The Self-Hype Podcast

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Welcome to ”The Self-Hype Podcast,” hosted by Eli Vazquez – your ultimate destination for unfiltered discussions on dating, love, personal development, and relationships. Get ready for Eli’s No-BS advice, raw talk on love, and empowering insights from expert guests in the dating and personal development sphere. Join us as Eli cuts through the noise, providing practical tips, relatable stories, and transformative wisdom to navigate the modern landscape of love and self-improvement.

  1. 1h ago

    Using Vulnerability As A Superpower: How to Find the Light When Everything Falls Apart

    If you’re currently sobbing over someone who abruptly decided to walk away, this episode is a massive, warm hug for your nervous system. Eli sits down with poet and bestselling author Cailin Hargreaves (whose viral words probably saved you at 3 AM) to talk about the brutal, unfiltered reality of sudden heartbreak. Cailin gets incredibly vulnerable about her own current separation, breaking down the literal physiological shock and trauma of experiencing an avoidant discard. They unpack why you absolutely cannot force yourself to "heal" in the middle of a storm, how childhood trauma shapes our coping mechanisms, and why your body is just trying to protect you. Tune in to learn why you need to stop aggressively rushing your healing process, how to find meaning in your absolute deepest pain, and why getting left behind is sometimes the exact catalyst you need to meet the most evolved version of yourself. About the Guest: Cailin Hargreaves is a London-based poet, digital creator, and author of the poetry collections Be the Light and Glimmers. After surviving a life-altering autoimmune diagnosis and sudden hearing loss at age 10, Cailin turned to writing as a survival tool to process her trauma and find the light in the darkness. Today, she uses her massive platform to create a safe, comforting corner of the internet for anyone navigating grief, chronic illness, and heartbreak. She is currently working on her debut memoir. Follow Cailin: @cayswords_   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Healthly Love Club JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

  2. 5d ago

    Diary Of A Former F*Boy: Why I Rebounded

    Why does someone seem to move on so quickly after a breakup, especially when you’re still trying to pick up the pieces? In this deeply personal episode of The Self Hype Podcast, Eli Vazquez shares his own experience as a former avoidant who entered a rebound relationship while still emotionally raw from heartbreak. He opens up about the fear, loneliness, need for validation, childhood wounds, and emotional patterns that can make a new connection feel intoxicating before the old relationship has truly been processed. Eli also reflects on how avoidant attachment affected his relationships, why forgiveness without communication isn’t enough, and how his biggest dating mistakes ultimately forced him to confront the parts of himself he needed to change. Most importantly, this episode isn’t about obsessing over why your ex chose someone else. It’s about understanding that their next relationship is not a measurement of your worth, taking the lessons from what happened, and using heartbreak as an opportunity to become a healthier version of yourself. Sometimes moving on isn’t about finding someone better. Sometimes it’s about running from feelings you haven’t learned how to face.   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Healthly Love Club JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

  3. Aug 28

    Why Men Won't Settle Down In Modern Dating & What To Do About It

    In this spicy, highly requested solo episode, Eli dives deep into the controversial truth about why modern men are so terrified of settling down. He spills the tea on the male psychology behind dating, breaking down how the endless dopamine loop of hookup culture has completely warped men's sense of self-worth. Eli gets real about the massive difference in social pressure between men and women, using a brilliant Matthew Hussey analogy to explain the timeline gap. But this isn't just about dragging guys who are stuck in their 20s—Eli flips the script to show you how to stop dating your own abandonment wounds, why a man's inability to commit is actually a massive blessing in disguise, and how to set boundaries that protect your peace. Prepare to be frustrated, liberated, and ready to make rejection your new best friend.   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

  4. Aug 21

    Unlearning Toxic Masculinity: Body Counts, Brotherhood, & Real Allyship w/ Sander Jennings

    In this powerhouse guest episode, Eli sits down with digital creator and advocate Sander Jennings to completely dismantle the toxic man playbook. Sander gets totally unfiltered about his journey from a college guy to politically active advocate who knows true strength means crying with your friends. They roast the red pill manosphere’s obsession with "getting rich, ripped, and laid," and break down why emotional intelligence, empathy, and respecting women is the actual flex. If you've ever wondered if healthy masculinity exists—or if guys actually talk about this stuff behind closed doors—this episode is your proof that doing the inner work is the absolute hottest thing a man can do. About Our Guest: Sander Jennings is a digital creator, strategist, and founder of DigiEmpower with 1.7M+ followers across platforms. He creates authentic content bridging lifestyle and politics, using his platform to advance LGBTQ+ rights, reproductive freedom, and healthy masculinity. His work extends beyond the camera through creator training programs, nonprofit partnerships, and digital strategy consulting that helps movements build community and shift culture. He believes real impact comes from showing up authentically, doing the work to know yourself, and using whatever privilege and platform you have to stand up for others.   Follow Sander: https://www.instagram.com/sander_jennings/   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

  5. Aug 14

    Why Red Pill Is Bull Sh*T: A Breakdown Of How Manosphere is Just Weaponized Insecurity

    In this highly requested episode, Eli steps slightly outside of his usual relationship advice to go completely unfiltered on the manosphere. As a reformed "dusty man" turned dating coach, he debunks the most toxic Red Pill myths currently poisoning modern romance. From tearing apart the "80/20 rule" to calling out why the obsession with being a stoic, dominant "Alpha Male" is actually just a massive neon sign for deep-seated insecurity, Eli holds absolutely nothing back. He breaks down the delusion that women hit a "wall" at 30, why suppressing your emotions makes you weak (not strong), and how internet echo chambers are terrifying an entire generation into avoiding real love. If you’re tired of the algorithmic gender wars and want the real tea on what healthy masculinity and high-value dating actually look like, this episode is your ultimate antidote.   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

  6. Aug 7

    Stop Being A Dick To Yourself: Grieving Your Timelines & Finding Real Joy

    In this raw and unfiltered solo episode, Eli hits pause on the usual relationship psychology to get real about aging, anxiety, and why getting everything you ever wanted can actually feel like a massive letdown. Celebrating his 36th birthday from his new Chicago apartment, Eli takes us through the terrifying "exposure therapy" of slowing down after years of digital nomading and chasing dopamine. He breaks down the hard truth that we are all secretly mourning the timeline of our goals—and why the fantasy of success rarely matches the reality. From unpacking why you can't just slap "numbing ointment" on deep emotional wounds, to realizing that surviving your messy 20s means your 30s are primed for greatness, Eli holds nothing back. You’ll feel seen, you’ll feel called out, and you’ll leave with a reality check on why stopping the relentless hustle—and refusing to be a dick to yourself—is the ultimate flex.   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

  7. Jul 3

    Can He Process the Breakup While Rebounding And More! Your Community Questions Answered

    In this AMA episode, Eli dives into the Instagram mailbag to answer your most burning questions about avoidant exes, messy breakups, and the reality of the healing era. He tackles the ultimate question: can an avoidant ex actually process your breakup while monkey-branching into a new relationship? (Spoiler: Hell no.) Eli breaks down the neuroscience of heartbreak, explaining why your brain goes through literal drug withdrawals and why your biological "tribal" instincts trick you into feeling guilty for leaving a toxic situation. He also unpacks why avoidant men use rebounds as emotional crutches to avoid facing their own core wounds. You’ll leave this episode understanding that heartbreak isn't just sadness—it's grief—and why sitting in the discomfort is the only way to truly rewire your nervous system.   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

  8. Jun 26

    How To Get Over The Fear Of Rejection To Find Healthy Love

    Welcome back to the Selfhype Podcast! This week, Eli is diving into the sweet, beautiful, and absolutely terrifying world of rejection. If you’re letting the fear of a "no" hold you back from your dream career, your personal growth, or filtering out that dusty-ass ex, it's time to wake up. We’re talking all about rejection therapy, having the audacity to take up space, and training your nervous system to realize that a "no" is just a stepping stone to your true potential. Stop living in your comfort zone and start building iron-clad discipline over fleeting motivation. Hit play, take notes, and then go out and get rejected—you deserve it.   Join My Coaching Membership Below? JOIN HERE   Want A Free Call To Learn About My 8-Week Healing Bootcamp? SCHEDULE HERE Follow The Pod And Eli: https://www.tiktok.com/@itselivazquez https://instagram.com/itselivazquez https://www.instagram.com/theselfhypepodcast/ https://www.youtube.com/@EliVazquez   All rights reserved. ©2026 SELF-HYPE LLC #theselfhypepodcast #selfhype #podshuttle #relationships #relationshipadvice

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Welcome to ”The Self-Hype Podcast,” hosted by Eli Vazquez – your ultimate destination for unfiltered discussions on dating, love, personal development, and relationships. Get ready for Eli’s No-BS advice, raw talk on love, and empowering insights from expert guests in the dating and personal development sphere. Join us as Eli cuts through the noise, providing practical tips, relatable stories, and transformative wisdom to navigate the modern landscape of love and self-improvement.

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  • Creator
    Self-Hype
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2026
  • Episodes
    100
  • Rating
    Explicit
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