Secret Habit

Shawn Bonneteau; Helena Bonneteau
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Do you wish there were some fun, purpose-driven couples talking about sex in a way that was actually helpful? Back when we were struggling, we certainly did, and that is why the Secret Habit podcast exists. We are Shawn and Helena Bonneteau and we are committed to helping you experience just how satisfying God's design for sexuality can be. Because we know what it's like to deal with things like porn addiction, betrayal trauma, and sexual struggles we can relate to your story and bring refreshing, restorative truths that will lead you to love stronger, laugh harder, and sex better.

  1. OCT 29

    S3E12: #1 Most Effective Porn Recovery Formula

    This episode is based on this post I wrote in our DeepClean private community (learn more about Inner Circle): Last week I was working 1:1 with a client to help him pinpoint some wounds from his past. The challenge?He didn’t know what happened to cause the wounds. He knew something was there — he has struggles today to prove it — but he just couldn’t pinpoint what happened. And honestly?I see this all the time. Guys want to really dial in the trauma story. It makes sense… we want clarity. But let me remind you — 👉 It’s not totally necessary. The focus of healing isn’t about perfectly remembering what happened. It’s about recognizing what still lives inside you. The emotions you felt that never got processed (the ones you still wrestle with) The thoughts you had that never got shared (the ones you still carry) The needs you had that never got met (the ones you still seek to fill in unhealthy ways) When you focus here, you may discover the full story — or maybe not.Either way, you’re working directly with the part of trauma that can actually heal. If you can name those 3 things — emotion, thought, and need — you now have real clarity on what you’re up against. Then comes the good part: learning how to work through X emotion, Y thought, and Z longing. That’s my super simple approach to recovery — and I love seeing how it changes men’s lives, time and time again. 💪 This episode is all about unpacking this idea and helping you make recovery simple! Maybe you still feel stuck, not knowing how to apply this? If so, hop on a call with our team to learn about our DeepClean programs - click here

    13 min

  2. OCT 21

    S3E11: Psalms- Expressing Your Pain Like David

    Suppressing emotions is at the heart of what drives people to escape reality - we call this fantasy... What if you could face reality with your Saviour? What if you had a grasp on your internal battles and let God fight for you? One of the greatest weapons against suppression is journalling. And one of the greatest weapons against distance from God is a heart that wants to be known This episode was inspired by a group call Shawn did where he had 15 men write their own psalm of lament... 4 Steps to writing a psalm: - Questioning - Complaint - Petition for Help - Statement of Confidence To learn more about Shawns porn recovery coaching, hop on this free MasterClass Helena was also moved by journalling in her journey. As a mom, a betrayed partner, one who went through pain and loss, this method of therapy was HUGE for her. In this episode, you'll learn about - How journalling helped us quit addiction, grow closer and move into new season - How to read the psalms - Vulnerability and trust - Why men are desperate for expression and safety If you're looking to get free from porn, its not a secret how to do that in the next 90 days. We have a very clear system and our new Inner Circle Brotherhood is only $2 a day Join Inner Circle

    25 min

  3. OCT 20

    S3E10: How To Say No To Porn! ft. Pete Lupton From NePornu

    The Czech Republic has some staggering challenges when it comes to sexuality. Stats show us that they are top in the world in porn creation, sex trafficking, and some other difficult things to make sense of... I brought Pete Lupton on the show today to talk about his incredible mission to help a country start to understand that porn at the very least can be a problem Pete also shares about his journey of recovery, going through 10 years of what doesnt work so he could finally find what does work. Now he spends all of his time making sure more people learn the truth and develop the tools that really work to say no to porn and get sober from sexual struggles. While listening, you may feel a nudge to get some help and a part of the solution to this problem rather than continue to give into the problem... if so Check out secrethabit.ca to get connected to Shawn and his coaching with the DeepClean Program Topics we cover in this episode: - Passion behind a mission to change the narrative behind pornography - What does not work in recovery - What does work in recovery - Hope for whats available in Jesus - Czechs views of porn, sex and religion - Vision for the Czech Republic - What God is doing through NePornu and how everybody can help To get connected to Pete and NePornu, here are 3 ways to do so Instagram: https://instagram.com/info_npcz Website: https://nepornu.cz/ Donate (different ways per country below): -https://nepornu.cz/podpor-projekt-financne/ - https://www.jaron.org/ministry-team/pete-lupton/ - https://www.darujme.cz/projekt/1202617?locale=en

    58 min

  4. OCT 13

    S3E9: Sexual Teamwork - How Vulnerability Fuels Intimacy

    Helena and Shawn open up about their journeys from sexual shame and the weight of regret, to working as a team and developing a sexual union that is healthy and raw This journey is one we all have to embark on... learning to be vulnerable, faithful and compassionate, while at the same time, holding a standard and casting vision of what is possible Shawn quit porn and masturbation in 2017, and overcame Erectile Dysfunction in 2020 - To work with Shawn and his proven approach to lasting freedom from porn, go to secrethabit.ca Helena had her own struggles with porn and masturbation before marriage, but her main journey was overcoming betrayal trauma which took 2 years after Shawn quit porn In this episode, you'll learn about - The 4 stages we went through to heal wounds and become a team - The way to effective vulnerability - How to be safe for the other person - The deeper realm of trauma and wounds Looking for MORE? Work with me 1:1: ⁠⁠Book your free strategy call to learn more about DeepClean Signature ⁠⁠ Our all new Inner Circle program has been FIRE - a place of proven recovery, brotherhood and identity in Christ Join the ⁠⁠⁠DeepClean Inner Circle⁠⁠ ⁠⁠today! If you're really on the fence of what to do next, ⁠⁠⁠⁠heres my free 90 day porn survival guide⁠⁠⁠⁠, this can be an awesome starting point if you're not ready to invest $2 per day MORE resources and info on 1:1 Coaching with Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/

    39 min

  5. SEP 29

    S3E8: Dr Trish Leigh (Porn Recovery Expert) - Regulate Your Nervous System With The Right Type of Dopamine To Quit Porn FAST

    Mind Over Explicit Matter - Dr Trish Leigh's new book is all about the connection between porn addiction and way way we function as humans In this incredible interview, Dr Trish gets into some of the most practical, simple and profound ways someone can get clean from porn, quit masturbation and overcome erectile dysfunction Get ready to learn about: - What really works for people who want to quit porn - Fear and Anxiety - Dopamine Determination + Getting Healthy Serotonin and Oxytocin - Becoming self aware to learn from relapses - Inner Child Work and Root Healing - Finding your voice - Marriage conflict resolution ---- Next action steps: Work with me 1:1: ⁠⁠Book your free strategy call to learn more about DeepClean Signature ⁠⁠ Our all new Inner Circle program has been FIRE - a place of proven recovery, brotherhood and identity in Christ Join the ⁠⁠⁠DeepClean Inner Circle⁠⁠ ⁠⁠today! If you're really on the fence of what to do next, ⁠⁠⁠⁠heres my free 90 day porn survival guide⁠⁠⁠⁠, this can be an awesome starting point if you're not ready to invest $2 per day MORE resources and info on 1:1 Coaching with Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/ ------ Work with Dr Trish or learn more about her resources https://drtrishleigh.com/ https://www.youtube.com/@DrTrishLeigh

    49 min

  6. SEP 10

    S3E7: Mother Wounds - The Hidden Root To Your Porn Addiction

    The mother wound is often missed or misunderstood... however, iv found it to be the missing link to most guys wounds that lead them down the road to addictions to sex, porn and masturbation Why? Because the mother is at the heart of our safety, nurture, affection and intimacy. She models for us what a women is like and what its like to interact and live around one When men have a mother wound, they struggle to feel safe, to trust, to risk, to find their voice I talk about my weekly Trauma Care Workshop on this episode - These workshops have been FIRE in our all new Inner Circle program - a place of proven recovery, brotherhood and identity in Christ Join the ⁠⁠⁠DeepClean Inner Circle⁠⁠⁠⁠ today! In this Episode, Im going to talk about everything mother wound: - How our mother forms our sexuality- Common wounds from the mother- Enmeshment - mom uses the son to numb her pain - Triangulation - mom does everything for the family to numb her pain - 4 practical steps you can take to heal your mother wound and BE A MAN who is free from porn, masturbation, sex and the fear holding you down from all God made you to be Looking for MORE? Work with me 1:1: ⁠Book your free strategy call to learn more about DeepClean Signature ⁠ Our all new Inner Circle program has been FIRE - a place of proven recovery, brotherhood and identity in Christ Join the ⁠⁠DeepClean Inner Circle⁠⁠ ⁠today! If you're really on the fence of what to do next, ⁠⁠⁠heres my free 90 day porn survival guide⁠⁠⁠, this can be an awesome starting point if you're not ready to invest $2 per day MORE resources and info on 1:1 Coaching with Shawn: ⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/

    22 min

  7. AUG 11

    S3E6: How To Bring Your Wounds To Jesus

    Renewing your mind is a key concept in Christianity, but how do you do it? You may know what to do, but how? Lets talk about that today so you are clear in the how and have some ideas of your next steps I talk about my weekly Inner Child Workshop on this episode - These workshops have been FIRE in our all new Inner Circle program - a place of proven recovery, brotherhood and identity in Christ Join the ⁠⁠DeepClean Inner Circle⁠⁠⁠ today! In this episode. I talk about: - Overcoming temptation to porn, masturbation and other sins through articulating your deeper wounding - Bringing your wounds to Jesus - Developing your prayer life - Renewing your mind through clarity of what needs renewing For more insights on Inner Child work and trauma care, check out my past episodes - they're FULL of coaching tips on how to apply what you're learning Looking for more? Our all new Inner Circle program has been FIRE - a place of proven recovery, brotherhood and identity in Christ Join the ⁠DeepClean Inner Circle⁠⁠ today! Make sure to check out Episodes 1, 2 and 3 from Season 3, all about my Porn Recovery Framework that I use everyday when coaching clients 1:1 and in group settings Looking for MORE? Work with me 1:1: Book your free strategy call to learn more about DeepClean Signature If you're really on the fence of what to do next, ⁠⁠heres my free 90 day porn survival guide⁠⁠, this can be an awesome starting point if you're not ready to invest $2 per day MORE resources and info on 1:1 Coaching with Shawn: ⁠https://secrethabit.ca/

    10 min

  8. JUL 28

    S3E5: Depression, Marriage and Recovery

    Helena is back! Get ready to learn all about her recent 2 years and how she overcame depression and renewed her faith in Christ... We will talk about Helenas struggle with depression and the state it created in her And about how Shawn found himself as a foreigner, a parent of 2 girls and a husband of a wife going through ALOT at once. How did Helena overcome depression without pills? How did Shawn remain integrous and porn free? This is a really powerful raw chat between two people who have been through a ton. Married 9 years, 8 years of freedom from secual addiction and now 2 kids and a large coaching practise - we love giving back to inspire, convict and offer hope May out failures be your success so you can experience ALL that Jesus has for you Its time to overcome depression, fear, shame, porn addiction, masturbation and all other sexual bondage! Looking for more? Our all new Inner Circle program has been FIRE - a place of proven recovery, brotherhood and identity in Christ Join the DeepClean Inner Circle⁠ today! Make sure to check out Episodes 1, 2 and 3 from Season 3, all about my Porn Recovery Framework that I use everyday when coaching clients 1:1 and in group settings If you're really on the fence of what to do next, ⁠heres my free 90 day porn survival guide⁠, this can be an awesome starting point if you're not ready to invest $2 per day MORE resources and info on 1:1 Coaching with Shawn: https://secrethabit.ca/ RESOURCE PLUG: Humility by Andrew Murray is the book that CHANGED us around this topic of emptying ourselves and truly filling up with Jesus

    45 min
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Do you wish there were some fun, purpose-driven couples talking about sex in a way that was actually helpful? Back when we were struggling, we certainly did, and that is why the Secret Habit podcast exists. We are Shawn and Helena Bonneteau and we are committed to helping you experience just how satisfying God's design for sexuality can be. Because we know what it's like to deal with things like porn addiction, betrayal trauma, and sexual struggles we can relate to your story and bring refreshing, restorative truths that will lead you to love stronger, laugh harder, and sex better.

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  • Creator
    Shawn Bonneteau; Helena Bonneteau
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2025
  • Episodes
    116
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Shawn Bonneteau; Helena Bonneteau
  • Show Website
    Secret Habit

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