Rethink Your Rules

Jenny Hobbs
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Coaching for high achieving moms who are told they are too much, yet feel they are not enough.Dr Jenny Hobbs is a practicing physician with ADHD, a wife, and a mom to differently wired kids. She combines candid, insightful conversations with practical tools to help you enjoy better relationships at home, at work, and with yourself.

  1. 10/07/2024

    A Conversation with My 8-year old: Navigating Anxiety, ADHD, and Perfectionism

    Send a text This week, I'm sharing an interview with my 8-year-old daughter. in this fun, free-flowing conversation, we talk about the stresses of starting a new school year, ADHD, anxiety, emotional regulation skills, perfectionism, and more. You'll come away with a smile on your face and helpful insights for your own family.  Remember, if you or your kids have ideas for topics or questions you'd like me to discuss with Nora on a future episode, simply email me jenny@jennyhobbsmd.com and we will make it happen!  _________ Need help applying this to your life? Ready for more strategies like this, but personalized to YOU? Set up your free consult and let’s talk about your unique situation and how coaching can help: https://getcoached.jennyhobbsmd.com/consult _________ Everything on this podcast and website is for informational purposes only and should not be used as medical advice. Views are our own, and do not necessarily represent those of our past or present employers or colleagues.

    37 min

  2. 09/04/2024

    Mom Choice Time: What It Is and Why You Need It

    Send a text How are you and your family handling the back-to-school season? It's such a fun and exciting time, but can also be challenging, especially for those of us with neurodivergent families. In this episode, I’m sharing a bit about how our family approaches this time of year, and offering a few tips & mindset shifts to make the transition a bit less stressful.  We’ll also explore a game-changing concept called "Mom Choice Time," inspired by a common school practice. This is a simple yet powerful way to let go of society's unspoken rules and rediscover what genuinely brings you joy. Through scheduling and honoring this personal time, you'll reconnect with your inner voice, build self-trust, and fend off burnout. You won’t want to miss this short yet empowering episode. And be sure to put that Mom Choice Time on your calendar this week! Mentioned in this episode Self-Care in 10 Min or Less: 25 ideas for your Mom Choice Time _________ Need help applying this to your life? Ready for more strategies like this, but personalized to YOU? Set up your free consult and let’s talk about your unique situation and how coaching can help: https://getcoached.jennyhobbsmd.com/consult _________ Everything on this podcast and website is for informational purposes only and should not be used as medical advice. Views are our own, and do not necessarily represent those of our past or present employers or colleagues.

    13 min

  3. 08/19/2024

    Setting Limits with Compassion: Feelings First, not Feelings Only

    Send a text Have you ever struggled to balance empathy and authority as a mom? This can be one of the biggest challenges of parenting, particularly if you have a neurodiverse family with lots of big emotions. We want to show compassion for our kids, but what bout when they're being rude or violent? How can we also teach them that those behaviors are unacceptable? That's the topic of this week's episode. First, we'll explore how "Feelings First" is not about allowing emotions INSTEAD of setting limits. It's not Either / Or. It's not "Feelings Only." It is also important to set limits & expectations, to keep everyone safe, and to teach your kids to be kind, successful humans. It's just that all of this will be much easier and more effective if you've established a baseline of empathy & connection first.  Then, we'll talk about how setting boundaries with compassion is not only possible, but essential. And I'll share some practical strategies for maintaining firm yet empathetic boundaries, particularly for neurodiverse children.  By prioritizing physical safety while also acknowledging feelings with compassion, you create an environment of less stress and more connection. And this makes it easier for your kids to respect you and (eventually) actually learn from you.  _________ Need help applying this to your life? Ready for more strategies like this, but personalized to YOU? Set up your free consult and let’s talk about your unique situation and how coaching can help: https://getcoached.jennyhobbsmd.com/consult _________ Everything on this podcast and website is for informational purposes only and should not be used as medical advice. Views are our own, and do not necessarily represent those of our past or present employers or colleagues.

    29 min

  4. 08/02/2024

    Your Job is to Help Your Kid FEEL The Feeling. Not to FIX It.

    Send a text Do you ever wonder if putting your child's feelings first means letting go of boundaries? In this week’s episode of "Rethink Your Rules," I challenge the conventional wisdom that prioritizing emotions leads to chaos.  I’ll clear up some of the most common misconceptions about “Feelings First,” including the fact that acknowledging your child's feelings does not mean you have to fix them or take responsibility for them. Rather, this style of parenting is about creating a supportive & safe environment, which does NOT require you to agree with their point of view or fulfill illogical demands. You can allow emotions while also maintaining your boundaries and expectations.  This episode provides practical insights into responding to your child's feelings in a calm, confident way. It’s perfect for parents of neurodivergent kids…and really for anyone trying to improve their emotional intelligence. _________ Need help applying this to your life? Ready for more strategies like this, but personalized to YOU? Set up your free consult and let’s talk about your unique situation and how coaching can help: https://getcoached.jennyhobbsmd.com/consult _________ Everything on this podcast and website is for informational purposes only and should not be used as medical advice. Views are our own, and do not necessarily represent those of our past or present employers or colleagues.

    16 min

  5. 07/20/2024

    When Your Kid is Angry at You: Feelings First

    Send a text In this episode, I’m sharing a simple yet powerful strategy to  respond when your neurodiverse kids are upset: “Feelings First.” This response may be simple, but it is not easy. It requires us to allow and accept our child’s emotions WITHOUT trying to solve or fix their pain. And when they are blaming us for that pain, it also requires that we set aside our own defensiveness so we can respond to their feelings with true compassion and empathy. Using the example of my daughter’s anger when I had to work on her birthday, I’ll demonstrate why this matters so much. Well talk about how “Feelings First” creates connection with our kids and helps them calm down faster. We’ll also talk about how this strategy makes it easy to model emotional maturity to our kids. “Feelings First” is part of the “C” in the CALM method (Connecting with compassion). Once you take this pivotal first step,  you can then use the rest of CALM (Assessing thoughts, Loosening your grip on unhelpful beliefs, Making intentional decisions) to manage your OWN emotional health. This CALM method is how you can feel less stressed and more peaceful and self-confident as a parent. If you’re struggling with mom burnout,  guilt, or feeling like a failure, do not miss this episode! I guarantee this is the piece you’re missing. Mentioned in this episode: From Overwhelm to CALM in Minutes: The Simple Question You're Not Asking Yourself5 Unspoken Rules Every Working Mom Should RethinkThe Power and Paradox of Emotion: Surprising Truths For Working Moms (Part 1)The Power and Paradox of Emotion: Surprising Truths For Working Moms (Part 2)the "How We Feel" App_________ Need help applying this to your life? Ready for more strategies like this, but personalized to YOU? Set up your free consult and let’s talk about your unique situation and how coaching can help: https://getcoached.jennyhobbsmd.com/consult _________ Everything on this podcast and website is for informational purposes only and should not be used as medical advice. Views are our own, and do not necessarily represent those of our past or present employers or colleagues.

    31 min

  6. 07/12/2024

    REPOST: 5 Unspoken Rules Every Working Mom Should Rethink

    Send a text This week we'd like to re-share the Unspoken Rules that keep working moms stuck in exhaustion and overwhelm. These rules are beliefs that have been ingrained in us by family and society since childhood.  Often we aren't even consciously aware of them anymore, but we still follow them and they can have a lot of power over how we feel and how we act. I've found that all high-achieving working moms have Unspoken Rules that boil down to one ore more of 5 categories. They all center around what we think we "need" in order to feel good: In order to feel better, I need... 1 Them to change / This thing to change (Arguing with Reality / Control Enthusiasm) 2 To be perfect/To get it right (Perfectionism) 3 Them to like me / approve of me  (People-pleasing) 4  To get more done (Hustle Mindset) 5. People to be logical (Hyper-Rationality) These Rules aren't all bad; in fact, many of them have helped us succeed in the past. But if you're struggling right now, I guarantee that at least one or more of these rules is at the root of it. Listen to hear more about how these Rules show up in our lives, how to uncover your Rules by asking "why is this a problem for me?" and more! This is just a quick overview, so be sure to also grab the free replay & slides from my webinar " How to Feel Better: Stop Following These 5 Unspoken Rules for a deeper dive into this topic. _________ Need help applying this to your life? Ready for more strategies like this, but personalized to YOU? Set up your free consult and let’s talk about your unique situation and how coaching can help: https://getcoached.jennyhobbsmd.com/consult _________ Everything on this podcast and website is for informational purposes only and should not be used as medical advice. Views are our own, and do not necessarily represent those of our past or present employers or colleagues.

    21 min

  7. 06/21/2024

    Embracing Uniqueness: Lessons from Neurodiversity and Pandemic Puppies

    Send a text This week, I'm revisiting a popular episode from last year, along with fresh insights from a recent neurodiversity conference. The original episode ("Would You Rather be Unique or Normal?") was based on an eye-opening conversation with my child about our pandemic puppies. His unique perspective, shaped by autism spectrum disorder and ADHD, encouraged me to question some of my most deeply held beliefs about the importance of fitting in. It also illustrates the idea of being neurodiversity-affirming: viewing differently wired brains not as problems to be solved, but rather natural variations with unique strengths... as well as unique challenges. As we delve into this topic, we'll question whether being "normal" should be the ultimate goal, and explore the inherent value of embracing diversity. So please join me and get inspired to embrace the uniqueness in yourself and others! Mentioned in this episode: Neurodiversity: A Conference About People Who Think Differently Click HERE to register for VIP virtual access to the neurodiversity CME discussed in this episode. You'll receive links to watch my talk, along with those of the other physician experts, plus access to online materials and more! _________ Need help applying this to your life? Ready for more strategies like this, but personalized to YOU? Set up your free consult and let’s talk about your unique situation and how coaching can help: https://getcoached.jennyhobbsmd.com/consult _________ Everything on this podcast and website is for informational purposes only and should not be used as medical advice. Views are our own, and do not necessarily represent those of our past or present employers or colleagues.

    22 min

  8. 06/14/2024

    What Do I Need Here? (Self-Coaching Power Question)

    Send a text Ever feel like traditional self-care advice just doesn't fit your neurodiverse needs? This episode is a must-listen as we rethink rigid self-care routines and focus on tuning into our body's signals to create a more personalized approach. By understanding and honoring our unique needs, we can break negative cycles and enhance our well-being.   In this podcast I highlight the importance of self-awareness and self-compassion as foundational steps to truly enjoying life and career again. Whether you're adjusting to a new job schedule or simply seeking a more authentic self-care routine, this episode offers practical, effective strategies to help you grow. Mentioned In this episode: Divergent Conversations Podcast Episode 24: Conversation about self-attunement as the basis of self-care starts approx 27:30. Feel Better in 10 Minutes: Self-Care for Busy Moms Who Don’t Have Time for It. Neurodiversity: A Conference About People Who Think Differently Click HERE to register for VIP access to this virtual CME event, where you can hear me speak, along with other physician experts in neurodiversity. _________ Need help applying this to your life? Ready for more strategies like this, but personalized to YOU? Set up your free consult and let’s talk about your unique situation and how coaching can help: https://getcoached.jennyhobbsmd.com/consult _________ Everything on this podcast and website is for informational purposes only and should not be used as medical advice. Views are our own, and do not necessarily represent those of our past or present employers or colleagues.

    27 min
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Coaching for high achieving moms who are told they are too much, yet feel they are not enough.Dr Jenny Hobbs is a practicing physician with ADHD, a wife, and a mom to differently wired kids. She combines candid, insightful conversations with practical tools to help you enjoy better relationships at home, at work, and with yourself.

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  • Creator
    Jenny Hobbs
  • Years Active
    2019 - 2024
  • Episodes
    105
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    Explicit
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    © 2026 Rethink Your Rules
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