Resilient Souls

Stewart Bogle

Through real stories of everyday people, Resilient Souls explores the insights that help us face life’s challenges, find comfort and hope, and build resilient souls. For more resources and weekly reflections, visit resilientsouls.com.au

  1. #40 When Life Doesn’t Go to Plan (Part 1): Erik Ellefsen on Faith, Identity and Long-Term Illness

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    #40 When Life Doesn’t Go to Plan (Part 1): Erik Ellefsen on Faith, Identity and Long-Term Illness

    When Erik Ellefsen was diagnosed with a rare form of cancer at just 33, he was told he may only have a couple of years to live. Seventeen years later, he’s still here. But this isn’t a story about everything working out neatly. It’s a story about learning to live in the tension between hope and uncertainty… between deep pain and unexpected purpose. In this first part of our two-part conversation, Erik takes us back to the moment everything changed. The diagnosis, what followed, and the long journey of treatment that has impacted every part of his life. We talk about what it’s like to live with ongoing illness that others can’t always see. The impact it’s had on his identity, his energy, his marriage, and the future they once imagined. More than that, we explore how Erik has wrestled with faith in the middle of it all. Not in a polished or formulaic way, but in a deeply honest and lived way. This is a conversation about resilience, faith, and learning to reimagine life when it doesn’t go the way you thought it would. In Part 2, we shift the focus outward. We explore what truly helps when someone is walking through crisis, and how we can better support them. But before we head there, this is a very personal story worth sitting with. In this episode, you’ll discover: What it’s really like to receive a life-altering diagnosis and the shock that followsHow long-term illness impacts identity, energy, and everyday lifeThe hidden tension of 'looking fine' on the outside while struggling internallyThe grief of lost expectations, including career, family, and future plansHow Erik has navigated anger, disappointment, and uncertainty over timeA deeply honest perspective on faith, suffering, and the goodness of GodWhat it means to reimagine life when your original plans are no longer possible..... and much more About the Guest: Erik Ellefsen is an educator, leadership consultant, and trusted voice in Christian education across the United States Currently serving as Director of Networks and Improvement at Baylor University Host of the Digical Education podcast Explore More from Resilient Souls: Resilient Souls ⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠ Resilient Souls ⁠⁠⁠Podcast⁠⁠⁠ or search ‘Resilient Souls’ wherever you get your podcasts Resilient Souls ⁠⁠⁠Blog on Substack⁠⁠ ⁠ Stewart’s ⁠Book⁠⁠⁠ Follow Resilient Souls on: ⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠ / ⁠⁠⁠Instagram /⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠ Get Involved or Reach Out: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Join the Community⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Book Stewart to Speak⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Support the Work⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Contact Us⁠⁠⁠ Need Help? In ⁠Australia⁠⁠⁠ or for ⁠⁠⁠Overseas⁠⁠

    35 min
  2. About the ‘Collective Wisdom’ series

    MAR 27

    About the ‘Collective Wisdom’ series

    This episode is a little different from our usual conversations. It marks the beginning of a parallel series within the Resilient Souls podcast. In this series, we step back from individual stories to reflect on the shared wisdom that has been emerging through them. Through the podcast, I’ve had the opportunity to sit with many people who have walked through grief, trauma, illness, loss, and other deeply challenging seasons of life. Over time, something important became clear. People were offering honest reflections and practical insights shaped in the middle of their storms. Not neat answers. Not theories. Real wisdom formed through lived experience. In this short episode, I share the heart behind the new Collective Wisdom series. This work is about gathering principles from real people who have faced difficult seasons and turning those insights into practical starting points that may help others keep moving forward. It’s not about scripts or perfect responses. It’s about learning from one another and finding ways to make the journey you are on just that little bit more manageable. These reflections have grown from conversations across families, schools, churches, workplaces, and communities. They continue to shape how this series may support people in very real situations. In this brief episode, you’ll discover What the Collective Wisdom series is and why it has begunHow lived experience can become practical guidance for othersWhy many people feel unprepared when life suddenly becomes difficultHow shared insight can help individuals, families, and communities respond with greater understandingWho these resources are designed to supportWhy this is a series that will continue to grow over timeExplore the Collective Wisdom Series If this introduction connects with you, you can explore more written reflections and resources through the Resilient Souls Substack You may also find it helpful to listen to individual podcast conversations where much of this wisdom first emerged. Visit: resilientsouls.com.au Or search ‘Resilient Souls’ wherever you listen to podcasts

    6 min
  3. #39 Life Is Messy (Part 2): Mike Potter on What It Takes to Build a Safe & Skilled Community

    MAR 3

    #39 Life Is Messy (Part 2): Mike Potter on What It Takes to Build a Safe & Skilled Community

    In Part 1 of this important conversation, Mike Potter shared the deeply personal story behind his book Life Is Messy: Hope in Dark Places. In this second conversation, we widen the lens. How does personal suffering reshape the way we build communities? What does it look like to create environments where people don’t have to pretend to be ok okay? How do we move from good intentions to wise, practical support? Drawing from decades in education leadership, Mike reflects on how his own difficult experiences in life changed the way he leads - and how schools, churches, and communities in general can become places that are not only safe, but skilled. We talk about noticing the person behind the behaviour. We explore systems that support families in crisis. We examine what it means for leaders to say, “I’m not okay,” and how that vulnerability can help shape the culture of a community. Yes, life can be messy. But communities can learn to walk into the uncomfortable spaces, rather than avoid them. In this episode, you’ll discover: Why personal suffering can deepen compassion, if we allow it toHow a policy of 'notice and then act' can change a child’s trajectory and provide much needed supportWhat makes a community not just kind, but genuinely safe and skilledWhy behaviour is often a signal of something deeperHow multidisciplinary support can help families carrying traumaThe importance of leaders modelling vulnerabilityPractical ways teachers, leaders, and community members can create safer spaces..... and much more About the Guest: Mike Potter is a long-time educator and school leader based in Adelaide, South Australia. He is the author of Life Is Messy: Hope in Dark Places, a compassionate and honest exploration of faith, suffering, and resilience. In Part 1, Mike shared his personal breaking point. In Part 2, he reflects on how those experiences reshaped the way he leads and builds community. Mike's book, Life Is Messy: Hope in Dark Places is available from Open Book Howden and Amazon (Kindle) Explore More from Resilient Souls: Resilient Souls ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠ Resilient Souls ⁠⁠Podcast⁠⁠ or search ‘Resilient Souls’ wherever you get your podcasts Resilient Souls ⁠⁠Blog on Substack⁠⁠ Stewart’s Book⁠⁠ Follow Resilient Souls on: ⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠ / ⁠⁠Instagram /⁠⁠ ⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠ Get Involved or Reach Out: ⁠⁠⁠ Join the Community⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Book Stewart to Speak⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Support the Work⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Contact Us⁠⁠ Need Help? In Australia⁠⁠ or for ⁠⁠Overseas⁠⁠

    39 min
  4. #38 Life Is Messy (Part 1): Mike Potter on Faith, Suffering, and Hope in Dark Places

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    #38 Life Is Messy (Part 1): Mike Potter on Faith, Suffering, and Hope in Dark Places

    In this deeply honest conversation, Stewart sits down with Mike Potter to explore the personal journey behind his book Life Is Messy: Hope in Dark Places. Mike shares how a ‘perfect storm’ of loss, leadership pressure, illness, and unresolved questions brought him to a breaking point in 2015–16. As a long-time educator and school leader, he opens up about the cost of always being strong for others, the silence of God at times in suffering, and the unhelpful myth that faith should protect us from all pain. This episode does not offer neat answers. Instead, it makes space for the real wrestle many people carry quietly. It’s a conversation about broken hearts, resilient faith, forbidden questions, and the kind of hope that can hold us when life doesn’t make sense. This is Part 1 of a two-part conversation, focusing on Mike’s personal story and inner reckoning. In Part 2, the conversation turns toward leadership, schools, and how suffering reshapes the way we live, lead and care for others. In this episode, you’ll discover: What happens when buried grief and unanswered questions resurface all at onceWhy the belief that faith guarantees protection from suffering can quietly collapse under pressureThe ‘forbidden questions’ many people carry about prayer, healing, and fairnessHow leadership expectations can make it harder to admit, “I’m not okay!”Why silence from God can feel unbearable, and what that silence revealed over timeThe danger of blaming suffering on ‘not enough faith’ and how damaging that can beWhat it meant for Mike to finally say out loud that he was not copingHow hope can still exist even when nothing is fixed or explained… and much more. Need Support Right Now If some of this conversation resonates with where you’re at right now, you don’t have to carry that alone. Help is available. In Australia Lifeline – click here or call 13 11 14Mental Health Triage Service - 13 14 65 Beyond Blue – click hereSuicide Call Back Service – click here or call 1300 659 467For overseas links Help section on the Resilient Souls website hereAbout the Guest: Mike Potter is a long-time educator, school leader, and author based in Adelaide, South Australia. He has served in education leadership for over two decades and is the author of Life Is Messy: Hope in Dark Places, a raw and compassionate exploration of faith, suffering, and resilience. Mike speaks candidly from lived experience about grief, illness, leadership pressure, and the slow work of finding hope again without denial or spiritual shortcuts. Resources & Links Mike' s Book 'Life is Messy: Hope in Dark Places' can be purchased here or find the eBook version hereComing Up Next: In Part 2 of our conversation, Mike Potter reflects on how these experiences we talked about here have reshaped his leadership, particularly in schools and communities carrying unspoken grief. We explore what leaders and communities need to understand about suffering, vulnerability, and creating cultures where people are not forced to pretend they are okay. Explore More from Resilient Souls: Resilient Souls ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠Resilient Souls ⁠⁠Podcast⁠⁠ or search ‘Resilient Souls’ wherever you get your podcastsResilient Souls ⁠⁠Blog on Substack⁠⁠Stewart’s ⁠⁠Book⁠⁠Follow Resilient Souls on: ⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠ / ⁠⁠Instagram /⁠⁠ ⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠Get Involved or Reach Out: ⁠⁠⁠ Join the Community⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Book Stewart to Speak⁠⁠⁠⁠Support the Work⁠⁠⁠⁠Contact Us⁠⁠Need Help? In ⁠⁠Australia⁠⁠ or ⁠⁠Overseas⁠⁠

    43 min
  5. #37 A Slow Goodbye

    JAN 20

    #37 A Slow Goodbye

    A Note to Listeners: This episode contains personal reflections on illness, loss, and grief. Can I encourage you to listen in a way that feels gentle and supportive for you. This episode is a little different. At the start of 2026, I’m walking through a season of grief as my mum reaches the final stages of her life. Rather than launching straight into plans and announcements for the year ahead, I wanted to pause and share honestly about where I’m at right now. In this reflective episode, I speak about what it’s like to live in the middle of a slow goodbye. I reflect on the grief of watching someone you love become fragile, the ache of unfinished stories, and the quiet lessons that emerge when life cannot be hurried or fixed. This is not an episode with answers. It’s a moment of quiet looking back. A reminder that many of us are carrying things we didn’t plan for, and that resilience is often found not in strength, but in showing up - for ourselves and for one another. In this episode, you’ll hear reflections on: What it means to grieve before you actually say goodbye.The pain of realising how much of a loved one’s story we might not have ever fully known. Watching roles shift as I need support and my children step up.How grief and gratitude often sit side by side. Why presence matters more than words when someone is hurting.What this season is teaching me about resilience, community, and hope.Why This Episode Matters Resilient Souls exists not because I’ve figured life out, but because I’m walking it too. This episode marks a threshold moment: naming where I am before sharing where the work is heading this year. If you’re carrying something heavy, I hope this reminds you that you’re not alone, and that there is a way through, even when the path isn’t clear yet. Explore More from Resilient Souls: Resilient Souls ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠ Resilient Souls ⁠⁠Podcast⁠⁠ or search ‘Resilient Souls’ wherever you get your podcasts Resilient Souls ⁠⁠Blog on Substack⁠⁠ Stewart’s ⁠⁠Book⁠⁠ Follow Resilient Souls on: ⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠ / ⁠⁠Instagram /⁠⁠ ⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠ Get Involved or Reach Out: ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Join the Community⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Book Stewart to Speak⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Support the Work⁠⁠ Contact Us⁠⁠ Need Help? In ⁠⁠Australia⁠⁠ or ⁠⁠Overseas⁠⁠

    13 min
  6. #36 From Heart to Hope – Season 3 Reflections with Stewart Bogle (Part 2)

    09/10/2025

    #36 From Heart to Hope – Season 3 Reflections with Stewart Bogle (Part 2)

    In this second part of the Season 3 closer, Stewart moves from heart to hope — lifting out just a few of the nuggets of gold shared by guests this season. Through their stories and his own reflections, this episode explores how real-life wisdom can become real-life help for parents, teachers, and friends walking alongside kids and families in pain. This isn’t about quick fixes — it’s about noticing, being present, and finding practical ways to make sure no one carries their pain alone. In this episode, you’ll discover: How the 'gold nuggets' shared by guests this season points us toward turning heartfelt stories into practical help — and ultimately hope.Why Elizabeth Moncrieff-Philp’s reminder about one-on-one time with her kids stayed with Stewart.How Belinda Peters’ letter to her community helped protect her boys and guide friends and family in what to do.How practical acts of support — from meals to mowing lawns — can make such a difference.Why silent grief can be just as heavy as visible grief, and how Bec Riley’s story brings this to light.Insights from Sam Hearn, Michael Chisholm, and Natasha Rae on the power of speaking pain aloud and the healing role of community.Stewart’s vision for the Collective Wisdom Series — resources to help parents, teachers, and communities support kids who carry unseen grief.… and much more! Explore More from Resilient Souls: Resilient Souls ⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠ Resilient Souls ⁠⁠⁠Podcast⁠⁠⁠ or search ‘Resilient Souls’ wherever you get your podcasts Resilient Souls ⁠⁠⁠Blog on Substack⁠⁠⁠ Stewart’s ⁠Book⁠⁠⁠ Follow Resilient Souls on: ⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠ / ⁠⁠⁠Instagram /⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠ Get Involved or Reach Out: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Join the Community⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Book Stewart to Speak⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Support the Work⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Contact Us⁠⁠⁠ Need Help? In ⁠Australia⁠⁠⁠ or ⁠⁠⁠Overseas⁠⁠

    27 min
  7. #35 Kids Carry More Than We Realise – Season 3 Reflections with Stewart Bogle (Part 1)

    08/13/2025

    #35 Kids Carry More Than We Realise – Season 3 Reflections with Stewart Bogle (Part 1)

    In this first part of the Season 3 closer, I’m speaking from the heart — no guest — about how this season’s conversations have impacted me personally. Some moments have stirred memories from my own journey, while others have sparked fresh insight into what these stories could mean for your own life. From unseen grief in children to the myth that “kids are just resilient,” I share clips from a few guests — and reflect on my own experiences — that reveal the invisible weight kids can carry, even when everything looks fine on the outside. This is a heartfelt, behind-the-scenes look at some of Season 3’s themes, setting the stage for Part 2 of this closer, where I’ll highlight a few of the “gold nuggets” from these conversations. These are real-life stories with the potential to become practical resources Resilient Souls hopes to create — helping parents, teachers, and friends turn insight into real-life help for those walking through life’s storms. In this episode, you’ll discover: Why kids often carry more grief and stress than adults always realise — and how it can stay hidden.The personal moments from Stewart’s life that this season’s conversations stirred up, and what they taught him.Clips from guest stories from Season 3 that reveal the quiet, unseen weight kids can carry. Why the old saying “kids are resilient” can be misleading without the right support.How noticing and being present can change a child’s (or adult’s) journey through pain.… and much more! Explore More from Resilient Souls: Resilient Souls ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠ Resilient Souls ⁠⁠Podcast⁠⁠ or search ‘Resilient Souls’ wherever you get your podcasts Resilient Souls ⁠⁠Blog on Substack⁠⁠ Stewart’s Book⁠⁠ Follow Resilient Souls on: ⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠ / ⁠⁠Instagram /⁠⁠ ⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠ Get Involved or Reach Out: ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Join the Community⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Book Stewart to Speak⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Support the Work⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Contact Us⁠⁠ Need Help? In Australia⁠⁠ or ⁠⁠Overseas⁠⁠

    39 min
  8. #34 What You Don’t Work Through, You Pass On: Michael Chisholm’s Story of Change and Courage

    07/30/2025

    #34 What You Don’t Work Through, You Pass On: Michael Chisholm’s Story of Change and Courage

    When Michael Chisholm reflects on his childhood, he sees how growing up in a home marked by conflict and pain shaped the man he became. Those unspoken wounds followed him into adult life, affecting his relationships and decisions—until he reached a turning point: realising that what you don’t work through, you pass on. In this heartfelt conversation, Michael shares how doing the hard inner work helped him break the cycle for his own family, and why he now dedicates himself to supporting others — including young people in schools — to find hope, healing, and a different path forward.In this episode, you’ll discover: How childhood experiences can quietly shape our adult relationships and choicesWhy unprocessed pain often shows up in the next generationThe turning point where Michael realised change had to start with himPractical steps he took to break destructive cycles and begin healingThe role of self-reflection, courage, and community in creating real change Why empathy and understanding are key to supporting others on their journeyHow his story now fuels his passion to guide and encourage others… and much more! Explore More from Resilient Souls: Resilient Souls ⁠⁠Website⁠⁠ Resilient Souls ⁠⁠Podcast⁠⁠ or search ‘Resilient Souls’ wherever you get your podcasts Resilient Souls ⁠⁠Blog on Substack⁠⁠ Stewart’s ⁠⁠Book⁠⁠ Follow Resilient Souls on: Facebook⁠⁠ / ⁠⁠Instagram /⁠⁠ ⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠ Get Involved or Reach Out: ⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Join the Community⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Book Stewart to Speak⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Support the Work⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Contact Us⁠⁠ Need Help? In ⁠⁠Australia⁠⁠ or ⁠⁠Overseas⁠⁠

    39 min

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Through real stories of everyday people, Resilient Souls explores the insights that help us face life’s challenges, find comfort and hope, and build resilient souls. For more resources and weekly reflections, visit resilientsouls.com.au

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