Secret Habit: Porn Recovery for Christian Men

Shawn Bonneteau | Porn Recovery Expert
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This podcast is for Christian men who are tired of managing their struggle with porn and want to understand what’s actually driving it. Because your struggle isn't just about behavior. It’s about your inner world, your heart hunger, and learning to lead yourself intro whats true. Hosted by Shawn Bonneteau, this show is all about helping men move from confusion to clarity, coping to regulation, fear to confidence, and sobriety to real freedom. Helena Bonneteau regularly joins Shawn to help explore the deeper realms of vulnerability, relationships, and sexual wholeness in Christ.

  1. 1D AGO

    125: Why I Changed My Approach to Porn Recovery

    Most men trying to quit porn aren’t lacking discipline. They’re overwhelmed, disconnected from their inner world, and applying solutions to a problem they don’t fully understand. In this episode, I share more about the transition happening inside my coaching and the way I help guys. I do a deeper dive on what I’ve learned after spending over 2,000 coaching hours helping men pursue freedom from porn. Check it out to hear more about: why clarity changes recoverywhy strategy and hard work only matter if you know what the problem isthe deeper role of the hungry heart and how scripture talks about it as the sourcewhy many men struggle with suppression more than severe traumahow intimacy with Jesus transforms healingwhy confidence grows when you understand what to do and how to do ithow its not sobriety from porn that creates lasting freedom, its clarity, strategy and confidenceIf recovery has felt confusing, overwhelming, or like you’re constantly trying harder without understanding why, this episode will help things start making sense. If you want a quick insight into what your heart is hungry for, 👉 Take the Clarity Quiz: ⁠⁠⁠⁠secrethabit.ca/quiz⁠⁠⁠⁠ 👉 Want help becoming a man of clarity, strategy and confidence?Book a complimentary call with me:⁠⁠⁠⁠secrethabit.ca/call⁠⁠⁠⁠ New episodes drop every Monday and Friday morning to help you understand the real issue underneath porn addiction so you can move forward with clarity, confidence, and freedom.

    31 min

  2. 5D AGO

    124: Humility and Heart Hunger: A Christ-Centered Approach to Healing Porn Addiction

    Most men trying to quit porn focus almost entirely on behavior, but underneath the struggle is often something much deeper:A hungry heart longing to be filled by God instead of numbed through escape. In this episode, Shawn and Helena unpack humility, surrender, and what it actually looks like to let Jesus meet the deeper places of your heart. Using Andrew Murray’s book Humility: The Beauty of Holiness as a foundation, this conversation explores how real freedom grows through dependence on God, intimacy with the Holy Spirit, and learning to empty ourselves of self-reliance so we can be filled with truth and life. In this episode: why heart hunger matters in porn recoveryhow humility creates space for healing and freedom with JesusHelena’s story of coming out of depression through surrender and filling herself with Christthe difference between suppressing desire and bringing it to Godhow intimacy with Jesus changes porn recovery, marriage, and parentingwhy lasting freedom from porn requires more than discipline alone -- If you’ve ever known what you should do… but still struggled to trust God deeply in your recovery journey, this episode will help things start making sense. 👉 Take the Clarity Quiz:secrethabit.ca/quiz --- 👉 Want help applying this to your specific situation?Book a complimentary strategy call:secrethabit.ca/call Shawn coaches Christian men to move from confusion and coping into clarity, confidence, and real freedom. New episodes drop every Monday and Friday morning. --- Resource mentioned: Humility Book Messenger X Spotify Audiobook

    24 min

  3. MAY 15

    123: You’re Not Addicted to Porn. You’re Disconnected From Your Inner World

    “I’ve tried to quit, so why do I keep going back?” In this episode, I'll break down why your struggle with porn isn’t actually about discipline or motivation — and what’s really going on underneath it. You’ll learn: why behavior isn’t the real problemwhat your “inner world” actually is (in a simple way)how disconnection drives the cycleand why understanding your heart hunger changes everything I dropped a BONUS in the episode :) I shared about how you can play the The Heart Hunger Game for MAX awareness and effectiveness 👉 Take the Clarity Quiz:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠secrethabit.ca/quiz⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you’re listening to this and realizing you’re tired of feeling stuck or unclear I want to invite you into a conversation. On this call, we’ll slow things down and get clear on what’s actually driving your struggle, so you can see the path forward and know what it’s going to take to create real change. But this is for men who are ready to take ownership and do the work. If that’s you, you can book a complimentary call here: 👉⁠ secrethabit.ca/call⁠ If you’re not ready for that step yet, you can start with my free Porn Withdrawal Survival Guide:👉 ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/porn-addiction-withdrawal-symptoms/⁠⁠

    24 min

  4. MAY 11

    122: The Hungry Heart: Why Real Porn Recovery Requires More Than Discipline

    Most men think porn recovery is mainly about discipline. Trying harder. Staying accountable. Fighting urges. But what if the real issue goes deeper than behavior? 👉 Take the Clarity Quiz:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠secrethabit.ca/quiz⁠⁠⁠⁠ In this episode, we talk about the hungry heart . And why real freedom starts by understanding what’s actually happening underneath your struggle with porn. We unpack: where so many recovery approaches fall shortthe deeper role of stress, pressure, loneliness, and disconnectiona grounded Christian perspective on inner child work and healing how intimacy with Jesus changes recoverywhy clarity matters more than anything else in recoverywhat actually creates lasting transformationIf you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, burned out, or skeptical about recovery methods… this episode will help things start making sense. 👉 Take the Clarity Quiz:⁠⁠⁠⁠secrethabit.ca/quiz⁠⁠⁠⁠ 👉 Feeling stuck and ready to work with a coach?Book a complimentary strategy call:⁠⁠⁠⁠secrethabit.ca/call⁠⁠⁠⁠

    50 min

  5. MAY 8

    121: Making Progress but Feeling Overwhelmed? The Missing Key to Quitting Porn for Good

    You’re making progress… so why does it feel like a lot to handle? In this episode, I'll unpack why quitting porn can feel overwhelming, even when you’re doing better. You’ll learn: why this doesn’t mean you’re failingwhat’s actually happening in your inner world (emotions, thoughts, longings)the difference between the Red Zone and the Green Zone (regulating and getting sober)and the simple shift that helps you stop reacting and start leading yourselfIf you’ve ever thought, “Why does this feel harder, not easier?”, this will give you clarity. If you’re listening to this and realizing you’re tired of feeling stuck or unclear I want to invite you into a conversation. On this call, we’ll slow things down and get clear on what’s actually driving your struggle, so you can see the path forward and know what it’s going to take to create real change. But this is for men who are ready to take ownership and do the work. If that’s you, you can book a complimentary call here: 👉 secrethabit.ca/call If you’re not ready for that step yet, you can start with my free Porn Withdrawal Survival Guide:👉 ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/porn-addiction-withdrawal-symptoms/⁠⁠

    25 min

  6. MAY 4

    120: How to Journal for Porn Addiction ( Why Most Men Burn Out)

    Most men are journaling, but they’re still stuck. In this episode, we break down why journaling often doesn’t lead to real change, and what actually does. If you’ve ever tried to “be more aware,” write out your feelings, or stay consistent with journaling but still find yourself falling back into porn, this episode will help you see why. We walk through a different approach to journaling, one that moves from emotional expression to clarity. Because healing doesn’t come from dumping your thoughts, it comes from understanding what’s actually happening beneath them. 👉 Take the Clarity Quiz:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠secrethabit.ca/quiz⁠⁠⁠⁠ In this conversation, we cover: Why most journaling keeps men stuckThe difference between emotional awareness and real clarityHow to journal for data extraction (not just expression)How to identify patterns, triggers, and heart hungerWhy chasing feelings leads to burnoutHow to start your day with direction and intentionHow to turn awareness into a clear plan of actionHow God meets you in your heart’s longings when you bring them to HimThis isn’t about doing more. It’s about finally seeing what’s been there the whole time, so you can actually move forward. If you’re listening to this and realizing you’re tired of feeling stuck or unclear I want to invite you into a conversation. On this call, we’ll slow things down and get clear on what’s actually driving your struggle, so you can see the path forward and know what it’s going to take to create real change. But this is for men who are ready to take ownership and do the work. If that’s you, you can book a complimentary call here: 👉⁠ secrethabit.ca/call⁠ If you’re not ready for that step yet, you can start with my free Porn Withdrawal Survival Guide:👉 ⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/porn-addiction-withdrawal-symptoms/⁠⁠ And if you want to learn more about me and the work I do, you can head here:👉 ⁠⁠shawnbonneteau.com⁠

    42 min

  7. APR 28

    119: Why You Keep Going Back to Porn (And What It’s Actually Telling You)

    Why do you keep going back to porn — even when you really want to stop? If you’ve been stuck in the cycle of trying to quit porn, relapsing, and starting over, this episode will help you understand what’s actually going on. This isn’t just a lack of discipline.And it’s not random. Your porn habits are revealing something deeper. 👉 Take the Clarity Quiz:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠secrethabit.ca/quiz⁠⁠⁠⁠ In this episode, you’ll learn: why you keep going back to porn (even when you don’t want to)what your urges are actually telling you about your hearthow your patterns reveal deeper emotional needs and past woundsand the internal skills most men were never taught + I'll offer a framework for healing and a powerful journalling structure you can use right away This is about more than just quitting porn.It’s about understanding your inner world so you can finally break the cycle. If you’re ready to stop guessing and actually get clear on what’s driving this, you can book a call with me here:👉 secrethabit.ca/call

    26 min

  8. 11/24/2025

    118: Why Clarity of The Real Problem Changes Porn Recovery

    I believe 100% that we must take every thought captive, renew the mind, replace lies with truth... all of that But what if we're missing the fuel to all of that happening? I am SICK of guys spending time, money and energy on things that dont work. They try so so hard to quit porn, stop masturbating, discipline themselves to stop lusting, but nothing ever seems to work UNTIL NOW In this episode, I do something really special... I lay out my framework for getting clear, sober and free 👉 Take the Clarity Quiz:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠secrethabit.ca/quiz⁠⁠⁠⁠ Listen to the episode: - Get 100% clarity of what drives your porn addiction - Get 100% clarity of drives your immaturity - Get 100% clarity on how to heal your root issues - How to Regulate and become emotionally mature - How to take awareness and turn it into healing - How to do Inner Child Work - How to get sober from porn - How to resolve trauma and find freedom over porn 👉 Take the Clarity Quiz:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠secrethabit.ca/quiz⁠⁠⁠⁠

    18 min
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This podcast is for Christian men who are tired of managing their struggle with porn and want to understand what’s actually driving it. Because your struggle isn't just about behavior. It’s about your inner world, your heart hunger, and learning to lead yourself intro whats true. Hosted by Shawn Bonneteau, this show is all about helping men move from confusion to clarity, coping to regulation, fear to confidence, and sobriety to real freedom. Helena Bonneteau regularly joins Shawn to help explore the deeper realms of vulnerability, relationships, and sexual wholeness in Christ.

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