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Do you wish there were some fun, purpose-driven couples talking about sex in a way that was actually helpful? Back when we were struggling, we certainly did, and that is why the Secret Habit podcast exists. We are Shawn and Helena Bonneteau and we are committed to helping you experience just how satisfying God's design for sexuality can be. Because we know what it's like to deal with things like porn addiction, betrayal trauma, and sexual struggles we can relate to your story and bring refreshing, restorative truths that will lead you to love stronger, laugh harder, and sex better.

Secret Habit Shawn Bonneteau; Helena Bonneteau

    • Religion & Spirituality
    • 4.9 • 37 Ratings

Do you wish there were some fun, purpose-driven couples talking about sex in a way that was actually helpful? Back when we were struggling, we certainly did, and that is why the Secret Habit podcast exists. We are Shawn and Helena Bonneteau and we are committed to helping you experience just how satisfying God's design for sexuality can be. Because we know what it's like to deal with things like porn addiction, betrayal trauma, and sexual struggles we can relate to your story and bring refreshing, restorative truths that will lead you to love stronger, laugh harder, and sex better.

    S2E30: Rethinking Accountability: What We Can Learn From a Simple Question Changes Everything

    S2E30: Rethinking Accountability: What We Can Learn From a Simple Question Changes Everything

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    2. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠⁠



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    Most people struggle to feel momentum in their Christian walk. This leads to low self esteem, dull confidence and lukewarm living... which leads guys to relapsing with porn. Not a fun cycle to be in!

    One of the biggest reasons I see for this is that we dont know how to truly sharpen one another (Scripture says that iron sharpens iron)

    Most people are "great" at giving advice, but the advice is actually harmful, or unhelpful at best...

    We focus way to much on the surface problem and neglect peoples deep pain

    We must start asking questions that get to the heat of the issue

    King Artaxerxis in Nehemiah 2 is a great example of what we call curiosity in the recovery world. He asks Nehemiah a wonderful question to get below the surface, and then further, he asks how he can help RATHER than assuming his advice is what he needs

    I also dive ito some paradigm shifts when it comes to discipleship, accountability and friendship

    These are some AWESOME tips on how to develop a healthier life which leads to quitting porn and growing in sexual integrity





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    • 13 min
    S2E29: Your Motivations May Be Driving You Further From God... How To Uproot Core Motivational Lies & Live In Freedom From Porn

    S2E29: Your Motivations May Be Driving You Further From God... How To Uproot Core Motivational Lies & Live In Freedom From Porn

    Looking for lasting freedom from porn? START with one of our 3 options here:

    1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠



    2. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠



    3. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: ⁠⁠⁠https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing⁠



    In this episode, you'll learn why you you're coming up short even if you're "doing all the right things"

    This may be in porn recovery, family, marriage, work... whatever it is, you MUST change your core motivation or else you'll stay stuck.

    We all have a core identity and from that core identity we have motivations

    If your motivations are focused on NOT being a failure and working hard to not be one, you'll miss the gospel

    The gospel saves, PERIOD. Jesus is the solution here, but he meets us in such strategies to renew our belief system and change the very reason we do anything

    May this be the driver to changing your life... its time to quit porn and masturbation, to redeem your marriage, to enjoy Godly sex and to be men of integrity!





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    • 10 min
    S2E9: Why I Moved To Czech and Joined DeepClean

    S2E9: Why I Moved To Czech and Joined DeepClean

    Looking for lasting freedom from porn? START with one of our 3 options here:

    1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠



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    I am answering the BIG questions today - why did I move to Czech? why did I join DeepClean? Why did I stop coaching with Secret Habit? Do I miss Canada? Am I staying in Czech? And so many more!

    Helena and I moved to Czech back on May 30th from Canada. I joined DeepClean on June 8th and since then, its been quite the God story. However, it goes much further back, and thats what I want to share about today



    If you're ready to quit porn in the next 120 days, book your free strategy call with us, we would love to help you find out the best next steps with DeepClean!

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    • 21 min
    S2E12: Stop Using Cute Words To Describe Your Porn Addiction

    S2E12: Stop Using Cute Words To Describe Your Porn Addiction

    Looking for lasting freedom from porn? START with one of our 3 options here:

    1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠



    2. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠



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    Do you do what most people do: Calling their porn addiction a "sin issue" or a "lust problem"?



    In this episode, Shawn Bonneteau is going to get real and challenge the weak sauce language we so often use as Christians. I want to help you add some weight to your words to enhance your conviction to change. This is a vital message to those who want to build bigger "muscles" in their journey to freedom from porn and sexual integrity



    Get ready to learn about:

    - The difference between weak and strong language

    - How to say things for what they are

    - Being brutally honest

    - Growing your conviction while quitting porn





    Ready to do something about your porn addiction FOR REAL?

    * Book your call with our team today and get started on our 4 month porn recovery program





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    • 10 min
    S2E13: Outsmart Your Sexual Temptations With This Porn Recovery Tool

    S2E13: Outsmart Your Sexual Temptations With This Porn Recovery Tool

    Looking for lasting freedom from porn? START with one of our 3 options here:

    1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠



    2. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/⁠⁠⁠



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    Sexual temptation is powerful... Most people are like a deer in headlights when sexually tempted. No matter the trigger, its almost as if you go on auto pilot and do things you never thought you would do... sound about right?

    If so, then this recovery life hack is 100% for you



    In this episode, Shawn Bonneteau is going to uncover the #1 reason mature adults make childish decisions in the face of temptation.



    Get ready to learn about:

    - What happens when you go into fight, flight freeze

    - Why its so hard to make good decisions when sexually tempted

    - What is really triggering you before you watch porn

    - Why "prayer and read your bible more" doesn't work

    - Whats going on in the brain when you get sexually tempted or emotionally triggered

    - How to hold the power and overcome triggers and temptations no matter when they come



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    • 14 min
    S2E14: Stop Saying You're Bored, Its Killing Your Recovery

    S2E14: Stop Saying You're Bored, Its Killing Your Recovery

    Looking for lasting freedom from porn? START with one of our 3 options here:

    1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: ⁠⁠⁠https://secrethabit.ca/call/⁠⁠⁠



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    So often I hear guys telling me "boredom" is the problem in their life. They tell me that they use pornography when they're bored.

    Maybe you can relate? Maybe you have kids who say this? Maybe a friend? I want to open your eyes to what boredom really is.

    In this episode, I (Shawn Bonneteau) will push back on this common suggestion as to why people watch porn and masturbate and offer some deeper insights



    Get ready to learn about:

    - What boredom is below the surface

    - What is really driving your porn addiction

    - How to reframe the way you label your feelings

    - The holistic approach to being a healthy human being



    I mention a great resource in this episode, Going Deeper: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual Addiction by Eddie Capparucci. Its a GREAT read that offers a ton of application steps to help you overcome sex addiction and other immature coping mechanisms



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    • 10 min

Customer Reviews

4.9 out of 5
37 Ratings

37 Ratings

Abigaailllll ,

Incredible Resource

I wish this podcast had come up when I searched the first time. The words of hope and life that Shawn and Helena bring are so powerful—they don’t focus on all the ways that porn is hurting you/damaging your brain, although they are ruthlessly honest when it comes to the damage it does. Their focus is much more on the freedom that can come from being free from a pornography addiction, and they also talk extensively about why people become addicted to porn in the first place. Every episode is drenched in grace for what has happened in the past and hope for the future.

Oddomission ,

Never actually touches on the topic

Listened to episode 7 and literally nothing was said about the topic in the title of the episode. It was just continuous, vague preaching that was useless at best, annoying at worst.

eeejdeaton ,

Worth every listen

There cannot be enough of this! I immediately shared this podcast with my sisters and friends. Thank you for your work!

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