NeuroDiverse Christian Couples

Dr. Stephanie Holmes

Like all couples, NeuroDiverse (AS/NT) Christian couples face challenges with communication and connection. Those challenges are nuanced in a way that most couples, therapists, and clergy don't typically recognize. Often NeuroDiverse Couples have children on the spectrum (or or other differences), this podcast will dedicate topics to the NeuroDiverse Couple as well as issues that may arise in spectrum or special needs family systems. We invite you to learn about NeuroDiverse Christian couples to understand those aspects more fully.

  1. I Still Make the Turkey- It's my Job

    11月12日

    I Still Make the Turkey- It's my Job

    In this holiday-themed episode of Just the Guys, the conversation centers on thankfulness—not as a sentimental add-on to Thanksgiving, but as a practical tool for navigating the chaos of family gatherings. Drawing from Dr. Jim Wilder’s teaching on appreciation as the spark that “turns on our relational circuits,” the guys explore how gratitude transforms not just moods but entire relationships.  Greg admits that even when overstimulated, “I still made the turkey; it’s my job”—a wry reminder that responsibility and love can coexist with limits and self-awareness. Jeremy reflects on the sobering truth that “what you complain about today might be someone else’s answered prayer,” while Kevin shares how recovery and thankfulness helped him replace counterfeit joys with authentic connection. Dan rounds out the discussion with insights on starting the day with intentional gratitude as a way to short-circuit negativity before it starts.  From Western novels as an escape hatch to unexpected hugs from kids, from box breathing to pecan pie, the guys trade stories of how thankfulness shows up in real life—sometimes messy, sometimes humorous, but always transformative. With family gatherings looming, they offer encouragement to embrace both the people you love and the people who stretch your patience, not as problems to solve but as relationships to nurture.  The takeaway? Joy rarely arrives by accident—it’s cultivated, like Greg’s turkey, with intentional care.

    54 分钟
  2. Following the ND Compass The Stages of Relationship Progression with Dr. Jill Corvelli

    11月10日

    Following the ND Compass The Stages of Relationship Progression with Dr. Jill Corvelli

    Today, Dr. Stephanie and Barb talk with Dr. Jill Corvelli about the ND Compass charting stages of relationship progression for ND couples. Stages of Relationship Progression: Romance Power Struggle Stability Commitment Co-Creation   About Our Guest: Jill Corvelli, PhD, LPC, is the creator of ND Compass, a structured methodology designed to support neurodiverse couples in relational healing. With over a decade of experience working with hundreds of couples in thousands of sessions, she has developed a systematic approach that integrates Liberating Structures, Differentiation, and Somatic Self-Energy Activation into a phased, neuroaffirming therapeutic framework. Originally developed to stabilize couples during the Power Struggle stage of relational development, ND Compass has expanded to support couples across all five stages of relational growth. Dr. Corvelli is a University Supervisor at Northwestern University’s Family Institute, where she trains and mentors graduate-level clinicians. She is experienced in Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, and Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy (KAP), and has extensive experience integrating neuroscience, somatic work, and relational models into therapy. As a national trainer and consultant, she teaches therapists how to bridge the gap between relational stabilization and deeper inner differentiation work, ensuring that neurodiverse couples experience developmental growth in a way that is accessible, paced for their nervous systems, and structured to honor their unique lived experiences. Couples Institute: https://www.couplesinstitute.com/therapists-toolkit-for-neurodiverse-couples/?srsltid=AfmBOorpmFwzP_PTwfWel2FDkhyt83uX3mD94qGEseYBQxdEliisZmYi  ND Compass: https://www.ndpartnersinstitute.com/about

    52 分钟
  3. Resolving Old Trauma Impacting Your Marriage Now with Immanuel with Dr. Karl Lehman

    11月3日

    Resolving Old Trauma Impacting Your Marriage Now with Immanuel with Dr. Karl Lehman

    We are welcoming back Dr. Lehman with so much positive feedback about his first time on the show. Last show with Dr. Karl, we specifically spoke about the trauma from the perspective of the non-autistic woman married to an autistic man. Today, we shift the focus to potential traumas the autistic man may have, where simple feedback and simple emotions can trigger trauma in the autistic spouse, with a brief discussion on brain anatomy and how trauma develops and the differences in processing in the autistic brain. While we did not get enough time to go through all the steps of healing, we introduce that laying new circuits are possible and healing old trauma and wounds is possible!  About Our Guest: Dr. Karl Lehman is a board-certified psychiatrist with 35+ years of experience and more than 40,000 hours of clinical experience. He has worked tenaciously throughout his career to integrate his personal Christian faith with medical science, modern mental health care, and his rigorous scientific training. He has researched and worked to integrate faith-based emotional healing with insights from psychological and neurological research. Dr. Lehman is also deeply committed to his own growth and healing. Dr. Lehman has been married to Charlotte for over 30 years, and they work as a team to apply everything they learn about growth and healing in the context of their marriage. Author of Outsmarting Yourself and The Immanuel Approach.  Podcast links from podcasts we mentioned about autistic brain neurology: Pt 1 with Dr. Lehman https://www.spreaker.com/episode/unresolved-trauma-s-impact-on-marriage-with-dr-karl-lehman--66548811  Enemy Mode with Dr. Wilder https://www.spreaker.com/episode/escaping-enemy-mode-with-dr-jim-wilder--52449734

    58 分钟
  4. Self-Attunement, Lament & Developing Your iSight with Marlene Allen

    10月20日

    Self-Attunement, Lament & Developing Your iSight with Marlene Allen

    Continuing this month's topic on attachment and attunement, we have with us today the Life Model Works Executive Director, Marlene Allen. So many of our clients and listeners ask how I can have joy in pain or return to joy when things seem hopeless. Isn't that like just being happy and faking it until you make it? No! Today, we talk about adversity, pain, and lament, and how they differ from complaining and venting, which are stuck in disgust or contempt. Lament is a release and offering, and complaining amplifies your pain and can blind you. So join our discussion today to learn more about: Self-attunment Attunement to God and developing iSight, is Immanuel always with me? How does pain impact me? Lamenting vs Complaining  About our Guest: Marlene Allen currently serves as the Executive Director of Life Model Works. She is an author, teacher, mentor, networker, licensed minister, and joy-starter. She graduated from McNeese State University in her home state of Louisiana. Her passion for teaching spiritual principles to young people led to a forty-plus-year journey of serving in schools and churches. During her 16-year service as a missionary in Southeast Asia, Marlene was introduced to Life Model Works and finally found the language to articulate the value of joy that she carried within her.  Before becoming executive director, Marlene was a relational practitioner and served on the Life Model Works Board of Directors. She firmly believes that Life Model Works’ relational tools will help us better represent the Lord on the Earth.  Residing in Aurora, Colorado, Marlene is a mom to four amazing adults, Rachell, Victoria, Kia, and Moses, and is called ‘Momma Marlene’ by a host of others. She is the creator of Doodles at Relational Wholeness Doodles and the author of the children’s book Candlestick City, available on Amazon. Life Model: https://lifemodelworks.org/neurotheology/  Many of Dan & Stephanie's courses use Life Model Books or ministry partners such as Deeper Walk or Thrive Works. Chapter 5 of Uiquely Us relies on some of these principles!

    55 分钟
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Like all couples, NeuroDiverse (AS/NT) Christian couples face challenges with communication and connection. Those challenges are nuanced in a way that most couples, therapists, and clergy don't typically recognize. Often NeuroDiverse Couples have children on the spectrum (or or other differences), this podcast will dedicate topics to the NeuroDiverse Couple as well as issues that may arise in spectrum or special needs family systems. We invite you to learn about NeuroDiverse Christian couples to understand those aspects more fully.

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