know. What if the most important learning skill isn't intelligence? This week, Kim Carter begins with a one-minute drone video of horses running across a field in Upstate South Carolina and follows an unexpected thread into a much bigger question: What does it mean to pay attention? From horse-crazy barn rats and child labor law research in the pre-internet era to a stubborn girth buckle, fragmented attention, working memory, and the surprising science behind learning styles, this essay explores why children often learn differently than adults—and why horses may be some of the best teachers we have. Along the way, you'll discover: • Why research has largely debunked the idea of visual, auditory, and kinesthetic learners • What psychologists mean by working memory—and why instructions sometimes seem to vanish before we can use them • The surprising reason adults often struggle more than children when learning something new • How modern life trains us to divide our attention into smaller and smaller pieces • Why horses consistently reward curiosity, presence, and the willingness to be a beginner At its heart, this isn't a story about riding lessons. It's about competence, attention, and the increasingly rare ability to stop what we're doing long enough to receive new information. Whether you've spent your life around horses or have never touched one, this episode offers a fresh perspective on learning, listening, and why some of the most important lessons in life begin when we're willing to admit we don't already know the answer. Featured topics:Attention • Learning Styles • Working Memory • Neuroplasticity • Horses as Teachers • Child Development • Adult Learning • Focus in a Distracted World • Personal Growth Key Quote "The best learners are people willing to breathe through their discomfort and listen. And if we're lucky, the horse is patient enough to wait for us to remember how." Get full access to Stable Roots at stableroots.substack.com/subscribe

    25 min
  3. 11 juin

    A Future Me Problem

    What year is your problem from? In this week's Stable Roots, Kim explores a simple thought experiment that came to her in the wee hours between waking and sleeping: What happens when you take a problem you're facing today and place it in another time period? Would a fallen tree have felt different in 1825? What about a dead mouse in a feed bag? Would the problem still exist, or would it reveal itself as a product of modern technology, expectations, and endless decision-making? Through stories from life at Lavender Hill—including a storm-damaged water oak, a Sunday morning botulism scare, and a veterinarian's reminder that knowledge and control are not the same thing—Kim examines why modern life can feel so exhausting even when we have more tools than ever before. Sometimes the problem isn't the problem. Sometimes it's everything we've attached to it. This episode is an invitation to take three steps backward, widen the frame, and ask a different question: What year is my problem from? In This Episode The origin of the phrase "That's a future me problem" Why some modern worries would have made no sense in 1825 The hidden burden of endless options and decision-making A fallen tree, Hurricane Helene, and the cloud of choices surrounding simple problems What a dead mouse in a feed bag taught Kim about uncertainty The difference between knowledge and control Why waiting has become such a difficult skill A practical exercise for gaining perspective when a problem feels overwhelming Memorable Quote "Not every problem belongs to today. Some belong to tomorrow. Some belong to the past. And some problems aren't problems at all, but questions that time hasn't answered yet." Stable Roots on Relatively Stable is the audio companion to Kim Carter's weekly Substack essays, recorded from Lavender Hill in Upstate South Carolina, where horses, history, grief, resilience, and ordinary life intersect in unexpected ways. Read and subscribe to Stable Roots. Follow Kim on Facebook. Get full access to Stable Roots at stableroots.substack.com/subscribe

    19 min
  4. 4 juin

    I'm So Glad I Was Evicted

    The best solutions often come at the worst cost. For two decades, Kim grew a business and a life inside the protective casing of fear—terrified of what would happen if she were ever forced to leave the farm she called home. But human time moves fast, and when an eviction notice arrived to signal that the land was being developed, a twenty-year tenancy vanished in a blink. In this audio essay, Kim reflects on the long, overlapping histories we leave on borrowed ground, the difference between a grand illusion and a true sanctuary, and how a sudden uprooting led her to the 200-year-old threshold of Lavender Hill. We are all just passing through, but some evictions force us to transplant our lives into much richer soil. In This Episode: The Ghost of Morpheus: A twenty-something dream of a grand estate in Tryon, NC, and the warning hidden inside a beautiful illusion. Pot-Bound Roots: Navigating twenty years as a "humble apologist" on borrowed land, overshadowed by the footprints of those who came before. Operating on Land Time: The sudden shock of a six-month eviction notice and the confrontation with a geographic clock. Discovering Lavender Hill: An impossible listing beside a prison, two juvenile armadillos acting like puppies, and a hidden meadow that became a love song. The Reality of Sanctuary: Learning to live in a place that demands partnership rather than deference. Notable Quotes: "Like a garden bed filled with mint, my shoots overlapped with the Turk’s broad trunks, and the shared history of other trainers who had come before us in that space, on that land." "It felt like I was walking into a dream, but one that didn’t come with a warning." "To a mountain or a pasture, a twenty-year tenancy is just a blink, a single season in a vast, geologic clock... Every landlord, every trainer, every husband, and every writer is eventually evicted by time itself." Connect with the Farm: If Stable Roots feels like a conversation you'd like to keep having, join our community. Every week, Kim Carter writes about horses, land, grief, belonging, and how we sometimes have to get lost to find ourselves. Read the original essay & see the photos: at Substack. Support the work: Consider upgrading to a paid subscription to directly support the horses, the land, and the stories harvested at Lavender Hill. Get full access to Stable Roots at stableroots.substack.com/subscribe

    17 min
  5. 28 mai

    The Dreaming

    This week's essay started as a dream about a house I didn't know I owned. Then, it became something bigger — an investigation into why the nature of my dreaming changed the moment I moved to Lavender Hill Farm, and what it means that I'm finally, for the first time in my life, sleeping straight through the night. In this episode I'm reading the full essay, which traces the dreaming through the science of REM sleep, the mystery of the Voynich Manuscript — a fifteenth-century illustrated codex full of plants that don't exist and a script no one has decoded in six hundred years — and into the work of Carl Jung, who went into his own basement at thirty-eight and came back with a map. The essay also visits my cousin Janette, a botanist who told me years ago that she no longer daydreamed, which terrified me at the time. It took me decades to understand what she meant — and to recognize that something else was moving in to take daydreaming's place. If you've been paying attention to your own dreams lately, or noticing that something in your interior life has shifted, this one is for you. In this episode: The house as the self — Jung, Bachelard, and why so many of us dream of rooms we didn't know we have What actually happens in the final hours of sleep, and why most of us never stay down long enough to find it The Voynich Manuscript and the long human tradition of trying to record what lives inside us Active imagination — Jung's practice of going back into the dream and asking the figures what they want The second half of life and the gold that's too close to see Links and references: The Voynich Manuscript — viewable in full at the Beinecke Rare Book and Manuscript Library, Yale University Carl Jung, The Red Book: Liber Novus, edited by Sonu Shamdasani, W.W. Norton & Company, 2009 (affiliate link) Gaston Bachelard, The Poetics of Space, 1958 (affiliate link) If my work resonates with you: Stable Roots publishes weekly essays on the land, the interior life, and the slow work of paying attention. Free subscribers receive each essay in their inbox. Paid subscribers support the farm and the writing, and get a little more of everything. Stable Roots is written and read by Kim Carter and recorded at Lavender Hill Farm Get full access to Stable Roots at stableroots.substack.com/subscribe

    28 min
  6. 14 mai

    We Don't Save Old Farms

    We Don't Save Old Farms: (They Save Us) In this week’s Stable Roots, Kim Carter traces the layered history of Lavender Hill — the 200-year-old farm in Simpsonville, SC now home to Bramblewood Stables — through old letters, photographs, buried spring stones, and an antique hand plow that may have originated from the land itself. What begins as research into the farm’s past slowly becomes something more intimate: a meditation on stewardship, memory, and the feeling of stepping into a conversation already underway long before your arrival. This episode explores: - The transformation of Holly Springs Acres into Lavender Hill - Charles and Alona Lavender’s restoration of the farm after the Korean War - The excavation of the original spring house - Forgotten infrastructure and old ways of living with the land - And what it means to enter a relationship with a place instead of simply owning it Read the full essay and explore Stable Roots: Stable Roots on Substack Learn more about Bramblewood Stables at Lavender Hill: Bramblewood Stables South Carolina Department of Agriculture listing for Lavender Hill Farm: Lavender Hill Farm and Bramblewood Stables Last week’s companion piece on disappearing farmland in Upstate South Carolina continues the larger conversation around land stewardship, development pressure, and preservation. Follow along with the ongoing restoration and history work at Lavender Hill on Facebook and Instagram. Get full access to Stable Roots at stableroots.substack.com/subscribe

    16 min
  7. 7 mai

    Your New Neighbors are Costing You a Fortune

    In 2020, the world tilted on its axis. For the Upstate of South Carolina, that tilt sent a wave of 100,000 new residents crashing into our pastures. As we cross the milestone of one million neighbors, the infinite horizon of the American South has officially hit a bottleneck. This week, Kim dives into the canyon between agricultural value and development prices. From the ingenious survival strategy of European track systems to the personal desperation of cashing out a retirement to save her farm by purchasing thirty acres, we’re talking about the high cost of holding the line. Is a farm just a vacant lot waiting for a purpose, or is it the essential, self-sustaining lung of a growing city? In this episode, we discuss: The Million-Resident Milestone: The rapid expansion of the Greenville-Anderson-Greer, South Carolina metro area. The Mother of Invention: Why land scarcity in the Netherlands and the UK forced a smarter way to keep horses, and why we’re next. The Hidden Subsidy: The math that proves farms actually lower your taxes, while subdivisions send you the bill. Legislative Victories: A look at the Old White Horse Road Corridor victory and the new SC laws fighting to protect 7 million acres by 2050. Lavender Hill: A raw look at the survival of a 30-acre heart of a 1,100-acre legacy. Once our dirt is buried under six inches of concrete, the conversation is over. The soil doesn’t get a second chance. And neither do we. Connect & Support: Read the full essay and see the data: at Stable Roots on Substack Subscribe to Stable Roots: Join our community of land stewards and help us hold the line against the asphalt funnel. Follow on Facebook: @kim.carter.equestrian And on Instagram: @two_point About Stable Roots: Stable Roots is a weekly exploration of land, legacy, and the grit it takes to keep them both. Hosted by Kim Carter, a farm owner and advocate in the Upstate of South Carolina, we look at the intersections of agriculture, economics, and the equestrian life in an increasingly crowded world. Get full access to Stable Roots at stableroots.substack.com/subscribe

    28 min
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In Relatively Stable we delve into the journeys of those who have faced challenges, uncovered their passions, and discovered resilience along the way. Whether you're here for the stories, seeking inspiration, or simply drawn to the wisdom we glean from horses—and life—you’re in the right place. Let’s dive into the narratives that remind us how to stay relatively stable, no matter what comes our way. stableroots.substack.com

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