Say The Things Nicole Hagman

This episode discusses the role of unmet expectations and communication breakdowns in causing disappointments in relationships. It highlights the importance of setting realistic expectations based on the other person's behavior and clearly communicating needs. The concept of radical acceptance for people with antagonistic personalities is also introduced. Strategies for minimizing disappointment through self-reflection, communication, and boundary-setting are explored.
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In today's episode, I'm discussing the universal experience of disappointment. I kicked things off with a quote about weathering life's storms, then dive into the prevalence of disappointment, especially in high-stakes events like the NCAA basketball tournament. I explained how disappointment often accompanies other intense emotions like anger and hurt, particularly in interpersonal conflicts, failed achievements, and situations where we feel a lack of control. I also touched on the challenges of communicating disappointment, especially with antagonistic personalities. I concluded by previewing future discussions on the research and healthy approaches to navigating disappointment in relationships.
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This podcast explores communication fatigue, also known as information overload, which is a state of mental exhaustion that diminishes our ability to process more input. Contributing factors are endless digital inputs, meetings, data, multitasking, messaging, and being perpetually “on call.” Implementing boundaries, assessing communication value, scheduling focused work, practicing mindfulness, and taking device breaks can help manage this fatigue. Unplugging from devices brings back rhythms of quiet and stillness that allow us to truly connect.

This podcast discusses implementing focused communication tactics when you have a specific goal or issue to address. I walk through steps like identifying the core issue, naming your goal, knowing your audience, planning a clear and concise message, deciding on delivery method, addressing one issue at a time, and collaborating on solutions. Focused communication distinguishes supplemental versus essential information to have constructive conversations. There’s time for free flowing dialogue and time to “Vanilla Ice” a situation with direct communication.

This podcast continues the discussion on overthinking and introduces using targeted questions to change engrained thought patterns. I suggest asking if the issue is within your control, if you're relying on facts versus emotions, if it’s a recurring unproductive thought, and if the rumination aligns with your values. This self-questioning can disrupt negative cycles, reduce anxiety, and quiet mental chatter. I encourage listeners to implement “yes or no” self-questioning to gather insights on mental habits and create space for mindfulness.

Learn how overthinking sabotages communication and relationships plus tips to be thoughtfully present.