Secret Habit

Shawn Bonneteau; Helena Bonneteau
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Secret Habit

Do you wish there were some fun, purpose-driven couples talking about sex in a way that was actually helpful? Back when we were struggling, we certainly did, and that is why the Secret Habit podcast exists. We are Shawn and Helena Bonneteau and we are committed to helping you experience just how satisfying God's design for sexuality can be. Because we know what it's like to deal with things like porn addiction, betrayal trauma, and sexual struggles we can relate to your story and bring refreshing, restorative truths that will lead you to love stronger, laugh harder, and sex better.

  1. NOV 14

    S2E34: No More White Knuckling: 4 Ways To Go Through The Pain Of Change

    Hey man, 2025 is fast approaching, but that doesnt mean you cant still make the most of 2024! In this episode I share some thoughts on how you can focus on generosity in this season and get yourself set up for success by enrolling in DeepClean If you're looking for lasting freedom from porn, START with one of our 3 options here: 1. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 2. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 3. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠ This episode was inspired by a nudge from the Lord to stand firm in my calling as a father one morning. Since then, I started to think about how we need to go from compassion, to leadership to firmness In this episode, you will learn all about the ways to change, but even more, the ways to go through the pain that comes with change 1. Speaking to the man with language that conveys strength and boldness 2. Focusing on 30 day increments to experience the blessing of change/sobriety from porn 3. Creating task focused mission statements to snap yourself out of the dopamine spiral and into the truth 4. Emotional Regulation to ensure you have the bedrock of recovery rock solid If you need help with any of these steps, dont delay getting in touch. I know these concepts can be difficult to apply on your own, not to say you MUST get 1:1 coaching, but to say, you really need to be honest with yourself and how probable it is that you can do this without the right help If you feel ready to explore coaching, book a call, it costs you nothing and could cause you to gain everything https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

    17 min

  2. OCT 30

    S2E33: How Learning Czech Has Made My Coaching 100x Better

    Learning the Czech Language has made me so aware of what guys need when healing from porn addiction... they need clarity, simplicity and spotted reps. They don't need more discipline or harder work, they need more guidance! If you're looking for lasting freedom from porn, START with one of our 3 options here: 1. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 2. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 3. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠ In this episode, ill share about my journey of learning Czech and how its improved my coaching 100x over Ill go into details about why the DeepClean system is so incredibly powerful, even more than I knew before learning a language If you feel helpless, lost, or stuck when it comes to quitting porn and overcoming sexual brokenness, then this episode is definitely for you! Book a call to work with me: https://secrethabit.ca/call

    15 min

  3. SEP 11

    S2E32: Stop Wasting Your Effort - 5 Tips To Make The Most of Your Recovery

    If you're looking for lasting freedom from porn, START with one of our 3 options here: 1. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠⁠⁠⁠ 2. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 3. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠ This episode is all about helping YOU make the most of your time and effort, so you can get the healing from porn addiction that you're looking for In this episode, you will learn about - the true mindset to prioritizing what matters most - deep work vs learning and preparing - making time vs having time - mission statements - inner child healing A lot of this can be fairly easy to apply, however, to stay consistent, thats the true test. If you struggle with consistency, I would assume theres some deeper roots to work through If you need help healing the roots, book a call with our team. Working with us is often the difference between someone throwing mud against the wall or finding lasting freedom from their porn addiction Book your call now: https://secrethabit.ca/call/

    19 min

  4. AUG 1

    S2E31: Missing Link Between Self Awareness & Lasting Freedom: 3 Steps To Lead Your Feelings, Thoughts & Desires

    This is Episode 100 of the SH podcast! Bring on the fireworks!! Im so excited to bring this REALLY IMPORTANT word for such a milestone episode If you're looking for lasting freedom from porn, START with one of our 3 options here: 1. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠⁠⁠ 2. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 3. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠ Iv been UBER convinced lately that guys need to grow in leadership... I did and I still do, and that's after 7 years of freedom from porn addiction! Here are a few of my recent convictions: - Leadership is a non-negotiable - leadership is difficult and rarely taught/understood - leadership is built on empathy and strength - Iv missed out on ensuring guys feel fully equipped in the step of leadership - Anytime someone is stuck after growing in self awareness it always comes down to a lack of leadership Here are some of the biggest challenges I see with clients recently: - Moving from self-awareness to daily AND life long change - How to live in TRUTH when what FEELS TRUE is so powerful - Leading themselves aka, renewing their minds  Here is what I want to explain, explore, and coach you on today: - Where guys are struggling to lead (with examples) - Defining their inner child feelings, thoughts, and needs  - Role-playing leadership to ensure you are fully equipped - my 3 step formula - Learning about the boy within - my 3 step template - Separating what feels true from what really is true through love and STRENGTH *For more content on inner child work, you can check out other episodes on the POD, but for now, check out some of the resources linked here, they will get you on the right track. * Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Bonus Resources: Betrayal Trauma Coaches (Affiliated with DeepClean) Lila Pisor - book a call Stacey Oliver - book a call

    25 min

  5. MAY 6

    S2E30: Rethinking Accountability: What We Can Learn From a Simple Question Changes Everything

    Looking for lasting freedom from porn? START with one of our 3 options here: 1. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠⁠ 2. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠ 3. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠ Most people struggle to feel momentum in their Christian walk. This leads to low self esteem, dull confidence and lukewarm living... which leads guys to relapsing with porn. Not a fun cycle to be in! One of the biggest reasons I see for this is that we dont know how to truly sharpen one another (Scripture says that iron sharpens iron) Most people are "great" at giving advice, but the advice is actually harmful, or unhelpful at best... We focus way to much on the surface problem and neglect peoples deep pain We must start asking questions that get to the heat of the issue King Artaxerxis in Nehemiah 2 is a great example of what we call curiosity in the recovery world. He asks Nehemiah a wonderful question to get below the surface, and then further, he asks how he can help RATHER than assuming his advice is what he needs I also dive ito some paradigm shifts when it comes to discipleship, accountability and friendship These are some AWESOME tips on how to develop a healthier life which leads to quitting porn and growing in sexual integrity Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠⁠⁠

    14 min

  6. MAY 2

    S2E29: Your Motivations May Be Driving You Further From God... How To Uproot Core Motivational Lies & Live In Freedom From Porn

    Looking for lasting freedom from porn? START with one of our 3 options here: 1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠ 2. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠ 3. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠ In this episode, you'll learn why you you're coming up short even if you're "doing all the right things" This may be in porn recovery, family, marriage, work... whatever it is, you MUST change your core motivation or else you'll stay stuck. We all have a core identity and from that core identity we have motivations If your motivations are focused on NOT being a failure and working hard to not be one, you'll miss the gospel The gospel saves, PERIOD. Jesus is the solution here, but he meets us in such strategies to renew our belief system and change the very reason we do anything May this be the driver to changing your life... its time to quit porn and masturbation, to redeem your marriage, to enjoy Godly sex and to be men of integrity! Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠⁠

    10 min

  7. APR 26

    S2E9: Why I Moved To Czech and Joined DeepClean

    Looking for lasting freedom from porn? START with one of our 3 options here: 1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠ 2. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠ 3. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠ I am answering the BIG questions today - why did I move to Czech? why did I join DeepClean? Why did I stop coaching with Secret Habit? Do I miss Canada? Am I staying in Czech? And so many more! Helena and I moved to Czech back on May 30th from Canada. I joined DeepClean on June 8th and since then, its been quite the God story. However, it goes much further back, and thats what I want to share about today If you're ready to quit porn in the next 120 days, book your free strategy call with us, we would love to help you find out the best next steps with DeepClean! * www.secrethabit.ca/call If you want to know more about DeepClean before booking a call, grab a free copy of "The Last Relapse"

    21 min

  8. APR 26

    S2E12: Stop Using Cute Words To Describe Your Porn Addiction

    Looking for lasting freedom from porn? START with one of our 3 options here: 1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠ 2. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠ 3. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠ Do you do what most people do: Calling their porn addiction a "sin issue" or a "lust problem"? In this episode, Shawn Bonneteau is going to get real and challenge the weak sauce language we so often use as Christians. I want to help you add some weight to your words to enhance your conviction to change. This is a vital message to those who want to build bigger "muscles" in their journey to freedom from porn and sexual integrity Get ready to learn about: - The difference between weak and strong language - How to say things for what they are - Being brutally honest - Growing your conviction while quitting porn Ready to do something about your porn addiction FOR REAL? * Book your call with our team today and get started on our 4 month porn recovery program Extra resource: "The Last Relapse" book by Sathiya Sam. Grab your free copy today

    10 min
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Do you wish there were some fun, purpose-driven couples talking about sex in a way that was actually helpful? Back when we were struggling, we certainly did, and that is why the Secret Habit podcast exists. We are Shawn and Helena Bonneteau and we are committed to helping you experience just how satisfying God's design for sexuality can be. Because we know what it's like to deal with things like porn addiction, betrayal trauma, and sexual struggles we can relate to your story and bring refreshing, restorative truths that will lead you to love stronger, laugh harder, and sex better.

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  • Creator
    Shawn Bonneteau; Helena Bonneteau
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2024
  • Episodes
    103
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Shawn Bonneteau; Helena Bonneteau
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    Secret Habit

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