Self Centered™ with Katie and Allie

Katie Kurtz and Allie West
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If you’re done living for approval and everyone else’s needs, you’re exactly where you’re meant to be. Self Centered is about reclaiming your relationship with yourself as your home base, so your thoughts, choices, and relationships flow from clarity, self-trust, and alignment instead of guilt, fear, or external validation. Our mission is simple: to help you return to yourself and challenge the culture that taught you to abandon who you are. Together, we uncover what pulls you away from your center, so you can live in alignment with your values and co-create a world where being well and centered isn’t seen as selfish. Hosts Allie and Katie have lived the burnout, the guilt, and the people-pleasing. Now, they share real stories and practical insights to model how to come home to yourself, reclaim your power, and build relationships rooted in interdependence, not codependence. This isn’t therapy. It’s real conversation and lived experience that reveal the patterns shaping how you show up, set boundaries, and connect, both with yourself and with others. Welcome to the movement! Let’s find your center and stay there, together. © 2024–2026 Self Centered™. All rights reserved.

  1. 67. Love is Blind Part 4: Couples Retreat Chaos

    5D AGO

    67. Love is Blind Part 4: Couples Retreat Chaos

    This week, we pick back up on episodes 4-6 of Love is Blind Season 10 as the newly engaged couples head into the couples retreat in Cabo. As we react in real time, we talk about the very different energy across the couples: where connection feels easy, where bids for connection keep getting missed, where lifestyle differences already start showing up, and where attraction, insecurity, and mixed signals make everything feel off. From gym-rat compatibility and "Type A" vs "Type B" living to avoidant behavior, performative confidence, and couples who actually seem calm together, this one gave us a lot to talk about. Come sit with us as we unpack the retreat phase and all the dynamics starting to surface. Love the show? A quick rating or review helps us so much! New episodes every Tuesday – hit subscribe so you don’t miss out. Follow us on IG: selfcentered.pod Thoughts, questions, guest requests, or episode ideas? Email us: selfcenteredthepod@gmail.com DISCLAIMER: The Self Centered with Katie and Allie Podcast is intended for entertainment, educational, and reflective purposes only. The views, opinions, experiences, and content shared by the hosts and guests are personal and subjective. They are not presented as objective facts or as representative of any professional body, organization, or field, including psychotherapy, coaching, or personal training. This podcast includes personal reflections on dynamics in various relationships, platonic, family, romantic, and professional. General references to “family,” “an ex,” or “a friend”, for example, are intentionally vague to protect anonymity and do not refer to every individual in those categories. When names are used, they are fictitious, and identifying details are altered. Some information shared is based on research or professional experience, not personal history. The information provided does not constitute medical, mental health, legal, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It should not be relied upon as a substitute for consultation with qualified, licensed professionals. Listeners are strongly encouraged to seek the advice and support of appropriate professionals for their own needs. The hosts, guests, and creators of the podcast disclaim all liability for any direct, indirect, incidental, or consequential loss or damages arising from the use of, reliance on, or interpretation of the podcast content or any linked materials. Use of this podcast and related content is at your own risk. By listening, you acknowledge and agree to these terms.

    1h 9m
  2. 66. Love is Blind Part 3: Coupling Up and Closing the Pods

    MAR 31

    66. Love is Blind Part 3: Coupling Up and Closing the Pods

    This week, we finish out the pod phase of Love Is Blind and reflect on the final pairings before the couples retreat. As we watch the last connections unfold, we talk about the pressure to be chosen, the difference between anxiety and clarity, and what happens when someone wants certainty before real trust has had time to form. We also touch on people-pleasing, mixed signals, bids for connection, and the bigger questions that come up when values around marriage, kids, and readiness do not fully line up. Come sit with us as we wrap the pods and see who actually makes it to the next stage. Love the show? A quick rating or review helps us so much! New episodes every Tuesday – hit subscribe so you don’t miss out. Follow us on IG: selfcentered.pod Thoughts, questions, guest requests, or episode ideas? Email us: selfcenteredthepod@gmail.com DISCLAIMER: The Self Centered with Katie and Allie Podcast is intended for entertainment, educational, and reflective purposes only. The views, opinions, experiences, and content shared by the hosts and guests are personal and subjective. They are not presented as objective facts or as representative of any professional body, organization, or field, including psychotherapy, coaching, or personal training. This podcast includes personal reflections on dynamics in various relationships, platonic, family, romantic, and professional. General references to “family,” “an ex,” or “a friend”, for example, are intentionally vague to protect anonymity and do not refer to every individual in those categories. When names are used, they are fictitious, and identifying details are altered. Some information shared is based on research or professional experience, not personal history. The information provided does not constitute medical, mental health, legal, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It should not be relied upon as a substitute for consultation with qualified, licensed professionals. Listeners are strongly encouraged to seek the advice and support of appropriate professionals for their own needs. The hosts, guests, and creators of the podcast disclaim all liability for any direct, indirect, incidental, or consequential loss or damages arising from the use of, reliance on, or interpretation of the podcast content or any linked materials. Use of this podcast and related content is at your own risk. By listening, you acknowledge and agree to these terms.

    47 min
  3. 65. Love Is Blind Part 2: A Codependency Triangle

    MAR 17

    65. Love Is Blind Part 2: A Codependency Triangle

    This week, we’re back in Love Is Blind and continuing the conversation with more dynamics, decisions, and relationship patterns starting to unfold as couples pair up and leave the pods. As we react in real time, we find ourselves circling the same dynamics: what happens when attraction is strong but the depth isn’t really there, how differently people respond to uncertainty, and how easy it is to look for calm, clarity, or completion through another person. We also reflect on the people our past selves would have been pulled toward, and how differently those same dynamics land when you trust yourself more. There’s humor, secondhand embarrassment, and a lot of “wait… why did they do that?” but also a deeper layer of recognizing how easy it is to lose yourself when connection feels uncertain or high stakes. Come sit with us as we unpack it all through the lens of the self-centered way. Love the show? A quick rating or review helps us so much! New episodes every Tuesday – hit subscribe so you don’t miss out. Follow us on IG: selfcentered.pod Thoughts, questions, guest requests, or episode ideas? Email us: selfcenteredthepod@gmail.com DISCLAIMER: The Self Centered with Katie and Allie Podcast is intended for entertainment, educational, and reflective purposes only. The views, opinions, experiences, and content shared by the hosts and guests are personal and subjective. They are not presented as objective facts or as representative of any professional body, organization, or field, including psychotherapy, coaching, or personal training. This podcast includes personal reflections on dynamics in various relationships, platonic, family, romantic, and professional. General references to “family,” “an ex,” or “a friend”, for example, are intentionally vague to protect anonymity and do not refer to every individual in those categories. When names are used, they are fictitious, and identifying details are altered. Some information shared is based on research or professional experience, not personal history. The information provided does not constitute medical, mental health, legal, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It should not be relied upon as a substitute for consultation with qualified, licensed professionals. Listeners are strongly encouraged to seek the advice and support of appropriate professionals for their own needs. The hosts, guests, and creators of the podcast disclaim all liability for any direct, indirect, incidental, or consequential loss or damages arising from the use of, reliance on, or interpretation of the podcast content or any linked materials. Use of this podcast and related content is at your own risk. By listening, you acknowledge and agree to these terms.

    1h 10m
  4. 64. Love is Blind - The Self Centered Way Part 1

    MAR 3

    64. Love is Blind - The Self Centered Way Part 1

    This week, we’re diving into the first three episodes of Netflix's newest season of Love Is Blind and using the chaos, chemistry, and confusion as a mirror. As we share our real-time reactions, we explore the difference between staying grounded in yourself and slowly drifting away from yourself in the name of connection. We talk about communication patterns, emotional regulation, attachment behaviors, and the subtle moments that reveal whether someone is dating from clarity or from fear. The episodes are messy. The dynamics are loud. And underneath it all, we found ourselves asking bigger questions. What do we normalize? What do we excuse? When does chemistry start to feel like self-abandonment? Some of it feels distant. Some of it hits uncomfortably close to home. Join us as we watch Love Is Blind unfold through the lens of the self-centered way by noticing what happens when people stay in their seat… and when they don’t. Love the show? A quick rating or review helps us so much! New episodes every Tuesday – hit subscribe so you don’t miss out. Follow us on IG: selfcentered.pod Thoughts, questions, guest requests, or episode ideas? Email us: selfcenteredthepod@gmail.com DISCLAIMER: The Self Centered with Katie and Allie Podcast is intended for entertainment, educational, and reflective purposes only. The views, opinions, experiences, and content shared by the hosts and guests are personal and subjective. They are not presented as objective facts or as representative of any professional body, organization, or field, including psychotherapy, coaching, or personal training. This podcast includes personal reflections on dynamics in various relationships, platonic, family, romantic, and professional. General references to “family,” “an ex,” or “a friend”, for example, are intentionally vague to protect anonymity and do not refer to every individual in those categories. When names are used, they are fictitious, and identifying details are altered. Some information shared is based on research or professional experience, not personal history. The information provided does not constitute medical, mental health, legal, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It should not be relied upon as a substitute for consultation with qualified, licensed professionals. Listeners are strongly encouraged to seek the advice and support of appropriate professionals for their own needs. The hosts, guests, and creators of the podcast disclaim all liability for any direct, indirect, incidental, or consequential loss or damages arising from the use of, reliance on, or interpretation of the podcast content or any linked materials. Use of this podcast and related content is at your own risk. By listening, you acknowledge and agree to these terms.

    1h 17m
  5. 63. Tools to Cope, Part 2: Minneapolis, ICE, Renée Good & Alex Pretti

    FEB 17

    63. Tools to Cope, Part 2: Minneapolis, ICE, Renée Good & Alex Pretti

    After last episode’s heavy reflection on current events in the United States, Katie and Allie shift toward coping with the emotional weight of living in a divided country. They speak honestly about grief, anger, exhaustion, and the tension between hope and despair, while also stepping back to name the cultural and psychological dynamics at play, including patterns like the Drama Triangle, ego strength in our reactions, and what it takes to stay present when your world feels like it’s on fire. This episode shares tangible tools and grounding practices to help you stay regulated while navigating a difficult political climate and holding vision for a hopeful path forward. We discuss: The 10/30/60 Principle introduced by a shamanic teacher, Sierra McFeeters, of Indigenous Roots Institute "beginners mind" and other grounding practices to help you stay regulated and presenttangible ways to hold vision for a better futurehow to manage emotional flooding by prioritizing joy and being strategic about your media consumptionRESOURCES: Episode 62 Naming What We're Feeling Part 1: Minneapolis, ICE, Renée Good & Alex PrettiSierra McFeeters, Indigenous Roots InstituteHeather Cox Richardson - political historianGround News Love the show? A quick rating or review helps us so much! New episodes every Tuesday – hit subscribe so you don’t miss out. Follow us on IG: selfcentered.pod Thoughts, questions, guest requests, or episode ideas? Email us: selfcenteredthepod@gmail.com DISCLAIMER: The Self Centered with Katie and Allie Podcast is intended for entertainment, educational, and reflective purposes only. The views, opinions, experiences, and content shared by the hosts and guests are personal and subjective. They are not presented as objective facts or as representative of any professional body, organization, or field, including psychotherapy, coaching, or personal training. This podcast includes personal reflections on dynamics in various relationships, platonic, family, romantic, and professional. General references to “family,” “an ex,” or “a friend”, for example, are intentionally vague to protect anonymity and do not refer to every individual in those categories. When names are used, they are fictitious, and identifying details are altered. Some information shared is based on research or professional experience, not personal history. The information provided does not constitute medical, mental health, legal, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It should not be relied upon as a substitute for consultation with qualified, licensed professionals. Listeners are strongly encouraged to seek the advice and support of appropriate professionals for their own needs. The hosts, guests, and creators of the podcast disclaim all liability for any direct, indirect, incidental, or consequential loss or damages arising from the use of, reliance on, or interpretation of the podcast content or any linked materials. Use of this podcast and related content is at your own risk. By listening, you acknowledge and agree to these terms.

    33 min
  6. 62. Naming What We're Feeling Part 1: Minneapolis, ICE, Renée Good & Alex Pretti

    FEB 3

    62. Naming What We're Feeling Part 1: Minneapolis, ICE, Renée Good & Alex Pretti

    In this episode, Katie and Allie sit with what it feels like to watch the country fracture in real time. We speak openly about grief, anger, confusion, and the exhaustion of watching violence become normalized. The conversation reflects on recent events, including the killings of Renée Good and Alex Pretti by ICE, as well as the arrest of journalist Don Lemon, and what these moments reveal about systemic oppression, political division, and the long road ahead for meaningful change. We also reflect on how news and social media shape our understanding of current events, how dynamics like the Drama Triangle and ego strength show up in our reactions, and what it feels like to engage with people who support systems that we believe cause harm. There are no clean answers here. This conversation names the weight of the moment and the difficulty of holding grief, anger, and uncertainty while still trying to imagine a way forward. We Discuss: Our personal response to the ICE shootings of Renée Good and Alex Pretti How polarized reporting and social media echo chambers shape our perceptionsIdentifying dynamics like the Drama Triangle and ego strength in political and personal interactionsHow trauma, violence, and systemic oppression affect people across dividesReframing how to interact with people whose beliefs or political alignment don't align with your own RESOURCES: The Ego Series: Episodes 27-30The Drama Triangle: Episode 42The Codependency Series: Episodes 48-51Ground News Love the show? A quick rating or review helps us so much! New episodes every Tuesday – hit subscribe so you don’t miss out. Follow us on IG: selfcentered.pod Thoughts, questions, guest requests, or episode ideas? Email us: selfcenteredthepod@gmail.com DISCLAIMER: The Self Centered with Katie and Allie Podcast is intended for entertainment, educational, and reflective purposes only. The views, opinions, experiences, and content shared by the hosts and guests are personal and subjective. They are not presented as objective facts or as representative of any professional body, organization, or field, including psychotherapy, coaching, or personal training. This podcast includes personal reflections on dynamics in various relationships, platonic, family, romantic, and professional. General references to “family,” “an ex,” or “a friend”, for example, are intentionally vague to protect anonymity and do not refer to every individual in those categories. When names are used, they are fictitious, and identifying details are altered. Some information shared is based on research or professional experience, not personal history. The information provided does not constitute medical, mental health, legal, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It should not be relied upon as a substitute for consultation with qualified, licensed professionals. Listeners are strongly encouraged to seek the advice and support of appropriate professionals for their own needs. The hosts, guests, and creators of the podcast disclaim all liability for any direct, indirect, incidental, or consequential loss or damages arising from the use of, reliance on, or interpretation of the podcast content or any linked materials. Use of this podcast and related content is at your own risk. By listening, you acknowledge and agree to these terms.

    1h 21m
  7. 61. Centered or Not: Before He Cheats vs Flowers - What Breakup Anthems Teach Us About Reclaiming Power

    JAN 27

    61. Centered or Not: Before He Cheats vs Flowers - What Breakup Anthems Teach Us About Reclaiming Power

    In this episode, we kick off a new ongoing series, Centered or Not, which reflects on the narratives we absorb through pop culture and how those messages shape our understanding of power, healing, and self-worth. Today's exploration? Two iconic breakup anthems: "Before He Cheats" by Carrie Underwood and "Flowers" by Miley Cyrus. Katie and Allie use these two anthems to explore contrasting messages about reclaiming power after a breakup... from revenge and validation to self-love and rebuilding from within. Along the way, they reflect on how similar messaging showed up in advice many of us received growing up, via religion, and in conversations about how we’re “supposed” to move on. We Explore: How pop culture frames power as retaliation vs. self-connectionThe difference between internal and external sources of validationWhy anger can be valid without being the place we stayHow breakup narratives have evolved and how we’ve evolved with themWhat it looks like to be self-centered without becoming closed off or hyper-independent Love the show? A quick rating or review helps us so much! New episodes every Tuesday – hit subscribe so you don’t miss out. Follow us on IG: selfcentered.pod Thoughts, questions, guest requests, or episode ideas? Email us: selfcenteredthepod@gmail.com DISCLAIMER: The Self Centered with Katie and Allie Podcast is intended for entertainment, educational, and reflective purposes only. The views, opinions, experiences, and content shared by the hosts and guests are personal and subjective. They are not presented as objective facts or as representative of any professional body, organization, or field, including psychotherapy, coaching, or personal training. This podcast includes personal reflections on dynamics in various relationships, platonic, family, romantic, and professional. General references to “family,” “an ex,” or “a friend”, for example, are intentionally vague to protect anonymity and do not refer to every individual in those categories. When names are used, they are fictitious, and identifying details are altered. Some information shared is based on research or professional experience, not personal history. The information provided does not constitute medical, mental health, legal, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It should not be relied upon as a substitute for consultation with qualified, licensed professionals. Listeners are strongly encouraged to seek the advice and support of appropriate professionals for their own needs. The hosts, guests, and creators of the podcast disclaim all liability for any direct, indirect, incidental, or consequential loss or damages arising from the use of, reliance on, or interpretation of the podcast content or any linked materials. Use of this podcast and related content is at your own risk. By listening, you acknowledge and agree to these terms.

    48 min
  8. 60. You Are Not Your Mistakes: How to Let Go of the Guilt and Move On

    JAN 20

    60. You Are Not Your Mistakes: How to Let Go of the Guilt and Move On

    Have you ever looked back at a past version of yourself and thought, “I should have known better”? In this episode, we explore why we so often judge our past choices through the lens of who we are now - unpacking the difference between guilt and self-punishment, why mistakes are often coping strategies rather than character flaws, and how black-and-white narratives around “bad behavior” keep people stuck. If you’re caught replaying a past decision, struggling to forgive yourself, or feeling defined by something you’ve already taken responsibility for, this conversation invites a more compassionate, developmentally honest way of understanding your growth and yourself. In this episode, we explore: Why we judge our past selves using information we didn’t have at the time The difference between evaluating behavior and condemning identityWhy many “big mistakes” such as infidelity might actually be coping strategies shaped by context and developmentHow black-and-white narratives around mistakes keep people stuck in shameWhat gets in the way of self-forgiveness, even after you’ve done the work Love the show? A quick rating or review helps us so much! New episodes every Tuesday – hit subscribe so you don’t miss out. Follow us on IG: selfcentered.pod Thoughts, questions, guest requests, or episode ideas? Email us: selfcenteredthepod@gmail.com DISCLAIMER: The Self Centered with Katie and Allie Podcast is intended for entertainment, educational, and reflective purposes only. The views, opinions, experiences, and content shared by the hosts and guests are personal and subjective. They are not presented as objective facts or as representative of any professional body, organization, or field, including psychotherapy, coaching, or personal training. This podcast includes personal reflections on dynamics in various relationships, platonic, family, romantic, and professional. General references to “family,” “an ex,” or “a friend”, for example, are intentionally vague to protect anonymity and do not refer to every individual in those categories. When names are used, they are fictitious, and identifying details are altered. Some information shared is based on research or professional experience, not personal history. The information provided does not constitute medical, mental health, legal, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It should not be relied upon as a substitute for consultation with qualified, licensed professionals. Listeners are strongly encouraged to seek the advice and support of appropriate professionals for their own needs. The hosts, guests, and creators of the podcast disclaim all liability for any direct, indirect, incidental, or consequential loss or damages arising from the use of, reliance on, or interpretation of the podcast content or any linked materials. Use of this podcast and related content is at your own risk. By listening, you acknowledge and agree to these terms.

    42 min
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If you’re done living for approval and everyone else’s needs, you’re exactly where you’re meant to be. Self Centered is about reclaiming your relationship with yourself as your home base, so your thoughts, choices, and relationships flow from clarity, self-trust, and alignment instead of guilt, fear, or external validation. Our mission is simple: to help you return to yourself and challenge the culture that taught you to abandon who you are. Together, we uncover what pulls you away from your center, so you can live in alignment with your values and co-create a world where being well and centered isn’t seen as selfish. Hosts Allie and Katie have lived the burnout, the guilt, and the people-pleasing. Now, they share real stories and practical insights to model how to come home to yourself, reclaim your power, and build relationships rooted in interdependence, not codependence. This isn’t therapy. It’s real conversation and lived experience that reveal the patterns shaping how you show up, set boundaries, and connect, both with yourself and with others. Welcome to the movement! Let’s find your center and stay there, together. © 2024–2026 Self Centered™. All rights reserved.

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    Katie Kurtz and Allie West
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    67
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    © 2024–2026 Self Centered™. All rights reserved.
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