Release Control

Allen
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Release Control | Breakup, Divorce & Healing Podcast Hosted by someone who has lived it — heartbreak, divorce, toxic relationships, and starting over. Release Control is the podcast for anyone trying to heal after a breakup, move on from divorce, or rediscover themselves after a painful relationship. Every episode covers the real, messy, emotional side of letting go: setting boundaries, rebuilding self-worth, navigating dating again, co-parenting, and finding growth through grief. If you’re going through a breakup, processing a divorce, healing from a toxic relationship, or simply trying to become a better version of yourself — this show is for you. New episodes weekly.

  1. Mar 31

    Do They Ever Come Back? The Truth About Your Ex Missing You

    After a breakup, your mind won’t stop asking the same questions: Does your ex come back? Do they miss you? Do they ever think about you the way you think about them? In this episode, we get real about what actually goes on after a relationship ends. I break down the emotions, the silence, and the truth behind whether your ex is coming back—or if you’re holding onto something that’s already gone. We talk about why you can’t stop thinking about them, if they’re feeling the same way, and the hard reality of what “missing someone” really means after a breakup. If you’ve been stuck replaying memories, wondering if they regret losing you, or hoping they’ll reach out… this episode is for you. This is for anyone going through heartbreak, struggling to move on, or searching for answers after a breakup. You’re not crazy for wondering—you’re human. 🎧 Tune in if you’ve been asking: Does my ex miss me?Does my ex think about me?Do exes come back after a breakup?Why can’t I let go of my ex?Is my ex thinking about me too?Real talk. No sugarcoating. Just the truth about love, loss, and letting go.

    31 min

  2. Mar 24

    Breakup Questions: Why It Happened & How to Heal.

    Why did they leave? What did I do wrong? Was it fixable… or was it always going to end? In this raw and vulnerable episode, I dive into the questions that haunt you after a breakup—the ones you replay late at night when everything feels too quiet. This isn’t surface-level advice… this is the real internal dialogue people don’t talk about. I break down the most common post-breakup questions we all ask ourselves: Did they ever really love me? Was I the problem in the relationship? Why do I still miss someone who hurt me? Why can’t I let go… even when I know I should? Why does it feel like I’m addicted to them? We’re talking about breakup psychology, emotional attachment, and the truth behind why your mind keeps going back to someone who’s no longer there. If you’re stuck overthinking, replaying memories, or trying to make sense of a relationship that ended… this episode is for you. This is for anyone going through heartbreak, dealing with relationship anxiety, struggling with letting go, or trying to understand their emotions after a toxic or deep relationship. You’re not crazy for asking these questions… but the answers might change how you see everything.

    32 min

  3. Mar 9

    Leaving the Army, Leaving a Relationship, Starting Over

    After 24 years in the Army, I’m standing at the edge of a life I’ve known for more than half of my existence… and walking into the unknown. In this episode, I open up about retiring from the Army, the emotions that come with leaving a brotherhood, and what it feels like to pack up my life and head back to Texas to start over. But the truth is, the uniform isn’t the only thing I’m letting go of. At the same time I’m closing this chapter of military life, I’m also going through a painful breakup. So this episode gets real. I talk about the weight of transition, the identity shift after Army retirement, the responsibility I feel toward my children and family, and the quiet moments where everything hits at once. This isn’t a polished story about having it all figured out. It’s about starting over at 45, dealing with heartbreak, rebuilding after divorce and relationships, and trying to figure out who you are when the life you knew changes overnight. If you’ve ever had to walk away from a chapter of your life, rebuild after a breakup, or step into a new beginning you didn’t expect… this one’s for you.

    41 min

  4. 11/10/2025

    Five of the Most Asked Questions About Relationships

    Struggling in love? Wondering if your relationship is healthy, or how to move on after a painful breakup? In this episode, I answer the five most asked questions about relationships, dating, and love: How to know if your relationship is truly healthy How to recover and move on after a breakup Red flags you’re ignoring because you hope it will work out Balancing your identity while being in a relationship When to talk about commitment, future goals, and the next steps Whether you’re dating, navigating a breakup, or trying to build a strong, healthy relationship, this episode is packed with honest, practical advice to help you love smarter and protect your heart.

    37 min

  5. 04/28/2025

    Dating to fill the void: Leaves you broken and empty

    In today’s episode of Release Control, we delve into a topic that few people want to admit: many dating experiences today are not driven by love, but rather by a desire to fill a void. After a breakup or heartbreak, it’s natural to seek something new to escape loneliness, boredom, or rejection. However, when we date solely to avoid pain rather than healing from it, we find happiness, not emptiness. We’ll explore the following key points: - Why missing the connection after a breakup is different from missing the person. - How loneliness can trick us into rushing into the wrong relationships. - Signs that indicate we’re dating to fill the void rather than seeking true connection. - The negative consequences of casual dating without serious intentions, including resentment and regret. - How situationship’s can act as professional “void fillers,” leaving us feeling drained and unloved. - The various unhealthy ways people attempt to fill the void, such as rebounds, casual hookups, overworking, social media validation, and reaching out to an ex. This episode serves as a deep dive into the emotional traps people fall into after heartbreak and offers guidance on how to break free from them by confronting loneliness head-on and healing in the right way. 💬 Ask yourself: Are you dating because you’re ready, or are you afraid to sit with yourself? 🎙️ Final reminder: Healing hurts, but settling hurts forever. Choose your pain wisely. 🔔 If this episode resonated with you, please follow share it with a friend who needs it, and leave a review. Together, let’s heal the right way.

    42 min

  6. 04/21/2025

    Ghosting while dating

    In Episode 33 of The Release Control Podcast, we’re diving into one of the most frustrating parts of modern dating—ghosting. If you’ve ever been left on read, suddenly ignored, or had someone disappear without a word, this episode is for you. We break down exactly what ghosting is, why it happens, and how to deal with it emotionally and mentally. From dating apps to emotionally unavailable partners, ghosting has become a normalized—but damaging—part of today’s dating culture. We’ll talk about why ghosting has become so common in a world built on convenience, fear of confrontation, and zero accountability. You'll learn the key differences between ghosting, slow fading, and someone simply losing interest—because not all exits are created equal. We’ll also explore the rise of bread crumbing, where someone gives you just enough to keep you hanging, but never commits. This episode is here to help you see through the confusion and stop blaming yourself for someone else's lack of maturity. We also dig deep into the emotional damage ghosting causes, like self-doubt, anxiety, and the trauma of unfinished conversations. More importantly, I’ll show you how to mentally take your power back—from journaling, to reframing the rejection, to cutting off the illusion completely. If you’ve ghosted someone yourself, we talk about how to own it, grow from it, and never repeat that pattern again. This episode gives you the tools to spot red flags early, protect your peace, and move forward with confidence. Because ghosting says more about them than it ever did about you. You deserve clarity, not confusion—and closure, even if it comes from within. Whether you’re healing from ghosting or trying to avoid falling into the trap again, this episode is full of insight, perspective, and real talk you won’t hear anywhere else.  Tap in now and take your power back.

    36 min

  7. 04/14/2025

    The Real Talk on Men, Women & Emotional Expectations

    In this episode, we’re peeling back the layers on one of the most misunderstood dynamics out there — the real emotional, societal, and psychological differences between men and women. We're not just skimming the surface; we're diving deep into how we're conditioned from childhood to handle (or avoid) emotions, why that plays a major role in communication breakdowns later in life, and what it really means to be emotionally available. Expect raw stories, real talk, and eye-opening perspectives: Why are men told to "man up" while girls are comforted when they cry? How does this emotional gap show up in relationships, therapy, and breakups? Spoiler: men often suffer in silence, while women process in community — and that makes healing look very different. We’ll also tackle the silent pressure both genders face — women fighting beauty standards and aging insecurities, men chasing success just to feel worthy. Social media isn’t helping either — everyone’s stuck in the comparison trap. And when it comes to dating? The playing field is anything but even. Women get flooded with attention but struggle to trust it, while men are expected to impress just to be seen. From emotional suppression to dating double standards, this episode breaks it all down with humor, honesty, and some much-needed solutions. Whether you're healing, dating, or just tired of being misunderstood — this is the episode that finally says what everyone’s thinking.

    58 min

  8. 04/07/2025

    Put Yourself First: The Key to Self-Love and Personal Growth

    In this powerful episode, we explore how making yourself a priority is the first step toward personal growth and self-love. Discover the importance of self-care, setting healthy boundaries, and how prioritizing yourself leads to a more fulfilling life. Learn actionable strategies to practice self-love, boost your self-esteem, and achieve a healthy work-life balance. By putting yourself first, you’re not only investing in your own well-being but also creating the foundation for stronger, more meaningful relationships with others. Tune in to understand why self-care isn’t selfish and how embracing your worth is essential for living a life filled with purpose and joy. Whether you're looking to improve your mental health, develop healthier habits, or grow emotionally, this episode has all the tools you need to start your journey of self-discovery and empowerment.

    32 min
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Release Control | Breakup, Divorce & Healing Podcast Hosted by someone who has lived it — heartbreak, divorce, toxic relationships, and starting over. Release Control is the podcast for anyone trying to heal after a breakup, move on from divorce, or rediscover themselves after a painful relationship. Every episode covers the real, messy, emotional side of letting go: setting boundaries, rebuilding self-worth, navigating dating again, co-parenting, and finding growth through grief. If you’re going through a breakup, processing a divorce, healing from a toxic relationship, or simply trying to become a better version of yourself — this show is for you. New episodes weekly.

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  • Creator
    Allen
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    37
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Allen
  • Show Website
    Release Control