Settling Is B******t Cate Blouke

Most of us have parts of ourselves that leave us feeling like a weirdo. We have hobbies or interests that we keep quiet about because we're worried about what other people will think. This episode is a pep talk for letting go of all that gunk and letting our metaphorical freak flags fly – even if they're just those little mini flags and we only wave them in our living rooms. We gotta start somewhere!
Today's invitation is to take a peek at the parts of ourselves that we tend to try and hide away, and to invite them out for a conversation instead. Often, the parts of ourselves that can feel like a burden are actually important elements in what we bring to the world. And sharing our experience, strength, and hope can serve to inspire others.
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Holding out for the right person takes a lot of courage, resilience, and self-awareness. It also takes hope! And coach Lisa Lewis-Cogswell’s long and winding love story is a hefty dose of inspiration for anyone trudging the long road of searching for genuine partnership.
We talk about what it feels like to surrender, to listen to your knowing, to open your heart, to cultivate hope, and to manifest the shit out of finding your person – even if it takes a couple of decades. Plus, the healing that happens when you do finally meet your match and have a safe place to dig deep.
Visit Lisa’s website: https://heartspacerising.com/
Follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heartspacerising/

Understanding the mechanisms of habits, as well as the differences between rituals and routines, gives us the power to make positive changes in our lives. And inviting love into the process of change can make it feel a whole lot lighter.
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While it's easy to intellectually know that we need rest in order to get on with the business of adulting, it isn't always that easy to know what kind of rest we actually need. Pausing to recharge is hard enough on its own, but unless we get clear on what kind of energy we're trying to fill up on, we're probably just going to stay stuck in the same spin cycle of exhaustion.
This episode is your reminder and invitation to check in with yourself and get clear on which of your batteries is actually running low – physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, social... ice-cream-ial... and from there, check in with what you actually need in order to recharge.
Running on empty is how we burn out on ourselves and our relationships. So let's all take a deep breath and figure out what we need to properly fill up the tanks.

Let’s talk about sex, baby! Or, talk about how reading and writing about sex is a guilt-free, shame-free political act. That’s right, in this conversation with the fabulous debut romance novelist Alyssa Jarrett we go on a wild ride about feminism, authenticity, identity, privilege, pursuing our creativity in the face of nay-sayers, and… werewolf erotica. (She doesn’t write werewolf erotica, but we both celebrate those who do!)
F**k “guilty pleasures.” This episode is a battle cry for liking what we like, not yucking anyone’s yum, and going all in on our dreams. It’s an absolute treat, and you’ll leave with some great resources for finding exactly the level of spiciness you want in your fiction as well as (I hope) encouragement for centering the things that bring you joy.
Read Alyssa’s thoughts on the romance genre on Substack: https://alyssajarrett.substack.com/
Follow Alyssa on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/authoralyssajarrett/
Order her book – Love Apptually – (in print or digital) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CVGRM76Z
Or visit her website: https://www.alyssajarrett.com/

A lot of times, the first step in personal growth – in expanding into a bigger, better version of ourselves – is giving ourselves permission. There is safety in the familiar, and for many of us, stepping outside the bounds of that comfort requires a sense of permission, a sense that we're allowed to do the thing that we want to do (or that scares us but we know will ultimately be for our good).
Even if you aren't a recovering people pleaser or perfectionist, everyone operates by a set of self-imposed rules that can be hard to break or bend or discard. But giving yourself permission to step outside those lines can be a huge step toward freedom and expansion.
This episode is your pep talk for pulling those rules out into the light and deciding for yourself whether they actually serve you. (Spoiler alert: a lot of them might not be!)